hey welcome this okay okay okay okay
  Bobcats
  yeah yeah we're right on the bedford  line so we got like 13 inches oh you
  have a card i could type in estill  that's alright I get the all-weather
  tires so okay listen yeah yeah that's  the way to go especially we mean you
  live in New England  yeah no no low profile tires yeah so
  well I know we're good I'm a hairdresser  I've been licensed for 19 years at the
  end of the month okay  how's my hair it's great I do my own
  hair oh you think I am an independent  distributor for a company called Sun
  engines I sell lips  oh so earlier you were talking about
  that you were in the video game yep UFC  tapo to xbox yep
  I was a UFC few years I mean there was  no girls on our team I was team but I'm
  signing the girls up for softball oh  yeah I never played softball but I
  figured we could try them out on they  should make like a combine sport you
  know like softball and wrestling you've  hit the first space there you go you saw
  this first so what would you like to  work on tonight with hypnosis I'd like
  to work on my self-esteem okay I have  issues
  with like self-confidence like talking  like right now I'm stuttering as I'm
  talking people judging me and I'd like  to work on you know being able to be
  more confidence I make and not wearing  what would everyone else things like you
  told me I should make a blog but I'm  afraid that I'm gonna go on there and
  everyone's gonna judge make fun of me so  I'm kind of just pretend nobody's well
  the advice I got for everyone is back  when I was in college
  hello he said just write like just write  for the garbage can you know just
  pretend nobody ever read just like the  show you know nobody watches it just oh
  yeah so tell me oh I also wanted to work  on maybe help myself like organize my
  life better like getting rid of I'm I'm  a hoarder who should say not a bad
  quarter like on tv watch that I feel way  better but I don't like to get rid of
  clothes I have attachment issues I don't  like to get rid of anything everything's
  sentimental value  I do that with the girls keepers there
  any painting my mom's like where are you  gonna put room so I can work on getting
  rid of stuff I don't need you know good  they say that helps attract better
  energy when you get clutter you know if  you ever had I tried to declutter I try
  very well  oh no maybe that was an episode in your
  house that you clean out some of the  stuff that you don't need mm-hmm I try I
  don't want to get rid of I I do I try  sometimes that's good that you moved
  into it because my husband's like he  still got you a toothbrush from the
  third grade
  I worked at Hooters too and I still have  a box all my old so so earlier you
  talked about maybe we should stop with a
  child my parents are always would always  be like oh don't do that you're
  bothering everyone don't do this like  this I've always kind of been me I'm
  always that extra but it's like my dad's  I was like tone it down a little bit and
  I feel like you know over the years  being like that it's like oh I should
  watch what I'm doing cuz I don't want to  overdo it are people to think anything
  of me no so and then sometimes like I I  think back of I think if I'm making a
  decision that's like I'm not sure of the  direction in my life I want to go
  because I'm always have that self doubt  in my head like oh oh you sure you
  should be doing that like my parents you  know any decision no matter what so then
  you have that in the back your head all  the time
  am i doing the right thing so it's like  everything I've done it's like I haven't
  felt overly confident doing it I'm so  I'm always like scared going into it
  even though I still do it you know but  it's just like oh my doing the right
  thing I wish I had more confidence and  knowing that what I'm doing cuz I'm
  passionate about what I'm doing now and  I want to be like I don't care what
  anyone else says this is what I want to  do who you know is there a time where
  where it became a is that an episode in  your life where the issues that you
  experiencing become any problem  does this ever stop you from doing what
  you want to do  just affair of stuff I stopped modeling
  for maybe six seven years cuz I had  someone telling me that I was old
  washed-up maybe should it be doing it  anymore and this is when I was in my 20s
  though hmm  and now I'm the most I'm gonna be 30
  this year and I just started modeling  again both six years ago off and on in
  between the kids and then now I'm really  focused on it since I lost all that
  weight like because I started the keto  I've lost 48 pounds so far I wish I
  could be more confident  good so just do the camera like oh I
  look gross you know like I wish I didn't  like look at myself and feel like that
  you know okay look okay
  so so right now let's use an example if  you're looking at the camera right now
  yeah how do you feel I don't like  looking at myself right now yeah like I
  could see my dark under circle my hair  so messy no but like okay so so what
  kind of thoughts go through your mind  when you see yourself in the TV screen
  right now so for those of you who are  watching this at home she is we actually
  looking into a screen that is showing us  what people are watching this at home I
  feel like I'm still fat even though I  lost all that weight I feel like my face
  is that I feel like no it's that it's  not what you're thinking
  I feel insecure looking at myself so  tell me more about this feeling insecure
  what does your body tell you I feel it's  it's so weird to say cuz my friends like
  you model how do you have self-esteem  issues and like oh cuz people say
  oh you should model but in my head I  look at myself and I don't think I'm not
  attractive  like I I nitpick every single thing
  about myself you know my face right but  this is what you're thinking yeah how do
  you feel like what does your body tell  you when you look at yourself maybe this
  is a little bit too close maybe when you  look at your your good pictures oh my
  shoes how would how do you feel first of  all you're able to look at the pictures
  that you even if it's a really good  picture I'm like I feel more confident
