Waching daily Feb 14 2018

So Dr. Kim, how have you seen this play out in the counseling room?

How does this have end up affecting marriages?

And how do you help couples see the truth and lay down this lie that

the culture has been feeding us that sex is ultimate?

Yeah, I think it starts out that we've got totally unrealistic expectations.

And that may not even be the right word. But we have defined sex in a different way than God defines it.

And so we pursue that. And it's never going to be the fulfillment that God has for us or what He has for us.

I can remember thinking,

before we got married, thinking, "Okay well, when we fight and we're married,

I know we can have sex and then everything will be okay."

I mean, it's like it was gonna be the cure-all for everything.

Whatever it is, if it goes wrong, we'll have sex and then everything will just be.

We'll just fight so we can have sex. This is the way marriage works.

You fight and you have sex. You fight then you have sex.

It all just ends in sex. It's a happily ever after.

Yeah, which is a problem if you have makeup sex one time and it's the best ever you're thinking,

"Oh God we don't wanna go in that pattern!" Great makeup sex or some but you're right, exactly.

So what does it look like for you teaching couples God's truth about this?

But I think in sex, I think there's so much that we have to renew our mind.

Because of our culture and you can't avoid it.

You can't put some kid and raise them in a bubble,

and not be exposed to the things that we're talking about here in our culture.

And so really, a lot miss helping see really that God did,

I mean sometimes people don't even associate sex with God.

When I tell people that God gave it as a gift and He wants us to enjoy it,

it's like sometimes, their heads spin and they think, "I can't even get my mind around there."

And then, so we have so many things that I think we believe, so many lies or distorted truths about that.

And so I think a starting place is really beginning to just accept the fact this is a gift.

And then how do we embrace that?

What are we doing now that keeps us from that?

And then what can we do that's gonna lead us down that path?

Yeah, that's good. That's good advice.

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[Intro Music]

Mandy>>> This is Pure Love, Episode 12.

Ignacio >>> Hi everyone!

Pure Love! Pure Love is the brainchild of myself and my daughter Amanda and

the platform of this online

talk show is to model and to share and to storytell the ways in which I raised her in a sex positive

environment

with all the successes and failures

and using that as a platform to

prevent, combat, interrupt child sexual abuse.

This is Episode 12 and today, we're talking about "fathers." The title is

"Father's...

M>>> "Daddy Issues and the Electra Complex"

I>>> So much, and so we came up with this idea to talk about fathers today because unfortunately

last month

My father and her grandfather

had a massive heart attack and passed away.

He became an ancestor and so

This episode is dedicated to my father, and my daughter's grandfather who essentially was like a dad to you.

Jose Rivera also known as "Pepe," so this is for your Papi.

Alright, so we wanted to talk about the impact that

Or supposedly the impact the society says that men or Father's or lack thereof have

with

their children or how we end up having relationships in the future

So I thought this was really interesting

I know that you have different

experiences than I did. I was one of those people that grew up with my father, and my mother and my father were together

married for over 50 years and together for about over 60 years and

My father growing up, I remember that I was close with my dad

and I remember at one point as I was developing

and when I was a little girl that back then

he

He kind of stopped hugging me, and I remember that I got so sad about that because we were so

huggy and touchy and

for him it was almost it was showing respect for me in my body.

I always remember my dad knocking on our door, making sure he can come in, or you know, understanding our privacy

And I remember that respect constantly with my dad and so that's a privilege

That's a beautiful privilege, and I'm glad that I had that with him.

But I also remember as an adult I have

"dated" my father over and over

Seeking out people

That back then I didn't realize, but have really kind of characteristics that my father had.

and I'll leave it there for now, but I want to know what your

experiences been.

M>>> Well, I have a very

Very long different journey than you, I didn't grow up in a two-parent household, but um I have

essentially three fathers, I guess three dads.

So first is my grandfather

The second my biological father, and then the third is a man who was in my life that I consider a dad.

So my biological father wasn't around for X amount of reasons

We didn't start getting into contact until I was in my 20s

My dad,

He's a very flaky

type of person, not really good with responsibilities...

...communication, things like that, so you know, I've always known that he's been in the background

But you know, like I'd say that

"I know you're there" like a guardian angel kind of, not really guarding, but I know you're around

And then I always have Papi, so like to him, he's like a father to me.

He is the one that's been constant, the one that's been there, loving me, taking care of me, making sure that I was good.

You know, everyone in our neighborhood that I grew up in, they always say "your father your father your father." They're talking about him, so

You know, he's the one I consider my father more than anybody.

"Papi" was my first word, so he's...I>>>That's right...

super important to me before I even realized he was important to me

So I have a very complicated relationship with "father," "dad"

Just even the terminology

as well as the relationships like

Saying the word dad or father doesn't feel right in my mouth like the only way that I would say that is by saying Papi

And I would never ever call anybody else that, ever, like that's only his name nobody else will ever be called "Papi".

I>>> What do you think...

Do you think that relationship that you were talking about, like,

having your biological father who wasn't present

Your dad, who off and on when you were younger you had more

interaction with him when you were younger and then older that kind of fell away, and then Papi the the constant figure

How do you think that affected how you

see men or in relationships, because I know you're pansexual, so

Not just men, but you know, how do you see men has that affected like trust or

Abandonment issues or anything like that?

M>>> Definitely I remember the first time I even heard about abandonment issues was in middle school, one of the school

therapist or school counselors was saying that "I think Amanda has abandonment issues."

