- Hello I'm Jill... -...and I'm Jenna.
This is Mikko.
-This is ASL Stew Life
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So today we're going to be talking about Mikko's birth story.
Sorry he's covered up, but there's a lot of bright lights.
He doesn't like that. (laughs)
Anyways, kind of wanted to explain the process.
I'll try to include some pictures. We don't have any film.
But, if you saw the last vlog or the one before,
there's some in the hospital, like pre-labor.
But everything after that we don't have anything
because she was busy helping me
and I was a little bit busy having a baby.
Anyways... - Like no biggie.
- Yeah it was no big deal... NOT!
-You're just lazy right? - Yep, just lazy.
You know what, let me explain.
Obviously I wanted a natural birth.
I wanted to labor at home and have my water break and all of that.
But did that happen? No!
I didn't. Not even close!
So what did happen was I was induced.
The reason is because the day before
I went for an NST which I passed.
Then I had a fluid check which I did not pass.
They said I had low fluid.
Because I was over 41 weeks
they said there was no point keeping the baby in.
So better go ahead and induce.
Not what I wanted, but for the safety of him, we needed to do that.
Anyways, long story short, the induction was suppose to happen that night,
I think it was Wednesday night.
However, they said the hospital was full and we couldn't
so they put it off till Thursday morning, the next day January 4th.
So we went to the hospital at 7am? -7:30am
-7:30 in the morning, we got there
and still I didn't want a lot of medication and what not.
Trying to avoid that if possible.
We had talked with our doula who came later.
She said we could do a membrane sweep.
Typically you do that and then you wait 24 to 48 hours,
but she said we could try.
So we spoke with the on call doctor, which I did not like her.
She was very medical and blunt and I did not like her.
- Dr. P - Yeah, didn't like her.
Anyways, we spoke with her and said we wanted to try that.
She kind of gave me the look like "okay".
So I was like, whatever.
Went ahead did the membrane sweep
and then I think we waited till about 1 in the afternoon.
So from about 7:30, I don't know maybe 8 or 9 is when they did the sweep.
Then waited till about 1 o'clock and pretty much nothing happened.
I mean every once and while I had a contraction, but not very much.
So then we talked with our doctor and decided to go ahead with medication.
She said I think M... -Miso
-It's like Mesoproxyl or something like that.
I think that's the spelling. It kind of sounds like miso like the soup but whatever.
Anyways, she said we could do that but we ended up not doing that
because that's a pill.
They decided to try what's called Cervadil.
Again I'm not sure of the spelling.
But that's something they put in vaginally
and then you leave it there, I think it's suppose to be 12 hours.
-Right, that's suppose to help soften the cervix.
It helps to pick up the cervical process.
To efface it and ripen it.
So that happened and like I said, it was suppose to be 12 hours
but around 9 hours later,
mine fell out in the bathroom,
which is fine, that can happen.
By that time I had already started having contractions
more regularly and much more intensely.
So it fell out and they said we'll wait and see what happens.
So we waited and I noticed that my contractions lessened
and the intensity lessened, the frequency lessened.
So after that, around 3 in the morning the next day.
So January 5th at 3 in the morning,
they decided to give me Pitocin.
Which I know I did not want,
but we had to keep things going,
because by that time my water had broke and I was leaking.
So I was on the clock.
-Yeah I think your water broke maybe 8 or 9 at night.
So then she started leaking and all that time
because you have to keep going
because her water broke and there's concern about his safety.
-Right, once your water breaks, then you're "on the clock" so to speak.
Anyways, then we decided to go ahead with the Pitocin.
I know I didn't want it and it would make it much worse, but sure.
I had already had an IV the whole time.
So then they started the Pitocin
and then the contractions became really, really bad.
I mean like really close and really bad.
By that time we had a different doctor.
He was nicer but he talked way too much!
-I was like...
dude you know she's having contractions and she can't pay attention to you
so maybe you could shut up while she's having a contraction
and then when she's done you can explain it.
Then contraction, shut up, instead of just
talking all the time when she's in pain.
I'm like... uhh it doesn't make any sense.
