Greetings and welcome to Awakening With Brahma Kumaris. Sister Shivani is with us. Welcome, Sister.
Om Shanti.
Om Shanti and welcome to Soul Reflections.
Thank you.
We started discussing about one word - Respect.
I would like to read something which is related.
This person did not respect me.
He did not obey me.
He did not wear the dress which I suggested.
I felt I was disrespected.
So there is a line which talks about the distance getting created in relationships.
A conflict cannot survive
Without your participation.
Conflict cannot survive without your participation.
Just like a man cannot survive without oxygen or air
Or without food
It is so beautiful word Survive for conflicts.
When we listen to the world conflict
We always think of two people in the mind.
That the conflict has to be between two people.
So if the conflict is between two people
And if it needs to be ended
We feel two people are needed.
Two people will have to do something
Like tennis
Two people.
If we have to play a game it needs to people.
It happens between two people.
But if one person stops playing.
The game is over.
Similarly if the energy exchange between two people is of conflict
But here if one of them stops playing the game
He says the game is conceded
If the other person says you lost, then Ego is hurt.
Let us look at that aspect also.
The line is very important and we need to use it as a Mantra.
I like the word Survive being used. Only something which is fed can survive.
Very true. Only one who is fed can survive.
If we don't even feet someone, how will he survive?
We feed conflict too.
But the important word is
That it cannot survive without your participation.
We often feel
But everything is fine from my side.
But until it is fine from that person's side
This conflict cannot end.
When we try to convince people they say - I don't mind having this resolved.
But let him come first and say sorry to me.
Because he has created it.
Actually it is not about who comes and says sorry first.
It is about who starts changing the energy here first.
Okay.
Often in a conflict, there is nothing that happens outside
You have not spoken anything wrong to anyone.
You have not behaved wrongly with anyone.
It means there is no conflict that is visible seen.
If you look at it externally the relationship is perfectly fine.
Yet there is a conflict.
The conflict is about the two souls
Sending each other a certain energy.
The smoothness, harmony, purity, transparency and integrity that should exist in a relationship
Does not exist.
There is no visible fight.
There is no fight.
No fight and no arguments have happened.
There has not been any problem.
But it is not as smooth as it should have been.
In a conflict the two people involved will know about it?
Slightly.
Heaviness.
I may not be friendly with the person.
I am not comfortable.
I may not even smile in his presence
In his absence I can crack jokes.
The energy between us is not comfortable.
Even if you sit with them and crack a joke
The energy is not comfortable.
That is right, I have experienced it.
I say I don't want to go there because I am not comfortable there.
Conflict between two people
Is sometimes nothing to do with outside.
Many times we can see in the conflict outwardly the two people cannot get along.
Even in small situations they confront each other.
They get stuck.
Their Sanskars don't match.
They can't live together.
They have an argument everyday.
This is a conflict which is visible outside.
The other is - when a conflict is not resolved
It gets dragged for too long.
That their misunderstandings have been going on for a while.
For years.
Sometimes it reaches the stage where they stop talking to each other.
Both cannot live with each other or work with each other.
This is visible conflict.
It goes to an extent - when we organise parties, we prepare a list of who gets along with who else.
We call one group today and another group on a different day because some of them are constantly conflicted.
We have to think twice even to call them home.
Because if two people who have a conflict energy
Are present in the same room
The energy in the party becomes heavy.
Even if there are 50 or 100 people in your party.
But there are only two people who cannot get along well with each other.
But those two people send each other such heavy energy
They are not speaking or arguing
But both of them send such heavy energy to each other
That the energy of the room changes.
It can happen between relatives when they meet.
It is a function or a get-together
Family and extended family attend it.
But two souls there cannot get along well with each other.
I have same event management people
When VIP is entered the room
The event management people say - he can sit there, the other person can sit three rows behind him.
I would wonder why.
To maintain harmony in the energy of the event.
If you ask two people to sit together
Then it is not just doors two people' s energy but even their face and body language which each other see.
I have seen VIP's asking for a different seat.
