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FEMALE: HOW DO WE HOLD ON TO TRUSTING GOD?
FEMALE: HOW CAN I HAVE FAITH IN GOD--
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YOU TO KNOW THAT GOD CARES FOR YOU.
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MALE: I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
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SOLID ANSWERS THAT WE CAN LOOK TO IN HIS WORD.
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[MUSIC]
JOYCE: ANGER MANAGEMENT.
[LAUGHING]
WELL, I KNOW YOU ALL LOOK SO SWEET, I CAN'T IMAGINE THAT ANY
OF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ANGER, BUT I SURE DID FOR
A LONG TIME.
AND I THINK THAT MANY TIMES, WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT WE'RE ANGRY
ABOUT, OR WHAT WE THINK WE'RE ANGRY ABOUT IS NOT EVEN REALLY
WHAT WE'RE ANGRY ABOUT.
AND SO, FOR THE NEXT TWO SESSIONS,
WE'RE GONNA TRY TO TAKE THIS THING APART AND GET TO
THE BOTTOM OF WHAT'S GOING ON, FIND OUT WHAT THE ROOTS OF THE
BAD FRUIT IS, AND LET GOD HELP US GET 'EM OUT, AMEN?
AND LAST NIGHT I TAUGHT ON THE INNER LIFE, AND SO I WAS TALKING
ABOUT HOW WE CAN BE ONE THING ON THE INSIDE AND SOMETHING
COMPLETELY DIFFERENT ON THE INSIDE.
SO, A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO FUNCTION OUT IN SOCIETY.
THEY'RE TRYING TO FUNCTION IN RELATIONSHIPS, EVEN IN THEIR
RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
AND LIKE I SAID LAST NIGHT, YOU CAN DRESS IT UP, AND TAKE IT TO
CHURCH, AND YOU CAN LOOK REAL SWEET, BUT THAT SAYS NOTHING
ABOUT WHAT'S GOING ON IN YOU.
AND SO, IF YOU'RE ANGRY INSIDE, EVEN IF YOU DON'T EVEN
REALLY--SOME PEOPLE ARE ANGRY AND DON'T EVEN KNOW THAT'S
WHAT'S WRONG WITH 'EM.
I MEAN, I HEARD A STORY JUST LAST WEEK.
YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH MERCY MINISTRIES, AND WE'RE
A SUPPORTER OF THEIRS AND WE BUILT A HOME IN ST. LOUIS,
AND SO I WENT TO THEIR 10-YEAR ANNIVERSARY.
AND THERE WAS A GIRL THERE GIVING A TESTIMONY, AND SHE
SAID, "MY FATHER COMMITTED SUICIDE WHEN I WAS A TEENAGER,
AND I JUST NEVER COULD SEEM TO GET MYSELF STRAIGHTENED OUT
AFTER THAT."
AND SHE SAID, "I STARTED DRINKING, STARTED TAKING A LOT
OF DRUGS.
MY LIFE WAS JUST IN A TOTAL MESS."
SHE WAS JUST FALLING APART, SO SHE GOT INTO
THE MERCY MINISTRIES HOME TO TRY TO GET SOME HELP,
AND ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS THAT SHE STARTED FINDING
OUT WHILE SHE WAS THERE IS THAT HER PROBLEMS STARTED AT THE TIME
HER FATHER COMMITTED SUICIDE, AND SHE NEVER REALIZED THIS, BUT
SHE WAS ANGRY AT HIM BECAUSE HE DID THAT AND LEFT THE FAMILY.
AND SO, SHE COULD NOT GET WELL, SHE COULDN'T STOP DRINKING, SHE
COULDN'T STOP TAKING DRUGS, UNTIL SHE GOT OVER BEING ANGRY.
AND I THINK THERE'S A LOT OF PEOPLE THAT HAVE SUBSTANCE ABUSE
PROBLEMS, ALL KINDS OF DIFFERENT PROBLEMS, AND REALLY THE ROOT OF
THE PROBLEM IS THAT SOMEWHERE WAY DOWN DEEP INSIDE, THEY'RE
ANGRY AT GOD BECAUSE THEIR LIFE HASN'T TURNED OUT RIGHT, THEY'RE
ANGRY AT SOMEBODY ELSE WHO HURT THEM OR DISAPPOINTED THEM,
OR THEY MAY EVEN BE ANGRY AT THEMSELVES FOR SOMETHING THEY
DID OR DIDN'T DO.
I'M GONNA TELL YOU A LITTLE BIT ABOUT MY FAMILY TONIGHT
AND MY MOM IN PARTICULAR.
SHE ENDED UP WITH A LIFETIME OF MENTAL ILLNESS, AND I KNOW IT
WAS ROOTED IN ANGER THAT SHE HAD TOWARD HERSELF AND GUILT THAT
SHE FELT BECAUSE SHE DID NOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT WHAT MY FATHER
WAS DOING TO ME.
