as Maya Angelou said if you don't like
something change it if you can't change
it change your attitude that's some of
the best advice you're ever going to
hear at the end of the day you should
always be trying to change the things
that you have the ability to change
there are inevitably going to be things
that you can't change but you're never
helpless you're never a victim in that
moment you still have the unbelievable
ability to choose to look at it in a new
way to choose to reframe it and in that
reframing you change everything you
don't just change your own neural
chemistry you're not just changing the
way that you feel you're actually
changing the way that you're going to
approach the problem something that was
moments before something that seemed
impossible something that was breaking
your will to continue to fight with a
change in attitude becomes something
completely different and as hans selye
said adopting the right attitude can
turn a negative stress into a positive
one and that game of mental jujitsu is
what it's about that game of flipping
something on its head of turning
something around of seeing it in a new
way so that you can act in a new way is
how you make forward progress and
understanding that understanding the
need to take control of your perceptions
understanding that understanding your
need to change your perspective that's
how you begin to get ahead once you
understand your perspective is a choice
it is not objective truth burn that into
your mind
it is not objective truth the world that
you see around you is simply the
perspective through which you see it all
of life is a funhouse mirror
and when you acknowledge that when you
understand that you're looking at a
distorted view of the way the world is
you realize that you can adopt a
different Distortion you can adopt a
disor
things in a way that empower you and
that should always be the first step is
figuring out not what is not what you
can change but instead understanding
what you need to change it to an
understanding that that change comes
from inside you it isn't a manifestation
that you have to make in the outside
world first it's a change you have to
make inside yourself it is a shift of
perspective it is simply stepping to the
side of what you're used to and how you
use to seeing things and understanding
that in reframing things you take that
negative and turn it into something that
builds you up but you've got to choose
you've got to decide you've got to
believe that you can do it but once you
believe that you can see things in any
way that you need to to reach your goals
your life will change forever because
you'll actually reach your goals
I wanted to spell a myth for you it's
the talent myth it's the belief that
some people were just born with more
than others that some people are
naturally gifted in some aren't and
that's just the way the cookie crumbles
and whatever you're gonna be is
essentially determined by how you
started that your DNA is exactly your
destiny I'm here to tell you right now
that's bullshit
it's just not true it's not the truth of
the way that humans are designed as a
species were the ultimate adaptation
machine that the very thing that puts us
at the top of the pyramid is our ability
to adapt it is the fact that the brain
is plastic that it responds to change it
responds to stressors it responds to
repetition and repetition is a slave to
obsession as Conor McGregor said there's
no talent here this is hard work this is
an obsession you could be anyone if you
put in the time that's one of the
greatest athletes of our time telling
you that he's not the result of genetics
he's not the result of natural gifts he
hasn't been bestowed something by God he
has shown up day after day in the most
mundane of conditions on the cold days
on the hot days he put in the work
because he was obsessed with what he
could become and that repetition that
you need to actually gain a skill
follows that obsession so in you right
now right now today you want to start
building that obsession you want to look
at it like an ember that can become a
raging fire but it needs your time and
attention it needs your time and
attention you've got to take that
interest you've got to take that spark
of desire and you've got a family
you've got to turn it into that
obsession and from that obsession if you
put in the work if you do the things day
in and day out the back-breaking work
pushing through the pain
fighting through feeling like an idiot
fighting through embarrassment getting
up brushing yourself off doing it again
practicing putting yourself at
somebody's feet and asking what could I
have done better not look at the things
you're doing well but look at the things
we're doing wrong look at the things
you're doing poorly staring at your
inadequacies with no loss of pride
because the only thing you value in
yourself is your willingness to do that
you're willing is to work your ass off
and as Sylvester Stallone said I'm not
the richest smartest or most talented
person in the world but I succeed
because I keep going and going and going
and that's the secret there's nothing
more than that
the people that you see the win at the
highest level they were the ones that
didn't give up they're the survivors and
you've got to ask yourself am i a
survivor type am I the type of person
that continues to push through when it
gets hard when it gets boring when I
feel lost when I don't know what I'm
doing when I have no faith in myself
even in that darkest hour can I push
