hello this is John Ruman and I want you to experience more ease in your life
if we haven't met before again I'm John Ruman. I'm an
international business coach and consultant and my passion is to help you
achieve the greatest life that you can so why is everyone always wanting to be
on vacation have you noticed that all they talk about can't wait to be a
vacation what wouldn't be great if we're on vacation like vacation is the primary
topic and excitement of people's lives I'm not saying that's bad
I'm trying to ask and uncover why that is ask yourself why do you get so
excited about vacation and not as excited about other parts of your life
have you considered that you could change things around such that vacation
and experience in the ease and freedom and all these awesome things that
vacation brings to you you can actually have that in your life on a regular and
consistent basis that's the question right so let's dive into that so here's
let me hit some challenges that people have first why than one of on vacation
first of all people in most of the world experience prolonged chronic stress and
why is that bad three out of the four reasons that people go to a doctor is
because they experience chronic stress 75 percent of the top six reasons people
die the major causal factor that aligns with all of them is chronic stress so
it's gonna kill you it's gonna bring it to the doctor and the challenge is it's
important to align your life so that you are not needing to be unconstitutional
is actually designed to help you to create more ease and well-being your
life so you don't need to be on vacation to live a happy fulfilling engaging
joyful and free life so so now we've discussed stresses so we all have
stresses in our life and let me do something first that
immediately direct and address the stresses we're not so the reason people
go on vacation is to feel like they can get away from my life the stresses and
I'm gonna do something that may seem a little counterintuitive to you if you
can take full 100% responsibility for the stresses in your life you can begin
to feel that you are on top of that so for example people have financial
stresses very common challenges I got financial stress John my bills whatever
okay all good if you can say that I can do something that can help me to change
the impact that that's having on me it will allow you to then at that point
take responsibility so you have two options in your life
one is that you could be a Victoire and the other is you can be a victim so I'm
gonna ask you whoever is watching this today then you take the stance of the
victim you can choose to be the victor and you can say I'm sorry the victim
because it all poor me poor me poor me but trust me there are things that you
can do however small that will make you feel like I'm in the driver's seat I got
this I can make these small changes to improve where I am any stress you have
there's something you can do to change it there's always something you can do
and I'm gonna encourage you to find the one of least resistance for you but
addressing it and talking about what someone is going to listen is really
really really helpful so if you're stressed and I spirits anxiety I will
not encourage you to go and do something crazy or stupid I would encourage you to
talk to someone so if you ever doing something that you think is a bit crazy
because Ethan gets on without don't do that talk to someone there is someone or
somebody in your life even if it's an anonymous stranger on a phone call that
you can do so if you have experience in that level stressed just talk to
something trust me it can't be good to see you they will know and understand
you want to talk to you so that's a challenge of stress so now let's dive
into the true topic of today bring up stresses again you running away
from something it's important you address it you find actions that you can
take that make you feel better and more empowered so that's a big part to what
is going well in your life so now start with ease what is actually going well in
your life and if you have a sheet of paper I would encourage you to take it
out now what stresses are you not addressing that you need to be
addressing here's what I need to do just stretch stress write down the word and
we'll say money what's one small extra step you can do
that makes me feel like the big dirt take a second to do that it'll change
your life stop playing victim it doesn't help
anyone especially you okay now that we're out of being victim mode
where just we've just happened to find one small task it also helped to have
someone who will support you so if you happen to know someone who'll support
you do that as well okay now write yourself on your sheet what's working
well in my life what is something that is an achievement a positive thing that
is happening that I can work towards to help me to grow to where I need to go so
what's something that's working well me life I write down a word or two so let's
say my marriage well let's say I live in Trinidad beautiful cream you know and
whether it's perfect whether it's beautiful every day weren't rainy season
or at the start of it but it's still beautiful every day so the weather I
love it people don't always appreciate how gorgeous it is every day okay you
got that down good take a walk once you're doing that if you even noticed I
could walk it's walk is almost like a quiet meditation it's allowed in your
mind to kind of just open to be free and this will help you to use a great deal
something and I have practice is a personal practice of mine that I think
it'd be invaluable for those that are watching find something in your life
when you walk that you could appreciate and ideally verbally express it
tell express to yourself this is great I love that I'm so I'm feeling so healthy
I can walk today I love that there sunshine or what a beautiful path
this is such a great path to walk on listen to the birds you know well
whatever it is for you so find whatever it is in that walk and
this is an act of gratefulness of appreciation and when you physically
move and kind of just saw to our round you'll feel good because your body's
meant to move emotion is energy in motion so allow yourself to move and
