10 Things Introverts Should Start Doing Today to Live a Happier Life
Have you been feeling down lately?
You're not alone.
A lot of us introverts have a tendency toward melancholy.
It's not that we can't be as happy as extroverts.
But sometimes our busy, overthinking brain makes it difficult.
Because guess what.
We introverts are thinkers.
Often, our thoughts quickly turn to worries, and our ideas turn to doubt.
That's not the only reason why you might be feeling down.
Here's the sneaky reason you're feeling down
There is another sneaky factor that makes introverts feel down, even when everything
seems peachy around us.
It's what I like to call the overstimulation cycle.
Here's what it looks like:
You go out, have 'fun', and stay busy because that's what others tell you to do
to have a productive and happy life.
But when you do catch a moment of solitude after all your outing and abouting, you feel
exhausted.
And it doesn't end there.
You feel strangely empty, which makes no sense because you just did a bunch of social activities
that were supposed to make you feel fulfilled.
You think you're feeling down because you aren't doing, seeing, and socializing enough.
So, you force yourself back out the door and into the very situations that are causing
the void.
If you can relate to the above scenario, you are like so many introverts who get caught
up in an overstimulation cycle that leaves us feeling down, and even depressed.
So, in this video I'm going to show you 10 ways introverts can be happier after feeling
down.
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Here are some introvert friendly ways that you can restore happiness when you're feeling
down:
1.
Stop trying to upgrade yourself and your possessions.
"THE WORLD IS increasingly designed to depress us.
Happiness isn't very good for the economy.
If we were happy with what we had, why would we need more … To be calm becomes a kind
of revolutionary act.
To be happy with your own non-upgraded existence.
To be comfortable with our messy, human selves, would not be good for business."
― Matt Haig, Reasons to Stay Alive
Many introverts feel a burning need to constantly improve ourselves.
This isn't necessarily a bad thing, except when it destroys our sense of self and makes
us chronically unhappy.
I'm all about self-help, but I know all too well how quickly it can turn into 'self-hurt'.
Many introverts are perfections, and ruminators.
We tend to overthink our flaws, and feel bad for not embodying the extrovert ideal.
We think that if we could just get better at wearing the mask of extroversion we'll
stop feeling down.
2.
Set an intention to be happy.
Outside of clinical depression, happiness is often a choice.
When you wake up in the morning and decide to be happy, you're more likely to find
reasons to be joyful that day.
I know this might seem hard to believe when you're feeling down, but hear me out.
I once made friends with a woman whose husband was battling cancer.
Surprisingly, this woman was not dragging her way through life, weighed down by a constant
cloud of fear, and anxiety.
She glowed with a serene happiness that I rarely see.
One day she told me her secret.
"When my husband first got cancer, I was devastated.
I was sad all the time, didn't want to get out of bed in the morning.
Then one day I realized that I didn't want to live like that.
I decided to choose to be happy, no matter what was happening around me."
And it worked.
I'm sure she still felt down some days, but she made a choice to focus on what made
her happy, and to choose joy over sadness whenever possible.
Even if you are tired and weary from loss, true happiness is worth fighting for.
As author Elizabeth Gilbert puts it:
"People tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will descend
like fine weather if you're fortunate.
But happiness is the result of personal effort.
You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world
looking for it.
You have to participate relentlessly."
3.
Let go.
As an introvert, you might find it hard to let go.
It's natural to want to cling to the people, circumstances, and objects that once made
you happy.
But happiness is a dynamic entity.
If you hold it too tightly it suffocates.
If you try to cement it in place it dies.
Happiness needs to be free to come and go.
As your life evolves and changes shape, so, too, do the things that make you happy.
Allow this change.
Look for new ways to be happy.
Remember that the hand that clings to the past cannot receive the many blessings available
in the Now.
4.
Talk to someone about something real.
You've probably already been told how important it is to talk to someone when you're feeling
down.
But you might have missed the catch.
As an introvert, you need deep and meaningful conversations.
Too much small talk makes you feel empty.
When you're feeling down, it's important to share your deep thoughts and feelings with
someone you can trust.
This might be a close friend or family member.
Or it may be a counsellor or therapist.
Regardless of who you decide to talk to, remember this:
Just because you are a strong and independent introvert, doesn't mean you need to carry
this burden on your own.
Sometimes, the most courageous thing you can do is to be vulnerable with another person.
I know how tough this can be, but when happiness is on the line, isn't it worth it?
5.
Take care of yourself.
When we are feeling down, our self-care practices tend to fall to the bottom of our priority
list.
But this is the opposite of what needs to happen to feel happier again.
Often, just taking a shower, and feeling clean and fresh will instantly perk you up.
Other self-care practices, like exercise, meditation, and spending time in nature, will
also boost your mood.
Personally, my favourite self-care rituals include cooking beautiful healthy meals for
myself, having a candlelit bath with essential oils, going for walks in nature, and relaxing
in my backyard, which overlooks the ocean.
6.
Help someone.
When you're feeling down, the best cure can be something that seems counterintuitive.
Instead of focusing on your problems, turn your energy towards helping someone in need.
As an introvert, the thought of going out and doing good deeds when you feel down might
overwhelm you.
Here's my advice.
One thing I always tell my introverted students and coaching clients is to focus on the one
small action that they can take right now.
Scale it back, make it achievable.
Instead of vowing to volunteer in Africa some day, send a kind note to a friend who is going
through a rough time today.
7.
Don't believe your thoughts.
"I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn't believe
them, I didn't suffer, and this is true for every human being."
— Byron Katie
When you are feeling down, you might notice many negative thoughts arising out of nowhere.
Difficult as it may be, it's important to remember that you have a choice whether to
believe these thoughts or not.
8.
Plan your next joyful experience.
Introverts are known for planning ahead, and thinking things through before acting.
It turns out that this works to our advantage when it comes to boosting our happiness levels.
Allow me to explain.
Have you ever noticed that you feel happier during the planning stage of a vacation than
during or after the vacation itself?
If so, you're not alone.
This study comparing vacationers and non-vacationers found that there was little difference in
post-trip happiness levels between the two groups.
However, the vacationers had higher levels of pre-trip happiness compared to those who
weren't planning a vacation.
Not going on a trip anytime soon?
That's okay.
You can still feel happier simply by planning an activity that you will enjoy in the near
future.
A nice dinner, a concert, a day at the river, a bike ride, a girl's night out, a boy's
night in, a boat ride, a show — choose whatever activity excites you, and put it in your calendar.
9.
Make goals.
Goals have come in and out of fashion over the years.
For a while, goals were everything.
And not just any goals.
They had to be clear, measurable goals with a specific deadline.
Then all of the sudden goals took a backseat to living in the Now and going with the flow.
This begs the question …
What approach leads to the most happiness.
The answer is both.
When we are too focused on goals, our confidence and happiness hinges on what we achieve.
When failure finds us, we start feeling down again.
But when we find a healthy balance between goals for the future and appreciation for
the now, our overall happiness levels improve.
Here's an easy exercise to put this philosophy into practice: Write a gratitude list of everything
you're grateful for today.
Circle the things that you would like more of in the future.
Take a look at the items you've circled and ask yourself, what is it about these things
that brings me joy?
Next, brainstorm some goals that reflect those joy points.
Well, that's the 10 ways introverts can be happier after feeling down.
Can you relate to these habits of mentally strong introverts?
Did I miss any?
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