"You always do this!"
"You never listen!"
Right there, in those two phrases, you heard two things that destroy positive communication
and just fuel fights.
One is an absolute.
You always. You never.
If you communicate that way, what ends up happening
is the other person starts fighting about how often they have done it,
or have not done the things that they did wrong,
as opposed to just focusing on the fact that they did it.
And now, if they start saying, "Wait a second. I haven't done it that often,"
you get sarcastic like I talked about yesterday.
"Oh! So you want a medal because you don't do it that often!" [said sarcastically]
Watch the absolutes.
It just destroys, so often, our positive communication.
And then watch the "you" statements.
"You always" and "You never."
So when someone comes up to you accusing you,
you get on the defensive right away.
but this is so often how we fight.
It's not godly communication.
God tells us in the book of Romans chapter 14,
Every effort.
That means you're responsible not only for what you say,
but for how you say it.
And when you use absolutes,
and when you use accusatory language of,
"You did this,"
you're going to destroy that openness,
of that talk that you so want.
You're not going to lead a mutual edification and blessing between the two.
Now you can use absolutes in a positive way.
Jesus does that.
He says, "I will never leave you. I will never forsake you."
And you can say to your loved one,
"I will never leave you. I will never hurt you.
I want us to work."
And then start talking.
The best way that you can approach someone when there's hurt
is "me" statements.
"I" statements.
"I'm hurting"
"I need you."
"I don't understand why this happened. Can you explain this to me?"
And when you open up a conversation that way,
your loved one is more often going to be willing to listen.
I hope that makes a difference for you as you approach your conversations,
approach the difficult relationships that we sometimes have.
But approach them in love, making every effort to have peace.
So, the encouragements I just gave you to stop the "you" statements and the absolutes,
they can make a big difference in your relationships with others,
in your communication with them.
If that has changed for you and helped you,
can you comment below to encourage others on how
this will make a big difference in their life?
And join me tomorrow as I wrap up the series on "sticks and stones,"
and talk on majoring on minors.
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Ten Everyday English Situations for Finns (with subtitles) - Duration: 10:18.
Hello everyone, and welcome back to
'English Tips for Finns' and this is video number 13.
I've gotten a few requests to make a video about
everyday situations in English, and
that's what this video is about. This
is something that's surprisingly hard in
practice. It's something that you learn
early on when learning a language, but
then when the actual situation comes up
it's a little bit more difficult -- whether
it's because it doesn't follow the
textbook, or your own language gets in
the way. I think a lot of these
phrases are going to be review for you, but
hopefully you get something new out of
it as well. Hopefully you're able to
readily use them in the right situation.
Just one more thing:
My purpose in making these videos is
to help you improve and get by with your
English. My purpose is not to make you a
better person. I recognize that there
are differences between the way English
speakers do something and the way Finns do
something...and I recognize that there are
positives and negatives to both. So
strictly English language learning here.
As I often like to do in my videos,
I'm going to give you a list of
questions about things I'm going to talk
about in the video. You should try to
answer these. yYou should pause the video
and you should compare your answers to
my answers. Remember some of these
have many many different answers, so my
answers are not the only answers.
I just want to say from the start
that 'How are you?' is a very good and
acceptable way to say something. It's
a good fallback. You can always say 'How
are you?' in every situation...and actually
you have to use it, I think, in very
formal situations and the situation
where you don't know somebody so well.
That being said, I actually don't say 'How
are you?' very often in my life, because
I'm not often in those situations. I say these other
phrases - and I've made a list for you
in the slide that follows this section,
and I divided them into two parts: the
questions that start with 'how' and the
questions that start with 'what'. They have
different answers which I'll talk about
in the section that follows the slide.
The 'how' questions are 'How are you doing?' (that's very
common),
'How's everything going?' (it's also very
common), 'How's it going?'
(that's probably the one I say the most) and
'How are things going?' OK, then the 'what'
section.
'What's up?' (actually very common as well),
'What's going on?' and 'What have you been
up to?'
So the textbook answer to 'How are you?'
in every textbook around the world is 'I'm fine
thank you, and you?' Again, it's a very
acceptable answer. It's a good fallback
answer. But, in reality, we don't actually
say that very much. We answer in many
different ways. If you're doing very
well you could say 'Great, actually...how
about you?' Two things with this.
The word 'actually' is a great word that
you should really get into your vocabulary.
We say it all the time. Notice I said
'How about you?', so I reflect the question
back to you.