And I remember being like "what?" I didn't even like know what that meant, I was like "what?!" but now as an adult

I'm like, I guess I kind of do like just

I used to as a child I used to cry a lot about it

I used to be very sad and like take it upon myself to feel bad, like it was something that I did, that I was

Unlovable, like, "how could you not love me? I'm your child" like, "what's wrong with me. Why wouldn't you be here?"

"How could you raise my siblings and not raise me like?"

So I had a lot of issues with that, because with both my biological and my non-biological father

I have siblings with both and they've all been raised with them

And I've been the only one that hasn't lived with or been raised by my dad

So I always felt some type of way about that, like, that sucks that everyone else got to experience you and I didn't but then

Again as an adult, once I've built relationships with my siblings

I found out that it was for the best. So I was actually the only lucky one that I didn't live with either of them.

Because I would have been miserable and probably would have been a completely different person.

But I feel like, I definitely, I have abandonment issues.

And it comes out in a lot of different ways and sometimes

toxic bad ways where people

who are unavailable, like my dad, emotionally or physically

Or that can't have a commitment to me per se as their child or any type of relationship

who can't communicate with me, I usually end up finding these people as well.

People who are emotionally distant or disconnected

They like my father have many different interests, you know as in families because

My siblings are not all from the same women, so you know, people I have dated have had

wandering eyes as well...

so...

I'm just like you know that plays a lot into it

I definitely do not trust men and I have a like, I have this issue where I'm attracted to men

But I like hate men at the same time, and not like individual men, but I guess men as a race.

Just manliness in this society, I hate, and I just I hate that

so many children

are left to the wayside because

You know, the way that we are, like the way we're taught in this society, in this country

is that men aren't really, they don't get the the intense like drilling about the responsibility of being a parent.

like women do or like femmes or female-bodied

people, because I'm like for us they always say, "this is a big deal"

"you're gonna get pregnant, you you you you you you" It's never like telling a boy like

Oh, you know if you get her pregnant, you know, that's the both of you, you have to deal with it, that's your kid

that's your responsibility, and you need to be on top of that and a lot of guys

Just let that fall to the side

And they don't see how important it is for you to be like present in your child's life

I don't think it necessarily has to do with you being a man, per se

but I just feel like it's about being a present parent and just

You know, just it's, why have one teacher when you can have two, you know

You learn more, you'll be a more well-rounded person, and you guys have completely different experiences in life

And I can learn different things from you, so I'm like

There's so many more benefits than just having a male entity in your house. You know and

Although you know I didn't want or need for anything. Of course, you know as a kid

I'm just like, you know, I want my dad, but then as I got older, I was like, eh whatever

You know it's done now. I cried my tears already. I think after I turn 18-19

I finally was just like whatever.

I>>> Do you think that

Some of those tears or anger about it was in regards to like

What society was saying that you needed to have them or because basically it was his responsibility

And had nothing to do...like I'm thinking about

heteronormative

ideas of

you know...

M>>> I think that's it too. I guess seeing like a lot of two-parent households or

Like people having relationships with their dads it made me really really sad

And I'm just like, why can't I have that, like even with cousins like, besides like, I mean

But even Christina, Katijah, and Chris, they had Papi, you know, like he raised them so I'm like... out of, I think

majority of my cousins, I think I'm the only one that was really like not raised with their dad around

Or a dad figure that was like

constant, so I'm just like...

I don't know, it was a like an envious cry, it was an angry cry, it was a

low self-esteem cry, cuz I'm like

There's something wrong with me that he wouldn't want to be here, like I didn't understand that it didn't click for me

But as an adult I realized that

you know that happened for a reason. I'm way better off and

I'm glad that didn't take me

27 years of bullshit to be like, oh my god

I want to get away from you

It took 27 years to be like, I was way better off without you and I'm glad that I didn't have to deal with that

But I know with Papi in particular, he's a very quiet

into himself person and I get a lot of qualities from him too, like I noticed that about myself

I'm like, he basically is my father because I have like I'm just like him

and I'm just like Mommy too - in a lot of ways and

I find myself - I guess trying to find

Guys who were loyal like him...I>>> Yeah, yeah, Papi was loyal. That's for sure.

M>>> He, like, I mean 60 something years you be with the same person, and I like in my life, I've never even

had an inkling of an idea that he even considered another woman, like...

I>>> It's funny because I thought, at his eulogy

I spoke about his dedication to my mother

And how yeah it was like my father was created and my mother was created

And you know, like, he, I don't think he could have ever been with any other woman...M>>>No

and at the same time it's interesting that I see that love and acknowledge it and I

I'm polyamorous so for me

that

it was beautiful, but it was a part of a different spectrum a part of

part of a larger spectrum, I should say, in terms of love and I...

Not that I don't understand it, but it's just like amazing to me to

Be in love with one person for the rest of your life, and I, you know, again

It's not me, but I honor that I definitely honor it and it worked for them and completely worked for them

M>>> Somewhat

I>>> You know, every relationship was difficult and people have to struggle and I often say my father was a complicated man. he was imperfect

M>>> Simple but complicated...I>>> Yes, but you know one thing was for sure

he loved his family, and he loved his wife and

And yeah, and he was a good man. He was a good man with demons but a good man, a very good man. M>>> Yeah.

I>>> Um

I said before like that I dated a lot of

people that reminded me of my father

And I didn't know it at the time and afterwards when I was like examining the things that it was interesting because was

it was dating the the bad parts, of the things that I didn't like, and I sometimes think

It's because of us wanting to change it.

You know, it's like we don't have an opportunity to change that so we find...M>>>... that person

I>>> subconsciously find these things so that, "I'm gonna make this right"

"I'm gonna change it and it'll be okay" and when I figured out what I was doing, I was like I can't change anyone.

