It's called "Living with a time bomb."
Hello. I'm a woman in her 30s
from Namhae, Gyeongsangbukdo.
I've felt betrayed for the past 7 years now.
This was before we got married.
Ring.
"Honey, what are you doing?
I miss you so, so much.
Should I come over right now?"
Ring. "Honey, did you get home safely?
Good night and I love you!"
He was so sweet
I fell in love with him and married him.
But since we've been married,
I've been living cowering all the time.
My husband has completely changed 180.
"Honey, don't flip your clothes inside out."
"Hey! Speak for yourself!"
"What about you? You think you're perfect?"
My husband has turned into a hulk.
He not only gets angry, but...
"Honey, what's wrong with you?
I can't live with you this way."
"I live with you because I tolerate you.
Who else would put up with you?"
(Wow...)
I feel estranged to my husband and
I cried so many times because of it.
Isn't this marriage a fraud?
Please give me my old husband back.
By the way, will you be starring in a movie?
Why?
Your acting has improved so much.
How much?
This much.
I'm not practicing acting at all.
(La la la~)
All three of you are married, right?
Do you feel like you've changed?
I think my head has gotten bigger.
Right.
What about you?
What if your husband changed like this?
I would do the same.
I would change just like he did.
You want to fight, huh?
What about you, Jinyoung?
I'd try to change him back.
- You'd try. / - I'd try my best.
What if it doesn't work?
Then you have to tell him to leave.
Then I'd be cool about it and say good-bye.
Or sleep in separate bedrooms.
Does that mean a big punishment for him?
Well...
Wax, you'd just bear it on your own, right?
Yes.
I would be mentally stressed.
I would become anxious and quiet.
You don't usually say what's on your mind?
She's scared she'll meet someone like that.
He touched Wax's hand as he was talking.
He can touch men comfortably
and touch women comfortably, too.
This is discrimination.
We're all being discriminated against.
He gets to do everything he wants.
It must be awful going through this for 7 years.
Let's bring her out.
Please come on out.
(Kang Gia)
(A polite guy has come to help her out)
(Whoa)
(Oh my!)
What was that?
Ma'am. Can you please help him up?
Why did you go in there?
He really changed completely
after getting married?
We went to Hawaii on our honeymoon and
for those 5 days
he was aggravated.
- Since the honeymoon? / - Yes.
So I tried to strike up a conversation
- and he said, "Forget it!" / - You scared me.
You really scared me.
He yelled at you like this?
Are you taking acting classes?
(She's very good)
His eyes look different when he's upset.
(His eyes become fierce!)
When he becomes even angrier,
it feels like he'd hit me if I were a guy.
Is there a reason for him getting that angry?
I don't know why.
When I ask him why he's mad,
he says, "So what?
You think you're perfect? Work on your behavior.
You think I like everything about you?"
You can't talk to him.
A neighbor asked me why we yell so much.
She said she can hear us every day.
It's more stressful than children running around.
He wasn't like that when you two were dating?
He was gentle?
I'm from Busan and he's from Namhae.
We were in a long-distance relationship.
We video chatted every day.
He told me, "I love you, you're the prettiest."
He treated me like a princess.
You said you dated for about a year.
You couldn't tell what he was really like?
He came to see me 3~4 times a week.
He worked really hard.
He just wanted to see me.
He was so tired that he got facial nerve palsy.
He came to see you that often?
He could've come less often.
You must've really felt betrayed since he showed
his true self after getting married.
Even though he's my husband,
when we're together...
- I get nervous. / - That's terrible.
Whenever I hear him at the door,
my heart starts to race.
You're afraid he's going to yell again.
Even as you speak right now,
you don't seem to look at Chanwoo.
Were you always like that? Or did you change?
I've changed since I got married.
I was confident and liked to talk to people.
- You seem to be outgoing. / - Yes.
I'm more afraid to talk
to my husband than other people.
He's right in front of you.
That's why I'm not looking in his direction.
Let's meet him and talk to him.
Hello. Nice to meet you.
Hello. Nice to meet you.
- He seems great. / - He seems cheerful.
He's smiling so big.
Everyone else likes him.
Do you understand your wife's concern?
Not at all.
I thought we were living happily together.
What?
He thinks they're living happily.
Your wife said you've changed completely.
Namhae is such
a small town that no one else knows about it.
Then I was introduced to a Busan woman.
I was determined to make her mine.
So in order to make her mine and bring her to
Namhae, I bit down hard and endured it.
Isn't that kidnapping?
You endured it for a year?
- He endured it. / - You hid your true self?
Yes, for a year.
