- Hey guys, it's Cat, and it's time for
your weekly dose of True Tea.
Today I'm drinking some horchata.
That is what's in my mug.
The conspiracies are true,
sometimes I don't have tea in this much.
Sometimes it's horchata, because girl,
it is the summer, it is hot, I wanted something cold
and a little bit ethnic, you know what I mean?
Like, wanted something a little bit different than tea
in my mug, so that's why I'm drinking horchata today,
as opposed to tea.
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I know that it's been like a new
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Things are very different, things are changing.
I'm not sure how well the playlist worked out last week,
but we're gonna just give it another try this week.
The way that the playlist works basically is
you click on the link that I'm gonna put
in the description box,
and once you click on that link,
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and add it to that playlist.
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Hit me up on Twitter or something.
I will definitely try to fix it.
Sometimes I just give the wrong link,
sometimes the link is mixed up.
It changes.
But anyway, let me know if you guys are interested in that
or if you like that.
I don't know, we're trying out new things here.
This is all a process, a learning process,
and I'm very thankful that I have
a community that is very supportive
of me trying new things.
Anyway, let's jump into this week's question.
"Are generalizations inherently negative?
"Are there good generalizations and bad generalizations?
"If generalizations can be positive,
"what are some examples of them?"
So this question popped up because a lot of people,
like, I think one of the big criticisms people have of me
is that I generalize too much, right?
And so I kinda wanted to open up
a conversation about generalizations,
because I guess in my life I've felt like
there are positive and negative
generalizations that I've had,
and I don't think that, as a concept on their own,
they are inherently negative, right?
Like, I just filmed a video, I mean,
you can probably tell by what I'm wearing
if you watch the other video.
I just filmed a video about trans people and dating,
and one of the things that I mention is that,
you know, in my experience,
I've met a lot of men who like trans women, right?
I've met a lot of men who were attracted to trans women.
You know, when I was single,
I was pursued by a lot of people.
My YouTube channel used to just be a serial dating channel.
So, like, I have not really had this
sad struggle life of dating because
I didn't have a shortage of interested parties, frankly.
But that being said, even with that in mind,
I still don't think it's a good idea for me
to go forward into the world believing that
most men like trans women.
So, for my own safety, I have to generalize cis men,
you know, in that they're not going to be
interested in trans women,
because that's just part of how I survived,
you know what I mean?
That's just part of how I survived,
because it would be really unfair
for me to just sort of assume that they were interested
and that they like it, just 'cause I've had
a lot of positive experiences,
because a lot of men, most men don't,
that is how it is, right?
So, that's an example of a generalization
that I have made through my life
that has kept me safe.
And I don't feel bad about it.
You know, I don't feel bad about
making that generalization,
even if it's inaccurate to some people.
I don't think it's a wrong one to have.
Of course there are cis men who I'm going to meet
who do like trans women, and so maybe my assumption
that they don't will backfire.
I mean, listen, I've had a lot of situations, actually,
where I met a guy, assumed that
he wasn't interested in trans women, and then,
you know, turns out he is, you know?
So it's like, maybe that assumption has backfired,
but it's safer for me to assume,
it's been safer for me to assume that they don't, right?
So, I guess it's like, I think that that happens,
and I think that good generalizations exist.
Of course, there are bad generalizations, you know.
Like, kind of hanging onto this conversation,
the generalization that trans people
like to force themselves on cis people,
the generalization that, you know,
trans people like to trick and fool people
when it comes to dating.
Like, that's definitely a bad generalization because
it doesn't really reflect reality,
but it definitely plays on
the power dynamic that's present,
where cis people get to kind of write the narrative
of what trans people's existences are, right?
So, the generalization, because you have this group in power
who's making this generalization,
who's writing these laws, who's using things like,
"Men who crossdress as women go into the restroom
"to abuse women and girls and things like that."
They get to kind of make those statements,
and then trans people suffer because of it,
and then that generalization,
regardless of how untrue it is,
is used against them to oppress them.
I think that's very, very different,
you know, than I think a lot of stuff
that at least I talk about
when I talk about good generalizations, right?
It's very, very, very different.
And oftentimes, when people criticize me,
they hear some of the stuff I say
and they say, "Well, listen,
"you said this specific thing,
"and that's a generalization,
"and don't you hate when people generalize you?"
And I always find that kinda funny because,
I guess it's like this, you know,
I think that when you're a minority,
you get very used to people generalizing you, and so
it's not something that actually offends you truly.
I mean, obviously you could have
a lot of conversations about how
those generalizations are not true,
about how those stereotypes aren't real,
and, you know, that would be a really valid,
good conversation, but at the end of the day,
you just kinda learn that you can't
split hairs all the time.
You can't sit there and, you know, always be so
heavily invested in all of these conversations,
because at the end of the day,
that's just kind of the world we live in.