It's not my place to do that.

People have their own journey, and they get to do what they need to do.

And then, you know, I was more intentional about how I was

seeking people or you know just

Like falling into these like cycles and stuff, so I'm glad that I noticed it, and then I stopped it.

And obviously, I think sometimes people "date"

You know, their fathers

and it's a good thing because they're finding all the beautiful qualities of

this person who raised them, who was there for them who protected them, who loved them.

M>>> Yeah, who you showed them

what to look for in a person, like, you see these good qualities because they're teaching you that's what you should be looking for.

And I see a lot of good qualities of Papi that I wish that I could see in guys in my generation cuz

I don't know what's going on. I really don't with the 90s, early-90s kids the late-90s

But you know like 95 no, I'm not even 95 like 93

1990-93 I don't know what's going on with us.

so I don't know, I just like, I feel like I strive to find someone who would

who would want like who would willingly want to be

Faithful to me and only me for that long or even consider it, you know. I>>> Because you identify as monogamous

M>>> Yes. I>>> So that's like finding "the person" is important to you and that loyalty and longevity.

M>>> And I think that goes into the whole dad thing too because I'm just like

I've had fathers who've loved many, you know, at the at the same time, technically.

So I'm just like, well while you were all loving everyone else you weren't really loving me.

So I need someone to just love me, and not everybody else cuz I'm mean, I don't knock it.

You know, if that floats your boat, then that's you, you know, that's your business, but for me personally

I guess that it's like deeply ingrained with that abandonment and just needing you to myself

But not in a like... cuz I'm always like leave me alone.

But you know, like I still want to know like go in the other room, but just let me know you still love me.

I>>> Do you - so let me ask you this - do you think in me raising you and the way we navigated

Your biological or your biological father your dad not being there. What could I have done differently

to, I don't know, better understand, better empathize, or just support you

In that way, do you think anything could have been different?

M>>> No, cuz I mean like whenever I asked about them, you know

You looked up. You look them up for me to find them so I can see them.

You know, you made the connections.

You didn't trash talk them, like, you weren't like "he's a piece of shit"

And "that's why he's not around" and "he's off with this other woman, and that's why he's not here"

You know, like I feel bad for kids who have mothers who are so bitter against their like the other

parent of the child that they make - they involve the children in their issues.

I hate that, and I'm really really glad that you didn't do that for me, because I know a lot of parents

are just like, "your father ain't shit, and that's why he's not here"... I>>>...and it's tough, it's tough not to do that, you know

M>>> Because you know his true character

And I don't know and you're just like, I want you to know so you don't like to prevent that

but it's like I had to figure it out on my own cause it's like, you know

He's still at the end of the day, you know, he's still my dad and regardless of what happened, you know, I still have

sometimes, well before I had the need and the right, you know, to try to build a relationship with him

But, now I'm just like, it is what it is. You know?

"How are you?" stuff like that, but

The only true father, I guess

is an ancestor now.

I>>> Well, I'm a true believer that we can create the families that we want that two-parent households don't have to be the case it could

be a village of people that love and care for the child or children or people in it and

And of course I believe in

any kind of family structure that people want to create for themselves. It's really healthy and good and, of course more people

loving on a child is always a good thing. I personally just don't like the demonization of like

independent, solo, or... you know, parents. It is, it is hard because this world makes it hard.

But I I feel like when I was raising you I was like trying to embody that.

Even though they're not there, we can make this you know we're a team.

It's you and me against the world. M>>> I definitely felt that so that's why after a while I was like

I don't even know why I'm trip'n

I>>> But I mean I could understand that because, you know, you don't live in a vacuum.

Right, you like the whole world is around you and the whole world is saying

You know, you need a dad and a mom and then me, look at me, weirdo.

So, we screwed that all up.

M>>> That's Okay. We had a nice weirdo family.

I>>> Haha, that's what I'm saying.

But you know yeah, I think that it's not

it's not ludicrous that you're going through these feelings and thinking about that and

interestingly enough, I was in a two-parent household and a lot of times, I struggled with that

I struggled with it because of my own ideas about compatibility and communication style and

And things like that, but that was my own personal

opinion and as an adult I get to craft the relationship structure that I think works for me.

Without, you know

downing anybody else, right.

Yeah.

M>>> I think if I were trying to like I guess "date" my father

I would only be referring to Papi and the qualities that I saw in him as a provider as a father

and

I felt like maybe, like I mean, I would consciously seek out someone like Papi in that respect.

but subconsciously

I sought out my biological father, or my dad and those terrible qualities and

Trying to like, make them see that I was worthy enough for them to stay.

I>>> So it's that it's like trying to fix it. M>>> Yeah, because I'm like, we're too far gone

you're not gonna change so maybe

I can make this other person see that I'm worthy, and then I'll feel better and then it won't hurt so bad about you.

So I know like that was a big thing for me, too

And I'm just like, you remind me of my dad like you're just an asshole.

And I don't even know why I'm dealing with this so

Now I'm in a different spot, but growing - you know like in the beginning

I was very like

Why do I keep meeting these people, like why won't anyone stay and then it goes down the whole spiral of daddy issues.

And if the

supposed to be number one man in my life couldn't stay, why would anyone else stay, so that was a

huge cloud over my head, too

with dating

relationships or dealing with men in general.

I>>> Do you still feel that way, like, what if he didn't stay then why would anybody else want to stay?

M>>> Kinda, yeah.

