Live Today With Passion - Eckhart Tolle: "Talking about past and future and excessive emphasis on past and future in
your life yes of course you need to have it there's nothing wrong with having a
certain intention of what you want to achieve take steps towards it it's a
it's part of living here in this dimension you can't just say I'm never
going to plan anything anymore just take life as it comes well some
people try to do that but they're not that happy either after a while
so if then your life will get very diffused and so to have an intention to
have to make a plan perfectly fine watching either a short-term plan like
I'm going to meet you tomorrow at 4 o'clock how would you ever meet anybody
if we didn't have time and and future in a practical level of course it's needed
the question is where the future takes over your mind being able to use it for
practical purposes it will cause great but I call it clock time is fine but
psychological time is when future takes over your mind and your entire sort
patterns are geared only towards future and you treat the present moment as
either just a means to an end because enables you to get to the next one
you're always reaching out so to speak internally to the next yet never quite
here always looking for some fulfillment there so you can never embrace the
fullness of now all you make them go into even an enemy some people are
always unhappy you perhaps we all know some one or two people like that 3 ha ha
ha ha we all who are wherever they are they're complaining is never quite right
wherever they are or whoever they are ways after a little while they're very
uncomfortable again there should be somewhere else you know the bumper
sticker that you see in some cars in various versions of it so I'd rather be
golfing and then another one says I'd rather be fishing I'd rather be this I'd
rather be there when I visited the the spiritual teacher Ram Dass who lives in
Hawaii he has a bumper sticker Ramdas was
person who in the 70s wrote the book B and now that anyway he has a bumper
sticker on his car that says I'd rather be here now so and and then you realize
you can actually you can still pursue whatever an intent where you want to get
to a plan I called it it's a bit like a journey your life is a journey you're
going you know you want to go from here to there whether you're going to get
there we don't know maybe on the way you'll branch out to somewhere else but
at least you have a certain direction it's good to have some direction in your
life but while you are traveling if the that your destination takes up most of
your attention and you're continuously focusing on there you miss all the
journey really you can't enjoy the journey anymore and most of your life is
the journey the arriving is relatively rare the wedding ah
and a few more graduation haha but so those moments are not that fine feel
between so the rest is the journey and if you can't enjoy the journey which
means the step you are taking at this moment it's really the most important
thing yes of course you know you're going that way but this step is still to
be enjoyed because it's ultimately your whole life consists of the step you are
taking at this moment that is never anything else but to make the actual
making of a film the day-to-day go into work the construction of them there's
always been my favorite thing I like making it feel much more I like watching
them I do and even once I'm in I really love to coming together with a whole
bunch of people having an idea on paper and everyone's got everyone's an expert
at what they do and your and you're off on the show you've got ideas but then
you just let them do let it let it go and see what it can become
I love the making that's when I'm happiest is when I'm making a film or
telling the stories the day to day and more so than wants to really the mean
look I kind of define that for myself about four years ago
process product you stay in process head down in process stay in your bubble and
when it's over be that fulfillment notice when I started noticing that
fulfillment of it I just finished well that's enough that's it I don't know if
this thing I don't know if it's even coming out I don't even know I don't
know what it's going to turn in man I hope I hope we got it and I hope the
director put something good together but I don't know nothing I can do about that
all I know is this experience that I go have the experience my time and if I can
love this experience and at the end of it I'm like may never even hear that
film again may never even know that story again it may be gone we find out
that all the negatives cut fried the x-ray machine there is no film but I've
got to be that's ok I had an experience when I got selfish for that for that
experience when I got that process enjoying that process the day to day
architecture of making a movie in creating role that's that's what I've
been the happiest and more results have come that way in an odd way you know but
I just saw when I started really approached them as this is a finite
thing and this is just that experience other than that I'm not producing this
thing I'm not the one editing thing I don't know what it's going to be that's
it and then all of a sudden they come out and go oh I think he's got a good
one most people don't even make a resolution anymore why because they've
made him from years and years and years and they know they're not going to
follow through so after a while who wants to disappoint yourself who wants
to be upset with yourself why even bother to set a new standard for this
year you know it's going to be the same as last year if you're the kind of
person watching this right now and you've actually opened a female and you