We can't sit here and be mad about this stuff all the time.
We can't afford to be.
It's not any way for us,
we would not be able to live our lives
constantly being critical and having, you know,
these long debates and conversations about this shit,
so we kind of accept that there are
generalizations made about us, and they're not true,
and we move the hell on.
I think when majority groups get generalized,
because they're not used to it,
because they're so not used to it,
they react very differently,
and frankly, I always find
those certain conversations very interesting.
You know, for me, I criticize white supremacy quite a bit,
and when I criticize white supremacy,
I often use the term "white people."
Now, usually, this is in the context of describing
a certain white person, not a certain white person,
a certain group of white people
who have done a certain thing, right?
Now, the problem with generalizations
and a lot of the ways that I talk,
and I think a lot of the ways
that other people talk is that,
you know, the way that the, I mean,
maybe this is just how I was taught,
maybe I have, like, this thing,
'cause I think my English education is very innate,
and I don't think about it very often,
but oftentimes, you know, the way I was taught
was that, you know, when you say a group of people,
or say a thing, and there's other stuff in the sentence
that describes that thing, that places that thing
in a certain context, and that's what you mean,
is people who do this, you know, not all people.
Like, people, for example, will hear a sentence like,
"White people owned slaves and benefited
"from the oppression of black people."
That's a statement that there were white people
who owned slaves, and those people benefited
from the oppression of black people.
That's a very specific statement about
a very specific group of people who did a thing
and benefited in a certain way.
That's not an indictment of all white people.
That's not a statement that
all white people owned slaves,
'cause that's not true, that's not historically accurate,
that's not currently accurate, that's not true,
that's not real, that's not something that,
that's not what that sentence means.
But a lot of people will hear "white people,"
and that's all they'll focus on.
You said "white people," I'm offended,
you generalized us, and that's not fair.
And I'm aware of the fact that
most of the times these people are not serious.
A lot of these people think that
they're playing 4D chess by, like,
flipping my logic onto me, but my logic is not
that generalizations are inherently negative,
or that generalizations about a group of people
are not handy and thrifty.
Like I said, it's safer for me to generalize
cis men because it would be dangerous for me not to.
So, for me, it's like, it's not really the same thing,
but oftentimes people wanna
make it seem like it's the same thing,
and it's really not the same thing.
You know, when, historically speaking,
when white people have gotten together
to generalize black people, it results in something
pretty bad legislatively.
It's not just, you know, if, listen,
if the biggest thing about racism
was that people just thought something and said something,
it would be very easy to ignore.
If that's the beginning and end of what racism was,
that, you know, "Hey, there's these white people over here
"who don't like people of color,"
that would be very easy to ignore.
But what we're really talking about, often,
when we're talking about racism
is a much larger conversation
about people who are impacted
by the history of America specifically,
because that's the only perspective I know,
and how our history has been,
has exploited people of color,
exploited queer people, et cetera.
That's what we're talking about, right?
So it's not really, you know, it's not,
I don't know, it's kind of an annoying conversation,
and I don't really think that that's a good point.
If you could connect that to,
"Well, because you generalized white people,
"here's an example of systemic oppression.
"This is why you can't do that."
Then maybe I'd be like, "Okay, yeah, that's messed up."
But it's not the same thing,
and it's really annoying to me
that people often compare it because
if, you know, I can make 20 different videos,
'cause a lot of people think I hate white people,
which I always think is really funny,
a lot of people think I'm a black supremacist,
which I also think is really funny,
I could be all of those things,
and the worst you'll get from it
is a bunch of annoying videos
from somebody online that you can block.
You know what I mean?
That's the worst you'll get from it, you know?
I can't really say the same with
a lot of the white nationalism stuff
that I keep seeing because
those people work in the White House now,
and that's very scary.
You know, that perspective, that idea,
that ideology is being legitimized
in several different countries right now.
And that speaks to how embedded
that ideology actually is in these countries,
because it's still a fabric of these countries.
This stuff doesn't come from anywhere.
People don't suddenly end up in the White House
with white supremacist ideology.
That doesn't just happen like that.
They don't just pop up like that.
It's part of the history that has empowered them
to be able to get into these spaces,
so now they sit there, you know what I mean?
So these are very different conversations,
and I think that there are generalizations
that are made out of a need to a be safe,
and there are generalizations
that are made out of a need to oppress,
and I think that, while these two things
are generalizations, they are not the same.
So anyway, that is what I have to say.
I would really love to hear what
you guys have to say about this topic.
I think it's an interesting one,
and I know that it's one that people can
interpret in many, many different ways,
so I would love to hear what you have to say.
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I'll probably have already edited together
the audience answers, so check back on Friday,
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the question for next week and things like that.
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are beautiful, and you are loved.
Bye!
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