Today's topic: What's Your Frame of Reference
Hi I'm Doug Holt with Author of Your Own Story and this is your daily growth hack
where each day will give you a tip trick or insight to help you up level what we
call the five to thrive that is your mind your body your soul your
relationships and your business so today I'm going to talk to you about your
frame of reference and what is your frame of reference consciously or
subconsciously in your five to thrive you see we pick the five to thrive
because we believe that's a holistic representation of what could possibly
become your story allow you to become the author of your own story and touch
each of these five areas so frame of reference what it is is what is your
frame of reference of what's acceptable or what your standards are so oftentimes
we set our standards subconsciously a lot lower than we think and it really
takes them diving into some deep diving to see what that is now something
happened to me the other day is I told someone you know I'm going to get up I'm
going to go to the gym because that's what I do
late I will man up your nurse not sleekness well you got a newborn you got
a new business you got other businesses that you're running you move your
location give yourself some slack something's got to give we see their
frame of reference was different than mine when it comes to body my frame of
reference was I'm going to get up and I'm going to do this because for me it's
not acceptable not to for me the author of my story the man that I am the man
that I am becoming he gets up at that time and he works out in the morning and
that's exactly what I did and it didn't take a struggle for me to do it it's
just my frame of reference was different than theirs simple as that I have
another client right I'm working with him when I first started working with
him his story what is he was stupid now I've talked about him before in these in
these daily growth hacks so you may remember him and he listens to these so
I'll say hi but I won't give his name but his frame of reference was he was
stupid that was his story he's just not smart and he was intimidated being
around other smart people however he was around smart people all the time and so
one thing I had him do was after we're working for a while I said hey look
let's change that let's change your frame of reference can you list just
five reasons that someone could say you're smart
he really struggled with this and then I talked to was like look do you think I'm
smart and he did which surprised me but but he did and I said gosh you can build
a hotel you can build houses if you look at construction you can look at the
walls you can look at things that I just don't understand you seem extremely
smart to me you know and we have conversations about philosophy about
life you know they don't come across you have great insights you stop for a
second was like wow that's right dad I do
people are always commenting you know on my work and the things that I do the
architectural work that I do you know he's working at the top hotels in the
world and we were talking about this and so
his frame of reference is a globe can you come up with five things five
reasons to raise your frame of reference to raise your reference from being
stupid to actually being smart so it took a second then you started writing
down he's came up with five pretty quickly and we looked at that I said gee
let's look at your circle of influence the people you spend time with are they
stupid with those no no they're actually extremely smart in fact I get nervous
around them I said well you know would you think these smart people would spend
their time and invest their energy around someone who they think is stupid
you thought about it for a second he's like no actually no I definitely no they
wouldn't why are they spending their time with you then it's not because
you're stupid because you're actually smart your frame of reference means to
change and so what I had him do I had him do something I'm going to have you
do and then just look at your frame of reference for him and this was in the
category of mind what is your frame of reference and where is it coming look
look look you're passed a lot of times it's subconscious you know his story we
had to dig it out of him a little bit although it became clear to me right
away but we did it out of him so he could see it now for you if you're
working on this by yourself I want to grab your journal write down your 5 to
thrive and write your frame to reference in each section of the five to thrive
don't skip them if you can't find one ask a friend ask somebody good the
author of your own story group and start posing questions this is where you get
to dig deep we all set our thermostat at a certain level but we don't rise above
it unless we change our frame of reference you can have all the tools
tricks techniques whatever it is if your frame of reference hasn't changed you
won't change to you always go down or up to that frame of reference set
or that thermometers I like to say at times so example could be body you know
a couple days ago I was actually having a conversation and I was tired I
mentioned it and some of the G sums got a give Doug you know don't work out take
a week off you know why would you even do that to yourself you know look you've
got a brand new baby you moved you're moving houses you
started a new business you have four other businesses that you're running
this is a ridiculous take a week off give yourself a break relax come on what
they didn't get is my frame of reference was much different when it comes to
terms of my body for me that just wasn't acceptable that you know if something's
got to give maybe it does maybe it doesn't but not my workouts my frame of
reference had changed you know there are is time to back off and I'm a big
proponent in that but this wasn't one of them my frame of reference was set at a
certain level that was much higher than theirs when it comes to terms with my
fitness in my body so what I do yeah I got up the next morning I went to the
gym and I worked out and I felt great I felt full of energy after that workout
now the difference between me and them was my frame of reference my frame of
reference happened to be higher in that category there's other categories where
my frame of reference I know is very low and I'm always working on that how can I
raise that consciously or what are their subconscious little tidbits are coming
in the little voice in our head that that plays while we're in the shower or
where things are going hard right in our lives that little voice that says you
can't do it or this is good enough right those things
what is that metabolic setpoint kind of in the mind I'm metabolic we use
metabolic in the fitness industry but what is that setpoint that you're going
through in your mind and in your spirit you go through so that's your body what
about your soul what's your frame of reference for what's acceptable you know
maybe you're you're know you're a Christian so what's your frame of
reference for what's acceptable in your morality or your practice you know I
know people that their frame of reference is I go I go to church every
Sunday I go to Bible study every week and I read at the dinner table that's it
that's just my frame of reference that is what is acceptable to me when I know