What are heavy conflict it must be that they cannot even sit together.
The lion is so beautiful that the conflict cannot survive without your participation.
Often why do conflicts go on for a long time
Because we feel two people are needed to finish the conflict.
Even people who try to talk to them will say they can convince one person.
Who will convince the second person?
The second person is not even ready to speak.
One person is ready to bow down but other one is not even ready to speak.
So we always keep waiting - when will both of them agree?
When will both of them change their energy
We say that is when the conflict will end.
When we make both of them sit together the conflict may even increase.
Yes it happens.
Then they get upset that it increased.
Because even when we get them together, they only speak about the other person being wrong.
We say you did this, you did that. That the person will say you did this and that.
What is the energy for each other from within?
The energy will be so heavy
Past matters will come to the surface
So the knots cannot be released.
Apricot instead of bringing the thought of resolving the conflict they bring a list of the other persons mistakes.
Because they want to prove to the other person that the mistake is yours.
If anyone to apologize it should be you.
If anyone should change it should be you.
So it is all about what you are supposed to do.
Suppose two of us sitting here
And we have to resolve a conflict
You will go on telling me what I am supposed to do.
And I will go on telling you, what you are supposed to do.
So our effort is that when the other person does something
To change, then the conflict will end.
What is the quotation say?
It cannot survive without your participation.
Sometimes they just hug each other, cry about the incident and patch up.
It happens very often but we need to pay attention
But it is not done only outwardly
You intend to harmonize that relationship.
But where should the relationship be harmonized?
It has to be corrected in the thoughts which I create about them on the soul.
Suppose I send negative energy and you also send negative energy.
Our relationship is a little towards black.
It is of conflict and hence heavy energy.
We sat together to discuss and resolve. Somebody explained and convinced us.
We said we will delete everything and clean the past.
And then we spoke well and everything was resolved.
It means the black energy which had got created
It got cleaned.
It really gets cleaned that time.
It could be momentary for this 10 to 15 days.
I don't feel like meeting him again.
Not even that. How did the black energy get created in the relationship?
You sent a black thought and I also sent a black thought.
Something which I don't feel nice about you now and a past incident which I still have held on to, in my mind.
So I also sent black, you also sent black and the relationship is black.
Now we sat down to resolve it.
We clean that completely, letting go of the past.
We said we will forget it and make a new beginning.
Intention is very pure and we start afresh.
But we cleaned the past outside.
Will let go of past.
Did we delete it from here?
If even one person did not delete it from here.
Then what energy will radiate to the other?
Suppose you have completely deleted it.
But I haven't.
So the past started to replay on my mind.
But I am speaking to you very nicely outwardly because we start together, put in efforts and resolved it.
So I am making genuine efforts outside.
To talk properly, to behave properly.
But I have not healed my inner pain.
I am getting reminded of the past.
And I once again start feeling that you were not right at that time.
So gradually I started to send black thoughts once again.
If you do not take care
Because that black thought starts coming towards you from me.
You also have that past with you.
Although you have made an effort to forget all that.
The black energy which is coming to me from you
Can it again trigger past thoughts in me?
Exactly.
Like a candle which can light another candle.
That is what will happen because it is already there in you.
The past is always with us.
We have decided to leave the past and make a new beginning.
But the past is recorded on the soul.
So the moment I start sending you that energy again
Just in my thoughts, but my words and behaviour are perfect.
Because we had made a decision.
That everything will go on fine from now.
Words and behaviour a perfect but those thoughts are created in the mind once again.
If you do not take care
It will not take time for you to start creating
Similar thoughts again.
We take so much care that our child should not end up eating wrong things.
Even our pets are not allowed to eat what is not right.
We give them good food.
But with thoughts we don't check what we are feeding.
How much care should we take there?
Now if such thoughts have started getting created in me
If you do not pay attention
And if it started to come from you also
Then the black energy which we had cleaned - it will not take time for it to get created again.
Even if we have started talking to each other again
Our behaviour is fine
But our energy exchange has started again
Now it requires only a small situation
For even our words and behaviours to change.
