hello welcome this episode's overhead with the Spanish Succession joining us
today is Jan how are you doing good so Jenna the last time you were here
when was that it was not mm it's been 10 years yeah so Jen was here 10 years ago
yeah was a long time ago back then with dinosaurs yeah yeah ulis back in
Prospect it was different studio all together yeah we met so what have you
been up to lately well right now I'm a psychology major
UMass okay and now I have which are you - no are you mad yeah so close to the
New Hampshire border yeah yeah you go shopping across the border yeah I do
well for those of you who are watching us on YouTube
they don't pay sales tax but there's a lot of good like outlets out there too
like the Merrimack outlet I know famous New Hampshire liquor store yeah it's
like like a state law they can't no one can
privately okay so they are all just well how'd the prices there's I got a day
like boy track gifted Massachusetts I think so yeah I think so but I know like
taxes you know like real estate taxes are I think higher but a lot of stuff is
cheaper but you know they make up for
like areas are like you can get you know cheaper places to live and stuff like
that okay but I guess like you know the whole
thing is not bad more everything like Massachusetts like I guess like the
price
I guess like this show it's more than I have noses raised like that showcase of
how people in New England actually so what else have you been up to so what
got you into psychology how long have you been well I've been I got my
associate degree last year and then now I'm working towards my bachelor's and
ultimately I would like to work towards my master's with nobody at Salem State
okay and so that's my ultimate goal I'd like to help people with substance abuse
and domestic violence and things along those lines and I got into it just from
dealing with my personal and personal experiences and dealing with clothes
people that are addicts and alcoholics that have been abused and so it's just a
combination of that that kind of got me into it my own life experiences that
kind of compelled me to move forward with wanting to help people and being
passionate about that subject and kind of just want to learn more about it more
about like the mindset of just everything and everyone around me so I
guess we were trying to specialize in like addiction yes yes anything like you
know like rehab detox recovery even like something like like like life coach or
like even domestic violence is important to me to help with you know in children
of domestic violence like a silicon internship program like I said like a
practicing program I said I got very like scholar scientific program that you
I would love to do something like that I know there's all different types of
classes and specific prison you can get into there's so many different Proctor
come yeah yeah that's right the practicum yeah the clinical on the
practicum I know the master's program they have things like that and I know if
you want something in particular if you
specify something certain they have like certain seminars or certain practicums
for for certain areas but you have to like speak talk it over with your
adviser once you hit a certain amount of classes you can kind of specialize in
one particular area because they usually like you to specialize in a specific
area do you know what I mean so that's that's kind of like the area where I
want to would want to be in like community involved and earlier you know
we had a discussion that were a prestigious restaurant and you said you
were got it too we're interested in in addiction because there are some
Avengers and some of your friends have difficulty yeah yeah like I've had a
story well I found on friends and family
members that have struggled with addiction and alcoholism and you know
you try so hard to help that person but once it gets too it gets to a point
where you have to let go of them you know like they tell people in al-anon it
gets I guess the point if you try so hard like you do everything to help them
you close the background sorry first well I know you know a close friend of
mine she was struggling with you know alcoholism and and it's just that she
you know she was you know sectioned and all of this stuff and just went through
a lot of stuff with our family and and basically you know people and her family
it's they just give up they just have to let go because there's only so much you
can do you know what I mean even like with my ex he was the same way like his
family had him sectioned and he you know was to rehab and sober houses and things
along those lines but there's only so much you can do like if a person doesn't
want to be helped then it gets to that point where you just have to let them go
and let them hit rock bottom so that they can come to the realization
that oh well I really need to be helped you know what I mean but the person has
to want to be helped okay what was it that you did - I know I know you
probably have done your best but I was the things that you did to try to help
your friend well I know with you know try go to like a meetings trying to do
this and that and like I know with my ex in particular I had got him certain you
know therapists psychiatrist I got him into detox got him
different doctors that can prescribe medications to help and then you know
you know when his family had him sectioned he was in rehabs but there's
only so much you can do you know like you know went to meetings and stuff like
that to be support you know to be as a support system and about when it comes
to that breaking point that the person just doesn't want to be out do they keep
going back into the same cycle it's like you get to a point we almost have to cut
that person off as much as you want to still be there for that person to remain
in that person's life if they ever need you but at the same time you can't let
