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Why Do narcissists Abuse Those They Say They Love?
For some people, or maybe you, It seems weird that someone actually can be so abusive to
their loved ones.
However, when it comes to narcissists, it is actually common for them to abuse, humiliate,
and devalue them.
Of course it is hard to understand how someone who confess their love to you can turn into
an abusive one, especially abusing your relationship.
When it's happening, your whole world seem to crumble, and your heart is breaking.
Often times, people feel traumatized and confused after their romantic relationship with narcissist
ends.
They are wondering, we were so in love as if the world belong to both of us, but now
he cheated on me, devaluated me, embarassed me, how can I trust someone ever again?
People who has been abused by their narcissistic partner may questioning and regretting how
they could have made such a big mistake, in result, they also wondering on how they can
avoid making it again in the future.
What I can tell is, there are actually so many reasons why it happens.
Most people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are easy to predict, most of them
have similar personalities and behaviors.
Once you know them for quite sometimes, you'll realize that they tend to follow the same
relationship pattern again and again.
And, that's something that you can learn on early stage to determine whether a new partner
is a narcissist by paying close attention to their behaviors towards you, then you can
decide everything after that.
Now, we back again to the question on why do narcissists abuse those they say they love,
here is the list of reasons why narcissists like to abuse others.
#1 - Low empathy
Being empathetic is one thing that anyone should consider.
Typically people learn from time to time about empathy towards others.
However, some people who we know as narcissists fail to recognize the need of having high
empathy towards people.
They only care about themselves, and that is why they cannot understand and feel the
pain and happiness of others.
What they seek is only their happiness without knowing that the process may harm others.
#2 - Lacking of whole object relation
Whole object relation is basically an understanding of relation between objects.
In this case, the objects are human being: you and I, she and he, they and we.
Narcissists cannot understand that the quality of between the objects are not always good.
They only want to get what they like from others.
They dislike qualities from others, and they will not see it from different perspective.
They just do not understand that each object has its own bad or good things from it.
#3 - Lacking of object constancy
In addition to failure in recognizing whole object relation, narcissists also lack of
object constancy.
It is basically a self-control mechanism.
In any kind of relationship, sometimes a person gets too emotional.
However, object constancy makes sure the person to stay at positive side of the spectrum regardless
of negative feeling you have such as anger, disappointment, desperation, and frustration.
Such self-control actually helps to reduce the risk of hurting others both physically
or mentally in heated situation.
Unfortunately, narcissists are lacking of this quality, making them violent in any conflict.
All in all, that's the reasons why narcissists like to abuse others.
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