SHE WAS AFRAID OF HIM, SHE LET HIM DO IT, HER EXCUSE WAS FEAR.
BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?
EVEN WHEN WE MAKE EXCUSES THAT SOUND GOOD, IF WE KNOW WE SHOULD
BE DOING SOMETHING AND WE'RE NOT DOING IT, WE'RE GONNA END UP
FEELING GUILTY THAT WE DIDN'T DO IT AT A CERTAIN TIME.
HOW MANY OF YOU ARE WITH ME AND YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M SAYING
TONIGHT?
SO, THIS IS GONNA BE LIKE A LITTLE FREE LESSON IN
PSYCHOLOGY TONIGHT.
TONIGHT, YOU'RE GONNA BE ON JOYCE'S COUCH AND WE'RE GONNA
GET A LITTLE FREE HOUR OF COUNSELING HERE THAT WOULD COST
YOU ABOUT $125 IF YOU WENT OUT SOMEWHERE ELSE, SO I HOPE YOU
GAVE THAT KIND OF AN OFFERING, 'CAUSE THAT WOULD BE COOL.
ALL RIGHT.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: ANGER IS ONE LETTER AWAY FROM DANGER.
ALL YOU GOTTA DO IS ADD A D ONTO THE FRONT OF IT, WHICH WE COULD
SAY REPRESENTS THE DEVIL, AND "ANGER" BECOMES "DANGER."
ANGER IS THE CONDITION WHERE THE TONGUE WORKS FASTER THAN
THE MIND.
BENJAMIN FRANKLIN SAID, "WHATEVER'S BEGUN IN ANGER ENDS
IN SHAME."
HE ALSO SAID, "ANGER IS NEVER WITHOUT A REASON, BUT IT SELDOM
HAS A GOOD ONE."
A LADY ONCE CAME TO BILLY SUNDAY AND TRIED TO RATIONALIZE HER
ANGRY OUTBURSTS.
"THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH LOSING MY TEMPER," SHE SAID.
"I BLOW UP AND THEN IT'S JUST ALL OVER."
HE SAID, "SO DOES A SHOTGUN, AND LOOK AT THE DAMAGE IT LEAVES
BEHIND."
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: WHICH I THOUGHT WAS PRETTY GOOD.
WHEN ABRAHAM LINCOLN HAD TO WRITE A LETTER TO SOMEONE WHO
HAD IRRITATED HIM, HE WOULD OFTEN WRITE TWO LETTERS.
THE FIRST LETTER WAS DELIBERATELY INSULTING.
THEN, HAVING GOTTEN THOSE FEELINGS OUT OF HIS SYSTEM,
HE WOULD TEAR IT UP AND WRITE A SECOND LETTER, ONE THAT WAS
TACTFUL, AND DISCRETE, AND GODLY.
AND I THOUGHT ABOUT THAT, AND I THOUGHT, "YOU KNOW WHAT?
IF YOU READ THE PSALMS, YOU'LL SEE THAT DAVID,
HE VENTED HIS FEELINGS."
HE WAS VERY HONEST WITH GOD ABOUT HOW HE FELT IF HE WAS
ANGRY, IF HE WAS HURTING, IF HE WAS CONFUSED, IF HE FELT LIKE
GOD HAD LEFT HIM, IF HE DIDN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT WAS GOING ON.
HE DIDN'T HOLD BACK HIS FEELINGS.
HE EXPRESSED THOSE FEELINGS, BUT TO THE RIGHT PERSON.
AND I THINK THAT MANY PEOPLE, IF THEY WOULD REALLY TALK THINGS
OUT WITH GOD, THEY WOULD GET RID OF THEM AND THEY WOULDN'T BE
A PROBLEM FOR THEM THE REST OF THEIR LIFE.
AND SO, WE WANNA LOOK AT JUST A WHOLE LOT OF DIFFERENT THINGS,
AND I HOPE IT BECOMES HELPFUL TO YOU AND IT'S SOMETHING THAT YOU
ENJOY.
ANGER STATISTICS.
ONE OUT OF FIVE AMERICANS HAS AN ANGER MANAGEMENT PROBLEM.
ENROLLMENT IN ANGER MANAGEMENT COURSES, COURT-ORDERED
OR VOLUNTARY, IS BOOMING.
ABSOLUTELY BOOMING.
ROAD RAGE HAS SURGED OVER THE LAST FEW YEARS.
NATIONWIDE, A DEMAND FOR ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELORS
IS AT AN ALL-TIME HIGH.
TONIGHT, I GET TO BE AN ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELOR.
ISN'T THAT GOOD?