Some men become gentle
because of the women they meet.
But you went back to your true self?
That's what happened to me.
So you never tried to be nice to her?
She's the fish inside my fish tank.
You don't feed the fish once it's caught.
You can't say that in front of all these women!
(You have complaints?)
He's surprised, too.
Anyone who's married could relate to this.
Imagine how disappointed your wife must be.
She never expressed that to me.
- You're saying you didn't know? / - Right.
How can she express it to you?
- You'd get angry. / - "So what?"
That's true, but from my point of view,
two different people are living together.
Both people should try hard to compromise.
I've tried my best.
In what sense?
We visit her parents quite often.
And I'm good to her parents.
(Just don't yell at me)
She's concerned
because you yell too much.
Why do you yell so much?
I do have a temper.
But most men from Gyeongsangdo get angry,
but it doesn't last long.
She has a temper, too,
but I don't hit her.
You shouldn't hit her.
What do you think of what he's saying?
I can't hear anything he says.
He's saying he's doing his best.
When he gets angry,
I try to talk to him, but he just yells at me.
We just can't communicate.
When he's speaking, she should be
expressing her feelings like,
"How could he say such a thing?"
But she is so anxious.
You're proud that you don't hit her,
but that's wrong.
Abuse with looks is still abuse
and verbal violence is abuse too.
It's very hurtful.
Show us how he is.
How does he yell?
To the kids,
"Be quiet!"
"You bastards!"
- To your children? / - He yells?
What about to you?
He looks me in the face and says, "So what?"
(Surprised)
I'm sorry.
I feel like I've done something wrong.
Why do you yell so much?
I don't know why either.
I think that's just my personality.
You just get this rage?
Yes.
If she leaves me alone, I calm down.
But she doesn't leave me alone.
You yell at your kids too.
How would you explain that?
- For their education. / - To be strict?
I'm strict when I need to be,
but very gentle afterwards.
Why do you get so angry?
I come home late because I work in construction.
I only see the back of my wife's head.
She's busy cooking, doing the laundry,
folding clothes and doing the dishes.
She's in the kitchen from 6 to 9 p.m.
Then at 9, she gets the kids ready for bed.
So we don't have time to talk.
She's taking care of the kids and doing chores.
You could help her out.
She could do it faster, but she's slow.
So once in a while, I go to her.
I once gave her a hug from behind.
- She responded right away. / - How?
"Go away."
I think timing is very important.
He doesn't come when I'm resting.
He tries to hug me when I'm really busy.
He doesn't even help.
I apologize later.
He says his anger doesn't last long,
but it does. He keeps thinking about it.
That you said, "Go away?"
He does look like he would.
He keeps it in his heart.
He doesn't think much about him getting angry.
He can't control himself when he's angry.
He becomes violent.
We went over to my in-laws one day.
He got angry, so I got up and left.
I came home first.
He came home later
and broke the television with his foot.
He said, "How could you disregard me like that?"
He was yelling at me.
We didn't have any kids then.
I got so scared and I didn't know anyone,
so I went to my in-laws.
I told his mom that I couldn't live with him.
But I couldn't divorce him
because I later found out that I was pregnant.
- The kids got you over the crisis. / - Right.
You really broke the television?
- Yes, I did. / - Why?
My family was having a get-together
and she just got up and left.
What does that make me?
So I went home too.
She was home.
I asked her why and she said something.
I just got so mad and broke the television.
Like it was a piece of paper.
I regretted it and bought
the same TV the next day.
I understand that she made you look bad
and you were angry.
But the problem is you can't control your anger.
I don't think I'm so crazy I can't control it.
You are crazy.
That's your way of saying you want to beat
your wife, so what you did was actually beat her.
It's domestic violence.
Be careful, Seokcheon.
He has a temper.
I've seen so many men like him.
You look quite upset right now.
I was surprised that he yelled at me.
What's your definition of going crazy?
Being violent.
- Beating someone? / - Yes.
Breaking a television is also violence.
There must've been a reason that you left.
It could've been upsetting for him.
I was uncomfortable there with my in-laws.
But he was quite comfortable.
He was sitting there saying whatever he wanted.
When I made a mistake, he said,
"You always make mistakes!"
My ego was hurt.
- He belittled you. / - In front of people.
When we were all eating together,
I said my opinion and he said,
"Nobody asked you!"
He was supposed to respect you.
Let's turn this around.
Let's say your wife broke the television.
How would you have felt?
I tend to pay back what's done to me.
When Seokcheon spoke to you earlier,
you got mad, right?
Yes.
