9 Surprising Reasons Introverts Attract Toxic People
It is no surprise that toxic people are lurking around us all the time, be it in the office,
school, even our house.
They may hurt you more than once, but then you forgive them and hope things will be back
to normal only for them to hurt you all over again.
The fact that you have no idea how you got into this mess is because your strongest attributes
are leaving you vulnerable to these toxic people.
If it is happening to you, then you are not alone.
Your friends often call you whenever they need any help, then surprisingly you always
saying yes to every request even though it make you broken because you allow them to
enter your life and subject you to unhappiness.
It's happening to me too, saying no is quite hard to do.
We should know the only way we can get out of this toxic environment is to find our boundaries
and start saying no to things we don't like, be aware when someone approaching us and trying
to use our strength for their advantage.
This way we can block off the toxic relationship in our life and eventually improve our life
quality and happiness.
So, In this video I'm going to show you 9 surprising reasons introverts are attracting
toxic people, and how we can get out of this toxic environment.
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helpful to you.
Here are the reasons why introverts attract toxic people.
1.
You're a pleaser.
Driven by negative self talk, you worry that you have no value unless you're doing something
for someone.
You think being a good person means never say no, and that doing everything for everyone
is the way to make people happy.
If you're a pleaser, toxic people come from miles away to take advantage of you.
2.
You are generous with your time.
We can all agree that generosity is an admirable character trait.
But watch out, toxic people can be drawn to kind and generous people.
They will hold on to you if you're willing to drop everything for them, answer all their
texts, reply promptly to their phone calls.
As they demand more of your time, you drown in resentfulness.
Generosity without boundaries is a disaster.
Became aware of your needs and feelings, gradually build boundaries, and say no to requests that
are likely to cause you to become angry.
Setting boundaries will be hard at first because it will feel selfish.
But if you've flown on a plane, you know how the flight attendants instruct passengers
to put on their own masks before helping others, even their kids?
That's because you cannot help others if you are disabled.
You need to look out for yourself first; only then can you truly help others.
Tending to your own needs will preserve the best of you so that you can share yourself
with wonderful people, not just the toxic ones.
3.
You're a fixer.
You have a hard time leaving things alone.
You think of yourself as a great problem-solver, but that often means overstepping boundaries
and causing havoc in your relationships.
Toxic people find you attractive because, much as they do with the pleaser, they take
advantage of your good nature and desire to help.
4.
You're always comparing.
If you're constantly looking over your shoulder and wondering why others have more than you,
more money, more education, more success, or whatever that you can compare with yourself,
you've probably discovered that toxic people love to take advantage of your lack of self-respect.
5.
You are trusting and honest with your dreams.
If you aim for big dreams, you're likely to attract toxic people.
The ones who sadly forego their own dreams.
If you honestly share your ideas with them, they may consider you as greedy, unrealistic,
and selfish.
Fear is their companion, and they'll try to sabotage your dreams with words of discouragement.
The harder you work, the more they will attack you.
Never share your dreams with people who have proven to be toxic.
Watch out they'll cunningly ask you over and over.
But don't fall prey to their questions, because they'll be ready to offer opinions
even when they can't follow their own dreams.
Surround yourself with people who have dreams, because they'll support your mission and
encourage you.
6.
Your view of humanity is goodness.
Sometimes we assume that the average human being is as kind as we are.
But often we run into the darker side of humanity, making us challenge that assumption.
Do you struggle to accept that humanity contains narcissism, deception, and greed?
Are you getting stuck in toxic relationships with narcissists, hoping they will change?
You know the type.
These are the people whose dark side you've accepted and settled for.
You find yourself giving excuses for their behavior.
I thought toxic people had a place in my life and I was supposed to adjust myself to accept
them with their flaws.
I've since learned this is not true at all.
Use your intuition to detect danger, both physical and emotional.
Don't suppress the pain you feel inside.
It might be difficult at first, because your view of others may drown you in anxiety, shock,
and anger.
But persist, and be wary of these threats to your well-being.
Let your intuition protect you from the emotional pain caused by toxic relationships.
7.
You're easygoing.
Do you say something is okay if when it's not okay?
I mean, like keeping your cool even in tough situations.
You try to make others feel at ease with your witty quips because you are kind, patient,
and non-aggressive.
Your inner peace attracts toxic people who are eager to disrupt it.
They'll take your peace as weakness and use it as an easy target for their controlling
behavior.
I became aware that my thoughtful gestures and love for children were making me an easy
target.
For instance, I would say "I will watch your child anytime you want," and that "anytime"
became almost everyday, regardless if I was calling off work or not.
My friend monopolized on those words and misused them to her advantage.
Avoid responding automatically.
Instead, say, "I'll get back with you later."
That way you haven't given anyone the impression that you'll do it.
You can respond back later and say, "Sorry, but I can't do it."
8.
You feel like an imposter.
Like drawing comparisons, feeling that you're an imposter or a fraud is based on low self-esteem.
In this case, it takes the form of guilt and inner shame that you don't deserve to be where
you are.
You do everything you can to show you're smart enough and good enough, and toxic people are
quick to use your insecurity to their own advantage.
9.
You're a perfectionist.
When you pride yourself on being a perfectionist, you're sending the message that you will do
anything to keep from letting someone else down.
Toxic people are quick to manipulate you into doing all kinds of things in the name of perfection.
The cure for any of these is similar.
Get your self-esteem up to healthy levels.
Practice positive thinking and affirmations, be grateful for your opportunities and abilities,
and focus on your mission and purpose to take the weight off yourself.
Set healthy boundaries and stick to them, and respect other people's rights to live
their own life and make their own mistakes.
Well, that's the 9 surprising reasons introverts are attracting toxic people.
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