ACTUALLY, THE HOLY GHOST IS OUR ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELOR, AND
YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO--I MEAN, YOU CAN IF YOU WANNA SPEND
YOUR MONEY.
I'M NOT PUTTING IT DOWN, BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO TO SOMEBODY TO
TELL YOU HOW TO HANDLE YOUR ANGER.
IT'S ALL VERY CLEAR, RIGHT HERE IN THE BOOK.
AND THE GOOD THING ABOUT GOING TO GOD IS HE'LL GIVE YOU
THE HELP THAT YOU NEED TO ACTUALLY PULL IT OFF AND DO IT.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: GO SOMEWHERE ELSE, YOU MIGHT JUST GET INSTRUCTIONS,
BUT NO HELP.
GOD WANTS TO HELP YOU.
SO, THERE'S NOT ENOUGH ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELORS
TO COVER ALL THE PEOPLE WHO WANT TO GET
INTO THESE CLASSES.
"NEWSWEEK" SAID THESE PEOPLE ARE COMING OUT IN DROVES ASKING
FOR HELP.
NOW, YOU KNOW, THERE'S A LOT OF REASON FOR ALL THIS ANGER,
AND WE'RE GONNA DISCUSS IT A LOT OVER THE WEEKEND.
ONE OF THE REASONS WHY PEOPLE ARE ANGRY TODAY IS JUST ALL
THE STRESS THAT THEY'RE UNDER.
HOW MANY OF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'VE GOT A LOT MORE STRESS IN YOUR
LIFE THAN WHAT YOU CAN DEAL WITH?
IF YOU DON'T LIKE YOUR LIFE AND YOU DON'T LIKE YOUR SCHEDULE,
YOU MADE IT AND YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN CHANGE IT.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: SEE, YOU'RE NOT HAPPY ABOUT THAT.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: HELP ME, JESUS.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: YOU SEE, IN ORDER TO BE FREE FROM ANYTHING,
WE HAVE TO FACE TRUTH.
AND BLAMING AND MAKING EXCUSES NEVER HELPS US CHANGE ANYTHING.
SO, LET ME SAY TO YOU WHAT GOD SAID TO ME.
IF YOU DON'T LIKE YOUR SCHEDULE, YOU MADE IT, YOU'RE THE ONE THAT
CAN CHANGE IT.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: SEE, WE THINK THAT ALL THESE THINGS
ARE FORCED ON US, AND THEN WE GET MAD AT ALL THESE
PEOPLE THAT WE THINK ARE FORCING US TO DO ALL THESE THINGS, AND
REALLY THE TRUTH IS NOTHING IS STOPPING US FROM SAYING NO.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: NOW, JUST ALREADY I'VE SAID ENOUGH TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE
IF THAT'S WHAT YOU NEED.
WELL, WHAT KEEPS US FROM SAYING NO?
WE DON'T WANT PEOPLE TO BE MAD AT US.
AND YOU KNOW WHAT?
PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE TO LET CONTROL YOU TO KEEP THEIR
FRIENDSHIP IS SOMEBODY THAT YOU'RE GONNA LOSE AND THEY'RE
GONNA DISAPPOINT YOU EVENTUALLY ANYWAY.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: I LIKE THIS.
IN DISCUSSING ANGER, DALLAS WILLARD, WHO'S A VERY
GODLY PHILOSOPHY AND PROFESSOR, OFFERS A TELLING DEFINITION.
HE SAYS THAT ANGER IS A FEELING THAT SEIZES US IN OUR BODY.
HOW MANY OF YOU CAN FEEL IT WHEN IT GETS AHOLD OF YOU?
YOU KNOW, I ALWAYS SAY IT STARTS DOWN HERE SOMEWHERE AND YOU
CAN--YOU GOTTA GET IT BEFORE IT GETS TO YOUR MOUTH.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: IT'S A FEELING THAT SEIZES US IN OUR BODY AND
IMMEDIATELY IMPELS US TOWARD INTERFERING WITH AND POSSIBLY
EVEN HARMING THOSE WHO HAVE THWARTED OUR WILL AND INTERFERED
WITH OUR LIFE.
NOW, LISTEN TO THIS.
ANGER, WILLARD NOTES, IS FREQUENTLY USED TO MAKE OTHER
PEOPLE AROUND US CHANGE THEIR COURSE OF ACTION.
IN SO DOING, IT CONTROLS THEIR WILL, WHICH ONLY RESULTS IN
ANGER ON THEIR PART.
SO, MY ANGER FEEDS OFF YOUR ANGER, AND HERE WE GO 'ROUND
AND AROUND, AND THERE'S NEVER AN END TO IT.
AMEN.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: ALL RIGHT.
THERE'S NOTHING BETTER THAN PEACE, YOU KNOW THAT?
ACTUALLY, PEACE EQUALS POWER IN YOUR LIFE.