them take you down with them you can't let them like you were saying you know
sink or swim it's like you can't let them drown you with them like they're
drowning they want to pull you under with them and you just can't and also
you know you're playing the role it's hard to play the role of a friend and a
therapist at the same time it is friends they're things that friends cannot do
and there are things that Ferris cannot do yeah exactly
therapy you don't I mean you have to want to be helped want to take the
advice only so much you can do you know but it's tough you know even when you're
even like we were talking about actually you know what's funny is you know how we
were talking about the the breakup that I recently went through and that's they
say that it affects your mind the same way as an addiction withdrawal
do you know that I don't know if you've learned about that with nervous but you
know that's actually a fact they they've proven in studies that
going through a breakup and going through a loss of a person that grieving
process it's the same as going through with Charl from a substance like okay
cocaine or whatever they say it's actually has the same effects in your
brain as if you were literally going through which raro from the addiction so
that's why I was saying how tough it's been going through this and breakup in
particular you know okay well I guess like that's that's where we were SEC
waiting into what was it that I would you like to work on tonight I just want
to remind watching here we have a luxury of a full hour to do our show I know in
the past well have 27 minutes but thanks to CCTV and our programming coordinator
studying this week we have a four hour to do our show so we can spend more time
talking to our guests here and we probably do a background assessment
until you know 847 27 and then and then a for me pretty we will do the hypnosis
parts so what would you like to work on tonight I would say I guess along the
same lines of what we were talking about with addiction the same thing that I
would like to kind of get past my anxiety over this breakup that's kind of
taking a toll on me the last couple of months even though it was a fairly short
relationship it was just the dynamic of it I think that was so upsetting to me
that it just kind of tells the story beginning well what happened was there
was this guy that I met on my birthday last year right through friends we had
mutual friends and things like that I was out celebrating my birthday and he
hadn't noticed me but I hadn't really noticed him very much but he had pursued
me through the course of like through ways of social social media right
through a period of like seven months and at the time I wasn't really ready to
date and I didn't know if he was like what I was looking for you know
was my time but and I wasn't really ready to open up just somebody in
general at that point I was still kind of like getting over my my ex who put me
through hell for five years so I was kind of getting through that and so I
was just kind of trying to focus on my schoolwork and my kids and just like
hanging out with my friends and things like that just trying to maintain focus
so I wouldn't have any like distractions to stress me out and make me anxious
because that relationships can be stressful you know as we know and so I
seven months later I finally gave in to meet with him and you know things like
that and and we we connected we hit it off I felt like you know a connection
and chemistry and things like that and you know I thought he was a really sweet
guy and even though he didn't have everything that I was looking for from
somebody or from out of a relationship in general I still decided to give him a
chance cuz I thought oh maybe this guy will be you know would treat me that it
will treat me better than like people that I normally go for would appreciate
me because you know of the circumstances you figure like if somebody is somebody
that you normally wouldn't go for you figure like oh well maybe this person
will appreciate me will really you love me unconditionally whatever maybe you
know and it just happened to be that we turn out to almost be not as compatible
as I had initially thought and I think obviously he felt the same and just not
as compatible and not as I don't know not as deep a connection as I would have
initially thought like it right out of the gate he like had thought he was in
love with me and wanted to marry me want to move in together but I think it was
more of like an infatuation but whereas I actually did get attached and do you
know fall for him in a sense again it's at you know I got he grew on me and I
really did fall for him so it was so it made a tough because he's actually the
only person that I can honestly say that I loved that that that broke up with me
right because in my previous relationships where
long relationships you know a lot longer than five months man you know the trip
before you had Tom five years okay you know and then in so but I I left that
relationship you know because again because he was problems and things like
that and so um so I didn't think that was good for my children for obvious
reasons and so so what happened was this is the first person I've been in love
with that has actually broken up with me so I think it kind of triggered certain
like abandonment issues rejection issues like you know that really upset me
because I had not expected that from him and I felt that he gave up very easily
because he's kind of like an avoidant type of person where he kind of runs
away from conflict okay you know what I mean we're kind of instead of resolving
it he just walked away like he can't handle any conflict at all which is
tough because in any relationship it's work its work any relationship has work