That's a very important skill. You
could also say 'Not bad...
how's it going with you?' That's probably
the one I say the most. It's pretty neutral --
your're not doing fantastic, you're not doing bad...so not bad.
Then again, I reflect the question back
to you. If you're doing a little bit
negative, you could say 'It could be
better, I guess.
'How are you doing`?' Again, you're reflecting
the question. If you're doing
terrible -- and you're speaking to the
right person -- you can say 'Awful, actually.
It's been a rough week.
How are you?' Again, I reflect the
question back to you.
So those are the 'how' questions,
right? With the 'what' questions, it's actually
pretty easy. If you say...if I say to you...
or if you say to me 'what's up?' I could say
'Not much. What's up with you?'
'Not much' is a very good answer to the
'what' questions.
The standard response to 'thank you' is,
of course, 'you're welcome'. This is a
very good response, and you can use it in
any situation. I do use it quite a
lot. I think I more often say 'no
problem' --
that's a good response to 'thank you'.
You might have learned that you could
say 'my pleasure', and this is ok...but it's
a little bit too much -- and a little bit
too formal -- and I wouldn't use it very
much.
Okay, a few
responses to 'I'm sorry'. Again, I think it
depends on the level of the apology.
If it's...if somebody is just a little bit sorry
about something, you could say 'Don't
worry about it' or 'It's ok. It's no
problem.' That might be a good response.
If it's a huge apology, and it really
effects your life, and the person says 'I'm
really, really sorry.'
You could say 'apology accepted.'
This one is actually the easiest of
the bunch. Let's say you ask me 'Can
you hand me the marker?' I would say
one of two things. I would say 'Here you
go.' or 'Here you are.' So 'Here you go' 'Here
you are.'
That's about it.
I've just cooked a dinner
and I have friends and family around, and
I want them to start eating because
they're waiting patiently and politely.
I think what I would say in an informal
situation is 'Dig in.'
So just start eating. I could also
say, for example, 'Help yourself'...
so just start eating, basically.
In this familiar phrase that is used in
many languages around the world, if you
want people to enjoy the food in English
then we usually use the French. You
would say 'Bon appetit'. If you don't
want to use that foreign language, then
you could say 'Enjoy your meal.'
I'm introduced to somebody. Let's say
someone says 'This is Timo.' I would say
'Nice to meet you.' Then Timo would say
to me back,
'Nice to meet you, too.' It's always good
to say 'Nice to meet you, too,' so you
shouldn't hesitate to do that.
Okay, this is a little extra tip. so I've
noticed that Finns -- the second or the
third or the fourth time they meet
somebody -- they keep saying 'Nice to meet
you.' In English, we only say 'Nice to
meet you.' the first time we meet somebody.
After that we say 'Nice to see you.' or
'Nice to see you again.'
It's very common in English to say
'Have a nice day.' and the proper response
to that is 'Same to you', or just 'you too'.
This applies for many situations.
'Merry Christmas.' 'Same to you.' 'You too.'
'Happy New Year.' 'Same to you.'
'You too.'
Yeah, so 'goodbye' is a very standard
response. It's a very good response and
you can fall back on it.
However, it's the same kind of thing as these
other things. We don't actually say
it that, that often. I will give you some
examples of other things you might say.
Y ou could say just 'bye'. You could say
'bye-bye'.
'You could say 'see you later' -- and I think
that's the thing I probably say the most. You
could say 'take care', and 'take care' is
very nice...it's a... it's not overdoing it,
and it's kind of a kind way to say
'goodbye'.
You could say 'so long' which is something
I also say a lot. And you could say -- to be
totally informal -- 'Have a good one.'
That might be the informal one you might
have in your arsenal.
When I made a list of these different things I'm
going to do, I totally forgot about
'please'. I can't believe I forgot 'please'.
It's the word that you don't have a
translation for in Finnish. I think a
good rule of thumb with 'please' is you
only use it once -- and I think you should
use it once if you're asking somebody
for something -- so use it once and only
once. I think that's the rule.
So 'Can I have a beer, please?' 'Could you
please help me?', something like that.
Ok, so the usual stuff. If you liked the
video, I hope you'll click on the thumbs
up below. Actually, I hope you share
the video...so why not spread the love to
other English-interested people out
there. I hope you will subscribe to
my channel. I have a course that's on
another website called Udemy and it's called '50
Common English Mistakes Made by Finns'.
If you follow the link in the
description box below you'll get to that
course...and you'll get half off the
course. I also have a Twitter feed, so
you can follow me on Twitter. Also, if
you have any ideas -- that -- for these videos,
to sort of - or anything that you struggle
with, or anything that you would like to
learn - please, please write it in the
comments below, and I will try my best.