IF YOU WANNA HAVE POWER IN YOUR LIFE, IF YOU WANNA HAVE MORE
ENERGY IN YOUR LIFE, YOU CAN'T BE ANGRY.
AND YOU KNOW, HOW MANY OF YOU'VE HAD AMPLE OPPORTUNITIES IN
THE LAST 7 DAYS TO BE ANGRY?
ME TOO!
ME TOO.
I'LL TELL YOU WHAT, DAVE HAS A PAPER TOWEL THING.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: FIRST OF ALL, HE'S JUST FALLEN IN LOVE WITH
PAPER TOWELS.
HE WANTS TO DRY THE DISHES WITH PAPER TOWELS.
I MEAN, EVERYTHING IS A PAPER TOWEL.
BUT SOMETIMES, HE LIKES TO--LIKE, HE'LL SPREAD 'EM OUT
ON THE COUNTER AND SAY HE'S GONNA USE 'EM AGAIN IN A MINUTE.
WELL, I DON'T LIKE--
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: NOW, THEY'RE NOT DIRTY, THEY'RE JUST MAYBE DAMP.
AND SO--OR IF HE PULLS OFF ONE TOO MANY, YOU KNOW, HE'S VERY
THRIFTY, SO HE DOESN'T WANNA WASTE IT, SO HE'LL SPREAD IT OUT
ON THE COUNTER.
WELL, I DON'T LIKE STUFF SPREAD OUT ON THE COUNTER, SO I GO
ALONG, PICK 'EM UP, AND THROW 'EM IN THE TRASH CAN.
AND SO IT'S BECOME---HE SAID, "IF YOU PUT ANYTHING DOWN AROUND
HERE, YOU'RE GONNA LOSE IT IN ABOUT 2 SECONDS,
THAT'S FOR SURE."
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: SO, THE OTHER NIGHT HE WAS READY TO GO UP
TO HIS OFFICE.
HE'S GOT A LITTLE SPACE UP THERE WHERE HE WATCHES HIS SPORTS
AT NIGHT AND I DO MY THING.
AND YOU KNOW, THE OLDER YOU GET, THE HAPPIER YOU ARE TO GIVE
EACH OTHER SPACE.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
[AUDIENCE CHEERING]
JOYCE: I DON'T KNOW, YOU GUYS ARE LIKING THAT A LITTLE TOO
MUCH.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU'RE FIRST MARRIED, YOU KNOW,
YOU JUST WANNA BE WITH EACH OTHER EVERY SECOND.
WELL, YOU MORE THAN LIKELY WILL GET OVER THAT.
BUT THAT'S NOT--
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: THAT'S NOT NECESSARILY A BAD THING.
SO ANYWAY, HE'S GETTING READY TO GO UP TO HIS
OFFICE, AND HE'S GOT THESE PAPER TOWELS LAID OUT ON THE COUNTER.
AND I'M LIKE, "WHY DO YOU HAVE THOSE LAID OUT?"
HE SAID, "I'VE GOT 'EM THERE FOR WHEN I COME DOWNSTAIRS."
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: I SAID, "NOW, WAIT A MINUTE."
'CAUSE I WANT MY COUNTERS NEAT, SO I SAID, "WHY DO YOU HAVE YOUR
PAPER TOWEL LAYING OUT ON THE COUNTER FOR WHEN YOU
COME DOWNSTAIRS AT BEDTIME?
WHY CAN'T YOU TAKE IT OFF THE ROLL THEN?"
HE SAID, "BECAUSE I WANT IT THERE."
I SAID, "I DON'T WANT IT THERE."
HE SAID, "I WANT IT THERE."
I SAID, "WHY DO YOU WANT IT THERE?"
HE WENT OVER TO IT, HE FOLDED IT UP, HE SAID, "THAT'S ALL RIGHT.
I'M TAKING IT UPSTAIRS WITH ME."
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: HE SAID, "I DIDN'T EXPECT TO GET AN INQUISITION
OVER A PAPER TOWEL."
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: BUT THE POINT IS IS 25 YEARS AGO, I WOULD'VE GOTTEN
SO MAD.
NOW, HOW MANY OF YOU GET MAD OVER STUPID STUFF?
OKAY, MAYBE YOU'RE NOT THE KIND OF PERSON THAT'S GONNA HAVE
ROAD RAGE.
MAYBE THERE'S SOMEBODY WATCHING BY TV THAT MIGHT BE THAT KIND OF
PERSON, BUT I'M GONNA ASSUME THAT THAT'S NONE OF YOU SINCE
YOU'RE HERE TOGETHER FOR CHURCH TONIGHT.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: BUT YOU MAY STILL BE A LITTLE GUILTY OF GETTING ANGRY
OVER WHAT THE BIBLE CALLS TRIFLING, UNINFORMED,
UNEDIFYING, STUPID CONTROVERSIES OVER IGNORANT QUESTIONS.