and every relationship has a level of conflict you know it so it's it's
healthy to argue and resolve things and learn about each other and it's you know
it's normal to have a certain amount of arguments maybe not every day but it is
normal to have some arguments and but I feel like you have to really be willing
to work through things with that person to be on the same page you both have to
be equally invested you both have to be just equally have the same amount of
effort put in like 50/50 compromise both have to be equally in love and both
really have to be invested to make it work and to wanna resolve those problems
because if you go through an argument with somebody and they just give up then
you know okay then he must have not been that in love with me to begin with are
you obviously wasn't as invested as me as I was because there were times
towards the beginning stages of the relationship where I had wanted to give
up you know I wanted wasn't sure if that's what I wanted so but I I didn't
you know what I mean because I was like well I'm going
still try and make this work because I just if I care about somebody I try not
to give up so easily so let's talk about you now what what is it that um so so
the breakup is over it's over we still trying to remain friends right so like
we want to work on you today how do you feel about that what I guess that fall
to the emotions or like lifestyle you would like to change about yourself I
think that as where I stand right now with how this has been affecting my life
and it has completely it's been a quite a distraction
it's been quite a distraction so I feel like a Segway dab it I feel like it's
been kind of sidetracking me derailed me in a sense where I want to get back on
track to where I was before we were together so I want to get back to where
I was like you know seven months ago you know what I'm saying like back where I
was fine being single and being able to focus and do well on my schoolwork and
do well and focusing on my kids in my eBay business and whatever else I have
going on my work and I just want to be like a guy working out like I want to I
just want to relieve the anxiety okay so what does that mean to you use the word
and then I how to start translating to
dress okay like what is distress mean to you well it just like it makes it more
difficult for you to function as a human being well you can't focus on things
that are more important like schoolwork and like your kids and like your work
where you you know can't sleep well or you can't eat well like you know my
appetite isn't a hundred percent the same as it was two months ago
or like you know for sleep it's it's tough to like sleep well if you have
when you're alone at night and you have your thoughts running through you how
would you know when you're not anxious how would I know when I'm not anxious
my golly I have such high anxiety as it is but um how would I know what I'm not
well well I like it when my mind is occupied
like if I'm exercising or from really delving into my schoolwork if I'm like
if I'm really focused on something and okay and I'm able to focus on it
so let's say that tomorrow what would it if if let's say tomorrow you can have a
like a window with absolutely no anxiety what would happen in Dallas you know
keep it at three hour window what would you do and how will we know that so like
if you can do that three hours tomorrow that is anxiety free and and - what are
your body tell me that you do then they will mean that you you are able to do
that you can prove to yourself you it will be like a wage for you to prove to
yourself that you are you have everything that you need to go over this
hump I guess that's what I need to do I need to be able to like not have the
temptation to contact this person that has clearly made the decision for like
what you know what I mean about what he wants and I would like to spare often do
you think about contacting Oh God every day of course but I mean you know
sometimes he does contact me too but but every day I mean we really haven't lost
touch since the breakup would you like to say to him like right now if you said
you won the contacting like um if I had to contact him like right now
I mean I've talked to him recently you know but I would I mean I've said pretty
much everything I needed to say to him just he knows how I feel about him he
knows that I love him he knows that I miss him he know
was that I would want to give the relationship another try
he knows that I just had what you really want I mean see that's the thing like I
feel that he just gave up too easily but at the same time when I when I think
back I think to myself like well I wasn't really 100% happy so like maybe
he's right you know what I mean and like I I feel that our argument
stemmed a lot from not I mean some of them were probably from my unhappiness
you know and reaching out and I felt like a little bit of a disconnect and
then like there were a few lies that I caught him in like minor things you know
but there were a few lies that he got what what do you have to say to you for
you to so first why do you want this to be over I don't really want it to be
over but at the same time I don't really have a say in the matter
you know and at the same time even if we got back together would I be happy is
this really what I want is this really what I'm looking for he doesn't exactly
have everything that I'm looking for at this stage in the game you know and in
this stage in my life so is that would I be happy in even if
we did get back together oh and I end up breaking up with him six months from now
like if we did get back together and then if we got into another argument in
two weeks okay so so those those spots are in
itself you know not unusual but those spots are are in their way from I guess
like performing your daily tasks and and you you are now I don't want to put put