haven't shut me off already then obviously that's not you so the question
is you know what is it that makes us even want to make a resolution
interesting question why is it at the beginning of the year we have this
tradition but it goes beyond tradition it's something inside of us that makes
us want to make things better and I think part of it is the calendar gives
us idea that we can have a fresh start that
we can it start from fresh and have this great victory and it's really the
calendar itself is quite arbitrary it's wonderful to use it but if you didn't
use it effectively let's use the calendar to serve you today
let's just see what does it really take to make this thing happen because
there's no denying that inside of you the only thing that's going to make you
happy and the you're adding the decades ahead it's going to be having you have
an experience where on a regular basis you feel like your life is making
progress there's one thing I teach and I want to remind you of it it's really
simple things getting things is not going to make you happy good news in a
tough economy it's a good reminder you know doesn't matter what you get doesn't
matter whether it be money or opportunity all those things might
excite you for the moment you know even a relationship as magnificent it may be
might be exciting for a while but if you don't keep growing that relationship
isn't going to stay exciting so the secret to real happiness is progress
progress equals happiness in if we can make progress on a regular basis we feel
alive and that's why at the beginning of the year we get this thing like okay I
can have this fresh start I could really do what my soul desires I could expand I
could grow I could improve I could change or maybe better than change I
could progress see think about that progress as an aliveness to it doesn't
it you have to work at changing people say all the time that allow I'm working
on changing don't worry about it he wants to work on changing changes
automatic your body is going to change whether you want it or not as the years
go by no matter how hard you work there's going to be some changes going
on there the economy is going to change no matter what you want it to do the
weather is going to change relationships are going to change everything in life
is always changing we have to work on change change is automatic but progress
is not so if you want to make real progress then you really got to look at
your life in a different way you got to say I got to take control of this
process and not just hope that's going to work out like people do who make a
resolution this really isn't what they're really doing at the beginning of
the year they're saying well here's my resolutions for the year and they really
basically tell you their wishes it's their wish list it's what they hope it
all comes together and then they call it a resolution but they don't know what a
resolution is when you resolve something to have a resolution as to resolve
when you've resolved this is how it's going to be that's when you cut off any
possibility except the thing you've committed to it's like the old adage if
you want to take the island you burn the boats so when you burn those boats
there's no going back you're going to find a way to make things work and most
people they're stating what they hope will come together and if it doesn't
happen then they're disappointed but they're not too disappointed because
they're not too vested what does it take to successfully create a lasting change
in your life to not only have a new year's resolution you follow through on
but really have a lasting change well the first step for lasting change is
very much like making a new year's resolution fundamentally it's the same
the first step is you got to have a vision a vision for what it is you
really truly want not what you think you want or what you should have I mean what
are most people's New Year's resolutions I'm going to stop eating sugar you know
I'm going to stop smoking I'm going to lose 10 pounds probable that is it's not
very inspiring for most people you know it's not telling you what you're going
to get it's only what you're not going to do and it's kind of hard to have you
move forward with that a vision is about what you're here to
create a vision that really works is one that excites you if you say well my you
know my resolution my goal my outcome for this month this week this year is to
lose X number of pounds that's ok but it's not very compelling it has to be a
compelling vision it's gotta have something has the power to pull you not
something you have to push yourself to do well the two different kinds of
motivation push requires willpower and willpower never laughs what will last is
pull having something so exciting so attractive so something to desire so
much that you have a hard time going to sleep at night and get so up early in
the morning to rock it and take it to the next level that's what you're
looking at great that wasn't easy to get but one of the reasons we do seminars
and events and saying you know why do that why isn't why not just read a book
or something is because when you get in an environment where you're with people
that are being split in a peak state like when you're going to a sporting
event if you watch the sporting event at home it might have a certain level of
excitement but when you're in a stadium with 50,000 people suddenly it has a
whole different level of intensity when we feel that in the bottom line of our
follow-through comes down to our emotional
intensity in a different state of mind you're going to come up with a much
better and more exciting vision than if you're sitting the couch going okay what
are my new resolutions for this year and you're doing it the morning after the