AND IF YOU DON'T THINK THAT'S IN THE BIBLE, IT'S 2 TIMOTHY 2:23.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: WHEN I THINK--AND I WANT YOU THINK SERIOUS WITH ME.
WHEN I THINK ABOUT HOW MANY DAYS AND YEARS OF MY LIFE I WASTED
BEING ANGRY ABOUT THINGS THAT REALLY DIDN'T EVEN MATTER,
TRYING TO CONTROL PEOPLE THAT I WAS NEVER GONNA BE ABLE TO
CONTROL.
CAN I TELL YOU THAT TRYING TO RUN THE UNIVERSE IS HARD WORK?
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: I MEAN, IT JUST WILL FLAT WEAR YOU OUT.
ANGER, THE GREEK SAYS--THE GREEK VINE'S DICTIONARY SAYS,
"ANGER IS THE STRONGEST OF ALL PASSIONS."
IT IS INDIGNATION, VENGEANCE, AND WRATH.
ANGER BEGINS WITH A FEELING AND CAN, DOESN'T HAVE TO, BUT CAN
PROGRESS TO EXPRESSION IN WORDS OR ACTIONS.
AND I WAS NOT KIDDING WHEN I SAID YOU CAN FEEL ANGER
AND UPSET.
IT STARTS SOMEWHERE DOWN IN HERE IN THE REALM OF OUR--THE DEPTHS
OF OUR SOUL, AND YOU ACTUALLY CAN FEEL IT GETTING BIGGER,
AND RISING, AND RISING.
AND I WAS NOT JOKING WHEN I SAID YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT
IT BEFORE IT GETS TO YOUR MOUTH.
BECAUSE ONCE WE START TO ADD WORDS TO IT, THEN IT GETS WORSE,
AND WORSE, AND WORSE.
AND THEN WE'VE USUALLY GOT WORDS COMING BACK AT US, NOW WE'RE IN
THIS REAL HEATED EXCHANGE, AND THAT'S WHEN SOMETIMES PEOPLE CAN
DO THINGS AND SAY THINGS THAT THEY REALLY WITH ALL THEIR HEART
WISH THAT LATER THEY WOULD NOT HAVE SAID AND DONE.
AMEN?
SO, I SAID IT CAN PROGRESS TO EXPRESSION IN WORDS OR ACTIONS,
BUT I ALSO WANT TO QUICKLY ADD IT DOESN'T HAVE TO.
YOU KNOW WHY?
BECAUSE WE DON'T HAVE TO FOLLOW EVERY FEELING THAT WE HAVE.
AMEN?
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: ALL ANGER DOES NOT HAVE THE SAME CHARACTERISTICS.
ONE TYPE IS CHARACTERIZED BY QUICKLY BLAZING UP AND SUBSIDING
JUST AS QUICKLY.
YOU'RE IN A GROCERY STORE, SOMEBODY BUMPS INTO YOU WITH
THEIR GROCERY CART, YOU'RE LIKE...
YOU GET CONTROL OF YOURSELF, YOU REALIZE IT WAS AN ACCIDENT,
THAT'S OVER VERY QUICK.
ANOTHER TYPE IS A MORE SETTLED, ABIDING CONDITION OF THE MIND,
FREQUENTLY WITH A VIEW TO REVENGE.
NOW, THIS IS THE TYPE THAT CAN TAKE ROOT IN YOU OR ME BECAUSE
WE THINK ABOUT OVER, AND OVER, AND OVER, AND OVER, AND OVER,
WHAT SOMEBODY HAS DONE TO US.
AND YOU KNOW, THE MORE WE THINK ABOUT SOMETHING, THE MORE OUT OF
PROPORTION IT CAN BECOME, 'TIL SUDDENLY THIS THING THAT REALLY
DIDN'T HAVE TO BE THAT BIG OF A DEAL BECOMES THIS BIG, HUGE
MOUNTAIN IN OUR LIFE AND CAN BECOME A CONTROLLING FACTOR
IN OUR LIFE.
I'LL TELL YOU WHAT I'VE DECIDED AND IT'S WORKING PRETTY WELL
FOR ME.
I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH YEARS OF MY LIFE LEFT TO WASTE ONE MORE OF
THEM ANGRY.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: MAYBE WHEN YOU'RE IN YOUR 20s YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'VE
GOT A LOT OF TIME TO WASTE BEING MAD, BUT BY THE TIME YOU GET TO
WHERE I'M AT--AND WE WON'T TALK ABOUT IT TONIGHT.
BY THE TIME YOU GET THERE, YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU'VE GOT
ANY TIME LEFT TO WASTE.
SO, I'M GONNA ASK YOU TONIGHT TO DEAL WITH THIS EMOTION OF ANGER.
