I wonder if this is actually possible.
It's shocking.
Hello, I'm a housewife in her 40s with
a 4-month-old son.
I'm sending this in to you as a last resort.
My husband has the dirtiest mouth in the world.
Even when he's driving...
"Ah, darn"
"Move, you frick"
Even when he's on the phone.
"What? You little shoe."
"Stop talking! Shoot"
It's like he has a dirty rag in his mouth.
He's always using profanity.
But that's not all.
Honey, can you do the dishes
before going to work?"
"Far out, what a nuisance before work!"
(What?)
(Is this for real?)
"What's this!@#$%?"
To his own wife?
Cursing at me is a given.
When the baby cries...
"So noisy. Do something about the kid."
"He's a bay. Of course he cries."
"Ah,!@#$%!"
(In shock)
He curses at the baby.
I didn't get married to be cussed out.
I'm so frustrated, I end up in tears.
Is it okay to go on like this?
Please, sew my husband's lips together.
Normally they clap after the concern is read.
But everyone is in so much shock.
This is nothing to clap about.
Cursing is a common thing.
But this is going too far.
At home, at the wife and kid...
Swearing is just a part of his daily life.
That's just lacking in basic manners.
Do you know anyone that cusses a lot?
People that turn you off because of it?
There's cussing that makes you laugh.
Yeah, that's true.
They laugh and cuss by mistake.
They cuss like this?
In that kind of atmosphere.
I'd better make use of that.
What a load of!@#$%.
(Is that what I did?)
Let's meet the wife.
Please come on out.
(Who's the lady with the potty mouth husband?)
(Kang Seonju)
(Welcome)
Does he really cuss that much?
He does so much.
If something doesn't go to his liking...
"Ah,!@#$%."
"Ah,!@#$%!@#$%."
"Oh,!@#$%."
Age is not a factor.
- He doesn't care who he cusses out? / - Right.
Really?
Whether they're a kid or the elderly.
You mean he cusses under his breath?
He cusses at them too.
- He cusses you out too? / - Of course.
If I say anything when he's in a bad mood...
"Stop talking nonsense."
What did you say to hear that?
He has a beer belly because he drinks a lot.
I told him to exercise and take care of himself.
"Shut it."
(Sorry, it just slipped out)
I'm sorry.
Despite your child being so young...
He's 4 months old now.
I comfort him since he's crying.
Then my husband goes,
"How annoying. He's too loud."
At a crying baby?
"It's only natural that a baby cries."
"Why are you bugging me before work?"
He says I'm a pain.
Since when did he start cursing so bad?
- When you were dating? / - You must've known.
We met at work.
He was famous for it in the office.
- For cursing? / - For his foul mouth?
He'd swear regardless of who was around.
It's just a part of him.
Why did you fall for him?
He took good care of me at the start.
Cursing is his only flaw.
He was a nice guy.
Was he good to you while cussing you out?
(Surprised)
He was nice...
"Hey,!@#$%. I bought you this."
(So funny)
So I thought he had a good heart.
Why don't you tell him how you feel?
No...
At first, I used to talk back to him.
And when I tell him to stop, he gets worse.
- He curses more? / - Yes.
It gets worse.
The thing that shocks and frustrates me is...
He doesn't speak after we fight.
What's this about?
- Who? / - My husband.
He won't talk.
For how long?
It the beginning it used to be a day or two.
But now it's 2 weeks and at the latest, one month.
He didn't speak to you for a month?
He didn't!
How much would he want to swear?
So you haven't spoken for a month?
We haven't spoken for 2 weeks.
- It's been 2 weeks? / - Yes.
Wait, so you're not on speaking terms right now?
We came in silence.
Until the moment we got here...
Even though we came in the same car.
The Hello Counselor team asked him to contact them
and he ignored it.
You used the same waiting room. You didn't speak?
We didn't.
That means you have a serious concern right now.
To be real honest, since it's this bad,
I'm considering divorce.
This is my last resort.
That's why we're here.
The husband must be here because
he wants to change.
He has a great impression and jokes around.
But to think he has a swearing problem.
Let's meet him first.
Hello, nice to meet you.
- Hello. / - Nice to meet you.
He looks like he'd never swear.
You look like you'd never swear.
What do you think of your wife's concern?
When the writer called,
I was shocked to think it was worth being here for.
To think it was that bad...
So it's not that bad?
I don't think it's that bad.
I think my wife has greatly misunderstood this.