this and you can disagree with me if you want but uh well first of all this is
taking up more mental resources and you're also trying to stop this from
happening and the way you you try to resist these natural thoughts are also
draining it's very so like it's draining that
you're thinking about it is also more training to nothing about it it's a
challenge it's a challenge because it may be good like dedicate like 15
minutes to think about it yeah after that you
don't think you do other things because you've already fought about it before
yeah exactly it's repetitive it's the same thing over and over and over again
we've discussed the same thing over and over wealthy but this is just my
philosophy of approaching these kind of things it's not to try to extinguish
these thoughts if you make an effort into this you will just keep in in my
experience it were just no I won't say the point about it would just keep keep
the cycle the fourth cycle now I'm not commenting on the relationship I'm just
commenting on you wishing to spend more time yes and once you stop focusing on
other things and once you stop moving to words you know moving on with your life
then these thoughts will in my experience will start to dissipate and
now and then you have a choice no I don't want to tell you two what
relationships you get into you or not get into but then you will make a clear
choice and not have these thoughts push you around
you know well that's the thing is I want to also take with me this learning
experience I want to be able to take with me what I what do you have to write
these things I do actually I write in a journal I've been journaling since I was
seven so I actually do write these things down and I want to take with me
this learning experience and you know when every person that comes and goes in
your life you take a part of that person with you you take a piece of that person
with you throughout your life and and you learn from each experience but I
want to be able to learn from and be able to learn from my mistakes from the
relationship to not not just his because obviously he had his faults and flaws as
well but we all do you know what I mean we all can you sell
movement but as you were saying if I had three hours with no anxiety I would like
to spend you know portion of that time focus on my schoolwork a portion of that
time maybe exercising and maybe like some meditation and a portion of that
spending like time my kids like playing or taking the car painting with them
those are the three things the three facets I'd like to work on you know okay
so so if that's the metric one today and I can like tap you on the shoulder with
this magic woman and and everything will come true how would you see yourself
differently done like to see myself I would like to really know my self-worth
more not feel so not have such a lack of confidence and feel like I'm worthy of
love because he broke up with me I want to like you know my self-worth know that
I should be giving my love to someone who is more deserving of of it are more
compatible with me you know and I mean like somebody who is more on my same
wavelength who's looking for the same things and there is somebody out there
for everybody and that person should accept your flaws regardless cuz we all
have them you know what I mean and in like as I accepted his flaws and as I
would accept anyone's flaws that I love you know and I think that's important
like you have to be willing to work with somebody and I just know my self-worth I
think no be more confident well I guess I could say be more confident would you
would you like to carry all that this is I guess I guess this I don't know if you
can disagree with me but it sounded like on one hand you have for this for very
freely but on the other hand this is also like a cross to bear it's a heavy
and you wrote this thing down right oh yeah I cross it well you don't have to
think about it is already written down right yeah
this is something like I have to like I've been trying to listen to like
positive affirmations and like motivational videos just to try to like
boost my confidence and understand my self-worth and know that just because
this relationship doesn't work out it doesn't mean I'm like defective you know
what I'm saying so I kind of just need to kind of get that in my head so
drilling in my head we are approaching 827 and we the station will correct for
three minutes and then we'll come back on your decided break and then we'll use
hypnosis to help Jen to join me see you in three minutes hello welcome back to
this episode of we're having this very successful session yeah so we're back
onto a new format that go from runs from 8 to 9 we just had a free minute
community service brick and you know for those of you who are just joining it's
on YouTube yeah so this is what we're doing I guess in real time in there in
our station right here so Jen it was actually a big star not too long ago you
were on experience well my brother recently had a book published called the
shot cross letters he recently had published with his co-author Brian
Whitney and he was pen pals with a serial killer named at the Shawcross for
two years okay they actually were in business together still alive my brother
stole the show and you know discussed the poet's portions in the book also
that had to do with my brother and his fascination with serial killers okay
his and urges when he was younger and his
certain you know obsessions with serial killers and these you know objects he
used to sell like murder like memorabilia serial killer memorabilia or
on eBay and that's how these two connected because he was the serial
killer like did they have like a few cards yeah
like it would be drawings and things like that or whatever they had I used to
sell like shrunken heads like fake fake shrunken has an you smell like serious