year started and you're little inebriated and the football games on in
the background probably not going to have the power of focus they're probably
not going to power the energy to create something that's going to pull you for
this year and you got to do that so it's got to be a vision that's compelling
something that you know it's going to be a gift to make sure that it happens and
also along with that compelling vision you got to have strong enough reasons
that you're going to follow through when the going gets tough that's one of the
biggest things missing for most people they say this is what I want to do it's
not very exciting it's not very compelling but most importantly they
don't have strong enough reasons to push themselves through what's going to be
necessary to get that dream to get that goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you're starving hungry and you're trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time you're stressed out and you haven't worked out still that's what
you're supposed to do when the economy gets tight and what you thought you're
going to do it doesn't work and so you give up on the goal instead of finding
another way to get there you don't let the fear take you over if you've got
strong enough reasons those reasons can be positive or those reasons can also be
negative they can be if I don't do this it's going to cost me and if I do to
this this is what I'm going to gain in my life
reasons come first answers come second if you get a compelling vision and you
got strong enough reasons that will push you through the tough times you're going
to do things other people don't do instead of collapsing even if you get
off target you won't go oh I blew it you'll get right back on target make the
change make things happen and I know you've done this in many areas your life
just think about it again I'm not teaching something really new here today
I just want to remind you what your soul knows you got to change you got to be
proved and you've got to go through a simple process fundamentally to make
that progress first step vision this compelling second step make sure that
they're strong enough reason to follow through third step you got to review it
and feel it every day I mean anything have you ever had this happen in your
life has there been anything in your life that you've ever wanted so badly
you were so desirous of it yeah it's such a hunger for it that you couldn't
stop thinking about it could been a career move
when you're a kid a car it could have been a relationship it could have been
anything but you were obsessed you wanted to make this happen you wanted to
track this to your life you wanna you just wanted something and you didn't
even know how to get it but it was so compelling to you thinking about it
every day and visioning imagining it feeling it and then stuff happened and
suddenly you started attract people or situations to your life and it just came
together like you didn't even have a total plan it was just that it was so a
part of your focus with so much intensity and emotion so often that it
sensitize you to notice anything that could get you there there's a part of
your brain called the reticular activating system for short we call it
the RAS that part of your brain determines what you notice in the world
and it's really important because when you set a goal when you get really clear
on a vision they're strong enough reasons and you review it enough it
becomes a part of you that part of your brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice like did you ever buy a certain kind of car or maybe a certain
outfit and suddenly you see that car everywhere those outfits everywhere you
know the cars were always around but why do you see it now because your Ras know
this is important this is part of my world map similarly when you really get
clear and it's compelling and you're reviewing it every day
got strong reasons you're viewing it every day and you're feeling it the
brain becomes incredibly acute at noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that's the power of this so you know what do people do with New
Year's resolutions they come up with something they kind of want it's not a
compelling vision they don't really have strong enough reasons and they never
review it again until the notice that they broke what they said they really
want to have make happen because they didn't really resolve if you resolved
you got the vision it's compelling you review it daily and you feel it you
envision it and you experience it simple as it sounds now ultimately what is this
really about ultimately if you're going to have lasting change in anything
you're really talking about just raising your standards and I always tell people
do you want to know how to change your life that give it to you in three words
boring as it sounds raise your standards what does that mean
corny as it sounds raise your standards well thank you for the breakthrough
thought Tony I'm glad I wasted my time watching this little email with you but
think about it lasting change is different than a goal
you don't always get your goals but you always get your standards maybe they'll
help you is to think about it this way I try to explain standards to people with
a different set of words think of it as everybody in life gets their must they
don't get their shit right think about it most people of a list of shoulds no
they don't journalist up the shoulds things you should do you should follow
through on I I should lose some weight I should work out more I should make more
calls I should respond more rapidly to my email whatever you know I should get
into the office earlier I should be you know more confident whatever your should