And if this happens once or twice
We will say - let it be, I cannot get along with this person.
I tried everything possible from my side.
We almost always say that we tried everything possible from our side.
We say - It is not happening from that side, hence the relationship is conflicted.
The more we feel that it is not happening from the other person
What is the energy we are sending the other person?
If I keep holding you responsible
That you are not making efforts.
That you don't even want to do it.
It means I am also indirectly feeding it.
I am also participating.
If we look at it step-wise
Our old belief system that to end a conflict
It needs 2 people - this is not true.
Two people are needed to harmonize a relationship - this is not true.
You mentioned that I resolved it from my side.
I resolve it from my side is a very subtle thing.
If I have really resolved it then there cannot be a problem.
When you mentioned that once it is resolved by one person
When the other person sends a black ball from there
Dark or negative energy
How do we block it?
You need to send white energy of a much greater magnitude.
If you don't send it
Suppose you are not creating any energy for me.
And I have started to send black.
If I don't even receive it, instead of not sending white?
How can you not receive my thought?
How can you not receive a thought?
It will come to me.
I meant I will not care for it. It just comes in leaves.
It comes and leaves means?
I have sent you a thought and if you do not counter it
Past hurt is already recorded in you
That gets triggered because of my thought.
It is like a past memory which is a very powerful thing.
Even today if you just recall something which happened 20, 30 or even 40 years ago, you may have tears.
When negative energy comes towards us
To just counter it back by saying - no, he is so good
How to do it? It is so difficult.
We should not even wait for negative energy to come from there, saying we will counter it at that time.
If we genuinely want to resolve a conflict
We have to consciously resolve it from here.
Conflict can never be resolved through words and behaviours.
It has to be resolved only from here.
Which means we have to consciously sit down, and like we do in meditation
We have to consciously sit down and send white energy to that soul everyday.
It means we need to sit in meditation and emerge that person
Emerge the soul - we need to remember this always.
How to emerge the soul, we can emerge the body?
No. We need to look at the soul in the centre of the forehead within that body, and speak to the soul.
Without that it will not work.
I had believed it is the person
Emerge the soul
We need to talk to the soul.
Okay.
So it is a soul to soul talk.
It is a soul to soul talk, not a relationship to relationship talk.
Not a position to position talk.
Soul to Soul talk.
If it is not soul to soul
The result will not be created. Ego comes in between.
If we want to transmit energy to another person
Powerful and peaceful - look at the soul and talk.
When we want to resolve a conflict, that is why that quotation is so beautiful and we need to take it back.
It cannot survive without your participation.
Which means if two people are sending black energy to each other
If one stops sending
Conflict is over.
If my sending black to you, triggers black within you
Then my sending white to you, triggers white within you.
I need to see my power.
I can't wait for you to set things right.
Just because I am putting efforts I can't wait for you to put efforts.
Is it possible that conflict between two souls
And if one soul leaves the body, does the conflict end?
How can it get over? Karmic account has got created.
Does it mean when that soul takes a new body
Suppose you and me are sending black energy to each other.
The energy exchange has been happening and almost 10 years have passed this way.
Both of us leave the body.
When these two souls meet the next time
It doesn't matter how many births later they meet.
And it doesn't matter in What relationship they meet, but when they face each other
The frequency at which the last time
The frequency at which their previous Karmic account had ended last time
It will start at the same frequency now.
That is why in certain relationships, nothing would have happened now.
But as it is there is no good energy exchanged.
Nothing unpleasant has happened, there has been no challenge, and no issue between them.
But still I cannot get along with that person.
Why can I not get along?
Because when we had got separated the last time
At that time we had not set things right.
So the beginning that has happened now.
At what Quality of energy? But it doesn't matter.
When we are not well or meet with an accident, we are admitted to an emergency ward immediately.
So even this has to be taken equally seriously.
I need to pause and change it immediately. Otherwise in some other work we will not even have the knowledge of what was wrong.
Very true.