Then are you here to solve that misunderstanding.
That's right.
- So you're saying you did nothing wrong. / - Yes.
It's a bad thing that you're swearing in the
first place. The fact that you're cursing at all.
I don't just go and swear at strangers.
It's close friends or close coworkers.
It's habitual swearing with those guys.
When I curse at my wife...
- It's only when we fight. / - When you fight?
Right, I don't just swear for no reason.
But even if it's when you fight...
Swearing at your wife is going too far.
Imagine your wife saying the same things to you.
She does.
- Exactly as you do? / - Yes.
What is going on here?
But it's like this...
Dispute resolved.
- What's going on? / - I understand.
But when you fight,
you hit back because you've been hit first.
She doesn't swear at you first, right?
Who curses first?
I acknowledge that these days it's been me.
Then she's cursed first in the past?
Early in the marriage, she did it first.
- More than me. / - Wait.
You fight, right? Then you say mean things.
My husband would do that and
I'd tell him to stop.
And I've cursed at him first.
- Like what? / -!@#$%.
- Stop!!@#$%! / - Something like that.
- Nothing more? / - Right.
Stop!@#$%. And then
he'd call me a whore and other things...
(Such a shock)
Then we'd curse back and forth.
Whore?
I just mean she talks like one.
But a woman wouldn't swear more than the guy.
Don't you agree?
I do say worse things.
She can't help but lose here.
But she said you swear even when the baby cries.
- Because he gets mad. / - By getting mad.
But that's not something to get mad about, is it?
For example, he's not crying for food but
she keeps trying to feed him.
We've fought so we're not on talking terms
but it's so frustrating to watch.
So I just sighed.
Three times like this.
- I don't believe this. / - Just three sighs.
But she tells me not to sigh. She shouted at me.
- Did he just sigh? / - No.
Not at all.
He had a beer in his hands, sitting under the AC.
"How annoying. So noisy."
That's what he was doing.
Is this correct?
I think it is.
It's wrong that you get so mad about a baby crying.
That's right.
I was curious from the start. It's your first baby?
- Yes. / - So you did have the baby late.
It's not our first baby...
We had a miscarriage.
That does happen a lot these days.
I used to work early on...
Goodness.
She has a lot that she's kept stored up.
It means she has a lot of heartache
that we might not completely understand.
What kind of curse words do you use?
Just say it here. We'll bleep it out.
What do you say when you're really angry.
(Shut the!@#$% up!)
(Shock!)
(Shut the!@#$% up!)
What's your age difference?
He's 4 years younger than me.
What are you doing to your elder?
Do you curse that much outside the home?
The company I met my wife in...
I worked there for 4 years and 2 months.
I've moved on now but I was praised for my work.
But my only flaw was
that I curse a lot. That I'm a good worker
but I swear too much. I heard that a lot.
So I haven't been swearing since I changed jobs.
I've stopped myself.
Then stop swearing at home too.
I don't! It's just when we fight.
So you only swear when you fight.
But that's really wrong.
You should swear less since you're fighting.
Things get worse and aggravated when you fight.
If you curse at those times, you get more hurt.
You haven't spoken in 2 weeks.
That is correct.
Why?
It takes two hands to clap.
It's not like I'm ignoring her.
She doesn't speak to me. That's why it's 2 weeks.
You could speak first.
The thing that makes me mad is, in the beginning
I spoke to him first.
Even after you fight? To make up?
I would try. If it's too hard to speak,
let's email or send texts.
But he's never tried to make up first.
- Not even once? / - Right?
What's the reason?
Why don't you try to make up first?
My pride.
It does feel like I lose if I speak first.
What do you get out of being so stubborn?
Nothing. I do regret too.
You've made up before, right?
Why did you make up?
We're married with a child.
We can't separate so we have to make up.
We need a change.
That's being really selfish.
She said she's considering divorce.
You don't realize how serious this is, right?
I hate fighting too.
We fight at least once a month now.
I do think this isn't why I got married.
- You think that too? / - Yes.
But my wife talks about every small detail.
And I keep everything in.
Then tell us what you don't like about her.
The biggest one. I've never told her this before.
Good. Tell us.
The biggest thing is I'm a picky eater.
I acknowledge that.
But everything my wife cooks...
I've never had such bad cooking before.
- But you didn't say that and just ate? / - Yes.
Tell us more.
You call that eating?
I wake up at 6 and go to work at 7.
She could see me off in the morning.