I>>> But it's even, the way you're talking about it now, it's like

I understand those feelings before but then now in retrospect

Do you think that there's

room for shifting that idea because

them leaving has absolutely nothing to do with who you are and your loveability.

M>>> Logically yeah, you know logically you know that but your heart and your brain are two different things.

So you're just saying I can tell myself

You know monsters aren't real. There's nothing under my bed right, but I'm still gonna sleep with a nightlight.

I mean, that's not true. That's an example. I like the dark now.

Yeah, so I'm just like if I were to you know

I tell myself all the time like, "I know it wasn't me" right, look

I know the reasons why you weren't around, I know why you couldn't be a father to me

I know it has absolutely nothing to do with me, but you still internalize it.

Because it's like that's supposed to be one of the first like pure

unfiltered bond, you know, like the bond with your mom and a bond with your father like that family

it's supposed to be like, you know, like that feeling of security and love

And I'd never felt that from them, only you know from Papi, so I'm just like that was always a big big big issue

I>>> I hope I hope that you can at some point

Through work like shift it and just like you said right now

Now you realize that you weren't supposed to be, they weren't supposed to be in your life

And that you were lucky enough to have Papi, so like I hope that one day you really and truly

accept that

you were

The the man that was supposed to be in your presence, you know, was Papi and

We are

suffering a great loss because he's no longer with us.

But he is an ancestor and we will continue to talk to him in the other realm.

Yeah, let's shift that to some positive ass shit because we did have Papi

M>>> Very very grateful for that.

I>>> I'm thinking a lot about how this relates to like

prevention of child sexual abuse, and some of the things that come up for me are in terms of

you know, this seeking of daddy

You know, this wanting attention and approval and you know harm-doers that are grooming

children

Really look for of those at the margins, those who are sad, depressed

And if...M>>> or lacking a father figure mainly for safety reasons, because they feel like if there's a man in the house they'll be more

they'll be

Less, it'll be harder for them to attack or abuse, if there's another male around if the abuser is a male.

It could be that but also there are you know harm-doers that

don't care about that and they no matter if there's a male, female, a mother, a father in the house

But I'm thinking about how that could possibly be used in terms of grooming or a hook

to

You know, trust in someone, that male figure

Let's say the the harm-doer is male so this male figure, you know, playing on that need and that wants

The idea that a harm-doer could take this loss or this lack and use it to manipulate, to shame

isolate, use power over, coerce, to abuse

Harm-doers look for like deficiencies, right, they look for these things that

society might see as defective or

not socially accepted so

It's like being a fat kid, a kid with a disability a kid that comes from a single-parent

household, a poor kid, the list goes on and on

There's nothing wrong

Per se with these

identities or these people or these

experiences

but oppression and rigid

societal norms aid and the tools that shame

making the shameful

targets, something we should be thinking about.

So

again this

episode is dedicated to my dad. Jose "Pepe" Rivera we will speak his name every day.

He would not be forgotten. M>>> Rest in Peace, we love you Papi.

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Iraq War Vet A Military Parade Is Exactly What Our Nation Needs

President Donald Trump�s desire to hold a military parade to honor the U.S. military

has predictably drawn widespread hysteria among the liberal media and Democrat politicians

alike.

That is one reason, if one was needed, to go ahead with the parade.

There are seven others: loyalty, duty, respect, honor, integrity, personal courage and selfless

service. These are the seven core values every U.S. Army recruit learns during basic training,

and they are the values that the left is sadly lacking.

A military parade, of the kind the French can only dream of, is exactly what the nation

needs right now to unite us and demonstrate to the world that we have the most powerful

military muscle the world has ever known.

Before Trump came to office, we witnessed eight years of an administration that wanted

to tell the world that America was in retreat and duly cannibalized our armed forces.

The result, under President Barack Obama�s watch, was the proliferation of nuclear weapons,

the flaunting of international humanitarian norms by tin-pot dictatorships and the abject

chaos spread by terrorist organizations that only grew in strength and number.

Trump came into office to arrest America�s seeming impotence in the face of a belligerent

world. A military parade would be the perfect rejoinder to our enemies who think we are

done.

The left will have you believe that a parade would symbolize an authoritarian turn and

an end to American exceptionalism, as one columnist for the New York Daily News put

it. What an odd place to locate American exceptionalism � not in our Declaration of Independence

or in the Bill of Rights, but in our only recent and relative absence of military parades.

Let�s get this out of the way: The United States regularly holds military parades across

our great nation to honor our veterans and to remember those who sacrificed their lives

defending us.

More than that, as recently as 1991, at the end of the first Gulf War, President George

H. W. Bush honored our servicemen and women with a parade in Washington, D.C., that drew

a crowd of 200,000 people at a cost of $12 million.

That National Victory Celebration saw tributes pour in from across the nation for our troops,

with armored vehicles and missile systems rolling on the streets of Washington and New

York while stealth fighter planes flew across the skies above. Patriot missiles, M270 multiple

launch rocket systems and M109 self-propelled howitzers were towed down Pennsylvania Avenue

as a Harrier jump jet landed on the Mall.

The almost 27-year absence of military parades in the intervening years is because few recognize

that America has won clear and decisive victories in conflicts around the globe.

Threats like the Islamic State group, which took over vast swaths of territory in the

Middle East, have scattered across the deserts and into the protection of European welfare

systems like the vermin they are

Indeed, in 2011, even Obama approved the the idea of a ticker-tape parade in New York City

to honor veterans of the Iraq War. At the time, MSNBC�s Rachel Maddow said she supported

the idea, declaring: �I would go, and so would everyone I know.�

Not anymore.