enjoy the walk and doesn't matter if it's five minutes or an hour but enjoy
the walk take time to enjoy the walk okay now some other things you can do to
help create more ease in your life and that is to connect with those who you
feel a great deal of love and appreciation with and for so if there
are certain people that you love being with that make you feel awesome and make
you feel alive that make you feel like you having fun all the time
if it's little kids cool if it's not just great friends cool if it's your
spouse cool if it's doesn't matter if it is who are they write them down on a
sheet of paper and make a commitment to yourself to spend time with them you
will love it you're like yeah we have so much fun I mean who are the people that
you when you you may not make the time right now to connect with them as much
as you should but note to yourself when you're connecting with them how time
flies and how you're having such a great time all the time with these people and
that that is the common experience you have with them I would make that a
priority who can I hang out with that one day I hang out with them I feel
alive I feel good find those people who are they connect them more frequently
and you probably say every time we should hang out more and you should at
that point schedule a next moment it doesn't matter if it's reschedule but
never leave a point where an appointment is not set for you next time they'll
hang out I was gonna say line the training term well I'm with your person
the next time so connect with them one of the things that you love doing so
this also a great easy not what are things that when you do them the day
flies away what kinds of gardening it could be walking or running it could
be walking on the beach if you're blessed of a little place you can
actually go to the beach it could be playing with your children
it could be writing it could be everyone has their own thing for example right
now I'm not this is fun for me I love what I'm doing right now i i meant to
serve and help people become more aware of the max of their their full capacity
at people I truly feel people couldn't believe it can achieve amazing things so
for me this is not work I'm having fun with you right now I am talking directly
to you and how does it is it pronounced Kelby or Selby please let me know real
quick because right now it's you and me a lot of people see this in the next day
or two but right now it's a zooming so and okay so who are you connecting with
what are you so out it's really helpful to find out who you are feeling a who
who just makes you feel alive so so so the actions of ease are often related
fun and freedom so what is the most fun thing that you do that you have not
allowed yourself to do in years when's the last time you had a laugh so
loud your gun actually hurt and you were almost like in pain in your stomach
that's a good problem to have so when was the last time you had a
laugh so loud and for so long that you almost couldn't stop laughing and who
are you with wouldn't that happen connect and reconnect to those people
because it's easier to do this and feel the ease and well-being trust me it's
not nearly as fun to go on vacation alone as it is with a loved one or loved
ones so create that within yourself and your life so it's usually easy to do
this with others not a solo gig so what do you do that that makes is the most
fun thing you can imagine so when you're there you're like this is a
so I'm having a blast that you would do this regardless if it were free or paid
right you'd be happy to do this what is that for you so ask yourself
what can I do that so much fun it just feels amazing
please write that down for you and by the way if you're watching this I'm
gonna say Cal because you haven't told me Kelby do me a favor write down a
couple things on the screen because other people will think oh yeah I love
doing this I'll tell you what's fun for me John I love working out I love
hanging out with friends who we could have fun an engaging conversation with I
love moving I love actually for me speaking is fun so the fact that I'm
speaking to a few people online right now and expressing myself in a full way
is fun for me this is not again this is not work as I said this is a joy so if I
can share with you and help you girl win-win well we all haven't had a good
laugh so find a way so here's the challenge at laughs and I'm glad you
brought it up the challenge would laughs is we often feel that we get so stressed
and caught in things that when the time comes you know it's almost hard to laugh
so there's a Qigong master in he's in Thailand I believe or China Thailand
his name is montauk Chia he's a Chinese / tai chi gong master and he has a axe
exercise where you literally laugh out loud as an exercise and what's funny
about what you do it is you genuinely feel better so it's kind of a forced
laugh kind of thing but after about 30 seconds he recommends three or four
minutes and you keep on going with that right and you go and you find this place
that's safe and you do that so Kelby Kelby thank you I would encourage you to
find a space where you can do that so you can laugh and have fun and be free
and be light okay by the way a lot of people feel great
when they move I've only done a little bit of like official dancing but anytime
there's music music makes you feel good so here's a great trick find music that
makes you feel alive and having fun some move have fun and dance with yourself
dance with someone else it doesn't matter have fun move
so dancing is a great way music I just start just start a little sway doesn't
matter if you got rhythm rhythm doesn't matter if what matters is how you're
feeling inside think about it what's the half thing people do when they go on
vacation they fucking dance alcohol is not a requirement alcohol is an excuse
to move it loosens it lubricates a little bit but treat but the freedom of
moving you do not need the alcohol because once you have two or three
minutes of moving and you're feeling the music whatever the music is for you I
don't care reggae I don't care if it's RB again
whatever floats your boat and the boat can change don't be fixed
enjoy the music I love this song great and you're feeling this song mmm this is
