In my video on how to talk to anyone, I had told you about the importance of communication
and social skills.
We discussed 5 important tricks which can make us good at conversation with anyone.
Similarly, today I am going to tell you another 5 tricks which can really help you in making
a conversation.
In case you have not watched my last video, you can check it out here or you can find
the link in the description below.
Hello Everyone, I am Divyanshu.
You are watching boost your brain and in this video, I am going to tell you about 5 more
tricks which can help while talking to anyone.
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twice a week which can help you in your life.
Now, just to recall from previous video, those 5 tricks were:
1.
The Flooding Smile 2.
The Sticky Eyes 3.
Limit the Fidget 4.
Matching the mood 5.
Parroting So let�s begin.
Trick no 6: Never the naked job, city or introduction When someone asks you where you are from or
what do you do, never give a one word answer or one liners.
Usually what happens is, when we meet someone new, this is how our conversation goes on:
Person 1: Hello Person 2: Hi
Person 1: What�s your name?
Person 2: My name is Divyanshu and you are? Person 1: I am Vaibhav.
Person 2: Nice Name! *silence*
Person 1: umm..Where do you live?
Person 2: Hinjewadi and you?
Person 1: Pimpri Person 2: Okay
*silence* And again an awkward silence.
They don�t understand what else to talk about and then they try to somehow get out
of the situation.
So the next time when they meet each other, they try to avoid eye contacts as they might
have to talk again and that will be really awkward.
So if you want to avoid this, never give a one liners if someone asks you a question.
Think of really interesting answers for the common question like where do you live, what
do you do or your introductions.
You can google some facts about the place you live in and you can add it while answering,
example, I live in Hinjewadi, do you know most of IT companies are located in Hinjewadi.
I too am an IT employee.
I work at Infosys.
Now this kind of replies encourages the other person to talk to you more about things and
there won�t be any awkward silence.
They will be looking forward to talk to you again.
Trick no 7: Modern Day Renaissance Man There�s this friend of mine named Suresh
who loves football.
He keeps talking about football all day long.
Whenever he gets a company, he talks about football, some historic matches and favourite
players, clubs etc.
Now many people aren�t really interested in football.
They feel suffocated in his presence, as a result they try to avoid talking to him.
Now I am sure you are able to relate to this.
Every person is different and they have their own likes and dislikes.
If you always keep talking about things you love, other person might not want to talk
to you.
Instead, ask the other person about their interests, listen to them carefully even if
that isn�t something you are interested in and then tell them about yours.
We have the tendency of listening less and speaking more.
We must have at least a little knowledge about everything which we can gain if we listen
to other people.
That little knowledge can help you, like suppose you are making a deal and the person is interested
in Football, so if only you would have listened to Suresh patiently, you will be able to take
the conversation forward with him and who knows, you might end up making a good deal
with your client.
Trick no 8: Be a word detective There was this young lady named Nancy.
She was a good friend of author.
Nancy used to work in a nursing home where she used to take care of elderly people.
Once while talking to author, Nancy told her that she faces difficulty while relating to
elderly people.
She told the author about an old woman named Mrs Otis whom she finds really difficult to
talk to.
Like yesterday, she tried to initiate a conversation with Mrs Otis saying � �It�s raining
heavily today, terrible, don�t you think?� To which Mrs Otis replied grumpily-�It�s
good for plants.� Author smiled and asked Nancy to talk to Mrs
Otis again asking if she likes plants.
Initially Nancy resisted but later agreed to talk.
Next day Nancy called the author from her workplace.
She was happy and excited as she said-�How did you know about plants?
Mrs Otis is talking continuously to me after I asked her about plants and she even told
me that her husband is a gardener.
I just can�t shut her up now.� Author said she knew this would happen.
Now what happens is, usually people slip out about things they like.
If you listen to their every word the other person says for clues, you will come to know
about things other person is interested in.
Once you are aware of it, you can start a conversation on that particular topic and
the person will keep talking to you for long and will love your company.
Trick no 9: Come out as a positive person Now some people believe that they should share
a secret, reveal an intimacy, or make a confession of sorts on the very first time they meet
a person.
This would make the other person trust them more and he/she will be closer.
Now let me tell you this, it happens only if someone above you in stature reveal their
secret to you or masses.
If your boss comes and tells you that he doesn�t like Italian food, you would feel that your
boss is close to you which in turn will make you feel happy.
But, if you tell your boss that you don�t like Italian food, he might not even care
of he might think negative about you since you are talking negative things.
So my point here is, always talk about positive things, especially when you meet someone new.
You can share negatives or your dislikes once the bonding between you and your new friend
gets stronger after a few days.
While meeting for the first time, lock your closet doors which has your negatives, dislikes
and insecurities.
Trick no 10: See no Bloopers, Hear no Bloopers We have been trained in such a way that we
quickly recognize if someone commits a mistake.
Most of us tend to laugh, talk or comment on it.
Some so called sensible people try to rectify their mistake by talking to them about it
politely.
It doesn�t make the person feel any better.
Like, once I was in a restaurant for a coffee with my clients and managing directors.
Suddenly, not even six feet away, a waiter dropped a tray full of dishes.
Glasses broke, silverware clattered against the marble floor, and a hot baked potato rolled
under our table in a direct path for director�s feet.
I felt sorry for the waiter, so did many people in the restaurant.
We heard a cacophony of �Uh-oh,� �Whoops, watch it!� �Boy, that�s his last lunch
here,� and a variety of tittering and derisive laughter.
My Director, however, didn�t miss a word of his monologue.
Not one big player at my table turned or blinked an eye.
It was as though nothing happened.
The point here is that the person who committed the mistake is already feeling guilty about
it, adding some expressive comments or consolations aren�t really going to help the person at
that time.
So we must practice to turn a blind eye to these bloopers as if nothing happened.
One thing to keep in mind that if you are with someone close like your spouse or kids,
you shouldn�t practice this.
At that point you need to show care for them.
Now, since you are very close to them, they don�t feel bad when you console them, instead
they feel loved.
But when it�s your colleagues or some new set of people, see no bloopers, hear no bloopers.
Big winners never gape at another�s gaffes.
So these were another 5 tricks which can be game changing when it comes to having a good
conversation with anyone.
Using these you can impress people in the very first time you meet them.
Now, to let you guys know, I have collected this information from a book named �How
to talk to anyone�.
If you want to know in detail, you can go ahead and purchase the book online using the
link in the description below.
Now this book has total 92 tricks and I have covered the 10 important ones.
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