Today, those same voices decry Trump as a neo-Napoleon or an authoritarian in the making.

This hysteria, as is often the case with the self-hating left, completely misses the point.

A show of military might is exactly what the country needs right now.

In this fractious era, the United States military is one of the few, if not the only, institutions

left that the majority of our population loves and admires. Americans across the political

spectrum understand that the military helps keep our country, families and future safe

and free.

More than that, in a world that continues to see threats from Iran to North Korea, a

military parade would be a signal to the world that America is back, baby, with our hands

untied and standing up like armed giants on the world stage.

Mathew Davis is an Iraq War veteran and a lifelong conservative who works as a freelance

writer and web developer in Phoenix. He served his country proudly for eight years in combat

before returning to build a home in his state of Arizona as a husband and proud father of

three children. He holds a bachelor�s degree in engineering and is a lifelong supporter

of the Cardinals.

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Hey guys welcome back to my channel.

So with it being Valentine's Day I figured it would be the perfect video to share with

you since I am single once again on this day to share with you what I look for in a guy.

What are my biggest turn ons and what are my turn offs.

But before I go ahead and reveal all that make sure you go ahead and hit that subscribe

button for me.

Number one I like a guy with a nice smile and a nice set of eyes.

Number two is I love a guy with a good sense of humour.

A guy who can make me laugh you're definitely in.

I love to laugh.

I love being a dork.

I love being made fun of.

I love making fun of my partner.

I just think the world is too serious nowadays.

People are way too sensitive.

People need to lighten up.

One of my favourite quotes is a day without laughter is a day wasted.

I truly believe that everyone should at least laugh at least once during the day.

I have a very dry sarcastic sense of humour.

I want a guy who can make me pee my pants pretty much.

So I do like a really tall guy like 6'4 oh my god that would be amazing because I love

to wear basically a five inch heel.

I live in these.

5'11 and under is kind of iffy for me but I'm not ruling you guys out I'm just giving

you my preference.

I just like the feeling of being next to a tall guy.

You feel so tiny and protected and safe inside his arms instead of feeling like a big fat blob or

being able to pat the man on the head.

It's just not I don't feel sexy as a woman.

I don't know.

So I'm not really in to over muscular or ken doll type of guys.

I just want kind of an average looking joe.

A guy who is actually going to kind of appreciate what he has and not be so into himself and

vain and think he is so good looking and that he can get any girl in the world.

You know you always have to be nervous and worry what he's doing behind your back.

No not that type of guy.

Sorry.

I mean if you look anything like this guy I might make an exception.

So this brings me to my next point.

If you are a guy on social media and you post pictures of yourself topless posing in the

mirror like this or showing off your abs.

Nope.

Instantly no.

Player alert.

Not into that.

Nowadays I know it's kind of hard to find this but I would prefer a guy who either doesn't

have social media or isn't very active on social media.

I just find social media ruins a lot of relationships.

So I also need a guy who is very understanding of what I do for a living.

So I am myself active on social media.

So I do like to post pictures of myself in sexy clothes etc.

Like a guy can't be intimidated by other men commenting on my photos.

So I like a very secure kind of alpha man.

I like to play with fashion.

I love to wear makeup.

I just love to feel pretty but that doesn't mean I am high maintenance.

I am the exact opposite.

I am literally boujee on a budget.

I like to look for things as cheap as possible.

I don't need to have name brand things.

I just appreciate fashion and makeup like art.

And honestly I am the biggest dork if you get to know me.

So I am the complete opposite of high maintenance.

This is what I like to do on a Friday night.

I'm a total gamer dork.

I like to read.

I like to draw.

There's more to me than just this.

So I'm not the type of girl that goes out clubbing or I'm not a big party girl.

That's not me at all.

So I also really like a guy who is a huge animal lover.

Bonus points if you're a cat lover.

This is Mr. Bean.

Hi baby.

So I do really like a family orientated type of guy who would prefer to hang out with family

and considers his family his friends and would rather hang out with them and do like family

game night type of things rather than go out clubbing or to bars.

I do love a guy that is hard working and does have his career established and is ready to

settle down.

I'm finding men closer to their thirties now and they're still not ready to settle down.

Like grow up guys.

Like seriously.

What is wrong with you wanting to play the field in your thirties.

I'm sorry but that's pathetic.

If you are the type of guy that isn't ready to settle down don't be that jerk that leads

the girl on thinking that you're ready to settle down just so you can get into her pants.

Screw you.

So that's it.

I mean I can basically can go on and on and this video could be endless but those are

the basic qualities that I'm kind of looking for in a guy.

What turns me on.

What turns me off.

I kind of feel like I'm making one of those late night naughty infomercials.

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Only $1.99 a minute.

Okay guys thank you so much for watching.

I hope all those couples out there tonight on Valentine's Day have a wonderful night

full of love and laughter and fun.

And all those single people out there just spoil yourself today.

Don't be sad or depressed that you're not in a relationship.

Just learn to love yourself and get to know yourself.

Make sure you like this video by giving it a thumbs up.

Please be sure to also follow me on social media.

I will put all those links down below.

Make sure you check out some of my latest videos.

Thank you guys so much for watching.

I will see you next time.

What am I going to do tonight?

I'm going to stuff my face.

Max Payne.

Grand Theft Auto.

My hot date tonight.

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Greek lessons - The greek alphabet - How to read greek words - part 1 - Duration: 11:02.

Hello, how are you ? Is everything fine ?

First of all, I want to tell you that this video will be exclusively in Greek,

but you will have English and Italian subtitles.

You've asked me many times to create Greek lessons on this channel.

