Today's topic: It's Just As Easy To Aim High As It Is To Aim Low
Hi I'm Doug Holt with Author of Your Own Story and this is your daily growth hack
where each day would give you a tip trick or insight to help you up level
what we call the five to thrive that is your mind your body your soul your
relationships and your business today's insight comes a result of a phone call
that I just got from a friend of mine I haven't spoken to this friend in quite a
while and I'm outside in my adventure van getting things ready for a trip that
my family and I are going on we take these trips regularly and this is
actually what prompted this phone call because my friend found out and he
called me to say Doug you know it seems like you're doing all these great things
however it just seems like a lot of work and I really don't want to put all the
work into you know going on I have a decent job a decent family a decent life
yeah I feel like I'm stuck in a rut and it just seems like a lot of work taking
care of my family my health my wealth my relationships and all these things that
are encompassed in my business it just seems like taking things to the next
level is just a pain the but do you have any secrets and so this is a common
thread that I hear often and and first of all I don't have everything going on
I just choose to be the author of my own story which is a process that I've gone
over for decades and I just wanted to share that with people and that's what's
that sparked this phone call which is great because it also was the first time
that he and I had talked in many many years and so what I thought about was a
quote and I dug it up until I want to share it with you and here's how this
quote goes I bargained with life for a penny and life would pay no more however
I begged at evening when I counted my scantly score for life life is just an
employer he gives you what you ask but once you have set the wages why you must
bear the task I worked for a menials hire only to learn dismayed that any
wage I asked of life life would have gladly paid now what is saying here is
something that I found now it's just as easy to have lofty goals and dreams and
aim high as it is to get stuck in a rut named low in fact I think it's it's
actually easier to have lofty goals and go for those because they're more
inspiring they pull you forward and they give you more energy than it is to stay
at a low level see my friend that called me and was talking to me and was telling
me that it seems too hard for him to balance all of these things in his life
that's really what he was talking about but also to take it to a next level to
take care of his health so to him that felt easier come home from work have a
cup of cocktail sit on the couch and watch TV you know that seemed easier to
him yet he was depressed he was reaching out to me because he had a problem he
wanted to solve and felt that I had the solution now what I wanted to tell him
and what I did tell him is look if you set your goals high what you really want
in life that will energize you it'll also impact those around you and that's
critical as well see he has a family he has a wife and two beautiful children
and so by doing this by actually going after these lofty goals he's not only up
leveling himself giving himself more energy more joy more love more passion
all these things that we all want and these are the things that people want to
be around right you want to be around someone who's going big you want to be
around someone who's passionate about life we all do now so he was just moping
and he was losing his energy plus he's a role model right he's a role model for
his kids to watch you know so if he's not going for his goals why should his
kids right why should they try it so what he was doing is he was he bargained
with life for a penny and he wasn't happy he wasn't fulfilled and he was
scared that it was gonna take too much work to actually go for his dreams to go
for his goals and in our conversation really well why broke down with him
fairly quickly obviously wasn't a coaching call and I don't coach people
unless they request it it's a friend looking for advice that's all I give but
what I noticed and I talked to him about is like hey really what you're talking
about is fear you're afraid that if you have these lofty goals and visions it's
not the work that it requires that holding you back it's the fear that you
won't hit them and well everybody think of you you know that's just something we
all have it's a natural thing it's not the fear of success and the fear of
failure people talk about that often but it's the fear that if you're putting
yourself out there you're putting you real you in front of people you're
putting the real Hugh in front of you and we mess up in front of you then you
can't count yourself as a failure now to me not being the author of my own story
would be a failure not doing things the way that I want to do them not being
able to go into ventures with my family not being able to to deliver this
message to you right now that would be a failure for me you know I'm not looking
to sit on my couch there's nothing along with that with relaxing but if
you're playing low and you're aiming low what I want you to do is start aiming
high what could you do to uplevel remember I believe and I've seen this
with with millionaires as well as people that are just starting out in their
business careers that playing low is harder it's more difficult than playing
big than shooting for the stars I think you should have reasonable goals and I
think that's great but I think you need to play big because
that's gonna bring the passion out of you so here's what I'm gonna ask you to
do grab your journal grab that journal write out your 5 to thrive your
mind-body-soul relationships and your business and what I want to know is
where are you playing small where are you playing small in each of those five
areas where are you playing just in a level that you know you can compete
maybe you have goals aspirations but you know you can hit those yeah no problem
I can drop ten pounds if you had no problem I can play on the varsity soccer
team yeah no problem I can make an extra 10 grand a month of my business that is
playing small what else can you do what's that stretch cool you know do you
need more money well why don't make 15 grand a month you can give that other
five grand away give it away to charity one of the best things that I've ever
done is give away money to charity or give away resources you know our
marketing company branded innovation developed a plan so we can help the
hurricane victims and we decided as a team we're gonna do this every quarter
we pick a new charity or it don't need our services to this charity so this is
just a great way of giving back and it's a way of playing bigger now of course
it's easier for us not to it's easier for us not to do that extra work it's
easier for us just to make enough money so we can play more but it's not
fulfilling it's not rewarding to myself it's not rewarding to my team I have an
amazing team and I'm very lucky and they all play big and that's what I want you
to do too so grab your journal write out your 5 to thrive simply just write out
hey where am I playing how what level am I playing with and be raw and honest
with yourself if you know you can do better then do better you'll feel better
about it you know this is true in your own life and I want you to experience
across your whole five to thrive on how you can do that
second thing I'm gonna ask you to do is share this conversation with three
people this is exactly why my friend reached out to me if somebody shared
this daily growth hack with him and that opened up his eyes and he realized that
what he was doing wasn't fulfilling now of course he was worried it might be too
hard and you know it's not but he would be put by somebody else sharing this
conversation with him opened his eyes and realized that he had the opportunity
to take that next step so I'm gonna invite you to do that to share this with
three people now this is not only to help these three people out we're not
here to fix other people but these three people our people are gonna uplift you
and build your tribe and community to allow you from the author of your own
story more readily so to task for today as always but remember absolutely if
anything else just remember to go out and be the author of your own story
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