yeah seriously they did yeah for years he did that and then they never took it
down they did sometimes yeah they did they did I think they more strict about
it now okay but back then they weren't like 10 years ago it was different you
know and these are these like real items yeah no these were authentic drawings
and stuff from these serial killers and things like that just have their like
how did they find how does your brother find these items um I don't know I think
he would come across a lot of these things on eBay and things like that and
resell them are times attendee the convicted killer does not have any pros
can I have any pro Cee'd well I think there was some situation
that they had going on where I think he was allowed to send him some portion of
money from the profits I think they had some kind of collaboration going on with
a serial killer out the chakras had reached out to him
and said had noticed that he was selling some of his things on eBay okay and said
that he basically wanted to be a part of it and and then they had talked about
writing a book together they were in collaboration with a New York publishing
company how does this your killer like you they help you pay in prison I think
they do have access to Internet there they pay like today because I know they
can I caught peace in they do have in
make this Amazon deliver like a drone I think they must have access but then
he was uh he reached out to Hermann and they ended up becoming pen pals cuz I
guess he doesn't trust you know well he didn't trust a lot of people to write
back to him then he was sad to send him like quite right in post
yeah they wrote to each other about that that's what these were like this guy off
the internet um well I mean he must have had access to some kind of internet but
they actually but then they wrote physical ladder codes and that's what
the name of the book is the Shawcross folks that's like they wrote physical
that's very interesting we need to invite a young man over definitely I
actually gave him the idea I said people love true-crime stuff I said you know
you want to write a book why don't you write about the correspondence between
yourself and other chakras all right so I guess like join us next week when they
shall get really crazy
okay those of you who don't know have this obsession of beating doctor filters
topics even though nobody watch my show but I like to I like to publish like I
like to like put out like here's a fine man it's an inspiration he was very much
very professional he was a lot less intimidating than I thought I was very
scared what's really tall he is he is fairly tall but he was very you know
it's it was intimidating you nosy so do you understand what he's saying yeah
yeah you can yeah he's pretty straightforward pretty professional and
and a lot less intimidating than I thought like a huge audience it was just
like a normal decent sized audience not overwhelmingly intimidating like I've
been in front of bigger audiences when I did when I participated in pageants I've
been several pageants okay so I was in front of really large audiences knew
reacts to to things you see they do they do react yeah they definitely do so it's
kind of funny too okay no way that's like easier to have like some kind of
like a gauge on house I think so I think so they were a little appalled by some
of the things my brother was saying okay but uh but you know cuz they had the
serial killers daughter Maggie she was nice yep and then they
had a on skype one of the victims sisters so was interesting as those -
what kind of surprise guests they took us by surprise
okay so I didn't expect that as they basically said the would not really be
many surprises in regards to discuss but it's just a minor surprises it's okay it
wasn't bad as it went well everybody was very like professional and like you know
I think we compose ourselves very well but yeah just supposed to hear the end
of August so if I let you too many psychologists are well any case this is
a hypnosis show let's just do something else with you so let's let's review a
little bit so like in simple in simple terms I'd like I if everything could
happen in this hypnosis session that goes perfectly how would you be
different tomorrow then from today I guess they I guess we could just focus
on anxiety yes the operative word I think so I think that's the main word
that's a major stressor so if we could kind of relieve some of my anxiousness
and Jenny the opposite of anxiety ease of mind peace of mind something to bring
me at a place where I can be do you have any schoolwork outstanding I am behind
on a couple of assignments because okay so so if we can pick what what would be
like a good like free our profile you to let take care of some of the paperwork I
think I think at this point I need to reach a level of acceptance I need to be
able to be at okay okay let lets know we want to test this in real time right so
if we can take a block of time tomorrow and like a specific time during oh so
that way we can test how how far I would say like 12 to 3 okay and then we can
take this block of time and and so I don't know your workload but
let what would be like one thing that you have to do one thing I would have to
do is my you know my psychology quiz my Spanish quiz you know discussion posts
to do okay and you know reflection questions okay so I guess like you can
organize is also a big thing yes just having a peace of mind
yes but like you see you seems like I start student so you cannot at least
like take like the first like 15 minutes to get all your ducks in a row and right
yeah you may or may not finish everything but uh but this is small it's
not like a it is it's not a test of your academic ability but but you know see if
you can focus enough to take care of the task so from from noon to three we will