forward can I accept that the human body
will respond to that stress it will
respond to that stimulus but I have to
show up and I have to do the work and so
that's the beautiful thing you're not
gonna separate yourself based on your
genetics you're not gonna separate
yourself based on who your parents were
where you were born
you're gonna separate yourself by
showing up and you don't want to you're
gonna separate yourself by pushing
forward when it hurts
you're gonna separate yourself by always
moving forward even when the forward is
falling on your face so never lose sight
of that it's the person that keeps going
that can't be defeated
if no one thinks you're crazy you're not
yet operating to the outer limits of
your potential doesn't matter how old
you are you can't blame your gender
doesn't matter where are you from
doesn't have matter how smart you are
doesn't matter what your personality is
doesn't matter how many strengths you
have or what your strengths profile is
at all
doesn't matter how creative you are or
empathetic doesn't matter how many years
of experience and doesn't matter how
much you get paid you can't blame them
any more the data doesn't prove it out
now some people say well Brendan Brendan
Brendan those things must matter I've
seen studies no I'm not saying those
things don't matter many of those things
are very important especially at certain
parts of your life but in high
performance it's not the study of
initial success okay initial success is
nice and it's not the study peak
performance either because at the top of
our peak is a valley
I think people are tired of the ups and
downs in life and they want that steady
path to growth I'm the creator but it's
not what made me a high performer there
are a lot of people who are creative who
can't organize their way out of box
there's a lot of people who are also
empathetic deeply caring but they can't
get stuff done there are a lot of people
who are extroverted who also push away
people so we can't say that any of those
things lead to long-term success but
when we get it right
everything changes high performers are
more successful than their peers in
almost every category of measurement you
could take whether how much they earn
what they do how far they succeed in
their own industry etc they're also less
stressed more success only stresses you
out when you don't have the habits to
handle it
don't fear success get better habits
that's all
high performers are prolific in their
field no matter what that means if
they're a salesperson it's more sales
calls right if they're an artist it's
more paintings if it's a musician it's
Beethoven right it's just cranking out
the product that matters in your area of
expertise they work passionately whether
you pay them high or not because they're
driven by intrinsic motivations the care
the passions the art the fulfillment of
what they do they're admired and they're
adaptive they change faster they make
decisions faster they're happier than
most people they're healthier than most
people they get better grades and they
also feel appreciated about their work
that there's no loneliness at the top
they feel like people appreciate them
understand how hard they work and they
feel rewarded for it in other words a
lot of these people you might not
initially like these people are
extraordinary but not by accident and
not by birthright buy habits we proved
it there's eleven effective habits that
makes a person successful in general but
when we tried to bust it down and we
said look can we prove that they're
doing it on purpose can we prove can we
watch it and observe it and track it and
measure it can we change it that's what
malleable means is it trainable meaning
can they get better at it and we can
show it and does it work across domains
it works for you your team your brother
your sister your mother your
grandparents everybody that you can it
work across life is it universal in
other words was our question that broke
it down then to only six habits which
I'll show you with you now the first one
seek clarity high performers seek
clarity before they do almost anything
they don't get clarity as if one day in
life they wake up and everything's
perfectly clearer they know exactly what
to do no it's not get clarity it's seek
clarity they are consistently seeking
clarity more than anybody else many you
guys know I've been blessed to do some
online courses with Oprah Winfrey and
one thing I love about her is every
meeting she starts her first question in
all the meetings after hi how you doin
'he's our what's our intention for this
meeting
what's the intention for this meeting
she's seek before the meeting starts she
wants to not what's the agenda who's
talking about what's the intention what
are we trying to do here that's seeking
clarity we found that high performers
look to the future
more than general population by over 70%
in a positive frame meaning they look to
tomorrow and they say who can I be how
do I want to interact with people what
skills do I need to develop how do I
want to serve they're seeking clarity in
those ways and now we all seek clarity
high performers do it more often common
sense is not always common practice and
that's why so many potentially great
people fail to ever reach their full
potential common sense is not always
common practice high performers have
made seeking clarity common practice
they also generate tremendous amounts of
energy by will they generate energy they
like they fire themselves up but it's