-Seriously, so he's blabbing, blabbing, blabbing
but anyways he offers me an epidural.
He said it would relax my muscles and
I guess maybe help to get things going,
but I refused.
That's the one thing I said I do not want.
I do not want an epidural.
I don't want to be numb and can't feel anything.
-This is the sign for epidural.
Yep epidural. -Oh I didn't know that.
Okay, well I didn't want an epidural.
So I refused that.
Then it just kept going.
Pretty much I was screaming... well not like screaming, screaming,
but I was making a lot of noise.
Then there was one point where I was kneeling on the bed
and they decided they wanted to try and give me what's called
sterile water injections.
So there's four shots they put in your lower back.
Cause all of my pain was in my lower back.
So they said they're gonna do it during a contraction. They would shoot me up.
There's two nurses I guess that would do it.
I said sure if it's gonna be helpful.
Oh my gosh that was the worst... -Bad idea
pain ever that I felt in my life.
I mean I was moaning, but then I screamed at the top of my lungs.
Oh my God it felt awful!
And guess what, it did nothing!
It didn't help at all!
So the next time, later, they offered it to me and I was like, "NO".
But anyways, it just kept going. Things kept progressing.
I tried different positions.
The doula was a HUGE help.
I mean, like literally a lifesaver.
But anyways, long story short,
did all of that and then finally they checked me
and said "you're 10 centimeters, you can go ahead and try and push".
And...
I just didn't feel I was ready.
I tried a little bit. I was on my knees
and they said "you have to try and push on your back"
and I just couldn't.
I said "No I need a break. I need a break. I can't do it. I can't do it."
The doula said if you feel you're not ready to push, then don't.
-That's one thing that's nice is what she would do is
it got to the point where the doctor was trying to be pushy.
"Try and do this..." got pushy
and try and twist our arm a little bit.
But she would say "No we need to go to the bathroom.
Let her go to the bathroom."
Take us in there and then try and calm us down
and give us a break.
It's kind of a strategy that she had.
Close the door and then the three of us could talk about what we wanted to do.
Calm down and wait a little bit.
Then once we feel we're ready,
then we can go ahead, go out and do whatever.
So I was really impressed. She was so helpful.
-Right, plus she was contacting other doulas
to try and...
because the head was down but it was turned the wrong way.
So we were trying different positions and different techniques.
So we were trying to flip the baby around the right way.
Anyways, I decided I couldn't push yet. I wasn't ready.
So the doctor left and then I labored more.
Then I think I remember I was squatting on the floor
and she was holding onto me
and it got to the point where
I just thought
if I don't push this baby out soon,
then I'm assuming they're gonna have to have an emergency c-section
because he was starting to get distressed.
I just decided I have to do this.
By that time they had decided to put in an
internal fetal monitor on him.
Which he still has a little mark on his head over here.
Yeah, right there.
Again, I didn't want that, but...
everything was to the point where it was happening so quickly
like pretty much they were doing things without pretty much letting me know.
They let me know after they put the monitor on him.
So anyways, then...
I decided I wanted to push.
So I got up into the bed on my back.
Put my legs up and I tried to push.
I pushed as much as I could.
It was awful. Just let you know, it was terrible.
Then he said, okay one more push.
Apparently he used the vacuum...
-Really... well first...
I was there and saw the whole thing.
I was holding her legs and could see everything there that was happening.
But what was happening, was you could see the very top of his head.
Maybe this much.
You could see it trying to come out,
and her pushing, but it was really slow
and he was putting his hand in to help it out.
He said I'm gonna have to go ahead and do a cut, an episiotomy.
I said "No she doesn't want that. Let her try again. Let her try and push."
So he let her try and push a little bit more
and you could see it starting to come out,
but it wasn't fast enough to get out.
He said sorry I'm gonna have to go ahead and cut a little bit,
you know the vagina, cut a little bit.
Not the whole thing, just a little snip.
It wasn't too bad, luckily.
So he did a little snip and that helped.
You could see the head coming out, but still
his forehead area was stuck. It wouldn't come out.