- You were upset? / - Yes.
You know you can beat Seokcheon,
so you can say you got upset.
But as for your wife, when a big man
yells at her, she gets scared.
Even if it's her husband.
When I was talking to the scriptwriter,
I couldn't remember, so I asked him.
"Why did we fight then?" He said,
"Just know you're lucky I didn't beat you then!"
I was so angry that I wasn't sure
if I should come here today or not.
Up to what point can she say her opinion?
My family's business isn't hers.
She needs to know where she can butt in
and where she should stay out.
If not, everything will come back to us later.
You could've told her after you got home.
I told her to stop with my eyes.
How?
I butted in. How would you look at me?
Stop.
That's so scary.
That's scary.
How can you do that to your wife?
That's so scary.
You should have just said, "It's complicated.
I will explain later when we get home."
So I shortened it. "Stop."
You shouldn't do it like that.
What if your wife said,
"Stop!" to you?
I would say, "Okay."
You get angry.
(Glare)
See? He's glaring at everyone here.
Why don't you say anything when he gets mad?
If I get mad, we'll end up fighting.
We're the same age, but he's old-fashioned.
He's like he lives in the Joseon Dynasty.
He thinks men are above women.
Men are the sky! That.
He orders me around and he says,
"Women can't be better than men.
If a woman is better than a man,
she will try to dominate him.
I married you because you weren't better than me."
"I married you because you're not better than me?"
I was kidding.
(Boo~)
Listen to what I have to say.
Go ahead.
When you watch TV,
women who are smart, well-educated
or rich usually
disregard their husbands.
That's why I said that.
Is that why you married your wife?
- No. / - Because she's not smart or rich?
No.
She gets upset when I joke,
she frowns when I say something serious.
Do you have an inferiority complex
towards your wife?
- No. / - No, right?
You should respect her and love her.
Other husbands usually say
other women are beautiful.
I see idol singers here and Jinyoung,
but my wife is the most beautiful woman to me.
- She's the most beautiful one? / - Yes.
I'm sorry, but why did you exclude Wax?
Why did you exclude Wax?
You mentioned Gugudan and Hong Jinyoung.
What about Wax?
- Seokcheon. / - Yes?
I was excluded, too.
(Ha ha ha ha)
Don't be upset.
I work, too.
You work?
Yes.
Then you earn money, too.
He says, "How much money could you earn?"
He always starts off by belittling you.
Don't you feel bad at all?
I am patriarchal in a way.
She is currently a nurse at a pediatric hospital.
But she used to be in radiology.
There were only male employees there.
I understand that they go out for drinks.
But she would leave the kids with my parents
and go out dancing and to karaoke
until really late at night.
With men only.
I hated that she was the only woman.
I get stressed whenever we have
work dinner scheduled.
Because he'll get upset again.
I know we'll fight again.
All I can think about is going home early.
He said you are out until really late.
That's not true.
- He said you went dancing. / - No.
I came home late once.
He gets angry just
because there are male employees.
She said it was just once.
I never said she did it many times.
Are your parents conservative?
People are greatly influenced by their parents.
My father is quite conservative
and patriarchal.
I think I got that from him.
He would yell at your mom?
Yes.
Didn't you feel bad for your mom?
Didn't you resent him for that?
I did.
That's why I stand up to my dad once in a while.
Then why do you do the same to your wife?
You get your personality from what you learn.
I started my construction company in my 30s.
There aren't many young employees in this field.
Most of them are in their 40s or 60s.
In order to lead them as their boss,
I have to come out strong.
That has become a habit for me.
You have two sons.
Did you ever consider that you'll influence them?
Right. You never considered that?
I didn't like how my dad treated my mom,
so I think I keep it under control unlike my dad.
I am better than my father,
so I think my sons will be upgraded too,
so I'm sure they will be fine.
If they keep watching you,
they will learn.
Kids won't be upgraded.
They're not cell phones.
How does he treat your children?
They're just kids.
He needs to treat them like kids,
but he expects them to behave all the time.
If they don't, he yells at them.
My 7-year-old son came crying to me.
"Dad yells so much that
my heart is racing."
- That's terrible. / - He was scared.
The most shocking incident was
I think my 7-year-old son was 4 at the time.
He was a baby. He didn't listen,
so my husband grabbed him
by the collar and dragged him.
I got so scared that I went to stop him.
I told him to stop and he said,
"Be quiet! You're not the only parent here!
I have my own ways of disciplining him."
We end up fighting if I try to stop him.
You grabbed him by the collar?
I tried to discipline him.
He talked back to me.
And he threw something at me.