Thank you for watching, and see you
next time.
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Side Effects of Cancer Treatment For Children | Part 3 of 4 - Duration: 5:13.
hi it's lynn from lynnjt.com thank you
for tuning in for this third episode in
our four-part series creating more
awareness on cancer in children. In our last episode
Verity explained the various
types of treatment of children can go
through when fighting cancer and today
she's going to give us insight into
the side effects of cancer treatment that they're going
through so that we can have a better
understanding and able to become better
at supporting the families our friends
our family members who are going through childhood cancer.
this first three types of treatment what
are the side of it or chemotherapy
chemotherapy
it starts off usually quite gently
sometimes some funky knows that the
child reacts straightaway so they have
to treat it and and each child will have
a slightly different makeup according to
her by yourself or responding and their
bodies respond to it so never one
particular treatment they will use one
particular drug but tweaked it says its
service each individual can respond to
it okay that we don't have ever had
different types of side effects what
most common because nausea in the main
one and reluctance to eat no energy huge
loss of weight i could make the gastric
tube down to keep the child eating
sometimes it not for the tube into the
stomach and the stomach and you feed the
childhood of / engines straight into the
stomach because they weren't eat anymore
its changes changes all that taste in
your mouth and it feels like you can
concrete horrible and they do get a huge
amount of swords as well know that and
that can gold all the way down the CIT
tracks so that they're in pain when they
are not just during the treatment that
are throughout in between he gets worse
than worthless as treatment goes on but
we have the rest the two weeks rent
would be so of inequality he thinks it
the way that the taste of the second
owner sold then i'll be telling you
until you can see the source videos then
sometimes it's the whole mass goes
because of course she's not the immune
system by giving the key man they're
very susceptible to any sort of
infection it like that and they're
operating hours nothing every child that
most children becoming comes which is
often greatest wrestling so you need to
cut it short with the potential for the
child or just awful parents notice the
child's play it well yeah yeah yeah I
don't you to feel much better wearing a
week
others would touch weeks good they're
often it's got to wear and what about
the fight that's what radiotherapy there
you get the same sort of side effects
nausea vomiting continue what we think I
mean Darwin as well with both of them
sort of area not fun when your child is
six-month-old all and yes it's the lack
of energy for not being able to eat a
similar scenario and often radiotherapy
can give you to be a burn third-degree
burns
just look at the place where it's been
directed absolutely with cream some
things you can put on the check to wear
nice clothes and I give an awful lot of
analgesics pinkness is again it is
painful process
it's thankful it hurts and their horses
here at home long resisted with the
surgery that build up after doing how
you feeling recover from these types
certain if you'd be good because they're
young and even though they've been
invalid with drugs to suppress the
immune system to help combat the cancer
they will get up and run around and
dozens
so after surgery there much better than
growing up and moving around and getting
on with it you can have to strain in a
bit of stitches because they've been
riding the bike or something they
shouldn't up anything else any other
like children go through community and
go to radio no problem
ok so you're not every case heavy drugs
how that's how i was doing in there
counselor what's that
yes and helping their bodies on its
astonishing social you wouldn't even
know real don't need to have so you need
to remember that a little bit for
scenarios there are really positive
things in it
thank you for watching and please show
your appreciation for 13 message by
hitting the like button and sharing it
with your friends now don't forget to
subscribe to the channel and make sure
to watch the last episode in this
four-part series we're very explained
how families can become quite isolated
and it might seem that they don't want
to have you in your children over for a
playdate and there's a very good reason
behind this
thanks for watching be safe and our
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Home Remedies For Ringworm.
Ringworm is a very common fungal infection of the skin, but there are a number of simple
home remedies that can clear up this infection, including the use of garlic extract, tea tree
oil, turmeric, aloe vera, coconut oil, salt, papaya and lemongrass tea, among others.
There is a wide variety of different fungal species that can cause ringworm, which affects
the skin and is highly contagious.
The technical term for this affliction is dermatophytosis, and there are many ways that
the fungal infection can be transmitted.
Some of the most common include the exchange of sweat, contact with animals, public showers,
high-contact sports with exposed bare skin (e.g., wrestling).
Home Remedies For Ringworm.
1.
Lavender Oil.
If you thought the smell of lavender was soothing, wait until you experience the topical effects
of the essential oil.
For the treatment of ringworm, lavender essential oil can be applied to the skin, which will
not only kill the fungal infection in its tracks, but also prevent other infections
from taking hold during the healing process.