my song I love this song oh I remember that song don't worry if it's a 30 year
old song if you're like 65 and you remember this when your mother was
playing me like three who cares hey feel free and when you begin to do this you
will feel alive again and and the you that is you will show
yourself to the world okay another thing freedom ease is freedom ease is an
entrapment slavery it isn't if you notice like I actually in other talks
you may hear me talking with this I view our money system as a form of slavery we
are bound to work to get out to to to pay for food pay for housing the paper
transportation for clothing for whatever for this
internet right it's not a free there's not a the system has found us and I'm
waiting and I'm really actively praying that a better system is manifested so we
can all get out of this trap because I really think it is awful okay
and with that being said how can you experience more freedom and you notice
when people go on vacation they saved up for it they have a little extra for the
food at the bar they can buy that guy a drink the stranger who they're like he's
cool I like them and they feel more free because monetarily they feel like they
got it and you notice how naturally generous ninety five percent of the
world is when they got it if you had a million dollars in your pocket right now
let's assume you know a million dollars and I'm talking through several people
across the world here so let's say a billion u.s. you got a million u.s. and
this pile of money wouldn't it be nice of course it would
be imagine for the moment that you feel the freedom that gives you that freedom
allows you it can be all good please come back check the rest out
later about five six more minutes and stuff I'm talking about that freedom of
having the money is really liberating and if you can find ways to experience
freedom you'll feel that you're not bound and constricted anymore but you're
now free so find ways to feel free alright last but not least is actually
something called coherence coherence is a physical form when your body is not in
what's called fight or flight oh my god I'm gonna die and oh my god I'm gonna
die is what is the stress state the fight or flight uh your body thinks and
it could just be traffic but it thinks that it's gonna die because what is
happening is dangerous it doesn't know if it's traffic or if it is a tiger
so it creates all the the endorphins and this mix of chemicals and the worst one
that's released is dopamine I'm sorry don't mean cortisol excuse me
cortisol the stress hormone so cortisol is bad because it sits in your system
for 27 hours so when it sits in your system for 27 hours it causes
inflammation and people don't sleep as well they experience anxiety it's awful
so there's an exercise which actually utilizes focusing on your heart and a
breathing technique and creates what's called coherent for your body and
coherence allows you to actually feel a sense of well-being and override the
stress response that is talked about so your body will override the stress
response and it will feel alive and that ease again so we cheat a jump a leap a
hack if you will to experience all as well and then ease and well-being is
this coherence breathing technique and for the time and all that I don't have
to go over it now but well if you are in Trinidad I'm actually going to have a
workshop a stress management workshop we will discuss ways to relieve the stress
you're having ways to become the victor versus the victim and two powerful
techniques one is actually a giant drop of the stress which is called eft or
tapping can look it up it's awesome but we'll do it so you feel it it's always
nice to read about stuff and people say oh I can always look that up but how
often do you actually do it really so this is an opportunity for you to
actually do an experience and feel this drop of whatever stress you're going to
very very powerful and the second is called coherence breathing to the
technique and their heart centric technique which is truly amongst the
most powerful self-help tools that I've ever learned it's that amazing so we'll
deal with we'll do those we'll also do a little self talk which is how you speak
to yourself and it's a negative in class it is the date
is the 30th of June 3-0 of June in Santa Cruz Green Market which is the gun in
the beautiful area of Santa Cruz you haven't been there you love the market
anyway starts at 11 a.m. and 12:30 the
investment is 125 TT prepaid 125 prepay and day of its 175 so should you come
day off you paid 50 TT extra but that is the that is the fee for that day so you
pay day at 175 125 prepay any questions I would love to hear your feedback I'd
love to hear how you a Jennifer Jennifer Campbell is watching Jennifer how you
experience ease and well-being and freedom in your life so Jennifer this
has actually been in quite an awesome life I did it'll be done and you can be
watching and so if anyone has any questions on the event on the 30th I'd
love to answer them and I will post this to the actual event page but if you have
any questions or if you love to attend please let me know and I'd love to hear
back about how you experience more ease and well-being in your life so we can do
that in future topics if there's anything else you want me to talk about
let me know I love doing this this is a joy for me so let me talk about things
that you want me to talk about seeing at John's perspective and then last but not
least share this with friends they would love it they all need to experience more
peace and happiness and fulfillment so all blessings to you and your family I
hope you enjoy your rest your day bye bye
For more infomation >> Can't Escape From Being Third Rate - Duration: 1:47:26. 
For more infomation >> Maic mc - Por ti muero - 2018 - Duration: 2:52. 
For more infomation >> #IAmAnArtist THANK YOU 30,000 Views - Duration: 1:17. 
For more infomation >> Đàm Tổng Dính Thính Của Okmaid Kêu Gọi 500 Anh Em Info - Duration: 7:17. 
For more infomation >> Cullman County EMA director says neighbor's home leveled by tornado - Duration: 1:23. 
For more infomation >> Stockton residents ask city fix crumbling curbs - Duration: 1:38. 
Không có nhận xét nào:
Đăng nhận xét