other people who their spirituality is I will meditate every morning period I
know atheists I know Jews I know Muslims I know Hindus I know people from all
different religious walks they all have different frames of
reference so what is their frame of reference and is this the area you're
skirting for one reason or another in other words is this the one area you're
throwing to the side because if it is I can tell you the rest of your holistic
perspective is also going to suffer what about relationships you know there are
certain people to have relationships if you're in a significant relationship
with a significant other there's people that say hey this person's abusive but
that's okay because you know you know if they only hit me every once in a while
and so yep there's you know he's a nice guy and he makes it gets a good job so
that's alright we have somebody else ABS a frame of reference like you touch me
or even speak to me badly I'm out I'm gone because my frame of reference or my
standards are much higher you see this is two different people two different
frames of reference one is way down low ones up much higher so where's your
frame of reference when it comes to relationships when it comes to
significant others or when it comes to friends you know I have standards from
my friends and my standards I'm trying to constantly raise them that doesn't
mean I get rid of my old friends just means when I'm looking for new friends
or meeting people that can potentially be in my inner circle I want to make
sure my frame of reference for what's acceptable is much higher there's
certain things I just won't allow to happen right I won't allow somebody in
my inner circle that abuses someone who takes advantage of someone who's weaker
for them that's it that is a standard that I just will not accept but what's
yours what are your frames of reference and relationships with coworkers with
your boss with yourself that's a big one what's your standard for yourself and
how can you constantly raise that one I'm always trying to do that in your
business right now if you're an intrapreneur where you're working in a
business what's your frame of reference for what's acceptable are you shutting
down your computer at you know for 50 because you're off at 5:00 or do you
show up a little late or you take a little longer break at lunch see my
frame of reference as a business owners that's stealing you're stealing from the
person who's paying you and you should certainly not get a raise because to me
my frame of reference is somebody that works hard stays longer and they prove
their results before accepting the value they give value first me is a business
owner right what's my frame of reference for it's acceptable I have a certain
income as acceptable from my frame of reference
and I'm working on raising that the reason I'm working on raising that is
I'm raising my standards but I also want to provide for my family my extended
family the gifts that I've had to be able to travel education be able to work
on themselves to have the lifestyle that I have to be the author of their own
story I want to help them do that so I raise my frame of reference and
things like money stories these are other areas you can go into but for
right now what I want you to do pull out your journal please do this you're going
to regret it if you don't you know actually if your standard your frame of
references it's good enough just to listen to these and somehow it magically
is going to help you well it's not so you raise your standard raise your frame
of reference to the point where you're actually doing the work do the work here
so grab your journal write out your 5 to thrive you know your mind your body your
soul your relationships your business right at your current frame of reference
so what's acceptable to you yeah you know work out every once in a
while I gained some weight and it's no big deal does that serve you is the
author of your own story probably not so what could you do to change your frame
of reference you know I'm somebody who works out at least four times a week and
treats my body like a temple I really take care of myself but I was maybe I
also enjoy the finer things of life like you know certain restaurants or food
whatever it is for you I'm not asking you to be militant I'm asking for your
story what it is for you now once you have that new frame of reference I want
you to come up with at least five things five things you can verify that that is
actually true that this is true about you or about who you're going to become
now if you can't come to those five minutes hard again posting the author of
your own story group on Facebook and we'll work with you will help you the
people in the university you guys already are way ahead of this program so
once you've done that but I also want you to come up with role models who are
some role models that already you believe already have this frame of
reference equal or above what your the new frame of reference you're
changing so these are role models so for example I'll use the mines my friend and
client who thinks he's stupid where are some frames of reference you look at
intelligent people who are playing at a higher level if you feel better
intelligent and use them as role models see what are they doing consistently and
when we do this for him we found out was that all of these people are either
listening to or reading something to better their mind on a daily basis this
daily growth hat could be yours right that's great if you're taking
action so you can take action I keep saying that over and over again I know
what it's like to be out there I used to be one that was an audio podcast all the
time and maybe not always do the work now I do so what is your frame of
reference who are those people they're at that standard where that frame of
reference is you have make sure you write those down figure out what they're
doing you want bonus points you want to take it a step further and really go
after it reach out to each of those four people
and tell them what it is you like about I really love the fact that you seem
really smart or whatever that person is you know I'm
raising my frame of reference to tell them what it is
share this podcast with them I mean how great would it make somebody feel to
have a podcast like this share to the more video shared with them and say I
was watching this and I think of you as the standards that I want to become no
one's going to put you down they're going to be like holy cow that's amazing
thank you so much and ask them how do you feel you got that what are your
standards and really ask them in an interview not only we bring somebody
closer into your relationship circle it's your inner circle you're going to
raise your standards you're going to raise your frame of reference just by
working that's it for me today I won't belabor the point but do the
work make sure you're writing that down in your journal and remember build your
own inner circle build your tribe share this with at least three other people
you think will benefit from them share it with them and bring them in bring the
conversation and when you build your tribe you build the people around you
that's where the magic happens that's it for me today go out and be the author of
your story
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