list is people love to have their should list make the net but it's kind of like
New Year's resolutions if it does it's really exciting but if it doesn't which
is most the time it's a little disappointing but you kind of know it's
not going to happen but when you decide something as a must for you an absolute
must when you cut off any possible you say I'm going to find the way I'm going
to make the way human beings when they resolve things and they have make a real
resolution inside themselves which is they raise the standard they make it a
must they find the way think about in your own life happens you had some area
of your life where you raise your standard and your life has never been
the same maybe at one time your life you use smoke cigarettes or you did
something and you did it for years and you kept trying to change it trying to
change it and kept telling yourself I should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you said no more there was a very very
different experience wasn't it something inside you shifted and what was a should
became a must and you've never gone back is there an area like that in your life
you could think of again we ever smoked cigarettes did you ever eat a certain
way drink a certain form of alcohol then finally saying no more and you just
don't go back and notice this it doesn't really take any willpower anymore
because somewhere when we make this click we make something a must we attach
ourselves to it it becomes part of our identity the one thing I've learned in
the last gosh 33 years I work on people from now over 100 countries four million
people is human beings absolutely follow through on who they believe they are and
you say said to me well I'm really going to work hard to stop smoking
but you know I've been a smoker my whole life and I'm you know I am a smoker I
know your days are numbered you're going to be back smoking cigarettes again
because we all act consistent with who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who is really conservative you're not going
to be crazy and act nuts unless you're really drunk or something and then you
can say it's the alcohol when it really does you finally getting permission to
be yourself the alcohol is your excuse if you're a really crazy person you act
crazy outrageous playful you don't have conservative because that's not who you
are very often people say well I can't do that I'm not that kind of person and
I always say to people really when did you define yourself I mean really how
many years ago did you come up with what you could and couldn't do in your life
how many years ago most people if they look at how they're living your life
today it's based on a set of standards a set of beliefs that they made choices
about 10 20 30 or more years ago I mean very often we made decisions in our
youth or very young about what to believe about what we were capable of
about who we are as a person and that becomes the glass ceiling if you will
that controls us there's a corny metaphor but it's true I remember one
time I was with my family at the circus and there's a person there and they had
this big giant elephant and you look at this elephant and they take this little
rope put around that opens neck and they drive the stake into the ground and I
mean you look at this you know that elephant could rip down the entire tent
with almost no effort and yet the elephant doesn't struggle doesn't try
why could the elephants conditions and they take that elephant condition the
elephant when it's a baby elephant that's how they train them when it's a
little bitty elephant it doesn't have the power yet they put a big rope around
it and they drive this huge stake in the ground and elephant fights and fights
and fights and one day finally that elephant decides I'm not capable oiling
this out and once that becomes the definition of an identity of any one an
elephant in this case they don't even try anymore
it's just who I am that's how it is that's just the way it is in my life I'd
like to ask you to take a look at any place you've got a limitation ask
yourself when and I decide to accept that limitation
and you may not even see it as a limitation you might see they're just
that's who I am but so often in our lives we've adapted to be a certain way
so that we don't fail or so that people will like us or respect us but it's not
necessarily who we are joy comes when you're spontaneous it's really hard to
be truly happy when you're not being yourself and most of us have no clue who
we are and so a big part of my work if you've ever been to an event you know is
to get people using spontaneously without thinking because that's when the
real you shows up that's when the energy comes alive and when you do that when
you start to connect your true nature suddenly there's energy available for
you to set a higher standard for what you want in your life that's what this
is really all about and when I talk about standards when I talk about you
know shoulds versus must think about your own life I know there have been
areas in your life where some point in time you just shift it and you raise the
standard in your life change because whatever people have their identity
attached to they live we live who we believe we are that's just how it works
it's just kind of like I give an example look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you're an athlete then there's a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that's available in your body on a regular
basis because that's who you are if you do whatever is necessary to
maintain that identity again the strongest force and the human
personality this need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves because if