But she just lies there.
You're upset about that.
I understand but it does upset me.
But I just don't express these things.
Tell us more if there's anything else.
They're the biggest ones.
She takes care of the baby till late at night.
Why would you want her to see you off?
I do understand
but as a human, I do feel upset.
What kind of food do you like?
Spam.
- Sausages. / - Eggs.
Just cook him that stuff then.
I feel so wronged by what he's saying.
I carried my 50-day-old baby out
to buy ingredients to make him chicken soup.
But he doesn't show an ounce of appreciation.
Don't you ever feel sorry or thankful
for your wife?
You never thank her for her hard work, right?
I don't remember doing so.
That means you never have.
Does he help with the housework?
He doesn't lift a finger.
In my third trimester, I cleaned the bathroom
because he asked me to saying he has a bad back.
That's the kind of man he is.
I asked him to take out the trash
and he says he can't because it smells.
Then what about me?
If I say something to that then we'll fight.
Is she telling the truth? Why don't you help?
I don't help when we've fought.
You've never helped!
No, when we don't fight
I do the dishes, take out the trash...
But you don't speak when you fight.
If you haven't spoken in 3 weeks,
that means you didn't help for 3 weeks.
That's right.
So you help when things are good
but you don't when they're bad.
Are you baby or what?
This is what's going on here.
I judge someone by whether they're a kid or adult.
There are people that are like kids.
And there are people that are adults.
But with marriage, it has to be either two adults
or two kids.
When an adult and a kid get married,
that's the start of the tragedy.
And here a kid and an adult got married.
But even for a kid,
if they have a family to take care of,
they must continue to try and become an adult.
If you just stay as a kid,
then you're not qualified to have a family.
You'll resolve things if you take that approach.
Is there anything else to complain about?
I don't mind not speaking after fighting.
But when we fight, he doesn't look after the baby.
He won't even look at him.
He doesn't babysit or hold him. Nothing.
I had a miscarriage early on in our marriage.
I thought I wouldn't have another child.
I was so worried.
This is a very precious son.
He's my no. 1 treasure.
With all the babysitting and carrying... My wrists
get numb at night.
- It throbs with pain. / - That's common.
Does he help bathe the baby?
Never.
- He doesn't? / - Not even once.
They say it's great for bonding
if the father bathes with the baby.
It's great for development.
I told him about that.
"I'm bonding fine. I don't need to."
It's been 4 months and he hasn't bathed him.
Is he using telepathy?
Have you never bathed your own son?
- No. / - Why not?
Because he was a newborn at first.
Let's say you were too scared then.
These days, because we fight.
Because of fighting again?
We haven't spoken today.
What's does fighting have to do with bathing?
Do you only do what you like?
It's hard to say that myself...
You'll know in your heart.
The fact that you're a father but you haven't
once bathed your son is weird.
Regardless of whether you've fought or not.
I didn't realize it was that bad.
He's a miracle baby for you, right?
He's so precious and beautiful.
You love him so much, right?
- Of course. / - But not enough to bathe him?
No, I think I can now.
Not just now!
You shouldn't have a condition for your baby.
Because of this happening so often,
I have postnatal depression.
I cry alone in the bathroom.
The baby smiles so innocently
but I feel so bad and guilty.
So sometimes I cry with the baby in my arms.
Did you know she cried alone?
No.
You didn't?
How does it feel after hearing about it now?
It's not like I don't understand her.
When I hard to change jobs...
I've felt the pressure of work.
I had to adapt to a new environment as well.
I feel like she only cares
about herself and the baby
and not about me.
Is he very busy with work?
He is busy.
He has to play his mobile games.
He turns on the phone as soon as he wakes up.
He falls asleep with the phone in his hands.
He goes drinking with his friends, coworkers...
He doesn't stay out all night, does he?
He does. More often now.
He frequently doesn't come home? How often?
Twice a week.
It was twice recently.
He'd come home at 5 a.m. when I was pregnant.
- In your third trimester? / - Yes.
Why do you stay out all night?
The company I was scouted to
is a 1-hour travel from my house.
It's far and when drinking ends at 2 to 4 a.m.,
I have to get ready for work and leave by 7
to get there at 8. Then it's tiring...
Then where do you sleep?
I sleep at the sauna and at the office.
Most people who have jobs
travel 40 to 50 minutes, over an hour...
Many people travel for an hour to work in Seoul.
It's the same for everyone.