LET GOD HELP YOU DEAL WITH THE EMOTION OF ANGER, NOT ONLY TO
GET RID OF ANY REPRESSED ANGER THAT YOU HAVE LEFT OVER FROM
OLD THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED TO YOU, BUT LEARNING THAT WE LIVE
IN A SOCIETY THAT IS VIOLENT AND ANGRY, AND WE'RE IN THE WORLD
AND NOT OF IT, AND WE NEED TO BE AN EXAMPLE TO OTHER PEOPLE,
NOT OUT THERE ACTING JUST LIKE THEY DO.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: DO NOT--DO NOT PUT A CHRISTIAN BUMPER STICKER
ON YOUR CAR.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: IF YOU ARE NOT GONNA ACT LIKE A CHRISTIAN WHILE
YOU'RE DRIVING.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: AMEN?
AND THEN, THERE'S A TYPE OF ANGER THAT IS PROVOKED TO TAKE
ACTION.
IN OTHER WORDS, THE ANGRY PERSON VERBALLY OR PHYSICALLY ACTS OUT
THE ANGER.
ANGER CAN MANIFEST IN YELLING, HITTING, DAMAGING, THROWING
THINGS, BRINGING HARM TO THE FOCUS OF THE ANGER, CRITICIZING,
WITHDRAWING.
THAT WAS ONE OF MY FAVORITE ONES.
IF I WAS ANGRY...
I'M NOT COMING IN THE ROOM WITH YOU.
I'D RATHER GO OUT THE FRONT DOOR, WALK AROUND THE HOUSE, AND
COME IN THE BACK DOOR TO GET TO THE KITCHEN THAN TO WALK THROUGH
THE ROOM WHERE YOU'RE AT.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: AMEN?
IF I'M ANGRY WITH YOU, DON'T TOUCH ME IN THE BED.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: I WILL SLEEP ON THE SEAM OF THE MATTRESS RATHER
THAN TOUCH YOU.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: I WILL NOT ASK YOU TO DO ANYTHING FOR ME.
WELL, LET ME ASK YOU A QUESTION.
WHO ARE WE HURTING?
HE HAD THE COVER, AND I STAYED COLD ALL NIGHT.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: HE HAD THE TV AND I WAS OFF IN ANOTHER ROOM POUTING,
SITTING IN THE BATHROOM FLOOR CRYING.
IT'S REALLY DOWNRIGHT FOOLISH WHEN YOU GET RIGHT DOWN TO IT.
AND YOU KNOW, SOME OF THIS IS HUMOROUS, BUT I REALLY WANT YOU
TO TAKE IT VERY SERIOUSLY TONIGHT, BECAUSE I'M TELLING
YOU, ANGER IS DOING SO MUCH DAMAGE TO PEOPLE'S LIVES AND SO
MUCH DAMAGE TO THEIR HEALTH.
I'M SURE IF WE HAD THE TIME, WHICH I DON'T, I COULD ASK
DR. PAUL TO COME UP HERE AND TELL YOU WHAT ANGER DOES TO YOUR
HEALTH, AND HE COULD TELL YOU THAT IT'S NOT HEALTHY TO BE
ANGRY.
THERE'S NO TELLING HOW MUCH ENERGY IT TAKES TO HAVE ONE GOOD
FIT AND TRY TO GET OVER IT.
DO YOU KNOW WHAT FITS ARE HERE IN HOUSTON?
SOMETIMES ANGER RESULTS IN RIDICULING OR HUMILIATING
ANOTHER PERSON, TEASING IN A MANNER OF PUTTING THEM DOWN.
AND YOU KNOW, A LOT OF TIMES WE'RE ACTUALLY ANGRY AT
SOMEBODY, WE'VE GOT SOME KIND OF A DEEP-ROOTED RESENTMENT,
AND SO WE DO WHAT THE BIBLE CALLS COARSE JESTING, WHERE
WE'RE SAYING NEGATIVE, UNKIND, INSULTING THINGS, BUT ACTING
LIKE WE'RE KIDDING.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: COME ON.
MM-HMM.
OH, I WAS ONLY KIDDING.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: I WAS ONLY KIDDING.
WELL, OUT OF THE HEART, THE MOUTH SPEAKS.
AMEN?
THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR CAN ALSO BE SEEN TOWARD ONESELF.
YOU CAN BE ANGRY WITH YOURSELF AND YOU CAN SAY DOWNGRADING
THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF.
WE PLAYED GOLF WITH A MAN ONE TIME, AND I REMEMBER EVERY
SINGLE TIME HE WOULD MAKE A MISTAKE, HIT THE BALL BAD,
MISS THE BALL, MISS THE PUTT, HE WOULD SAY, "STUPID.
I'M SO STUPID.
