7 Reasons INFJs Can't Let Go After Heartbreak
Heartbreak is one of the most painful emotions anyone will ever face.
But INFJ heartbreak is something far worse.
A huge majority of INFJs are highly sensitive and empaths.
When an INFJ goes through heartbreak, we feel as if somebody took our heart out of our chest,
and blocked our mind from all thinking.
We silently go through immense hurt and don't know how to let go.
We experience something that I call…
The quiet pain of INFJ heartbreak
INFJs don't play the victim role.
Even when we are heartbroken, rarely will you see us show it in public.
Before you realize it, maybe you won't notice when INFJ have to go to work heartbroken and
constantly on the verge of tears.
Simply because they never allow for anyone to see their tears.
INFJ heartbreak is an emotion so painful, when our heart is broken into pieces, no words
of comfort can ease how we feel.
We hold that pain inside, quietly hoping that no one will notice it.
But we can only hold on for so long.
The aftermath of INFJ heartbreak is that we don't know how to let go.
Let me remind you, we are protectors, guardians, and counselors.
So letting go is an unknown word in our dictionary.
Here are seven reasons why INFJs can't let go after heartbreak.
1.
We overthink, but also over-love.
When an INFJ loves someone, this is such a deep bond that it is almost unbreakable.
When it ends, it's a world unknown for INFJs, because we have given it everything we got.
We then start asking ourselves: "How could this happen, now what to do after this?"
2.
We believe it's our fault this happened.
The inevitable guilt comes as a result of the belief that we should have done more to
prevent the INFJ heartbreak.
Don't forget, we are our own worst critics, and nowhere is this more expressed than when
an INFJ has to let go after heartbreak.
3.
We should have done more.
Next comes pressure and self-sabotage.
INFJs struggle to let go, because there's this obnoxious feeling that we subconsciously
sabotaged the relationship, and haven't done enough.
We start doubting that we'll ever find someone who will accept us.
We don't want to let go, because in our mind, we should have done more.
4.
We believe we can still fix this.
Even after the relationship is over, an INFJ will still analyze what happened and try to
bring thing back to the way they used to be.
Deep inside, we know it's over, but our heart refuses to accept it.
This makes it much more difficult to let go.
5.
We think no one will ever accept us again.
The greatest fear of an INFJ is loneliness.
INFJs will even go against everything we believe in to escape it.
Letting go after an INFJ heartbreak is like a volcano eruption.
First comes a warning shockwave, and then a lava of emotions that no INFJ ever wants
to feel.
6.
We thought he or she was our soul mate.
If an INFJ believes they found their soul mate, this makes letting go all the more problematic.
We are used to being misunderstood, so if a person who understands us enters our life,
and then leaves it, it's like everything that we ever wanted is gone.
In this case, letting go is like an impossible mission for an INFJ.
7.
We fear the future.
Imagine that you were with someone who meant the world to you, someone with whom you planned
a bright future.
But now that person has left, and you have no idea what to do next.
For an INFJ, letting someone go feels like a part of our soul has been taken, causing
the future to become blurry.
We know all too well how much heartbreak hurts.
But sometimes, the only thing that we can do is let go.
You are not surrendering, and you're not giving up on yourself.
You are moving on, because you need to take care of yourself too.
Letting go is a sign of strength
Every single person who breaks your heart is a lesson that you had to learn.
Some lessons will just be bullets in your book of life.
Some will be the title of a chapter.
One day, you'll meet the one who will give your book the main headline.
Give yourself the permission to grieve and cry.
Allow your soul time to heal from INFJ heartbreak.
Life will never close one door to you without opening another, better one.
Open those doors and embrace a new, shinning beginning, because happiness is your birthright.
How do you deal with INFJ heartbreak?
How much time do you need to heal?
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