This woman is concerned because
of two men in her life.
My dream concern!
It's not what you think at all.
- It's very serious. / - "The Battle of Two Men."
Hello. I'm a housewife in my 30s who is
facing a crisis 8 years into our marriage.
My husband is very angry.
"Don't be mad, honey."
"No!
I'm so hurt.
I never want to see that face again."
The person that my husband doesn't want to see
is actually...
(Who is it?)
My father.
- His father-in-law. / - Yes.
This is terrible.
"Honey, my dad called."
"Stop talking about him! I don't want to hear it!"
My husband gets so angry whenever I talk about my dad
that I can't help but be cautious.
Ring, ring.
"Have you eaten?
Let me talk to my grandsons."
"Now is not a good time.
I'll call you back later."
"Is it because of your husband again?
Is he still angry?
Let me talk to him!"
I know what to do between the two of them.
That's not all. My husband said,
"Whenever I look at your face,
I am reminded of him.
I can't be with you. Let's get divorced."
How could he say that?
Could you please help the two make amends?
This is her concern.
Have you ever been in a bind between two people?
I have a guy friend and a girlfriend.
They ended up dating each other.
After they broke up,
I didn't know what to do with the two of them.
When two of my friends get in a fight
I get in between the two.
(An unexpected way of dealing with it)
I lie to them. They meet up to see if it's true.
Then they become friends again without me.
I turn into the bad guy.
I do that on purpose.
You sacrifice yourself for their friendship.
It's tough even when it's about two friends.
But this concern is between her husband
and her father.
Let's see what happened to them.
Please come on out.
(Who's stuck between the two men in her life?)
(Jeong Yurim)
(Welcome)
Please introduce yourself.
Hello.
I'm Jeong Yurim, the mother of 3 sons from Gimpo.
You have two children?
- Three sons. / - Three sons!
You must be full of energy.
How old are they?
8, 6 and 3 years old.
This is the toughest time for you.
(That must be tough)
Did your husband really say that to you
because of your father?
Yes. During Chuseok 3 months ago,
my husband and my dad talked.
What my father said hurt my husband's feelings.
So when he looks at me...
He says...
That he sees your dad.
You're so upset.
Of course it's upsetting for her.
Did they get along well before
and things went bad just 3 months ago?
How were the two of them before Chuseok?
My husband is a cheerful person,
so he would go out to drink with my dad.
They used to play tennis together, too.
So what happened?
What went wrong? Please tell us.
What happened 3 months ago?
I can't guess what it could be.
My father and my husband talked at a cafe.
My dad said that he doesn't need his son-in-law or
his grandsons and that I'm the only one that matters.
That hurt my husband's feelings.
Oh, sir.
He told his son-in-law that he doesn't need
his son-in-law? Only his daughter matters?
Yes. "My daughter is what matters to me most."
- Like that? / - The nuance...
How would you feel if your father-in-law said it?
I'd understand, but I'd be upset.
I would understand, too.
Of course it's natural for the father.
But did he have to say that out loud?
I think it was just an expression.
He was too blunt.
But not wanting to see his father-in-law
because of this is a bit strange.
Let's ask him directly.
Let's talk to the husband.
Hello.
- Hello. / - Nice to meet you.
Were you hurt because your father-in-law said that
he only cares about his daughter?
Something happened before that.
There was something else.
My wife gets obsessive sometimes.
Our youngest son is 31 months old.
He can't talk well.
But he doesn't have a speech disorder.
Some kids learn slowly.
But my wife got obsessive about it.
She suggested that he gets language treatment.
He was about 29 months old at the time.
I didn't think our son had a problem because
our eldest son learned to talk late, too.
I tried to talk her out of it and
got mad at her, but she didn't change her mind.
So I called her dad for help.
"She's turning him into a speech-impaired child."
- Your wife? / - Yes. So I asked for his help.
But he said, "Be patient."
At the time, I was so angry that
when he said that, I got even angrier.
So we went to a cafe during Chuseok to talk.
He told me,
"My daughter matters to me more.
My grandsons..."
Everyone's hurt.
They are both hurt by this.
He told me,
"I don't need my grandsons.
My daughter matters to me most.
You and your sons come next."
That's when I realized that
I'm not part of the family to him.
(I'm sure he didn't mean it...)
I thought, "Did he have to say that
he doesn't need his grandsons?"
I cried so much on the way home.
I saw how sincere he was in his eyes
so I was truly hurt.
He could've worded it differently.
"You and your sons are important,
but my daughter is even more important."
Then the husband wouldn't be hurt like this.