I read some of your comments.

But I couldn't engage, because I didn't have much time.

Not that I have more time now, but...

A few days ago I started a poll on this channel

and I asked you which other languages you would like to learn.

86% of you told me: Italian.

Only 9% of you told me: Greek

but 9% is already enough for me

5% of you told me: French

and 0% of you, that is none of you would like to learn Spanish.

So I decided to start a Greek course

and in this first lesson we'll see the Greek alphabet.

I will speak Greek so that you can get used to it,

but I will try to speak slowly

and of course, as I told you, there will be subtitles.

Let's begin with the alphabet now.

There are 24 letters in Greek which are:

We'll see 6 letters in this lesson,

but we won't follow the exact order of letters in the Greek alphabet,

so we won't see the first 6 letters.

I chose some specific letters so that we can build up our first Greek words

and read them together.

As we said, the Greek alphabet has 24 letters,

but there are more than 24 sounds

that we can create by combining some letters together.

So in this lesson we'll see: 6 letters and a few more sounds.

The first letter is Alpha.

This is how we write the lowercase

and this is how we write the uppercase alpha.

And we pronounce it "aaaa".

Let's see the second letter of this lesson.

The second letter is Mi.

This is the lowercase

and this is the uppercase.

Mi is pronounced "m".

So now we can read our first Greek word:

"mom".

Now, in Greek all the words that are made up of more than one syllable

take a stress mark so that we know which one of the syllables is stressed.

The word "mamà" is made up of two syllables

but it's the second one that's stressed

and we know that by the stress mark on top of it.

So we won't say "màma", but "mamà".

Let's move on to the third letter.

The third letter is Ni.

This is the lowercase

and this is the uppercase.

And we pronounce it "n".

Now try to read these words yourselves.

So, the first word is "an" (= if).

The second word is "Anna".

The third word is "màna" (= mom).

Let's see the next letter of this lesson now.

The fourth letter of the lesson is Pi.

This is the lowercase

and this is how we write the uppercase Pi.

Pi is pronounced "p".

Try once again to read these words.

These words are pronounced "a pa pa" (= oh good grief !).

The next letter is Taf [no, it's not ;)]

This is the lowercase

and this is the uppercase.

Taf is pronounced "t".

Try once again to read this word yourselves.

The word was: patàta (=potato).

Let's see now the last letter of this lesson.

The last letter is Delta.

This is the lowercase

and this is the uppercase.

Delta is pronounced "th"

like the English article "the".

So try to read this word.

The word is "thatha" (=torch).

We said that there are 24 letters in Greek

but even more sounds.

And we can obtain these sounds

by combining some letters together.

The first combination that we'll see is: Mi with Pi.

Mi + Pi together are pronounced "mb" or "b"

Now try to read this word.

The word is: banana.

I will give you another example now, so read this word.

This word is: "babà" (=dad).

The second combination is Ni with Taf.

Ni + Taf together are pronounced "nd" or "d".

So read this word.

This word is: "dadà" (=nanny).

Read this word too now.

This word is: "madàm" (=madam)

To sum up, we have: alpha which is pronounced "a",

Mi which is pronounced "m" - mamà,

we have Ni which is pronounced "n" - màna,

we have Pi which is pronounced "p",

Taf which is pronounced "t" - patàta,

Delta which is pronounced "th" - thatha

and we have these combinations:

Mi+Pi which are pronounced "b" - banàna

and Ni+Taf which is pronounced "d" - dadà.

I hope you liked this video.

If you did, give it a thumbs-up,

subscribe to this channel,

but most of all share it with your friends

and with anyone who would like to learn Greek.

Thanks so much for your attention and I'll see you soon. Bye !

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6 Van Life Controversies: How to Live in a Van The RIGHT Way | Hobo Ahle - Duration: 16:50.

So I've seen a lot of people, especially lately, giving their two cents on how to

live in a van the "right" way. And their opinions generally center around one

or more of these six topics. So let's talk about them. Let's talk about these

oh so controversial subjects and the "right" way to live this lifestyle.

So the stuff that we're really gonna get into is the fun factor, the bad stuff, adulting, then

we're gonna talk about the rig, traveling, and full-time versus part-time. All right

number one the fun factor. So I see people all the time they're like "oh my

gosh living in a van looks like so much fun. I want to do it." And so part of me

wants to be like LOL. And then there's the opinion of like "oh van life is so

glamorized and it's it's not like that at all, it must be actually horrible,

think about what these people have to go through, they're probably all smelly they

never shower like blehhhh." So what I have to say about the idea of living in a van

being fun is... I mean it is fun, to me. But at the same time like I don't

particularly enjoy living in a vehicle. Like if I didn't have a reason to be

living in a van, I wouldn't be doing it. However, I do have a reason because I

want to travel, I want to go rock climbing, I wanna

save a whole bunch of money. So in essence, the van, or living in a van or

in a vehicle in general is kind of like a means to an end for me. It's kind of

just what makes all of the things that I want to do possible. And if I could live in

a house and do all of those things and have the same life in every other aspect

honestly I probably would. But in my reality that's just not the case. So the

van is just the next best thing. And so, the idea of like physically living in a

car ... not super exciting in my opinion. It's not the time of my life, but what I

can facilitate by living in a car... that is fun. And also, fun doesn't mean not

difficult. Now to say that living in a van is easy I think would be incorrect,

but to say it's fun is something totally different. So then we go onto the

bad stuff. And this kind of goes with the idea of like "ugh, van life is so glamorized" I just

think that- just know, like if you're thinking about getting into this... I mean

be realistic. Bad stuff happens. A lot of bad stuff happens all the time. It's

stressful, it's annoying, like literally anything and everything can go wrong,

might go wrong, but that's kind of just a chance that you have to take. I mean,

assuming that you want to do this. That's why it's like you gotta do it for the

right reasons otherwise like that stuff is just not gonna be worth it. And the

thing is too, like I just don't think it's fair to be like "oh van life is so

glamorized" just because people don't show the bad stuff. Because I mean picture

this: you tell someone that you live in a car, or ya live in a van...

