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Good morning everybody this is the stay-at-home dad episode
This is a collab we're doing with Whitaker family vlogs and the Bennett's life. We're gonna be kind of covering stay-at-home dad
non-traditional father roles
secondary income that kind of thing
It's gonna be a lot of fun very interesting, and I would say probably not your typical
Sitcom father role type video. This is real life today. Not even wearing a hat go on full bed
Head I'm gonna show you what it's really like on a typical day. While Sierra's getting ready
I get up come out to the kitchen make the breakfast for everybody and
get together all the things that she usually takes to work I
Also feed the dogs
and then when Gabriel wakes up I get him out of the crib and feed him and
I'm sorry this video kind of started out like hey
This is what my day is like my daily routine style video
And that's not what this is gonna be the purpose of this video is to share my experience
What led you to become a stay-at-home dad?
How do people react when you tell them you're a stay-at-home dad and hopefully we can offer you some encouragement?
So my stay-at-home dad experience has been positive. I will say that but it has been a little complicated
Is a complicated, but not because of this kid
I've had a job since I was 13 years old
Or some form of income since I was 13 years old and a regular job since high school
So the idea of not working regularly
Is kind of foreign to me and a little hard to get used?
In the early days of Gabriel's existence. I did try to work full-time I was working from home
And I thought that I would give it a try I actually googled if it was possible
just to see if anybody had any tips or anything like that and
everything that I read said that it was not possible and
I thought the kid just sleeps in in his little swing all day. You know how hard can this be?
And it was an absolute nightmare like it was the worst experience
It cannot be done if you're watching this video, and you think it can be done, I'm telling you that it can't
With the baby that age and a full-time job
it's
They've quite. They both require too much, and I was just ripping myself apart trying to give 100% to vote and it can't be done
When I quit my job
I had a hard time feeling like I was
Pulling my weight in the house even though I was doing a lot of the housework
Caring for him you know keeping him alive
Those kinds of things and Sarah was very good at reassuring me that I was pulling my weight
But not bringing in a paycheck always just kind of laid on me it made me talk
It made me feel really guilty so
So I tried to think of him as a job
kind of reframing my thoughts and
that didn't work because
On some level most people tend to hate their jobs
Even on even jobs they love their days that they hate him and I didn't want to feel that way about him
So I had to stop that mindset
So I'm not real sure at what point I decided to just to just chill to stop trying to think of it as a job
To try to relax and enjoy it take it day by day, I really didn't know what I was doing
Hey still don't if I'm being totally honest
You know keep him alive that seems to be the the important thing
I will say that he rolled off the couch once
Bumped his head I was getting his bottle ready and this was
The very beginning of when he started to move
You know and it used to be you could put him somewhere, and he wouldn't go anywhere
But I learned that day that those days were over because I put him in the corner of the couch
And he leaned forward and then slid right off the edge, so it wasn't like he just fell
But he slid down
And I heard and then he started crying and that was the first time I said you ever have I told Sarah I said
you know
That time you realize the one the first time you really mess up at a new job
You make a mistake you know and you feel like you're bad at your job that
Day was the day he rolled off the couch was that day for me
But he's alright that doesn't mean we didn't call the doctor and get him checked out because we're overprotective first-time parents I
Honestly thought
Being a stay-at-home parent
would not be as
Exhausting as it is I was very naive
but
It actually
When it when I when we were starting out
When we were starting out
People say how's it going, and it's like you know it's a whole lot less stressful
But it's way more exhausting, so it's a real job. I don't get paid I get paid and loved
But there's no money in it so
My personal experience being a stay-at-home dad
It's been an overwhelming blessing. It was difficult at first to get used to and to kind of
internally accept some of the
The new things the role changes and stuff like that I guess the part about Sarah being the you know
breadwinner and all that that wasn't hard for me, but
like
stopping work
that was hard for me and
Just giving myself all to him, but that part was easy
So I would say that my experience my experience although complicated at first
Has been overwhelmingly positive, what do you think?
Alright Gabriel's down for his big nap of the day. That's the that's usually the time that I get to do other things
Maybe some housework
Lifting or some of my some work from my part-time job that I do
So me becoming a stay-at-home dad
Really isn't that exciting at the story so even back when we were dating before we even had kids or were married or anything like
That Sarah always said she never wanted to put our kids in daycare. She wanted to be able to raise him at home
That was just her preference. I didn't have a problem with putting kids in daycare
Because the idea of me being a stay-at-home dad or her being a stay-at-home mom seemed kind of foreign at the time we were both
You know working on careers and that kind of stuff so
We just didn't really even think about it, or I didn't even think about it
So we moved to Dallas for Sara's career, and she was already counted the main breadwinner or she was the main breadwinner
So this kind of took her out of the running for staying at home with the baby?