Lavender oil is extremely powerful, so only a small amount is required to enjoy these
health benefits.
2.
Tea Tree Oil.
When it comes to eliminating fungal infections, the native-to-Australia tea tree oil is hard
to beat.
Aside from its ability to speed healing and stimulate healthy skin, it can also eliminate
the underlying fungal infection when used regularly for a period of weeks.
However, tea tree oil is extremely powerful, so always dilute it with approximately 50%
water, or else it can cause skin irritation.
3.
Garlic Extract.
One of the most powerful remedies for bacterial, viral or fungal infections is garlic, due
to its wide range of antioxidants and other organic compounds that make the environment
of the skin or gut intolerable for these pathogens.
For the treatment of ringworm, you can apply garlic extract to the affected area and see
very rapid results, making this one of the most popular home remedies for the condition.
4.
Aloe Vera.
Known for its potent anti-inflammatory and immune-system boosting properties, aloe vera
is an excellent candidate if you are suffering from ringworm and want a quick way to eliminate
it.
Aloe vera also has direct anti-fungal abilities for a wide variety of potential pathogens,
and the saponins in the concentrated gel are also excellent for relieving pain and discomfort
associated with this condition.
You can apply the gel directly to the affected area for best results.
5.
Salt Treatment: Salt may seem like a basic remedy, but for ringworm, it is extremely
effective.
Salt dries out the skin, and given that wet, damp areas are ideal for ringworm to take
hold and spread, applying salt, which has astringent properties, is excellent for disinfecting
the area.
It can also speed healing and reduce the inflammation of the affected skin by sucking out the moisture.
6.
Turmeric.
As one of the most powerful antioxidant, antibacterial and anti-fungal substances available to us
in our diet, turmeric and its active ingredient, curcumin, were sure to make this list.
More specifically, people choose to use the even more concentrated form of turmeric oil
to treat this condition.
This oil will reduce the inflammation on the skin, while also quickly eliminating the underlying
infection.
7.
Lemongrass Tea.
While most of these remedies are topical applications, there is some good that you can do through
the things you eat.
Lemongrass tea, for example, is an excellent booster for the immune system, particularly
when it comes to fungal infections throughout the body.
However, you can also allow the tea to cool and apply it directly to the affected skin
area for a doubled effect.
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BANDHGOBHI KA RAITA II बंदगोभी का रायता II BY CHEF JYOTSHNA SINGH II - Duration: 3:05.
Welcome to F3 recipes, myself Jyotshna.
Today I'm going to make "Bandhgobhi Ka Raita"which is very easy to make.
Let's have a look at the ingredients required
1 Bowl Curd
Finely Chopped Coriander Leaves, Finely Chopped Cabbage
Asafoetida, Cumin Seeds, Salt, Red Chilli Powder
Cooking Oil for saute the veggie little bit.
So let's start making Bandhgobhi Ka Raita
Firstly we'll put oil in the pan, till the time its heating up will beat the curd.
We'll be adding some water in it,its required little thin as in we'll add cabbage in it
As you can see, we have beaten the curd well
In the heated oil, will add Cumin seeds, Asafoetida
As you can see cumin seeds are fried.
And there is a fantastic fragrance of Asafoetida
To this we'll add finely chopped Cabbage
Stir it gently
Now we'll be adding Salt in it
Mix the salt well
We'll stir it, till its slightly cooked as in raw cabbage does't taste well.
Neither it should be over cooked nor raw.
But you can have this as a Raita with Paratha, Rice or as per your liking.
As I said that we have to get slight brown colour, its done.
Cabbage is slightly brown, we'll let it cool down for sometime.
Its cool down, now we'll add this into beaten Curd.
Mix it well
Adding Finely chopped Coriander Leaves, Chopped Green Chillies is you liketo eat spicy
Little bit of Red Chilli Powder
Although we have put in salt in cabbage but if you want you can add more salt.
We'll mix it well
Bandhgobhi Ka Raita is ready, let's take it out in a serving bowl.
We'll garnish it with chopped Coriander Leaves
Bandhgobhi Ka Raita is absolutely ready.
You can relish it with hot Paranthas.
Do subscribe our channel for such delicious recipes.
Do like & share our videos.
I'll be back again with some new recipes. Thank You...
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How to make a Love Letter in a Bottle ♥ DIY Valentine's Day Mermaid Room Decor ♥ #BeMineValentine - Duration: 7:05.
Hello! It is your magical crafting mermaid friend
"The Magic Crafter" from the magic crafter dot com (www.TheMagicCrafter.com)
For this video, we are going to be making use of some of the things we've done in
some of our previous videos.