have this own setup but and once you're able to do that you can it's proven to
yourself that you can do that you can just expand on that feeling and work
towards you know what you wish so I guess like today once again we're not
trying to make you forget anybody or get over anything it's just to to you know
help you work piece yeah you see you can still think about whatever you want to
fix opposed yeah and if that's alright so I'm just tracking the clock here so
you've never been hypnotized before well yes never met before yeah alright
so uncross your legs please okay
can you okay you can rest you like on the oh okay that's that's good that's
good you don't just leave it like that yeah all right I want you to hold out
your hands like this and now can I touch you I want you to focus your attention
here and here and I want you to imagine that there's a magnet in between your
palm and it's attracting magnets that is slowly pulling your palm closer now I
want you to just stare in right through your palm and into this final spot on
the wall over there and just focus all your attention on
this spot while you're the magnets enjoy inside your hand are getting stronger
and stronger and will just happen naturally and easily I just want you to
push up on tight together feel this I'm a magnetic force becoming
stronger and stronger and stronger just push your hand all the way out when I
count to free no matter how hard you try you will not be able to pull your hands
apart one two three try and you cannot try and that's okay look up you look at
the center of my palm with the counts backwards from three to one and the
original number one I want you to close your eyes and let your mind drift okay
free to relax just relax relax max max let go of all the tension that
you're holding on in your judgment that's right so slightly
hang loose in there relax you're still holding on to some tension here don't
you just relax relax all the tension here just like a hang there that's right
just let it hang loose relaxed loose
just like a wet cloth just like a word loose then reacts that's right can you
feel the tension in joints right here mm-hmm
it's just let go of the tension right here that's right that's right you don't
have to put any force into it just let it go let it go that's right isn't that
feel more relaxed and you can feel the tension here right now that you mm-hmm I
just want you to just consciously let go let go let go that's right doesn't that
feel better mm-hmm more relaxed now so just relax
your shoulder right here that's right this you send conscious mind you just
let go that part of your mind is still trying
to pull the shoulder together but you don't have to do that your shoulder will
still be there you still be together that's right just
let go you don't have to consciously force your shoulder together it's in
that flow better more relaxed more free mm-hmm now just let go of the tension
that you're holding on
you don't have to consciously move through my salty so just let it go let
go of the control that's right it stressful that's right there doesn't
that feel better no you don't have to control your
muscles you can always have your control back
I'm not taking control away from you you see you're still trying to move your
muscles when you still have this ounce of energy that you're holding on there
you know very tense yes could you just uh just try your best to just pretend
ugh it is a spirit limp like a ragdoll just like a puppet before the string
just imagine that for a second you can go back to a brooder controlling
laughter that's why but I just want to show you what it is like to to just be
free from this like a sea otters a goober just package that you're holding
on and you know once you know what it feels like to be free then you can
always revisit this you have a choice to come back here right mm-hmm
there okay there you go did you feel that mm-hmm when I when I
believe it just let it swing again it's not gonna hurt you there you go that
feel better it is okay now now try to your fingers okay just just relax your
finger ready okay you don't just let it hang here don't do anything okay okay
you're still using your mind to control on your finger it just let the gravity
do its work okay okay let's try this again
doesn't that feel better listener feel more free mm-hmm okay you're still
holding on it's not right or wrong I'm just showing you what it's like to be
completely accessories just pretend you're in a flotation tank mm-hm and
there's no gravity and everything could just drop so hey I'm holding onto your
wrist right here
okay
doesn't it feel different
I'm just showing you what it is like to just let go of all the tension just let
it swing go all the way back yeah they're taking a few that you didn't
just let it go something you don't have to do anything I'm just testing how far
you can let go of your attention now this is what it feels like okay just
relax this is what it feels like to you just release all the tension right
transverse is that your unconscious - holding onto a lot of tension from a lot
of things that you don't even know from before right so they don't want to
intrude that I'm sure you know when you're conscious might know that you are
holding onto a lot I guess from relationship or whatnot you know we
don't have to get into that I want to respect your privacy but this is how you
let it go okay this is what it feels like to let go this is what it feels
like a day without thinking about it we don't have to think about this okay see
you don't need your brain to do this you can just either hand you do this you
know you get your friend to do this for you you don't need to bring yeah the
sons that feel good doesn't a few last hands I guess
lifted from the Jones mm-hmm now don't control your muscles okay whatever
happens happens a day where for your handful wasn't going to fall waiting