Today we have the knowledge that we can do this.
Why can't we utilise it right now?
Right now, which means what are we going to do?
If we have even a little uncomfortable energy with any soul
We need to take it like a project
And we need to give that relationship and that Karmic account, 2 minutes - every day.
Consciously. To create a new soul recording.
Which means every morning when will sit for meditation
We connect to God. His power of purity is radiating to us.
Then emerge that soul in front of you.
Look at that soul.
Always look at that point of light on the forehead.
Look at that soul
God's energy radiating to me
And from me to that soul as - beautiful soul, angelic soul, divine soul
Our relationship is very, very beautiful.
We also need to call ourselves a divine soul.
I am divine.
This soul is a very beautiful, pure soul.
And this relationship is perfect.
We have been seeing in all these episodes
If I have conflict with 50 people?
Then we emerge all 50 of them together.
Can we not just say - whoever we have a conflict with.
We need to take names. Ceremony is performed taking the name of the person who has left the body.
We take their names.
We need to emerge those souls in front of us.
We ask for forgiveness and send them love.
When we emerge this soul in front of us.
We are doing two things.
One is - I am a divine soul. The other is - this person is also pure, divine soul.
Earlier how would we speak about them when we were in pain?
They are like this, they are like that, they did this.
That energy was radiating to them.
Now we are creating a thought - divine soul.
Loving soul and a beautiful soul.
A new thought got created. Earlier it was black energy.
This is white energy.
The third thought we create is - this relationship
Is absolutely perfect.
This relationship is very, very beautiful.
Like we Heal ourselves - I am fine, I am perfect.
When I was younger I would participate in plays on stage
If I had to play the role of an ill person
I used to tell myself several times that I am sick
And I would actually feel feverish.
We have been seeing since so many episodes
That whatever we want in reality
We should create that thought.
We want our relationship to be perfect
But what is the thought we create throughout the day?
That we just cannot get along with each other.
From now I will never say it is difficult.
I usually say the person himself is very difficult to handle.
If we create a thought that the person himself is difficult.
What vibration do we send?
But if we create a thought - divine being.
Beautiful soul - look at the difference in the energy.
Originally as a soul
He is a divine being. He is a child of The Supreme Father, The Supreme Soul.
Very true.
It is easier to tell since it is the truth. And the truth impacts quickly also.
But we need to send it consciously.
Otherwise we are sending them the opposite energy throughout the day.
And we say we want to harmonize the relationship and resolve the conflict.
Resolving conflict means from my mind
I should not send him black energy even in my dreams.
But as long as I don't see myself as a soul
Till then I will only do it in words and not in my mind.
Today I understood it should be soul to soul.
3 lines - who am I? Divine being.
Who are they? Very beautiful, divine beings.
And most important line - this relationship is extremely beautiful and perfect.
Because otherwise what energy would we be giving to that relationship throughout the day?
That the relationship is problematic.
That we cannot get along.
How much ever I try it is not getting resolved.
And we earn blessings also because the other person starts becoming like that due to our thoughts.
That is why the quotation was that the conflict cannot survive without your participation.
Here when you send good vibrations
To the other person it is a blessing which will manifest.
There will be an enlightenment.
Absolutely.
We empower them. There are so many benefits.
Conflict gets dissolved completely.
They say engage in Seva (service) and earn blessings. This is a very big Seva.
Yes, a very big Seva.
When during meditation we pray for well being of the entire universe
Why not do it with people you are having a conflict with?
Very true, perfect.
We do charity, we visit temples
But if the staff asks to increase his salary by 500 rupees
We say it is not required.
Same way here.
Let us take this up as a project.
Any relationship where our energy exchange is not very comfortable
I the soul - not we - but I the soul
Have the power to finish the conflict
And create harmony.
Fantastic. This was so clear today.
Because my biggest problem was
That I would talk to the body instead of the soul
Now it has to be done soul to soul.
Very true.
Thank you so much, Sister.
Om Shanti.
Om Shanti.
Thank you.
Om Shanti.
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