Renee: Have you ever dated a gal and felt a  really strong connection maybe even had
  great sex and you thought this one is  different only to have her disappear on
  you well if the answer is yes then you  my friend have been ghosted in this
  video I'm going to tell you why it is  that women ghost and what you need to do
  if you have been ghosted i'm renee  slansky for the attractive man team and
  in this video we're going to talk about  ghosty according to an article in bustle
  magazine they actually found that women  are more likely to ghost men by a
  hundred and fifty percent now those of  you sitting there wondering what the
  heck is ghosting what is she talking  about it's not to do with Halloween and
  I'm not talking about a girl dressing up  in a sexy bedsheet I'm talking about the
  fact when you're actually going on a  date or building some sort of rapport
  and relationship with someone and  everything seems to be going really well
  then all of a sudden they just literally  do the disappearing act without any
  explanation and without any contact it's  a really rough situation to be in and
  something that happens more often than  not and what sucks is that if knocks
  about our self-esteem and really throws  us in this pool where we wonder am I
  just a bad judgment of character or is  there actually something wrong with me
  so why do women ghost well here are two  major reasons the first reason is women
  can get scared of commitment it's not  only you guys who can have cold feet
  sometimes women are afraid to actually  be vulnerable and open up and let you in
  even if she likes you because she is  afraid to get hurt because maybe she's
  actually had a history of being rejected  or hurt by men the second reason is she
  is lazy or she just doesn't like  conflict and confrontation let's face it
  she's taken the easy route out and  basically just dumped you because she
  doesn't actually want to deal with the  situation of not telling you that she's
  not essentially into you either way it  totally sucks and it is a form of
  rejection and we want to make sure that  it doesn't happen consistently to you so
  I'm going to give you my top five  practical tips on what you need to do if
  you have been ghosted number five let  her go let her go let her go I
  hey you need to understand that she has  given you an answer even though you
  don't have a really kind of specific  answer of why she left you
  either way her leaving is your answer  and you need to be accepting of that
  even if it isn't the answer that you  want if you continue to hold on to
  somebody who clearly doesn't want to be  a part of your life then you are
  literally watering a dead plant now let  me know go means that you delete those
  text messages you get rid of those  photos and you unfollow her on her
  social media accounts you want to remove  the temptation to actually start
  reaching out to her and trying to dig up  what has already been buried the thing
  is you actually have to make a conscious  choice to let go we assume that closure
  comes when we have an answer but closure  is actually a choice that can't be based
  off what somebody else does or doesn't  do or how you're even feeling it is
  something that you just have to choose  to do number four see rejection as a
  redirection one of my favorite sayings  Gerstein is actually more about their
  issues than it is about you yet we take  it so incredibly personally every single
  time not everyone we meet is going to be  able to commit to us or even has the
  ability to and we don't want to be  everyone's cup of tea this is what
  actually makes us set apart the people  that we want to invest into because they
  simply know how to invest back into us  the thing about rejection is we need to
  actually use it as a stepping stone to  actually learn something from it instead
  of dwelling on the event itself now what  I suggest is actually taking the
  scenario and asking yourself what can I  actually learn from this what can I gain
  from this was it more to do with her or  maybe I actually did things that pushed
  her away and if it is something that  happens again and again and you find
  that you've constantly been ghosted by  women then it comes down to two things
  either you're doing something wrong or  you're dating the wrong sort of women
  it's really about trying to find the  pattern that you have and learning how
  to break it and if you actually need  some help with that then I want you to
  join one of our boot cast because we  literally walk you through the process
  on how to be a confident man and how to  make sure that you are setting positive
  patterns in your dating life  hey man before I let you get back to
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  three focus your energy on women who  actually want to be with you
  stop trying to bring the dead back to  life that's nice on the impression this
  is what you're doing you're trying to  take something that is dead that is gone
  that has a definite answer and you're  trying to bring it back into life and by
  doing that you're actually deflecting  all those other women who want to be
  with you now if you're continually  focusing on something and prodding it
  and poking it what you're going to do is  you're actually going to become better
  and that's going to start to transfer in  your other dates and energy when you
  meet other women so flip that energy of  anger frustration and confusion into one
  of being the best man that you can  possibly be on the next date so that you
  can have a really great first impression  on this new girl and have a different
  result this time round number two don't  go social media stalking her accounts
  all her friends I know it's going to be  really tempted to try and dig up the
  reason why she did it  and what we're going to do is we're
  going to actually start to reach out to  her friends and this is a big no-go zone
  what her friends are going to do is  they're either going to number one play
  dumb or number two they're actually  going to start to think that you're
  crazy and they're going to start to  label you as a psycho guy that doesn't
  know how to take no for an answer  you and I both know that you're an
  amazing man and that you deserve an  amazing woman who isn't going to ghost
  you but you're continuing to put out  this sort of desperate behavior to
  figure out what it is that went wrong  you're going to lead the wrong sort of
  impression and you're going to be  lowering yourself to their standards so
  what you need to do is simply take it in  your stride know that you're enough and
  know that you are actually worthy of  more now if you really really really
  want to reach out to her because you  just have to know then simply send her a
  text simply something along the lines of  hey I get it that you're not really into
  me and I'm not really sure why you're  ghosted me so I was just wondering if
  you could give me a bit of feedback I'm  a big guy I can take it please be
  brutally honest with me because I would  love to know now when you send this text
  message don't necessary  expect the sort of response that you
  want to get back or even a response at  all what it does though is it actually
  gives you a sense that you've done the  right thing you've reached out you tried
  to learn what you can and then you just  walk away and lastly number one stop
  talking about it there is no point  continually verbalizing what has
  happened because it's already in the  past and all it's going to do is suck
  and drain your energy and then stop you  from actually meeting and communicating
  and connecting with women who actually  want to place value on you right now
  in fact I actually had a friend and he  was ghosted by this girl he had
  absolutely no idea what happened they  were dating for about three months and
  then she just disappeared and every time  we were having a conversation he talked
  about her and it got really draining on  our friendship and then every time he
  went on a date he actually talked about  her again and again again and what do
  you know these women that he went on a  date with didn't actually want to
  continue to get to know him because all  they felt like was they all he talked
  about was this other woman rejection  hurts and it happens especially when it
  is done this way but remember that  someone ghosting you has actually done
  you a favor because they've identified  who they really are and what their
  attentions are and that's why you don't  want to keep putting energy into someone
  that obviously isn't willing to  recognize your value or invest back into
  you truth is you deserve so much more  and your life will be so much more full
  of peace if you just choose to move on  now if you are someone who has been
  ghosted and is really knocked about your  confidence then what I want you to do is
  download our free confidence cheat sheet  this is full of 18 proven scientific
  methods that are actually going to help  you rebuild your confidence get back out
  there  know how to talk to women in nervous
  situations so that you can put your best  foot forward all the time and come
  across as a high value man all you need  to do to get that is simply click the
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  link in our buyer below okay guys well  that's it for me I hope you enjoyed this
  video what I want you to do is I  actually want you to tell me if you have
  been ghosted and what you did about it  sharing is caring here don't forget to
  pass this video on to a mate who maybe  has gone through this right now
  and of course download our confidence  chichi until next time bye for now
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