Saying that he doesn't need them
would be upsetting to hear.
But asking your wife for a divorce because
she reminds you of your father-in-law
is being too irresponsible.
I tried to stop myself and looked at my wife.
I saw my father-in-law's face in hers.
Since it kept repeating,
I couldn't help but take extreme measures.
I said, "Let's go our separate ways and
root for each other" because I was struggling.
Didn't you come here today
because you want to make amends
and be a happy family again?
I came here for 2 reasons.
First, I felt like if I stopped her from coming here,
she'd be too stressed out.
Second, I wanted to say my side of the story.
I wanted to talk about my feelings.
(How can we resolve this?)
Did you have any conflicts with her father
before this incident about your youngest son?
Her parents opposed our marriage.
We finally set the wedding date,
but this is what her dad told my mother.
"She got set up on another blind date."
So when your mother-in-law said that
were you there, too?
No. Only my mother was there.
(They expressed their opposition to their in-law)
(They shouldn't have said that...)
- Between in-laws? / - Yes.
I had to marry my wife,
so I talked to her about it.
"I think this wedding might get canceled.
Let's get pregnant first."
So we planned to get pregnant first.
Of course her parents got upset.
Our eldest didn't get their blessing.
Then she got pregnant again.
As you can see, she isn't too strong.
She had a miscarriage.
My father-in-law said to me,
"Don't have any more children."
I was sad from losing my child, too.
How could he commandingly ask me to do that?
Oh gee.
From what I've heard so far,
this started way before Chuseok.
It started before they got married.
It's his 70th birthday in 2 years.
I don't think he'll want me there anyway
I just want to keep formalities as a family.
(He just wants to keep formalities with them)
(Then what about your wife?)
My parents live in Geojae-do
and we live in Gimpo.
He video calls to see our sons,
so I try to make sure my husband isn't there.
I try to avoid letting him know.
Even if I force my husband
to go see my family on holidays
he wouldn't be able to keep a straight face.
So I figured that it's better if he doesn't go.
I have something to say about that.
I never made her do that.
I never made her call him when I'm not there.
She did that all on her own.
It's a guilty conscience.
Since she knows how much you hate him,
so she's trying to be more cautious.
Your father calls to see his grandsons,
but he said that he doesn't need them.
That means he never meant it.
When we visit him in Geojae-do,
he takes pictures of them and makes video clips.
(Getting emotional)
(How will I resolve this misunderstanding?)
This concern is the most serious for her.
You know that, right?
Yes, I do.
That's why she's getting so emotional.
We understand.
(Upset)
When your sons grow up and ask you,
"Why don't you go see Grandpa?
Why don't you go when we go?"
What would you tell them?
I haven't thought that far ahead yet.
I went through the same thing.
My mom never went to see
my dad's family on holidays.
It always felt uncomfortable.
I think it negatively affects the kids.
Sure.
You never asked her?
I just stayed quiet.
(What?)
You kept it inside your heart?
(Giriboy is a rapper who doesn't say much)
(He's very unique)
Don't you want to make amends?
Couldn't you have told him how you felt?
I guess I never wanted to make the first move.
- You? / - Yes.
I didn't want to get hurt anymore.
- You avoided him? / - Yes.
You wouldn't know because you only have sons,
but I have a daughter.
One day, she'll introduce me
to her boyfriend.
I get aggravated just thinking about it.
Really?
I don't care who her boyfriend is.
I would oppose the relationship anyway.
Now that I think about it,
when I first went to meet my wife's parents,
my father-in-law just glared at me.
Really?
(Hmm...)
I guess all dads are like that.
Do you understand now?
No, because I don't have a daughter.
That's why I'm telling you this.
Everybody expresses their feelings differently.
If you know that he never meant what he said,
- you could make amends. / - Yes.
That is why we finally...
- He's here? / - Really?
Her father is here with us today.
It's been a long time for him.
Let's bring him out.
Where are you?
(Nervous)
(Her father made the effort to come)
(His lips are drying up)
Oh my.
(Comforting his son-in-law)
(Is this how he really feels?)
(Meeting each other here has brought them closer)
Have a seat, sir.
He burst into tears when her father came out.
I'm glad you came here today. Thank you.
When he reached out and patted him,
the son-in-law...
It's heartbreaking for the son-in-law.
I'm sure he regrets not reaching out first.
He probably has many mixed feelings.
(Upset)
Hello, sir.
- Please say hello. / - Hello.
How long has it been since you've seen him?
I last saw him on Chuseok.
How does it feel to see him again?