THAT'S JUST STUPID."
WELL, SEE, HE WAS DOING THAT BECAUSE HE WAS ANGRY AT HIMSELF.
HE WAS EMBARRASSED BECAUSE HE DIDN'T PERFORM GOOD AND HE WAS
ANGRY AT HIMSELF.
I TELL PEOPLE THIS ALL OVER THE WORLD AND I'M GONNA TELL YOU
TONIGHT, DO NOT EVER AGAIN SAY A DOWNGRADING THING ABOUT
YOURSELF OUT OF YOUR OWN MOUTH.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: YOU ARE CREATED SPECIALLY WITH THE HAND OF GOD.
HE LOVES YOU.
HE HAS CREATED YOU UNIQUELY.
YOU MAKE MISTAKES LIKE WE ALL DO.
I MAKE MISTAKES, YOU MAKE MISTAKES, BUT THERE'S A LOT MORE
RIGHT WITH YOU THAN THERE IS WRONG WITH YOU.
AMEN?
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: YOU KNOW, MY FATHER FREQUENTLY WOULD HIT, SLAP,
OR OCCASIONALLY EVEN COME HOME DRUNK ON A SATURDAY NIGHT
AND BEAT MY MOTHER UP.
HE WAS VERY FOND OF YELLING, AND SCREAMING, AND STICKING HIS FIST
IN YOUR FACE LIKE HE WAS GONNA HIT YOU, AND I HATED THAT.
I HATED IT.
AND EVEN NOW, I DON'T DO WELL IF SOMEBODY IS SLAPPING AT MY FACE,
BECAUSE I STILL HAVE A REACTION TO HIM DOING THAT ALL THE TIME.
AND SO, I REALLY--JUST, LIKE, EVEN IF SOMEBODY'S TEASING ME, I
DON'T WANT 'EM AROUND MY FACE.
AND MY DAD WAS SO MEAN, BUT DO YOU KNOW WHAT HIS REAL PROBLEM
WAS?
HE WAS MAD AT HIMSELF.
HE KNEW THAT HIS BEHAVIOR WAS WRONG.
HE KNEW THAT HE WAS DOING A LOT OF THINGS THAT WAS WRONG.
BUT INSTEAD OF TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEM AND
GETTING THE HELP THAT HE NEEDED, HE BLAMED EVERYBODY ELSE
IN THE WORLD.
THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG WITH EVERYBODY OUT THERE.
AND IF YOU'RE DEALING WITH SOMEBODY IN YOUR LIFE THAT FINDS
FAULT WITH EVERYBODY IN THE UNIVERSE, THEN IN ALL
PROBABILITY, THERE'S A GUILT PROBLEM GOING ON ON THE INSIDE
OF THEM ABOUT SOMETHING THAT THEY'RE DOING.
AND INSTEAD OF FACING IT, THEY'RE DISPLACING THAT ANGER
ONTO SOMEBODY ELSE.
YOU KNOW, THIS WHOLE THING, WE CAN SEE IT GET STARTED IN
THE BOOK OF GENESIS WHEN CAIN KILLED ABEL.
AND IF--AND MATTER OF FACT, I WANT US TO GO LOOK AT IT,
IT'S IN GENESIS CHAPTER 4.
NOW, THERE WAS AN ISSUE HERE WITH THE OFFERINGS THAT CAIN
AND ABEL GAVE TO GOD.
AND ABEL'S OFFERING WAS ACCEPTABLE TO GOD,
BUT CAIN'S WAS NOT.
AND I WON'T GET INTO A TEACHING ON ALL THAT.
CAIN TRIED TO GIVE SOMETHING THAT WAS THE WORK OF HIS OWN
HANDS, AND SO HE WASN'T REALLY BEING OBEDIENT TO GOD.
VERSE 5 SAYS, "BUT FOR CAIN AND HIS OFFERING, HE HAD NO RESPECT
OR REGARD."
GOD SAID, "'I HAD NO RESPECT FOR HIS OFFERING.'
SO, CAIN WAS EXCEEDINGLY ANGRY AND INDIGNANT AND HE LOOKED
SAD AND DEPRESSED."
WHICH WE MIGHT ALSO ADD THAT A LOT OF THESE BAD MOODS THAT
PEOPLE HAVE IS ALSO THE RESULT OF ANGER OF SOME KIND.
"AND THE LORD SAID TO CAIN, 'WHY ARE YOU ANGRY?
AND WHY DO YOU LOOK SAD AND DEPRESSED AND DEJECTED?'"
NOW, I LOVE THIS, "IF YOU DO WELL, WILL
YOU NOT BE ACCEPTED?
AND IF YOU DO NOT DO WELL, SIN CROUCHES AT YOUR DOOR.
ITS DESIRE IS FOR YOU," AND I LIKE THIS TOO.