I didn't grab him by his collar.
I didn't want to strangle him from behind
and I didn't want to grab him by the collar.
So I grabbed his shirt from his stomach.
(Murmur)
She quietly told us,
"He did grab him by the collar."
If you lift the shirt up, it comes up to here.
Let's meet their older son. Hi.
- Hi. / - Hello.
Can you talk into the mic?
- He's so cute. / - Applaud.
Can you tell us your name?
I'm Park Jeonghyo.
How old are you?
- I'm 7. / - You're 7.
Do you know why you're here today?
No, I don't.
- He's so cute. / - He's smiling big.
How are you with your dad? Are you close?
Yes.
Do you like him?
Aren't you scared of him?
(I love my dad)
- No. / - You're not scared of him?
Does he spend time with you often?
Yes.
What do you normally do with him?
I don't know.
He doesn't get angry often?
He does get angry often.
(Drops the fact bomb with cuteness)
Kids can't lie.
He's so smart and nice.
Does his dad spend time with him?
Not often.
His father doesn't spend much time,
but we asked and he said yes.
"What do you do with him?" and he can't answer.
Because he never did anything with his dad.
When we asked, "He doesn't get angry often?"
He said yes, but with the mic far away.
(Getting the mic far away)
(Glancing over at his dad)
What does he get angry?
- He yells. / - He yells?
Mom says she's scared of dad.
He yells at her and belittles her.
Do you think so, too?
Yes.
You think your mom is scared of your dad?
- Yes. / - Then what...
Don't hit him!
Kids are honest.
You told Mom
that your heart races when he yells?
Does your heart race when he yells?
You get scared?
When Mom and Dad...
Do you think your mom is having a hard time?
Or your dad?
- I think it's Mom. / - Why?
It's tough for her because she does
the dishes all the time.
Wow.
That's an unexpected answer.
He feels bad for his mom since she does everything
at home, but his dad yells at her.
You said your kids cuss like his father?
Kids learn to mimic their parents.
When my younger son was 4,
he gathered his friends at school
and must've called them bastards.
His teacher called and I apologized.
I'm most worried
my husband grew up watching his father be mean
and they aren't that close now.
I am worried that my sons won't be
as close to their father in the future.
Your kids cussed at school.
Are they being upgraded now?
Since they are my kids,
I call them that out of love.
But I guess they are mimicking me.
I try not to use any other cuss words to them.
People around me cuss all the time,
even in front of their children.
But those kids don't mimic their parents.
I think it's just my kids.
Why do you care about others?
I don't think your husband will change.
I'm sad that he keeps yelling at me.
I got depressed after I had my younger son.
So I thought it'd be better for me to work again.
- So I got another job. / - You went back to work.
All I do is work.
I can't even dream of going out
on weekends to meet my friends.
So my husband is the only one I can rely on.
If he continues to be scary like this,
I don't know if I can bear it.
Did you know that she was depressed?
My business went bankrupt at the time.
I still have a large sum of debt
that people can't earn in their lifetime.
I was told to talk to the police,
I had to go to court.
Creditors came by to collect their money.
I cried at my grandparents' grave.
I got drunk and thought of committing suicide.
At the time, I wasn't in the position
to console her for her depression.
What would you like to tell him?
- You call him "dear"? / - Honey.
Go ahead.
(Go ahead)
She could call him "kkakka kkukku."
There are people like that.
They're always fighting, but they call each other
kkakka kkukku.
Be a bit kinder to me.
I love you.
Is it a concern or not?
I hope you remember that you influence your kids.
This is a concern.
I think it's a concern, too.
The husband's face changes drastically
when he smiles from when he's angry.
You're very cute when you smile.
I hope you'll be more considerate of her.
I think it's a concern, too.
I hope you two will be very happy from now on.
I think this is a big concern.
I hope you can speak
a little more nicely to her from now on.
I think if you two work hard,
things will get better.
Please press the button if you can relate to her.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Please stop. / - They got many votes.
Sir.
Please say a word to your wife.
Gia, I'll be good to you.
What can I say? That's your fate!
I'll try hard to be better to you.
Rather than being vague like that,
why don't you say in detail how you'll change?
This time, call her "kkakka kkukku."
Kkakka kkukku.
Then he transforms.
That's scarier.
I will try to yell less
and try not to get so angry.
I didn't know so many people thought this way.
I'm sorry.
I'll be good to you. I love you.
Alright.
I wonder how many votes they got.
Please show us the result.
Out of 200 votes.
They got more than 100 votes, right?
142? 162?
132 votes.
(They got 132 votes)
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