I feel bad for him. How else would I feel?
It's been a long time. Take a good look.
(Patting him)
Look at your father-in-law.
Yes.
(It's not easy for him to calm down)
After he talked to you,
your son-in-law cried a lot on the way home.
He was...
Before I met him that day,
I had talked a lot with my daughter.
She told me a lot of her worries.
As a mother, she has a lot to take care of.
Now, she is also worried about her youngest.
I don't think he has a disability...
Some kids learn slowly.
Watching my daughter wasting away day by day
was tearing my heart apart.
(It was tearing his heart apart)
(He was worried that his daughter was depressed)
I suggested that she see a psychiatrist.
It must've been quite serious.
That's why she mattered most to me that day.
But how could I say that
I don't need my grandsons
or my son-in-law?
Because...
(You're denying saying that?)
(Why did I cry?)
Since he was having a hard time, too,
he could've misunderstood me
when I meant to say something else.
He could've misinterpreted what you said...
Right. He could've misinterpreted my words.
- You admit you said something similar? / - Yes.
You never meant to say that you don't need them?
No, I never meant to say that.
Husband.
He said that he never meant it that way.
I'm sorry but could I have some tissues?
Tissues?
(Use this!)
He offered his handkerchief.
(He gives his handkerchief to his son-in-law)
We don't have any tissues.
I can't blow my nose with this.
Do it. I can wash it later.
- Blow your nose. / - Sure.
- Don't dab it. / - Blow your nose.
Blow out all your grudges.
Did you know about her postpartum depression?
I didn't know at first.
(That's why I talked to you on Chuseok...)
I thought she was just being sensitive.
I didn't think she was depressed.
Since my parents opposed our marriage,
I wanted to raise our children better than anyone.
That's why
I started to get obsessive.
Then my father told me that I was the problem.
- Your father? / - I had an epiphany.
When I start to think that my kids have problems,
I talk to myself.
"No. This is your illness.
They'll be fine once you get better."
So I don't think my kids have problems anymore.
I remind myself that it's my problem.
(I'm sorry...)
When she got pregnant after the miscarriage,
did you tell him not to have any more kids?
Would I have said that?
I was upset...
(Their relationship is mysterious)
Your karma...
I told him how upset I was.
As you can see, she is so skinny.
After the childbirth, she finally started to
walk again and then got pregnant again. I was upset.
But you never said not to have any more kids?
How could I say that when she was pregnant again?
I said, "Why did you get pregnant so fast?"
Look at your son-in-law. He's shaking his head.
He said that afterwards.
While we were drinking.
I think you should come back again next week.
(Please stop)
Were you upset when she brought him home?
He didn't have a stable job then.
I had to look at his qualifications.
Of course.
He knows this already.
At the time, she had a boyfriend
who was working at a major corporation.
(Why are you bringing that up?)
That's why I didn't accept him at first.
But I never opposed him again after that.
My son-in-law is the best.
After I made my decision, of course he's the best.
(Not satisfied)
He won you over even though you were taken.
That's awesome.
- May I say something? / - Sure.
She actually had a boyfriend.
She told me she was single.
(Did you have to say that?)
That's why it was messy.
While I was dating her,
she kept getting calls from him.
You two were meant to be together.
You don't have to bring that up now.
She's yours now.
(Stay tuned to watch the end of this drama)
Because my parents opposed our marriage,
I think he always wanted to
prove himself to them.
For example, for my dad's 70th birthday,
he's looking to hire celebrities to gain favor.
I know how he feels,
so I'm trying to be more understanding.
I couldn't withstand repeated attacks.
I tried to be strong, but I was hurt.
Sure. Everyone gets hurt.
Please understand that
it's been hard for your son-in-law
because you opposed their marriage at first.
I'm sure I did show
I was unhappy with him at times.
I do admit that's true.
You're a cool guy.
(He admitted to his faults)
(Will they make amends now?)
Please say how you feel now.
Hold his hand as you say it.
My lovely son-in-law Gyeongmo.
(He reaches to his son-in-law first)
(We hope the son sees his sincerity)
My lovely son-in-law Gyeongmo.
Look at his face.
Yurim.
How many more years do you think I'll live?
10 years? 20 years?
Depending on the person's perspective,
meaningless words could
hurt each other's feelings.
I am saddened by this whole thing.
We've built a wall between us until now
because we didn't talk it out.
I think this is our opportunity
to work things out between us.
So...
(Looking at his son-in-law)
Gyeongmo.
Let's work things out one by one.
Let's put everything behind us now.
Even if!
You can't understand us...
