Your daughter really seems to love her dogs.
I don't think sending them away is the answer.
What do you think?
I'd like to spend more time with her,
but she only cares about the dogs.
I've never gone shopping with her.
We stopped going to the public bath together.
She won't answer my calls anymore.
Your calls?
Then I would send her messages.
But she never answers. I would send 10 messages.
She reads them, but she doesn't answer?
So I ask her why she doesn't reply back.
Then all she writes is "yes."
That means she wants to start a fight.
Are you mad at her about something?
I was born during the financial crisis in Korea.
I grew up watching my parents struggle with money.
I never got their love and care when I needed them.
I was raised by other people.
Because they were busy working.
Don't you feel as though you should be good to them
since they raised you through such hardship?
I'm only 21 years old, but I'm a manager.
I have to take care of my staff members
and I must go out on business dinners often.
But she won't acknowledge that.
She didn't let me hang out with my friends.
She was quite strict on me.
I was isolated from my friends.
She always sends you
negative messages?
Why aren't you home?
Not even that. "What the hell are you doing?"
Since she is always so negative,
I don't answer her calls or reply to her texts.
Do you want to spend time with your mom
and show affections to each other?
I do, but...
You're not used to it?
I'm not used to it. We've hurt each other a lot.
So we stopped communicating.
I think the two of them failed
to form a bond in the past.
This is the problem.
That's why she's so obsessed with dogs.
Mom never let her hang out with friends.
Her parents were busy so she turned to her dogs.
Or I was by myself.
My dogs are on my side.
My dogs were the only ones I could turn to.
They always greet her with joy.
How do you feel after listening to your daughter?
We were broke during the financial crisis.
Then there were several public health scares
that made us struggle with our sushi business.
Things were tough, but she wanted to learn acting.
Her acting class cost $1,000. I had to get loans.
The debt kept piling up.
I'm sure she had a hard time growing up.
But until she graduated high school
I fed her and dried her hair myself.
I only slept 3 hours a day.
- Do you remember that? / - Of course, she does.
You can't find a mom like her.
It's true, right?
Yes, I think so, but...
But it doesn't really come to me.
I was born and raised on the island Chujado.
Because it's an island, the people...
They tend to speak quite harshly.
I am quite curt when I speak,
but I really love her.
I was born on an island called Anmyeondo.
Islanders don't speak long.
It's too windy. So we tend to speak briefly.
Because of the wind?
Dad. Lunch.
Ma'am. A meal. Like this.
Why do you always talk about eating?
Eating is quite important.
Other family members didn't come today?
My husband and her sister had to work.
My neighbor came with us.
- Your neighbor? / - Neighbor.
Hello.
You live next-door to her?
No, I don't.
I've known her for 9 years now.
We are closer than family.
I tutored her when she was in middle school.
What did you tutor?
I'm a science teacher.
I know about the two more than anyone else.
You would be objective as a third person.
Whose concern is bigger in your opinion?
Of course, the mom's concern is bigger.
She was being so absurd so I wanted to butt in,
but I've been holding it back.
You can go ahead and say everything now.
She hasn't spoken much,
but I can tell that she's a teacher.
She may look quite difficult,
but she isn't like that at all.
We didn't think that way about her at all.
She has lived all her life for her family.
She finished her work around 2 to 3 a.m.
She does housework for 2 hours after that.
She has to clean up after the dogs.
She would sleep around 4 and get up at 6 a.m.
to cook breakfast for her children.
Since she is so busy taking care of everything,
she is nicknamed a general hospital.
She isn't so healthy.
She goes to more than 2 hospitals every week.
She made an appointment last week
because she had a severe headache.
The MRI showed that she has a vascular problem.
That's tough.
She once had an appendectomy.
So I went to see her the next day.
- But she already discharged herself. / - The next day?
You're supposed to rest for at least 3 days.
She was already working at the restaurant.
After a few days, her wound opened up
so she went through a hard time.
Did you know that your mother is ill?
Yes, I knew.
Since I work as well,
I get bloody noses often and migraines, too.
I fainted many times while working, too.
That doesn't mean it's okay that your mom is sick.
That's not it. It's just that I've been busy, too.
Listen up.
You really love your dogs, right?
But you need money to take care of them.
So in order to do so, you are busy with work.
You don't get to spend much time with them.
Your dogs grow up in the future.
You fed them top quality food,
but all your dogs say later that
they feel as though they were never loved.
It's not fair, right?
It's the same thing.
Your mom feels the same way.
Why do you work so much?
You have three jobs. Why is that?
I grew up watching my parents struggle with money.
It is my goal to earn money
while I'm young and live comfortably later.
That's why I try to save up money.
The society I saw wasn't easy.
On my payday, my family asks me for money.
I'm just money to my family.
My sister asks me for money, too.
It drives me crazy.
We were always short of money.
To me, it looks like she spends too much on the dogs.
I'm afraid she would spend too much of her money.
So you're taking care of her finances.
I wouldn't spend her money for myself.
I can take care of my finances well on my own.
I have many savings accounts.
She's worried over nothing?
This is what she told me once.
"I wish I could sleep all year long to rest."
I was shocked when I heard that.
How hard it must be for her to say that.
It is quite shocking for parents to hear that.
I told her to quit her jobs if it's too tough.
I told her, "I believe in you."
"Don't say things like that."
She just sighed and cried.
I was quite heartbroken to see that.
I went into my room and cried.
It's quite sad because we understand both of you.
This may look like a dog problem, but it's not.
You don't seem to be raising dogs
and working so hard because you have a goal.
You're just working hard to deny reality.
You seem to be heartbroken.
Are you happy with your life?
Not really.
I thought so.
What would you like to say to her?
I wish she would reduce her workload
and go to a public bath with me sometimes.
Talk to her directly.
I'd like to spend more time with you.
I want you to share your concerns with me,
the ones you can't share with dad.
I'll always love you.
Please, tell us what you think.
You think it's a concern.
This is a fact. If everyone here says bad things
to your mom,
I'm sure you will take your mom's side.
If everyone here badmouths you,
your mom will definitely take your side.
That won't change.
I think it's a concern, too.
I think it's a concern, too.
Making the dogs unhappy
in order for you to be happy
is a concern from your dogs' point of view.
Please press the button if you can relate to it.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Why don't you say a word to your mother?
Talk to her.
I will take the time to go shopping with you
and go to public baths with you.
I'll try to become a friendlier daughter.
How nice.
I will work harder.
That's great.
Why don't you take the dogs for a walk together?
Let's see how many votes they got.
Please show us the result.
"Dog problems."
It ends with "1."
It would be great if the dogs could talk.
It must be a great concern for them.
131 votes.
(They got 131 votes)
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