you don't know who you are you would know how to act once you lock in on that
identity your brain finds a way to keep you there if you say you know man I'm
overweight I've always been overweight I'm big-boned and that's the story
you've got then you're going to always find a way to get back there that's
you're settling point that's your identity that's where things walk in if
you see somebody who's a really great shape you ask him do you work out you
know the answer yes how often and okay three times four times five times a week
whatever in a seminar last people who here
works out at least five days a week and I'm stand-up and you look around that
room and you know if they work out five times a week as you can see their body
you don't just get a result without some kind of action without some form of
ritual ritual meaning actions you do consistently
now if you think you know those people that are out there working out five days
a week do they have more time than you do or I have for anybody else of course
not is it a wife less busy of course not it's just a must for them they must work
out that way and they've made that turn their life changed so I'm not saying you
have to work out five days a week I'm just saying whatever you really want
once don't get met consistently standards do whatever you identify this
is Who I am and so it's not so much about changing your identity as there's
expanding it you know deciding that you know instead of your goals to lose ten
pounds which is not compelling what if your vision was to get back to my
fighting weight you know just this year this month this next 90 days I'm going
to transform my body I'm going to take on a new challenge I'm going to find
some technique or strategy there's a million of them that can reframe myself
where I want to feel younger stronger more vibrant than ever before here's my
reasons because I want the energy to really make my life work because it's
tough out there and I want to be stronger than I've ever been before I
want to go in front of mirror if I'm naked not you know want to laugh I will
look there and take a good look and go yeah mental basics that if you start to
shift it everything else will shift in your life as well some people by the way
have to have more than enough money to do what they want when they want where
they want with whomever they want contribute the way they want is that
their monthly find a way I know that sounds overly simplistic but it's true
now somebody once said you can take all the money in the world out of the hands
of everybody out of all the wealthy people in the world who are really
successful given other people it wouldn't take too long those people have
it back in their hands it's not because they're manipular it's because they have
a standard some are manipulative L get me wrong but they've got a standard of
what they're going to find a way to make happen I'm just simply saying to you
take those three magic words and live them raise your standard if you really
want to do it then I'll tell you the most important secret have you ever done
this have you ever told yourself you're raised you're saying okay I'm going to
go make this happen I'm going to go make this much money I'm going to transform
my kids I'm create the ultimate relationship of my
life I'm going to transform my body whatever it is and then you don't have
strong enough reasons and you know little views it you don't follow through
it's because you didn't back up your standards with what makes those
standards real and that's rituals rituals or what the power is whenever we
do our Robbins results coaching and we could Robbins equals results we get
results with people it's the same way if you listen to my ultimate edge
programmer back in the old days personal power or if you went to one of my
seminars you know what I do is I take these huge challenges you got and we
break them down into little bite-sized steps little things you do each day that
after you do them you get so much momentum that it's easy to succeed
you're not overwhelmed you have these victory day after day after day on
little things if you want to ultimate edge I'm sure you learned about the hour
of power or the 15 minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30 minutes to thrive
where you literally just conditioned your body and emotion with a couple of
the rituals so doesn't matter what's going on in your world you feel that
strength and it's not fake it's not some pump up it's coming from inside you and
it works rituals define us see all the results in your life are coming from
your rituals they start with a standard and then have rituals that follow it up
like for example if you are where you want to be physically you have very
different rituals than if you're not where you want to be physically if
you're overweight you and I both know you got a different ritual than if
you're physically fit completely different you get up in the morning
what's the first thing you do if you're fit your shoes are there you roll over
the minute how you feel you put on their shoes you lace and you start walking or
whatever that ritual is if you're overweight you roll over and you'll have
a very different ritual you might roll over several times the turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha mocha whatever you know special coffee
you stop by at Starbucks over the case maybe you have your nice sugar muffin
you know it's supposed to be really nice for you whatever you do it's a different
ritual if you have a great passionate relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if you have a lousy relationship you come
home the first thing you do is you're tweeting somebody or you're emailing or