(Please stop talking)
(The drama has not ended...)
No, no. He understands.
- You understand, right? / - Sure.
I hope you two work things out.
All right.
Are you still mad at your father-in-law
like you were in the beginning?
Is your anger gone now?
Yes, it's mostly gone now.
Now...
I feel bad about how I acted.
How nice.
(He took a roundabout way)
(And finally understood his father-in-law's sincerity)
(He finally opened up his heart!)
You opposed him at first,
but tell us some good aspects about him.
There are so many.
When he comes over to our house
or when we visit his place,
he asks us to watch their sons
so that they can go see a movie.
I gladly said yes.
(He has great acting skills)
Gyeongmo has great acting skills.
- That was supposed to be my strength? / - Yes.
Please tell us one more.
He isn't satisfied yet.
He is energetic
and handsome.
(Teehee)
He loves my daughter very much.
Do you feel better now?
(Smile)
He smiled.
Could you tell us
how your father-in-law was good to you?
As you can see,
he is a kind man.
He says, "You two work so hard.
Leave the kids to us and go on a date."
But he said that as my strength,
so I was perplexed.
(Sly)
One more.
When my mother-in-law was upset with me,
he was the one who defended me.
Would you like to go back to how it was before?
Yes.
(Let's work on it together)
You'll turn 70 in 2 years.
How would you feel if he isn't at your party?
Why would I need to party then?
I'll just stay home and eat seaweed soup.
Sure. It's absurd.
At the 70th birthday party
you wanted to hire celebrities to perform.
We'll go and perform.
(Surprised)
(How great!)
For whom are you going to the party?
For the son-in-law?
For the son-in-law.
- If he asks you to perform? / - Of course!
But you won't be at the party, right?
What?
You won't be there.
- Me? / - Yes.
Why not?
You were upset by what he said to you.
Me?
(Look at how sly he is!)
Under one condition.
When we perform at the party
you must carry your father-in-law on your back
and dance to our song!
Of course I will do that.
(Happy)
You got celebrities to perform at the party.
You think everyone is happy now,
but her father might be wishing that
you don't show up looking like this.
Having cans in our hair.
(Thank you)
Call out to him and talk to him.
Look into his eyes.
(They look more natural now)
I think I should be the one
to call you first
and resolve any misunderstandings we have.
I'll try to be a kinder son-in-law to you.
I love you.
(Happy)
Look at how happy he looks.
Thank you.
(Let's try to be more understanding)
Please say a word to your wife, too.
I wish she came here, too.
I'll go tell her what we talked about.
There's no need.
She can watch it on television.
She doesn't watch this program.
(Oh my)
Sir! I understand how your son-in-law feels.
You're a bit mean when you speak.
We get it now!
He could've said, "She goes to bed early."
But he said, "She doesn't watch this program."
Now you know how I feel, right?
Now you know what I'm talking about?
(I love my father-in-law)
That's how he talks.
Sir! You opened up your son-in-law's heart
and closed ours.
When your mother-in-law says upsetting things
don't assume that it's because
she doesn't like you.
You're a witty guy.
"I'll be better." Be sly.
She will be happy to see you do that, too.
There's an old saying.
"Mother-in-law's money is her son-in-law's."
(Where was that saying from?)
- What? / - That's an old saying?
I made it up.
Thank you, mother-in-law.
You have my money, right, mother-in-law?
It would be all yours.
Say something to your mother-in-law.
I'm sorry.
I hope we can become a family
that can resolve any conflicts
that we face.
I heard that
your knees hurt a lot.
Take good care of your health.
I'll come to see you soon. I love you.
(This is so nice)
How does it feel to see your father
and your husband sit together like this?
I love it.
Thank you for opening up your heart.
I'm sorry that I wasn't able
to comfort you when you were hurt.
Dad, thank you so much
for coming here today.
- You went through a lot. / - Good work.
I only thought about myself.
I will work hard to become a kind husband
who looks after you first.
Have faith in me for the rest of our lives.
I love you.
Let's start with Seol Ina.
I don't think it's a concern
because it's been resolved now.
I think this incident can become
a strong foundation to become a happy family.
I think it was a great opportunity for you all
to confirm your love for each other.
I don't think it's a concern
because he opened his heart right away.
I think it's a beautiful concern.
If you can relate to her concern,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Please stop.
Please show us the result.
(The last digit is a 6)
(Did they get over 100 votes?)
Did they get over 100 votes?
(What's the result?)
96 votes.
(They got 96 votes)
It is titled, "Should I End Our Marriage?"
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