I was playing a game against the 49 it was a Monday night game and I had to
sacks that game and I had ten sacks on the year which is great by football terms
and I was on my way going to another Pro Bowl which mean I've won the
best in the NFL but I felt horrible I felt like I was one of the worst players
didn't feel good about myself and and I went to somebody in Arizona who you
know just reinforced that you have to speak kindly to yourself you have to
talk nicely to yourself treat yourself and say to yourself what you would say
to somebody else to encourage them and that's what I started to do and the next
week had a big game against the Cardinals and it was in my opinion in 15 years in
the NFL the best and greatest football game I've ever played and I think it was
because I truly told myself you can do this you know how to play this game you
belong in this game and I've had to use that to do live I had to do you do use
it to do Fox because I wasn't so sure I could be a sports commentator which a
lot of people think is natural for an athlete to be able to do but it's not
and then come to morning television I've had to tell myself that to do GMA
I've had to tell myself that because I'm as scared and as fearful as anybody else
to tackle something new but I've learned that sometimes I got to get over the
fear of not doing it because I'm scared instead of not doing it because I can't
do it and I found that I was more just worried about being scared and what with
the repercussions were actually more than really feeling like I couldn't do
something and now by taking these chances I feel like I can do anything I
think once you get to the point of where you don't really care about anyone elses
opinion and you really truly trust in yourself and you're willing to put
yourself in an uncomfortable position you'll find that you'll get comfortable
real quick and you can do things that you never in a million years thought
that you'd be able to accomplish and I'm a true believer that it's all what you
think of it it's all what you think of yourself it's
all what you apply to it it's all about the work that you put into it
and if you put all those things and you apply and you really
interested in something then you can do it I have no doubt in anybody every
thing is possible people say you you have to have a lot of passion for what
you're doing and it's totally true and the reason is is because it's so hard
that if you don't any rational person would give up it's really hard and you
have to do it over a sustained period of time so if you don't love it if you're
not having fun doing it you don't really love it you're gonna give up and that's
what happens to most people actually if you really look at that the ones that
ended up you know being successful unquote the eyes of society and the ones
that didn't oftentimes it's the ones that are successful loved what they did
so they could persevere well you know when it got really tough and and the
ones that didn't love it quit because they're saying right who would want to
put up with this stuff if you don't love it so it's a lot of hard work and and
it's a lot of worrying constantly and if you don't love it you're gonna fail so
you got to love it you got to have passion keep trying different things
it's okay to not know a hundred percent what you're passionate about it's not a
crime to being a job that you're not a hundred percent in love with but there
are things that you can do alright don't be a victim that's the thing that drives
me crazy when I talk to people and they like you but like yo if you really want
if you get to the point where it's more uncomfortable being where you are you
will figure it out but a lot of times we get stuck in these ruts we let other
people's perception of what they think we should do for ourselves sort of
decide what we do and this is crazy it's absolutely nuts guys life is way too
short to be living without passion and for a career if you're in the place
where your does not 100% happy there is absolutely no better time than
right now to try and figure it out because you're amazing and you deserve
it the fifth one is about mindset and the mindset shift is to appreciation
because the truth is oftentimes everything what we're trying to get get
get we're focused on what we don't have and if you can shift your mindset simply
from not focusing on what I lack but what I
and shift it from not focusing on the bottom of that ladder of the stuff but
to the connection and the growth that is the shift that will lead to the most
lasting happiness we have access to this at all times of our life even in the
annoying moments when we're standing in line it's 20 minutes to get out of the
food store you can focus on the fact that you're 20 minutes late what you
don't have is your time or you can focus on the fact that you have food
surrounding you from all kinds of the world and you live literally better than
Kings did 100 years ago because they couldn't get grapes right if you were on
the other side of the planet so depending on what you compare yourself
to if you're alive today if you're watching YouTube if you're on the
internet you literally live better then Kings did not very long ago you are in
the top point one percent of lucky people who have ever lived so no matter
what's going on in your life I know that there will be things that knock you down
things that suck reasons to be unhappy or there's always a reason to bounce
back if you shift your focus to what you have compared to what you don't so I
hope you find that helpful I hope that you can focus on what you appreciate and
if you take one thing from this right now write down or say in your head one
thing that is common to your life that is little that maybe you don't notice
all the time that you appreciate right now and I think that that I'll make you
have a much better day and if you can keep it up that habit will give you a
much happier life
your destiny your
future is not predicated on the decision of someone else you've wasted too much
of your life trying to change other people's mind about you
it doesn't matter what they think about you
God is not going to bless you by their opinion God is going to bless you on how you see yourself
touch somebody and say I believe I'm coming out
I don't know how long it's going to take
I don't know what I'm going to have to go through
I don't know what I'm going to lose along the way but I still believe that I'm coming out
I've been broke I've been busted and disgusted but I still believe that I'm coming out I'm locked up
in prison they say I'll never get out
but I still believe that I'm coming out
I'm coming out if I don't have nowhere to stay I'm coming out if my husband marries somebody else
I'm coming out if I don't have no job I'm coming out
and I want you really right now once again start thinking about your goals
and about your dreams and as you begin to envision them one of the things that
I think that's very important that we have to always go back to as you look at
your goals and dreams and and I want you to expand them and it's very important
to realize that I found that most people fail in life not because they aim too
high and miss most people fail in life because it did just like I did for so
many years they aim too low and hit they didn't believe in themselves
so I want you right now as we begin to think about the lessons and all the
things that you've experienced and all of the comments and stories and
strategies and lessons that you've had I think it's time to revisit and look at
your goals and dreams and let's raise the bar I remember as a kid we would be
in the backyard and we would play jumpin somebody would
get on one side of the stick my sister and then my brother
we were running we'd jump over it and then they'd say raise it a little bit
higher we have to back up if we run a wig jump over to get it and then we say
raise it up a little higher and higher it got we have to begin to change our
approach and how are we going to get over the bar and that's the same thing
in life and so right now I want you to think about your goals and dreams as you
begin to raise them a little higher and I want you to stay with me it's possible
it's possible you know the easiest thing that I do is speak and trade people how
to speak go into prisons and juvenile detention centers into high schools and
colleges speak before thousands of people I can do that in my sleep
let me share with you that the most difficult thing I've ever done in my
life it took me years to do and that was to believe that it was possible to
believe that I can do it given my circumstances born and abandoned
building on a floor being adopted being labeled educable mentally retarded
failing twice and school no college training never worked for major
corporation to believe that I had something of value to say
somebody would want to listen to me to believe that that somebody would pay me
to talk to them have you ever thought about something you wanted to do and you
talked yourself out of it I remember going to see Zig Ziglar who I consider
the number one motivational speaker in the planet and dr. norman vincent peale
when he was alive in robert schuller i used to see them and i would be so pumped up
and inspired after hearing Jim Ron who recently passed one of the great
motivational speakers of all time and and Charlie tremendous Jones it and I
would go to my car pumped up saying yes yes yes I can and then after a While my
mental conditioning would kick in unless a less fun you can't do that you don't
have a college education that's wrong you can't do that
sir do you know your parents are this from you can't do that you failed twice in school
good ever thought about something you wanted to do and you talked yourself out
of it there's a proverb that says if there's no enemy within the enemy
outside can do us no harm
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