So when she got pregnant?
We already started talking about me staying at home with the baby
so with the cost of daycare
Sara's desire for the kids to be raised at home, and she's the main breadwinner and
Her career being here in Dallas. I'm already working at home, so it just made sense that I take on the role stay-at-home dad
Jeez I hate leg day
You put your socks off
Got a lot of Mg me to go for a walk Gabriel is up from his nap
Or out for a quick walk
It's a little chilly outside
But I got to get him out of the house every now and then or he and I both kind of go crazy
You know 90s sitcoms
Tell us that dad goes to work his mom stays home takes care of the kids
You know gets them off to school and all that stuff, but so you grow up thinking. That's the way it's supposed to be
So honestly
The moat the book of the people that I've come in contact with been very supportive you know
traditionally like I said the the man goes to work, and this is 2018 and I
I don't think that you can say anything is traditional anymore I
Guess you can't say its traditional, but well about breaking those traditions these days
Well nanika the north
So I'd say really up until this point I haven't met many others stay-at-home dads. I have known a couple in my life
but only as acquaintances never really actually got to know them and
interestingly enough it's through YouTube that I've met a couple others I
Do get a variety of reactions though you know after
Having done this for almost a year
When you tell people oh, yeah, I'm a stay-at-home dad you get you get the oh?
Well good for you
Really, that's so interesting. Oh, man. It must be nice not having to go to work every day
but honestly they had been too bad mostly people are very respectful and
Generally pretty impressed. I feel like we're kind of at the dawn of the stay-at-home-dad era so
typically when I tell people that I'm stay-at-home dad
I kind of get looked at almost like I'm a unicorn. It's like really okay. That's cool. You know
No, one is outright
disrespectful or anything like that and usually
Everybody's pretty cool about it freeze you little fingers off
So being a stay-at-home dad is definitely it takes an adjustment. It's not
For most people I guess I mean I can really only speak from my own experience
It's not what I expected
but
It has definitely been rewarding. There's nowhere. I'd rather be right now
He's been working on this thing for good ten minutes
He's gonna get it eventually and
You have to sacrifice
To to be a stay-at-home dad. I know we have had to sacrifice
we went from two incomes to one I
Do my part with a few of all side jobs that I work on in the evenings and while he's napping and stuff like that
but
You know it's nothing like having two full-time incomes, so
There are gonna be sacrifices involved, but I guarantee you
That's totally worth it
So it's important that I mentioned that none of this would be possible without Sarah
Sorry he's too fast for me
Hey
She we're a team you know everything that we do we do it together, and she really helps
It's not just one-sided thing. I don't do all the housework
Because she realizes how much
How exhausting it is taking care of him, so she'll work, and then she comes home, and then she plays with him
Well, I can get other things done or we play with him together
We work through books with him together and that kind of thing trying to read to him or point to the pictures on the page
Anyway, and then she helps with the dishes she helps with the cooking I mean
she she really played you know pulls her weight she put you know plays her part and
She's an excellent partner
And I've always said that we're a good team now he's got a third member of the team
And I guess this will be the last thing that I really want to leave, but leave you with
Watching your son daughter sons and daughters whatever the situation is watching them grow up
like this is
better than the view from any corner office
I would never get the same kind of fulfillment at work that I get
changing this kids diapers
So again this was a collab that we did with Whitaker family vlogs and
the Bennett's life
so be sure to
Check out their channels, I'm gonna put the link link to the playlist and links to their channels in the descriptions. They're both excellent channels
great families
at different points of parenting
You know aged kids and that kind of thing so they're they're a lot of fun to watch
I encourage you guys to check them out, so thanks again for watching this video
I hope you got something out of it
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Let me know if you're a stay-at-home dad if your stay-at-home dad and you would like to contribute to this playlist that would be awesome
You could send me an email make mention something in the comments reach out to me on Twitter
any of that stuff we'd love to have your video in the playlist and
Kind of get you in the stay-at-home dad Network get to know you a little bit more so thanks again for watching
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