almost immediately, immediately, they can picture a million and one

things that can go wrong, that probably have gone wrong, and they're just gonna

picture all this negative stuff. Like things that people think about you or

how this reflects on your character or your life or just negative situations

that you can end up in like breaking down or being you know- I don't

know they're gonna imagine all of that stuff with ease, such ease. But there are

very few people who when you say "hey, I live in a car, I live in a van" that are

gonna be like "wow, so many good things can come from that." So honestly, just my

personal opinion, but I think it's really good that people show all of the fun

stuff, all the good stuff that comes with living in a van because it's kind of

like common sense: there's gonna be a lot of bad stuff and it's not instinctive

to want to turn on a camera when you're freaking out or your car is getting

towed or you know all those things that could be completely going wrong. And of

course, that stuff would be interesting, or entertaining, or valuable, for some

people to see. Yeah, for sure. But I just think that- I don't know, I think it

doesn't freakin matter if you show the bad stuff

or not at the end of the day. I think showing the good stuff outweighs it,

it becomes more important just solely based on the fact that so many people

can- they already know all the bad stuff that can go wrong. They already know. But

what they don't know, what people- a lot of people aren't aware of... is all of the

good stuff that can come from living that lifestyle.

So I'm not saying in a sense that like van life isn't or is glamorized.

Honestly, I don't freaking care. My only point is that bad stuff happens...

duh. So be prepared for that if you're trying to do this, but good stuff happens

too. So yeah. Adulting! So you're either adulting like a pro... or you're not. The

common opinion of people living this lifestyle

it's gonna vary from one end of the spectrum to the complete opposite

pretty much. I think based on what people see they're under the assumption of like

"oh you've got your life together. That's how you're able to live in a van." Which

is really funny because then there's a lot people who think that like "oh you live in a van, you must be a failure at life." But anyways, a lot of

of people see this idea of being able to purchase a vehicle, to be able to fund

a conversion, to be able to live a traveling lifestyle, they interpret these

factors as equating to being able to adult successfully and be on top of

everything. And just know that people who live in vans... we're not special,

we're normal everyday people, just like you. Like you don't have to have your

life together to be living in a van and you also don't need to have your life

falling apart to live in a van. I mean to be completely honest like I have student

loans still, I am by no means rich, there's- not that long ago I was making

seven thousand dollars a year okay. Like I went in one time to do my taxes and

the lady at H&R Block looked at me and was literally like "how are you alive?!" You

know, I was alive because I was living in my car that's how I was alive. But anyways,

it's just like, even under those circumstances I was able to take my

first steps into living this alternative lifestyle. So that that's all I'm really

trying to get at is like whether you are financially stable and

secure whatever or you're not ... like they have no bearing on whether you you can

begin this journey of moving into a vehicle or some sort of RV or any other

kind of dwelling that you want to try out. Just because it really is a matter

of prioritizing. Like in my case I wasn't gonna wait until I paid off all my

student loans cuz thats gonna be awhile or until I could buy a brand new van or

even until my friends and family were accepting of this idea that like I

wanted to try living in a vehicle. I just wasn't gonna wait for the "right time", the

"right moment", because honestly there's never a right time, there's never a right

moment. I just took what I had, the situation at hand and did the best with

what I could and I made it work and so that- you know that's what I'm trying to

say. Is like you can too. You don't have to have a checklist and

have steps 1 through 10 completed before you can start living the life that you

want to and I mean this this applies, I think to everything not just like

vehicle dwelling or whatever, you know it's a matter of prioritizing. If you

really want it, you can do it, you can make it work. Figure it out, I believe in

you. Okay next let's talk about the rig. So I'm gonna break this up into two

parts kinda, we're gonna talk about the nice ones and then we're gonna talk

about the not-so-nice ones. So with the nice ones, there's kind of

this like "oh it's so easy. Just you know go out and get you a van, convert it in

one month, and then move in and go traveling, and live the life of your

dreams and blah blah blah" and it's like okay let's be realistic people. The

reality is is like you have to work, you have to work really hard in order to

make this happen. You have to really think about it and figure out how you're

going to make your lifestyle remote if you want to go traveling all the time. I

mean your job is something you have to incorporate into all of this. And your

finances, I mean it takes a decent amount of money to be able to get a new van and

on top of that being able to have money still for the actual conversion process.

And I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with having a nice van, definitely

not. If you can make that happen, kudos to you. What I am saying though is

that it's not EASY or REALISTIC for EVERYONE to SIMPLY go out and buy a van,

convert it really fast, and then hit the road. So then that's when we get on the

topic of like "ghetto vans". So I personally don't think there's anything

wrong with slummin it. Like I mean you already live in a van like how

nice do you really need it? And I'm for real because I mean of course like preference

wise like most people would prefer to have one of those like Instagram

picture-perfect vans, but do you need that? Do you really need that? in order to

make this happen for yourself. And in reality, probably not. Like people tell me

all the time like "oh you you can't live in that van you don't have insulation"

or "you don't have a solar panel that's impossible" like bro people live out of

way less on the streets in tents or less so I can take a mattress, throw it in the

back of a van and be completely fine. It might not be

everyone's ideal, but it works. I mean heck, is not even my ideal, but but it

works. Because in my situation it really comes down to like "where do I want to

spend my money?" Do I want to take all my money and spend it on having this like

really nice van or do I want to make do with what I have and then spend my money

on going on adventures and doing the things that are really important to me?