not just generating energy by will in
every measure mentally emotionally and
physically high performers peak out over
the general population by almost 70%
they deal with stress 70% better they're
in better physical shape for their age
it's just like they it's not by accident
they're generating the energy they need
to serve in the world they're not
waiting for it see a power plant takes
energy from one area transforms it into
a different form of energy stores it
then transmits it high performers do the
same thing they don't hope one day
they're gonna be satisfied they make
themselves feel satisfied they don't
hope to find peace after they've
accomplished everything as they're
accomplishing they're making themselves
find peace they don't have you know wait
for it like Christmas to bring them joy
they into each moment bring the joy
they raise their sense of necessity in
one way it means they have higher
emotional commitment they stoke
necessity necessity means the difference
between I should do it I'd like to do it
versus I must do it I know you guys are
in personal development and you've heard
this a million times
it's just that high performers do it
every morning they're aware of what must
I do today to move the needle forward
they're very clear on what they really
must do to progress and they do it and
they do it because they've associated
their internal identity with their
external obligations so they know my
internal standards and values line up to
make me go there and they've set up
their external life so that there's
deadlines and duty to other people it's
why the military is so high performing
duty right internal standard I'm a
soldier
external standard duty to my country
identity external RAM together then you
have to do it they do that on purpose
mentally start figuring out right now
what we call PQ o PQ o sense for
prolific quality output high performers
have figured out what would make them
not only effective but sometimes wealthy
sometimes well-known sometimes more well
respected but I figure out what's the
quality output that really matters and
then they go all-in it's the story of
Steve Jobs coming back to Apple after he
was fired and seeing over 20 product
lines and saying this is too much clear
the decks is that we're gonna focus on
these five things that's it that's what
brought us the first iPod then the
iPhone then the iPad then the Mac Pro
like all that build was because he came
in he cleared houses
what is our P Q oh I didn't use that
language but that's essentially what we
found all high performers actually do
they figure out what's the stuff that we
need to produce the route of
productivity is produce so busy work is
not the same as your life's work
you gotta figure out your life's or what
is the things that you need to create
that will shift and change everything
and leave your legacy high performers
actively consistently are seeking to
develop influence with people and they
work so hard at it they're very very
conscious of how they're impacting their
kids how they're impacting their friends
how they're impacting the world around
them they're doing it on purpose to
there they want to be role models think
about anybody who's ever been
influential in your life who's been the
most positively influential person in
your life for a moment think about that
and once you have that I guarantee you I
can tell you exactly why they were
influential because our studies proved
it out what makes somebody influential
number one I bet that person who made
such a difference in your life they
taught you how to think influential
people are telling you how to think
about yourself sometimes about your
relationships sometimes about how you
contribute sometimes how to think second
thing they didn't they challenged
they challenge what you contributed what
you gave what you were capable of they
said you're better than this young woman
you're better than this young man you
got more Enya come on let's go they push
they challenged and third they role
modeled the way they role modeled the
way for you and that changed everything
high performers demonstrate more courage
than most people they demonstrate more
courage than most people these six
habits change everything but this last
piece is so highly correlate with high
performance you got to get it
demonstrating courage means it is time
for you to tell your family what you
really think need believe dream of same
with your team same with your spouse all
the holding back of what you really want
in life in silence there is suffering
high performers share what they really
want of life because if you can't share
it you can't get it out there you can't
attract it you can't move it high
performers deeply care about sharing
what's true for them and they're willing
to step into uncertainty even when they
don't know what to do
maybe someone's gonna reject you if you
start your dream no likely somebody is
going to reject you but either you can
look in the cave of an uncertain ego I
don't want to go in I'm so scared I'm so
scared to go what's this gonna be like
and you wander in with a flashlight of
curiosity and you say on what this could
be and now your curiosity starts looking
like courage and goes wow you got a lot
of guts and no you're just being curious
again sometimes allowing yourself to put
yourself out there and start asking more
questions that's courage too but at the
end of the day we've got to take more
action
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