(You can find links to those tutorial videos in the description of this video)
Those crafts will be used to create this BIG Valentine's Day Craft.
Which is going to be a Valentine's Day Love Letter in a Bottle.
To make this
you are going to need one glass wine bottle
filled with 6 batches of that magical "Love Potion" glitter sand that we made in a previous video.
(Which will be linked in a card right in this general area)
You are also going to need a "Love Letter" or special message
written preferably on one of those cool looking pieces of antiqued paper.
Mine is a half sized sheet of paper.
I wouldn't recommend using a full-size piece because
it's not going to fit in your wine bottle quite right.
Additionally, if you would like to decorate the outside of your bottle,
you may want to have some pretty ribbon.
And maybe even a sparkly seashell.
(Which I can show you how to make if you click on the card in the upper right corner of the screen)
And if you would like to use the ribbon and the seashell,
you are going to need an industrial strength glue to glue them on to your wine bottle.
I am going to be using E6000
but you could probably use hot glue too.
E6000 would be best though!
If you are using the E6000, then make sure that your work-space is well ventilated
because that stuff is strong and it can make you sick!
Once you have everything you need, let's get started with putting together
all of the little pieces to make this
cute little Valentine's Day craft
that is perfect for giving to your sweetheart.
Just make sure they have some tweezers so they can get the paper out of the wine bottle!
The first thing to do
is to grab you little love letter.
Mine is tied up with some hemp cord and has a cute decorative bead on it.
And stick it into your wine bottle.
Then, if you want to put a cork on the top, you can go ahead and do that... but I don't have one that fits, so I can't... :C
If you are going to be decorating your wine bottle,
make sure you open up a window!!!!
Because you will be using some very strong glue whose fumes can make you sick.
So make sure you are in a well ventilated area!
Then cut out your ribbon so that it wraps around your wine bottle right where you want it.
I have mine cut already just to save time.
Take some of that super strong glue and put it where you are going to be placing the ribbon.
You don't need a lot of it. A little bit goes a long way!
So put a little bit on one side, and put a little bit on the other side...
That should be good!
Now carefully place your ribbon on the glass
and wrap it around.
Press it gently.
Just for a little bit so it sticks!
** Acoustic Guitar Music Playing **
Take a little bit more of that glue
and glue this part of the ribbon to the other part.
And put a little more over here.
Try not to get it on your fingers like mine just did!
** Music Playing **
Once your glue has dried and this is secured on to your wine bottle,
we are going to glue the seashell to the seam of the ribbon.
Like that.
So stick a little bit of glue on the ribbon and
put a little bit of glue on your seashell too.
And then you'll just match up the two glue spots and hold your shell in place for a few moments.
** Music Playing **
"Make sure to put the cap back on your glue!!"
Alright guys! Well that is it for today's video tutorial.
I hope you enjoyed it.
Personally, I think it's pretty neat that all of these crafting things
came together to create one especially magical and simple craft.
You can give it to someone that you think is super special.
Or you could keep it around for your own home decor purposes.
It makes a really nice home decor sort of thing
if you have a coastal themed house or a coastal themed room
but you also want to include a Valentine's Day flair.
It's got the pinks, and the purples, and the sparkles...
but it also has seashells and sand and is beachy looking.
I think it's pretty cute!
If you would like to know how to make the glitter sand in this bottle
(the really pretty glittery sand!)
OR how to sparkle up (and paint) your own seashell,
OR if you would like to know how to antique your own paper,
please see the description box for links to videos on how to do all of that.
And, I'll also try to create a playlist for you guys to check out too.
I hope you guys all have a very magical day
and a lovely Valentine's Day that you get to spend with
wonderful company. Whether that is your family
or your best friend,
or your special someone.
Whoever it may be, I hope you guys enjoy each other's company and
have a great time and make tons of great memories.
You guys are awesome!
Thank you so much for watching!
I will see you guys next week with another video.
I think I have a new mermaiding video in store for you guys then... :3
So look forward to that!
But in the meantime... I've got to go!!!
I'm going to go hang out with my boyfriend tonight.
So I have to get ready for that.
I am SO excited. He came home yesterday and I got to see him!
Oh my gosh... long distance relationships are rough but
being able to see each other again is just something...
something very, very special.
Ugh! So I've got to go.
I will see you guys later. Thanks so much for watching!
Have a very magical day... bye bye!!!
"Try mixing up the colors of your sand & seashell for different holidays!"
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