At that point, that's when he decided to go ahead
and put the vacu-seal, luckily just two compressions.
Then he helped to kind of pull out the head.
Finally once the head came out it was fast and the body came out.
Once his head was good, shoulders were no problem.
It came out just fine.
-Yeah I was not there mentally.
I didn't really know a lot what happened.
I had no idea about using the vacuum until way later.
Somebody told me and I was like "ohh...".
I had no idea, but anyways
he came out and I was in total shock.
Then they brought him over to make sure he was okay because he wasn't crying.
I was freaking out because he wasn't crying.
Everything was fine. Obviously he's fine.
She got to hold him first because
I had a second degree tear and an episiotomy
so there were a lot of stitches going on.
But yeah, he was born and obviously the placenta came out really easily.
Then they were stitching me up forever
because the doctor was explaining to I think it was a resident or something
how to stitch everything up.
So he was explaining that, which was taking forever.
It was crazy, but then he was born and there he is.
-Yeah he was born very angry.
-Yeah he was really crabby.
But it makes sense because it was traumatizing for the two of us.
-Well and he didn't want to come out really.
-That's right.
So that is the birth.
Then after that um...
we had a little bit of issues with...
well after that,
then everything went fine.
That evening overnight, seemed to be okay.
Tried to do breastfeeding a little bit.
Then the next morning we tried to breastfeed him a little bit more.
Then I noticed after I fed him...
-Well it's kind of off topic
but later that evening
we had to transition to another room, the post-partum room.
Which was a much better room.
So we went there and then got settled in for the night.
-Right, so we switched from the labor room to the...
post whatever it's called.
So then like I said, overnight was fine.
Then the next morning tried to breastfeed him again a little bit,
not... wasn't great.
But tried to breastfeed and then
I noticed he was making a sound
almost like a grunting kind of noise
and he was breathing a little bit fast.
So I asked the nurse,"is that sound normal or what?"
She was like "oh my goodness!"
They decided they needed to check him.
Then a lot of things happened and he ended up having to go to the NICU
because of breathing difficulties. He was breathing fast.
They were concerned he might have an infection or a problem.
So they brought him to the NICU and really long story short,
he was really fine to be totally honest.
They held him for 48 hours because of a possible infection
but he really didn't need to stay there.
-Well they had him on antibiotics.
So they had to wait for that to finish,
so it was a 48 hour hold.
But to be honest, they checked the culture
and all of that and his blood work and there was no infection.
It was just a little bit high with his white blood cell count
and that's just because of the stress from the birth process because it was so difficult.
So that's what caused him to do that, stress.
He wasn't sick, he was just stressed out.
So kind of felt like he shouldn't have gone there in the first place.
I mean I totally understand safety reasons,
but I guess that whole thing stressed us all out.
Caused a lot of problems and the people in the NICU,
some of them were really great,
but also some of them were just not...
understanding or...
they weren't patient with us as new parents who were really concerned.
They had everything on a schedule.
You have to do this and have to do that.
So that whole experience was not great
and it was not necessary in the first place.
So I kind of just felt like ugh.
-Yeah I kind of felt staying in the NICU
was kind of what ruined my breastfeeding experience for me.
Why I struggled so much and all of that.
So I don't know, we'll see what happens.
But that's kind of a really long story short what happened in the NICU.
But he is fine now
and he's a growing boy and everything is good.
So yeah, that is the birth story.
It was... it's a long story
but I think it was 29 hours in total of labor.
Not from the membrane sweep,
but from the Cervidil being inserted on.
It was 29 hours.
So a really, really long time
and a lot of pain
and... would I do it again?
Maybe (laughs)
-Yeah, but at least we've had that experience
and we learned from it.
So if we decide to try again later,
then we'll know a lot better
of what we can avoid, what we can expect,
what to do, and all of that.
-Right... so that is the birth story.
Hopefully you enjoyed listening to the story
and how he came into this world.
Yeah!
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Yes he is.
Yeah he's probably gonna wake up soon.
-Yeah he is the cutest baby in the world.
I'm sorry for all of you who have babies,
but he's the cutest one. -Yeah it's true.
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