So don't get me wrong, like I said, I definitely would like to have a nice van

and I plan on building it out more and fixing it up really nicely, but it's it's

gonna be a work in progress. It's not going to be this like overnight

conversion. Because again it's just my mentality, like I'm not gonna wait until

"I have enough money" to go traveling, I'm not gonna wait until "my van is finished" or

"I have the perfect van" like I'm just I'm not gonna wait around on other things so

that eventuallyyyy I can go live my life. Life is happening right now dude, I'm

gonna go live it. Even if my van is not the best

it'll be fine. So I mean people can live in rigs that have barely anything, they don't

have to be super fancy. Because the truth of the matter - it's like not everyone

can afford to build out a van or to buy a new van and again like I said, there's

there's nothing wrong with that. Like if you can do that ,that's probably the way

to go cuz it's gonna be a bit more reliable and it would be nice to have the whole

thing finished first. But, but, even if you CAN'T do that, living in a van or

living a travel lifestyle in general is still attainable on a variety of

different levels even as far as income goes. You just have to adjust your

standards and make it your priority. And then there's the travel aspect. Some

people are like "oh yeah I wanna live in van. I wanna wake up in a nice new

super scenic location every single day!" It's like lol bro... me too. That would be

great, but living in a vehicle doesn't- it's not some fairy tale travel story. I

mean it's a lot of "oh my gosh, where am I? I lost signal, my Maps not working, where am

am I going? what is this road? HELPP!!" Okay really like it's not always bad and

super scary, but it's not always perfect and you're not always- like sometimes

you're sleeping in Walmart parking lots or you're just pulling off to the side

of the road or you're at a rest stop. I mean you can end up in a variety of

different places. But just know that it's it's not all rainbows and butterflies.

And obviously at the quicker pace that you travel like it's gonna

cost you more because you know, you gotta pay for gas. So sometimes realistically traveling to

a new location every day or every other day, it's just - that's expensive and you

know, not a lot of people can do that. And definitely I think traveling is one of-

one of the biggest reasons that people might be motivated to try this lifestyle

out because it does make travelling more accessible and easier. I mean in some

ways anyways, but I mean there are some people who travel like- a lot of

people who live this lifestyle travel, they travel a lot. But then there's also some

people who live this lifestyle and they travel not a lot.

They might travel very very slowly and I mean it could be for a bunch of

different reasons. Like either they have something to do in the area, they're

visiting people, or it's just what they can afford, or they really want to take

in that place /spend a lot of time there. And then even still, there are people who

live in vehicles and they don't travel at all, not at all really. They live in one city

and whether they work remotely

or they have- oh yeah these lights have censors, I'm like trippin ohmygosh. Anyways on the topic

of travel like you don't have to travel to live in a van and just because you

live in a van doesn't mean you have to travel. I think sometimes when people are

aspiring to live this lifestyle they kind of- you know you got to be realistic.

You gotta budget and figure out what you can afford and sometimes you can only go one

place a month. And you know it doesn't always have to be the same too. I mean

sometimes you could go on a traveling spree and there's some people who travel

for like six months and then spend six months not traveling or they travel

in certain seasons you know. There's just so many different ways to do it.

So with this topic what I'm really trying to drive home is just the fact

that there's like not one way to incorporate traveling into your vehicle

dwelling lifestyle, if you want to incorporate it at all. And then the last

one is full-time versus part-time vehicle dwelling. I have seen some people

get pretty heated over this. Like I've literally seen people comment on like

peoples Instagram posts being like "ugh, you only live in there on the weekends, it

doesn't count!" Like it doesn't count? what- who's counting? What are we

counting? Like I don't understand. Like I don't care if you live in a van full

time, part-time, rent one for weekend's, or you've even ever tried it at all, because...

Why would I? And by "why would I?" I really mean why

would anyone? But just my opinion. I just think that if you can use vehicle

dwelling to benefit your life based on your wants and your needs... awesome.

And if you can't, or you don't..... okay. So just know that if you're looking

to get into this lifestyle and if for some reason that has made you feel like

"oh I can only do it part-time so I probably probably shouldn't" it's like, no

I mean no. It doesn't matter. Like I said, if you can use it to your benefit, if it

can help you live a better life, and you can really get something out of it, then

do you you know. But also be aware that there are gonna be some people that just-

whatever my point is, it doesn't matter if you're full-time or part-time to a

lot of people. If people want to like and attack you for that then like I don't

know, there's something else let them be something else. So all in all

to summarize all of that. It is my opinion, that there is no "right

way" to #vanlife. You can travel always, never, whenever you want. You can live in

$100,000 decked out van or in a $5,000 ghetto metal box. And your life can be

perfect or it can be in shambles or anywhere in between in order for you to

start the lifestyle. The point is, it is your choice. Every little thing is your

choice. So if there is a "right way" to live in a van I would think it would be

just that. Like literally to do whatever you want. And I mean I think this applies

to everything not just like alternative living, but just take 100% responsibility

for your life. Realize that your life is the way that it is because of choices

that YOU make. So make the good choices, make the choices that you'll enjoy. And

then just keep doing that over and over and over again despite what anybody has

up there. So I will leave you guys with that to do with it what you will, peace out!