free to one that there you go three two one let it go there we go there we go
see see how different that feels still holding on to everything yeah trust
reticent just relax just let just let all the weight hang on
to my two fingers ready just hang all your weight there doesn't
that feel different that's another difference than holding
on to everything nothing bad is happening right the world is not over
you don't have to have complete control here right but you know it's fine
isn't that for different for different I'm just showing you what is how it
feels okay because I guess I it's hard to explain how it feels and if we
explain it and you just keep thinking about it and it makes it harder to just
put all your weight on my fingers okay let's put all your weight there you
don't have to control you know you don't have to control anything if it's dropped
the worst the biggest thing is gonna happen it's gonna hit your lap okay
nothing bad ever happens when your hand okay now just once you okay let go for
the control on your shoulder let go of all the tension
I just want you to just fool I'm gonna let it go and just let your hand drop
okay you're holding on tight go let it go
very good very good very cool at some point I'm going to drop your arm
you don't know why okay mm-hmm there you go there you go listen there's no
difference mm-hmm listen now that your body knows how it feels to actually
relax and like okay I want you to I'm gonna touch your forehead right here I
want you to focus all your attention on this spot right here with your eyes
closed I just want you to just roll your eyes all the way up here and just
picture your forehead as a movie screen that's right if your attention focus all
the way to the spot right there just imagine yourself fully relax study
traveling even more relax them and just feel this free flowing and hanging
feeling throughout your body and on this picture screen right on your forehead
right here I want you to imagine the most pleasant scenery it could be a day
on the beach or it could be a day at the park or somewhere by the lake or a place
that you've never been before and I soon focus all your attention there and
seeing all delivered colors hearing all the rivets sounds that's right and as
you do it just immerse your entire sensory experience there movies you
don't want to think about anything you don't have to ask why you're there you
don't need to know when you just be there and as you do I want you to just
feel your entire body as relaxed as you're hanging arm just a minute
if it is possible that you know your knees and the toes could just be held by
I don't know somebody else or I a or something it just like floating and just
let go that's right and just feel a warm ray of light from the top of your head
just flows all the way down your spine and into your legs and everywhere you
touch you can experience that I didn't go through it that letting gravity take
its course feeling that you experienced a minute ago and whatever you thought
you're holding on we may have to talk about it or maybe we have not whatever
that is you're holding on you know at some point in the past it may have
helped you but right now this is damage just feel or this package even look bad
does it dissipate in the atmosphere right now staff like a hiker having a
backpack full of rocks each step that you take
just feel the sprawls leaving your backpack just place it on the floor one
by one at some point these objects we have some value to you but right now
they're just rocks say thank you I let it back in the universe at the rock
where Kopacz to
now with each step that you take with you more and more free that's right of
each step that you take if you're later and like and like as if your entire
shoulders just been lifting by dozens of balloons and tomorrow you'll find it a
focus peace of mind time from noon to free and at that point you'll find
yourself getting organized getting focus on your schoolwork you'll finish all the
assignments and can I think everything ready together and as you finish all
your assignments you'll feel this sense of confidence this sense of belief this
sense of cognitive joy over overwhelming and you feel confident that moving
forward you can tap into this source energy anytime you want if you focus on
whatever you want to do and whatever thoughts that may or may not disturb you
you can just leave it and go back to that later
if ever that's the father to structure you can just leave it and go back to it
later and I'm going to count from one to ten and I reach it on my time you can
come back to this feeling great feeling fully refreshed feeling like you just
left with the last 12 hours fully energized 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 whenever
you're ready
welcome back so that's all the time we have today I'm surprised I felt very
relaxed at ease I wish that I could have you in my house every day to do that
we do something different today but do you feel you understand I do yeah it
made me feel a lot more relaxed like I felt like I'm not like that I do and
that's I kind of need to have that drill in my head so yeah yes so do you you you
know do you first of all quick tip would you agree with me that you did literally
get in touch with the feeling yes yes I do yep well I guess like how do you
describe your experience today I would describe it as very inspiring uplifting
relieving relaxing and I feel like hopeful well I think that today it's a
lot more impactful for me because of the circumstances in situation that I'm
currently in so it's very like compelling and their impacts me in a
much more effective manner because of the fact that I've been going through so
much anxiety and so so many different scenarios as of recently that I feel
that this is something that I really needed today thank you
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