Raise your hand if it takes you more than an hour.
Raise them high.
So many.
Raise your hand if that's why you sleep out.
That means they should all sleep out too.
That's not a good enough reason to not come home.
I don't stay out without calling. I always call.
Then do you call her when you've fought?
No.
Can she not come home too then after you fight?
Of course not.
(What's with this sense of confidence?)
What's your reason for that?
- She has a baby. / - Because of the baby?
Yes.
Then she can stay out with the baby?
I haven't thought about that but she wouldn't.
That's right. Saying that she wouldn't
means that you can trust her.
That's what you believe.
I think that's a coworker next to him, right?
Let's meet him. Hello, nice to meet you.
Hello.
How do you feel after hearing all this?
When I did the prior interview,
I wondered why you chose him.
How much of a piece of trash must he be?
We joked about that.
How do you feel after hearing their story?
I hope he cleans himself quick
and stops being a piece of trash.
So at work, he's a fun guy.
He swears but he isn't someone that's hated.
- That's right. / - How is he at work.
He's the funny guy at work.
Shin Dongyeob says a lot of lewd stuff
but he doesn't seem like a pervert.
(Proud)
He does that too.
How do you feel about him swearing at his wife?
That's what makes him trash.
A husband and wife should never
swear at each other.
Are you married?
I've been married 6 years.
6 years.
He's more experienced.
Have you ever cursed at your wife?
Never.
We do fight but we don't curse.
- You do the same work, right? / - Right.
Are you unable to help with the housework?
I wouldn't say I help a lot.
I have to be honest since my wife is watching.
(The wife is watching)
But early on in the marriage or with the baby...
I did bathe the baby from time to time.
With the cleaning...
Now that I think about it, I haven't done much.
What if you're back next week?
The important thing is how you communicate.
A soft answer turns away wrath.
If you just say sorry and thank you.
That can make
all the stress go away.
But the way he says it. Saying she just lies there.
I was so shocked.
She sleeps because she's tired from babysitting.
But you say it in such a negative way.
You say it in a way that makes her feel bad.
Does he feel bad about not coming home?
No, not at all. He never says sorry.
- What does he say? / - Nothing.
You must say things like, "Then just get out."
Then he'll say, "You leave."
My father-in-law provided the home for us.
So he says, "You get out."
He's a complete baby.
- So childish. / - What a baby.
He's worse than a baby.
He says, "Did you pay for the house?"
Have you ever regretted being so childish?
- I do. At the time. / - You do?
Then did you say sorry after?
I didn't say I was sorry for that.
He tells me to leave every time we fight.
He said it last time we fought.
That becomes a habit.
Why can't you be a bigger plate?
This is what my wife says the most when we fight.
"I can't live with the likes of you."
So then I just say, "Then leave."
But she doesn't say that out of the blue.
Of course she's at fault too.
But you only aggravate it and make it worse.
You should be a man about it.
So you have no husband to rely on.
Do you have anyone else to rely on?
That'd be my parents.
My parents live in Iksan, Jeolla-do.
That's too far.
My mom and dad call me from time to time.
My mom asks if my husband is good to me.
But you can't tell her the truth.
I tell her that he's good to me and helps a lot.
And for her not to worry.
But the funny thing is...
I really couldn't believe this.
I had to visit my parents.
But he cursed out my mom behind my back.
Why?
He has a chatroom with his friends.
Saying he's so uncomfortable around her.
He doesn't like her cooking.
My mother cooked a Korean chicken
for her son-in-law.
On the fire my brother made in the boiling heat.
That's so much love.
My mom tore the meat with her hands for him.
He calls her a country bumpkin for that.
"How's your mother-in-law?" "A country bumpkin."
(It's a never ending story)
She tore it with her hands
but he forced himself to eat it.
I hit him while he was sleeping saying,
"Is this the kind of man you were?"
He did say sorry then but it's left a scar.
Of course it leaves a scar.
Why did you marry your wife?
She's really good to my parents.
That's what sealed the deal for me.
Then you should be good to her parents.
What if she cursed out your mom
in a chatroom with her friends?
"Was she proud of this kind of son?"
And you saw it.
How would you feel?
I would never look through my wife's phone.
(Never never ending story)
What are you saying? You've seen it.
Seeing the way he speaks...
"I don't do that. It's her fault."
You're not a baby.
You're a man and a father.
What's your greatest concern?
When my father was younger,
he would swear at this kids too.
Elders in the country are like that.