"YOU," I DREW A CIRCLE AROUND IT, "MUST MASTER IT."
SO, DON'T BLAME SOMEBODY ELSE IF YOU'RE NOT DOING WHAT'S RIGHT,
HE'S SAYING TO HIM, THEN YOU CAN FIND FORGIVENESS, THINGS CAN BE
STRAIGHTENED OUT, BUT YOU HAVE TO FACE IT.
JUST DON'T GO AROUND ANGRY BECAUSE YOUR LIFE IS NOT TURNING
OUT THE WAY YOU WANT IT TO WHEN YOU DIDN'T DO WHAT YOU SHOULD'VE
DONE TO HAVE GOTTEN THE RIGHT RESULT.
JOYCE: WELL, WHEN YOU FEEL ANGRY, THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO
IS GO TO GOD.
YOU KNOW, THE HOLY SPIRIT IS THE BEST ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELOR
THAT EXISTS.
GOD'S WORD HAS THE POWER TO SET YOU FREE FROM ANGER.
TODAY, WE HAVE A REALLY GOOD OFFERING.
YOU KNOW, WE OFFER YOU THE WORD OF GOD EVERY DAY BECAUSE I
BELIEVE THAT IT CONTAINS HEALING POWER, IT'S GOT THE STRENGTH IN
IT TO ENABLE US TO DO THE THINGS THAT WE KNOW THAT WE SHOULD DO,
BUT PROBABLY WON'T DO WITHOUT GOD'S HELP.
SO TODAY, WE'RE OFFERING YOU TWO TEACHINGS ON CD ON
ANGER MANAGEMENT.
AND I DON'T THINK THERE'S ANY ONE OF US THAT COULDN'T USE THAT
BECAUSE IT'S NOT A MATTER OF IF YOU GET ANGRY, IT'S WHEN YOU
GET ANGRY.
WE ALL EXPERIENCE IT FROM TIME TO TIME.
AND THEN ALSO A BOOK THAT I'M VERY FOND OF THAT I WROTE CALLED
"LIVING BEYOND YOUR FEELINGS."
IN OTHER WORDS, WE ALL HAVE FEELINGS, WE DON'T ALWAYS KNOW
WHEN THEY'RE GOING TO COME OR WHEN THEY'RE GOING TO LEAVE,
SO WE HAVE TO LEARN TO LIVE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THEM
AND NOT LET THEM CONTROL US.
SO REMEMBER, WITH GOD'S HELP, YOU CAN BE FREE FROM ANGER AND
YOU CAN HAVE PEACE IN YOUR LIFE.
GOD BLESS YOU.
ANNOUNCER: ANGER CAN FEEL MESSY.
DON'T LET IT STRING YOU ALONG AND CREATE CHAOS IN YOUR LIFE.
IT'S IMPORTANT TO RECOGNIZE WHERE IT'S COMING FROM AND PUT
A STOP TO IT BEFORE IT CONTROLS YOU.
TODAY'S OFFER INCLUDES THIS COMPLETE TEACHING OF
"ANGER MANAGEMENT" ON TWO CDS.
MALE: I WOULD GET ANGRY WHEN THE LIGHT WOULD TURN RED,
YOU KNOW?
WHEN THAT WOULD GO FROM GREEN TO RED, I WOULD LIKE, "GOD, I SEEM
TO HIT ALL THE RED LIGHTS ALL OF THE TIME."
AND NOW WHEN I HIT THE RED LIGHT, I JUST LAUGH.
ANNOUNCER: WITH THIS TEACHING, JOYCE SHARES PRACTICAL
ADVICE ON HOW YOU CAN EXPERIENCE A BREAKTHROUGH IN THIS
AREA OF YOUR LIFE.
ALONG WITH THE TWO CD-PACK, WE'RE OFFERING JOYCE'S BOOK,
"LIVING BEYOND YOUR FEELINGS."
IF YOU ARE READY TO MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS, THIS BOOK MIGHT BE
FOR YOU.
FOR A LIMITED TIME, THIS OFFER IS AVAILABLE FOR A DONATION
OF...
CALL TODAY...
OR VISIT US AT JOYCEMEYER.ORG.
ANNOUNCER: THANK YOU, FRIENDS AND PARTNERS.
TOGETHER, WE'RE SHARING THE LOVE OF CHRIST AROUND THE WORLD.
TO FIND OUT MORE, PLEASE CONTACT US OR VISIT US ONLINE AT
JOYCEMEYER.ORG.
JOIN US IN PARTNERSHIP AS WE SHARE THE LOVE OF CHRIST
AROUND THE GLOBE.
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ANNOUNCER: THE PRECEDING WAS PAID FOR
BY THE FRIENDS AND PARTNERS OF JOYCE MEYER MINISTRIES.
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