Heya playa, are you super stressed out about school and life and your relationships and
you just want to get a better handle on it all?
Well, I know 10 specific things that you can do to be less stressed and more mindful to
help you tackle the things in your life way better.
I'll share those 10 things with you right after this.
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For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self and
when it comes to being less stressed, there are small little things that you can do day
to day to help you kind of get out of that mindset.
The first thing you can do is to meditate.
A lot of people look at meditation as this weird thing where you sit on the pillow and
go "hum".
But it doesn't have to be, meditation can be something as simple as sitting down one
day and focusing on your breathing.
Being very aware of what's going on around you and kind of letting the moment sink in.
You can do this at any time that you want, for me, I like to do this while I wash the
dishes.
I like to focus on the warm water hitting my hands, I like to focus on cleaning the
dishes and putting them away, the silence around me, being in that moment.
Meditation is something you can easily do, you just gotta allow yourself to break out
of that stigma as to what you think it is and really redefine it for yourself.
The second thing you can do is to be present, how many times have you went to travel somewhere
and your mind was just not in that moment.
You were thinking about a million other things.
A test you have to study for, talking to your crush, meeting up with your friends later,
but you weren't really actively being in that moment.
You weren't feeling your feet touch the ground as you walked, you weren't smelling the air
around you, you weren't kind of just feeling your clothes on your body.
There are a lot of things you can do to be more present and part of that is just being
aware of what's happening.
The more aware you are, the easier it'll be for you to stop worrying and to start just
living.
The third thing you can do is to watch your urges.
We all have minor bad things that we like to do, for me, it's biting my nails but for
some people, it might be other things like scratching your forearm or just kind of indulging
in things that they know aren't good for them.
The key here is not to just tell yourself you're bad for doing them, but to be mindful
and watch them.
To see that whenever you're in that moment doing it to be aware of it, to recognize and
say "Hey, I'm doing this right now.
Is this something I want to be doing?"
And if it's not, be ok with the idea of recognizing it and trying your best to move away.
You're not going to do it every single time and you're not gonna catch it every single
time but being aware of it will kind of allow you to let it go and stop it even easier.
The fourth thing is to watch our expectations, we all carry expectations of other people
and of ourselves.
Whenever we do something for someone, we want them to react in a certain way and if they
don't, it might make us upset.
Or we carry expectations for yourself where we want ourselves to perform at a certain
level and if we fall short, we feel like we're failures.
So like I said before, you're not always going to catch it and stop it and prevent it from
happening but be mindful, watch it when it does happen.
When you see yourself kind of holding someone else to this expectation level, try to recognize
that and try to work on that, tell yourself "Hey, I know that I'm doing this and this
is something I want to let go.
I want to accept people and myself for who we are."
And that oddly enough leads us to the fifth point which is to accept people for who they
are.
We always have this golden standard for how we want people to act but we have to recognize
where everyone is.
So for example, if you have a friend that's very grumpy in the morning, maybe it's because
they haven't eaten breakfast, maybe it's because they're worried about something going on at
home.
Try to accept people where they are and part of doing that is to kind of learn a little
bit more about their story.
Learn what they're going through rather than you jumping to conclusions and deciding for
them, they're a jerk, they're mean, they're a bad person.
If you accept people as they are, it becomes way easier to be less stressed out about the
things that they choose to do in their lives.
The sixth thing you can do is to embrace the discomfort that you experience.
No one wants to be put in a situation where they're uncomfortable, however being about
to push your boundaries a little bit every single time will actually help you grow as
a person.
So what that really means is don't get stuck in a lifestyle and in a rut where you're constantly
doing the same thing over and over because it's safe and easy.
It's ok to be in situations where you feel a little uncomfortable.
Sometimes it's good to push yourself because you end up learning on the spot.
You end up learning how to manage those type of situations and the type of connections
you have with other people.
So whether you're uncomfortable around your crush, in front of your parents talking about
certain topics, doing certain things in school, be open to that discomfort and challenge yourself
to stretch a little bit more.
The seventh thing is to be curious about the world, there's so much out there that you
don't know.
So, being open and inviting to learning new ideas, to challenging your own concepts and
to just being curious about the things you encounter will help you kind of develop a
thicker skin and a better sense of being because you're going to be less stuck in your own
ways and more open to the idea of accepting that maybe you're wrong sometimes.
Maybe there is something you can learn from someone else.
And maybe there are ways for you to actively grow.
The eighth thing we can do is to practice gratitude.
It can become easier for us sometimes to complain about the things that we don't have and the
things that we want but it's important to be grateful for the things that we do actively
have.
Recognize that you have a roof over your head, you have parents or people that love you and
take care of you, you have shoes that you could put on that you could walk and travel
to school with, clothes to wear.
You know you can come home at the end of the night and sleep in a bed.
Recognizing the importance of these things will really help you take into account man,
life is tough sometimes but at least I have these basic needs taken care of.
And because these basic needs are taken care of, I don't have to worry about them, I don't
have to stress out about those things.
So, practice that level of gratitude, recognize the things that you do have and really really
be aware about them.
The ninth thing you can do is to let go of control.
I think this is what stresses people out the most.
They want to control every step in their life.
How they do in school, what their relationships are like, everything.
But, the truth of the matter is that you only have so much control over how things work
out.
The best thing you can do is to try your best to navigate through the situations, you're
gonna have highs and you're gonna have lows.
Your pitfalls are not going to be there to define you but they are experiences that you
can learn from and grow from as well.
So when you do kind of experience these moments where you're down and you're hurt and you
feel like you're at a loss of control, Recognize that that's normal.
You don't always have to be on top of things 100% and always get them right.
That's just not realistic.
And the tenth thing you can do to be more mindful and less stressed is to be compassionate.
Not just towards other people but also towards yourself.
It's ok to check in with yourself sometimes and to ask things like "how am I feeling?",
"do I need to take a nap?", "do I need to go eat?", "should I share my feelings with
my friends?".
Check in with yourself and see how you're doing, also be compassionate towards other
people.
Recognizing that everyone is doing their best with what they know.
Some people are struggling more than others and it may lead them to react in a negative
way or to do something mean.
Don't always take everything that happens as direction towards you.
Sometimes it's just people kind of letting things out without any kind of thought process
to it.
So the best thing you can do is to recognize that you don't have to be perfect.
You can fail sometimes, you can mess up, you can miss things, you can forget things.
It's ok, as long as you're willing to accept yourself for who you are and be compassionate
to how you approach the world, I think you'll eliminate your stress so much more.
One of the major reasons why we're so stressed out in the first place is because we're not
willing to put ourselves first.
To really think about ourselves, to think how we can take care of ourselves.
Because when you're able to take care of yourself, you're then able to help other people in this
world.
Kindness works from inside out so be willing to spread that kindness as best as you can.
And now I want to know, what are some of the things that are really stressing you out in
life?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
If you're dealing with a stressful situation and you want to talk about it in a more private
setting, you can always shoot me a DM over on Snapchat or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
Thank you so much for watching but remember that the learning doesn't end here.
Check out the videos over on the side if you want to learn a little bit more about mindfulness
and meditation, managing stress and anxiety.
All these different factors in our lives, these things that are kind of bringing us
down are things we can actively work on.
So, let's work on them together.
I want to help you guys get there.
As always, love and peace.
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