flipping on the news or you don't even come home what are the rituals whenever
I study people that are successful well I look for is what
standard they hold himself to and then what are all those little ritual that up
because think about it success and failure are not giant events they don't
just show up you don't just suddenly become successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail they look that way but failure comes
from all the little things its failure to make the call its failure to check
the books its failure to say I'm sorry if scale your to push yourself to do
things physically that you don't want to do and all those little failures day
after day come together until one day some Cataclysm if it happens you blame
that that event happened because you missed all the little stuff do you agree
with me and success by the way is not some overnight event it's all these
little things success is having a vision success is making it compelling success
is really seeing and feeling it every day with strong enough reasons success
he is feeling the sense that I'm here to grow I'm here to give something to the
world more than just myself success is caring about other people success is
calling and saying I love you in the middle of day for no damn reason or
sending a note that will change your relationship have a ritual of something
funny playful or a surprise you do how many relationships are dead today
because they have no surprise rituals anymore
you need to have some rituals and cool things you do that nobody else does that
gives you a better life than anybody else has all the little stuff that's
where success comes from in business it comes from delivering more than anybody
could imagine all those little things add up people go wow that's who I want
to do business with it's true in any area of your life so if you look at
somebody's really successful in you think wow I mean they're so amazing
there's such a genius you got to dig underneath you got to remember something
people are rewarded in public for what they practice for years in private
myself and my business people say oh you get up and speaking of nono-chan you go
for three days and nights and the room is like she's wired it's incredible if I
go rock concert how do you do that how do you have that confidence at all and
you know it's not confident that's experienced now but I did so much behind
the scenes and I still do to make things right I mean how many people would know
that since the time I was 17 years old before I walk on him stay
school due to this day wouldn't need to do it I still do it I never walk out
there without being in an absolute peak state of mind you know there days my
back is hurting my throat is hurting or I may have a challenger my father passed
away and I've still got to deliver for these people because my standard is give
my all every time everything has to be better talk to anybody has been to
events for five ten years some of our trainers Emma's a I don't know he does
it he's always finds a way to make it better that's not an Eagle thing that's
a standard in name I have to find the way and my ritual though is I prepare I
think I got the new information I figure out how to put something across better
what do people need I spend time with our customers I see what's going on and
before I get on state each time I just a little ritual to put myself in a state
of mind and I did it starting like seventeen years old I started doing it I
now command my subconscious mind and I say this out loud several times this
little phrase that' phrases as an incantation to kind of condition my mind
and body in that saying now command my subconscious mind to direct me and
helping as many people as possible today I give me the strength and the emotion
and the humor and the brevity whatever it takes to show this person and help
this person change their life now and I started that with a person when I work
with people one on one I will do that for 45 minutes driving in my Volkswagen
to go serve and coach somebody for the first time now I don't say that person I
say these people and I can go out in the room of 10,000 people and deliver 450
hours and I do it every time I come back onstage it's a ritual a ritual to go
into peak stay peak space don't just show up and only interrupt you great
ideas only the refuse got to pursue them I talked to Michael Jordan I'll never
forget at the peak of his career and got to watch his final game saw him
backstage and spent some time with them and there's pretty exciting time you
face basketball players I think that ever lived and has ever lived and I
asked them I say you know what sets you apart Michael you know what is it and is
it god-given talent ability skill what does it mean to tell me you know so I
can shoot you straight you know it's not you know me trying to act humble he goes
I have a lot of talent god-given town a lot of skill I worked really hard but he
said really it's nice to Anders is it every day I demand more for myself than
anybody else could humanly expect I'm not competing with somebody else
all I'm capable of hmm magic formula because most of us lower our standards
why because who you spend time with my friends would you become one of the
biggest reasons I started go to seminars when I was like 17 as I had nobody
around me is a great role model I could read about somebody but being around
people being in that environment is very different finding way to go to work with
someone who lived that standard of life was very different you get around people
with low standards and you compete with it you don't need to compete with it
it's like okay I mean remember Jerry Springer I know if he's still in the air
but you know I've never used to get people on the show I thought where would