I couldn't help but lose self-esteem as a result.
At the very least, not in front of our baby...
I don't want him to grow up like me.
But I feel like he will.
With low self-esteem and always being wary.
We asked just how bad your cursing is.
Whether she could write them down.
Since you don't know how bad you are.
I was completely shocked to read this.
I've never seen curses written down...
I can't read these with emotion.
It'll be too weird for the audience.
I'll just read it.
We'll bleep it out. Please be understanding.
If you don't read this like a textbook...
Things will get weird in here.
Why are you being an arse this morning?
Did I force you to do the dishes? Huh?
I'll do it later or tomorrow, you frick.
Why you little frick.
What's with this arse?
Just keep your mouth shut.
I just can't live you anymore, you darn.
You're living in my house, you shoot.
Stop acting like you own the frick place.
You didn't pay a cent to buy this house.
If you want to leave get the frick out.
Why the heck would I leave?
You get out if you don't want to see my face.
With this...
Do you remember saying these things?
Yes.
- You do? / - You remember?
How does it feel hearing it?
I was wrong.
You swore because you were upset.
That's true.
Look. No matter how upset you are...
There are things you just shouldn't say.
I doubt you'd ever say that to your coworkers.
What do you think? He says that to his wife.
I'm shocked after hearing that.
I almost left. I don't think I should've come.
I didn't know he spoke so harshly to her.
How do you feel after hearing it?
I'm not saying I'm in the right
but my wife says the same stuff when we fight.
- Like this? / - When we fight.
But that's because you swore first...
That's why she swears.
Please don't be like, "She does too."
You're a man. What's wrong with you?
Saying things in a nice way.
Thinking about how the other person would feel.
If you just realize that...
"Oh, that's how it feels. I'd better stop."
Imagine if you suggested something to your boss.
And he's like, "Why you, darn."
"Why are you being a frick this morning?"
"Stop being an arse and get out of my office!"
How would you feel? I'm being serious.
How do you feel right now?
He cursed at you as an example.
I feel bad.
- It feels really bad, right? / - Yes.
Even how Sejong the Great would feel.
He didn't invent Hangul to be used like this.
What does your wife and child mean to you?
They're the reason I get up early in the morning
and run around all day.
So why do you curse at them?
I won't from now on.
It's something that you just shouldn't do.
Tell her how you will change.
If I said I won't swear 100% when we fight,
that'd be a lie.
But that's how it should be.
- Most people don't. / - You shouldn't swear.
I'll do my best not to say the real bad words.
No, you need to stop cursing at all.
I won't, but...
It might come out when I get mad
but I'll do my best to stop.
How do you call yourself an adult
when you can't even stop yourself from swearing.
Did you marry a frick?
Of course not.
Then why do you call her that?
My goodness.
You surprised me.
You'll bleep it out.
It doesn't make sense that you can't control it.
Do you swear at your parents too then?
No, I don't.
So that means you can stop.
That's how you're supposed to control yourself.
That's how we all live.
I understand.
Please say one last word to your husband.
Look him in the eye for the first time in 2 weeks.
I hope you wouldn't swear
in front of our son, at the very least.
We can fight but I hope you won't give me
the silent treatment for more than a day.
I'd like you to say sorry and thank you.
I hope we can live like that.
Let's live a happy life from now.
Why must we wipe your own wife's tears?
Guests, please say whether it's a concern.
Starting with Sejeong.
I really hope things improve.
I think it's a concern.
It's a concern.
Sandeul.
This is a concern.
There are too many reasons why it's a concern.
You said you have a son, right?
When parents fight,
sons take their mother's side. Not the father.
But he learns cussing from his dad.
I'm really scared about what will happen then.
I really hope you'll be cautious from now.
Sandeul, but don't swear at your father.
It sounded like you said it from experience.
I don't do that.
I think it's a concern.
I think it's a concern.
You've all heard.
It's quite a heavy topic.
If you agree, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop.
It feels like we have a new record.
Please say something to your wife.
I am thankful that you married me.
My mom and dad...
This is how it should be.
I'm thankful that you're so good to them.
I'll do my best not to curse.
I'll quit smoking and cut down on drinking.
I'll do my best to become the man you want.
I love you.
I hope you live a happy life from now.
I'm curious about the votes. Show us.
How many votes?
The last digit in a 7. That's over 100 votes.
177?
167? 187?
167. 167.
157? 167.
(They got 167 votes)
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