he find these people and why would people watch I'll tell you why they
watch they watch these people my life so pretty darn good compare that person
look at them you don't have to change your life all you have to do is find
somebody with a lower standard you'll feel good about yourself but if you feel
that good feeling it's an illusion the only thing that's going to make you
happy my milliseconds hundreds of a second he pushed himself just beyond its
competitor but you know about Michael Phelps would allow them to be able to
push beyond that moment is its rituals go study the guy most people who swim
have these unbelievable workouts he does two and three of the workout sessions a
day all the other swimmers in the beginning thought he was insane if
you're over trained you can't do that it's not physically possible but he had
a standard and the rituals to back it up so here's my final message to you
because I've gotten carried away I was going to send you like a five-minute
message but you can see there's no script here it's just me going crazy
with you but I want to really see you get what you want this year don't let
this year be like last and if last year was great still don't let it be that way
raise the standard if your life is perfect and extraordinary you darn well
know you're not going to be happy unless you keep making it better that's what
makes us feel life it's not what we get that make us happy it's who we become
and what we're able to give because we become more that sense of contribution
is what creates the deepest meaning so here's my assignment for if you want one
if you want to go from conversation to some action your simple thing to do
what's the nearer your life right now that you really want improve what's an
area that's important to improve if your body is great how about your career
career is great about your relationship intimate one especially or your kids or
your relationship with your Creator spiritual side of your life or is it
your finances figuring area that really matters decide
on that area number one write down what your life is like in that area right now
specifically as possible so you might say well I'm 13.5 pounds overweight you
know whatever the weight is whether the situation is or my body fat like this or
I'm wake up exhausted in the morning and you write the truth of where you are
right now so you're real clear or I'm not in a
relationship I say I want a relationship but I I'm not in one I don't seem to
find them all the good ones seem to be gone is my belief you know and I really
do want one but I don't have it whatever your definition well I'm in a
relationship and god I wish I wasn't in a relationship I'm planning my escape
wherever you are or I have a wonderful relationship we love each other but
there just isn't enough passion just like the truth of where you are the area
you want to change but right how it is and then the second step is that's where
you got to be really honest with yourself what are the rituals that have
put me there because whatever results you're getting even if you don't like
the results there's some rituals that are keeping you in that place there's
some rituals of what you eat or don't eat how you move or don't move how you
sleep or hopefully there's some rituals and the lack of variety or spice or
energy or focus in an area there's something you're doing and it's usually
not one thing it's a bunch of little things they kind of do consistently
whenever you think about getting in a relationship whatever you think about
working out whenever you think about money you get yourself in the state of
overwhelm you start thinking all the things you can't control just write down
all the rituals you have and then here's the third step what do you want what's
your vision and be really specific I want to be my fighting weight I want to
be the strongest I've ever felt I want to be I'm going to turn my whatever it
is be specific and then last step number four what are the rituals that will get
you there what would you need to differently each morning if you're going
to be that kind of energy that kind of strength how would you have to happen
would you work out what days would you work out what time rituals something you
do consistently usually at a specific time so becomes automatic let me tell
you something willpower doesn't last but rituals can last a lifetime I bet
you have some rituals in your life right now you've been doing for years even
though some of them don't serve you I'm just saying wake yourself up make if you
want a new year and a new life you don't need to start in January first
start today start with a little video and just begin to see what happens and
see how easy it is to just do a few little rituals don't do them all just do
two or three new things and you know what happens you'll get momentum because
once you discipline yourself in one area life you feel yourself doing in other
areas as well I always say something that my original teacher taught me I
always remind people there's always two pains in life there's a de pain of
discipline or as the pain of regret and discipline weighs ounces as my friend
Jim Rohn taught me regret weighs tons you don't have regret so right now what
do you want to change what's it really like what are the rituals that got you
there that will take a little homework if you're not sure ask the people around
you they'll tell you what your rituals are what do I really want in depth were
the rituals that will get me there and then get yourself to start a few those
actions and lock them in place but I can help you in any way we're here as a
company to support you come to have an event what I've come to unleash the
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