  now like the pictures like so do you  know the difference between like feeling
  something and like thinking something I  get anxious like I just worry I don't
  know I just feel like maybe I don't know  the difference oh I'm very bad at
  expressing my fiance but you just do so  how does your body react when you see a
  picture like a good professional picture
  good but then I so like this okay put  out your hand like this
  now pretend yourself looking at your  picture how does your hand for you what
  does your hand tell you
  like shaky okay insecure how do you how  do you what do you do do you do anything
  when you see your picture right away I  will I look for all the flaws in the
  picture but you're still looking at it  yeah I don't like to listen to my voice
  though Heatley  hearing my voice back am i right now I
  have a little cold so I'm kind of a  little raspy but I have like a squeaky
  voice so people will even that can  answer my phone I mean people like is
  your mommy or daddy home I'm like so I  think that's always get some people
  still actually my daughter sometimes  she'll like imitate me because she's
  squeak eNOS oh is that weird to like  critique like everything about you do a
  lot of people like that about themselves
  okay so let's let's go back to who  another time when was the last time when
  so how so would you take a picture when  you have a picture did you find yourself
  looking at it a lot or did you just look  at it where is the professor in that
  picture so yeah I'm sure yeah and then  afterwards - do you do you factor the
  more me yeah I  good certain ones and then certain ones
  they didn't Lincoln myself I'm like oh  please don't post that one okay do you
  feel better  when you look at the pictures like let's
  say you took a picture you don't get it  right away
  yeah do you feel better when you see it  it depends how if I liked it or not
  I really liked that I did a photo shoot  last week and my skin's just hasn't been
  right and she sent me somewhere like the  proofs before he edited them and I'm
  like whoa I don't like the way I did my  makeup I kicked it on like you did a
  great job but the picture I didn't want  to like offend him but I didn't like the
  way my skin looked in the pictures well  okay I'm seeing something I'm just using
  question to see if you can see what I  see because I kind of notes okay so
  let's move that maybe a few back and  forth okay so and thus that feelings
  ever stopped you from doing that was a  story when was the last time when when
  you allow that feeling or thinking I
  think I submitted my pictures that was  model and I submitted my pictures to
  when I worked at Hooters to their bikini  calendar and I didn't get a pic tonight
  I felt like I wasn't good enough and I  did it I decided not to do it and they
  even had a bikini contest with all the  girls and I didn't I refused to do it
  because I thought the other girls looks  better than and
  find yourself reminding you know every  time you get rejected it doesn't make
  you feel good I take the gay I fear  rejection so sometimes you're afraid to
  do stuff because you don't want to be  rejected and and when you think about a
  episode how do you feel well okay so so  I guess what we're looking at here right
  now is that you have given yourself a  lot of thought but you don't quite allow
  yourself to feel so you just every time  we ask you I'm so bad at explaining I
  wish I could explain things I'm bad  right but then okay so that's perfect
  right you use the whole point of therapy  is to help you find find that point that
  that blocks all your energy let's put it  that way in and you know it should be
  proud you know do you find that you use  this not worse I think so just throw it
  into it right right so like you just  feel so good to avoid feeling it yeah
  maybe that's why I'm okay it's just like  my thoughts yeah oh no but then you're
  using your thoughts to replace your  feelings right because you're just
  pushing it  into this this kind of like a trash can
  and then you read things are like books  or something and something triggers like
  something and then you pull your eyes  out and but at some point that that
  helps you to overcome  I guess the feeling of rejection or
  criticism that works like justice all  medow strategy it works to a point but
  then it becomes what you do every time  and every day all right and and that and
  then you allow this enormous to be your  default feeling and every time you
  should feel something even happiness you  don't know how to feel that you don't
  know how to use your feeling so you just  come up with words to like over right so
  that when I ask you how you feel you  just keep telling me how you're thinking
  right so that is a damage like a  psychodynamic demonstration you just
  prove to yourself that you use thinking  to override your feeling because you are
  so uncomfortable with feeling any  feelings
  sycamore's like to make it I sometimes  some people don't even realize like I'm
  upset or something cuz I was trying to  put a smile on my face even though I'm
  breaking down inside you know right you  know that that that is necessary for you
  to function or anyone not just you right  for anybody to function in life but most
  people doesn't have a chance to to let  themselves just feel that feeling shoot
  and then you know if we do that once in  a while that's that's not a problem but
  then it just become like just become  like over to you feel your energy
  it's just like just this next level that  you can accomplish but like and then I
  don't know I am  looks like your noses like pressed up
  against my breath away okay just try to  take a deep breath
  that's what I've been trying to do  lately I've been trying to meditate and
  stuff to help but you're not actually  well okay I can feel that your
  meditation it's also stuck right because  I'm always distracted overwhelmed with
  your voices in your mind million  thoughts in my head okay I know I have
  three kids - that doesn't help because  then you have so do you do you feel
  different than like an hour ago when I  talked about stop I get this one because
  that's not anxiety though that's more  like it's kind of like kind of like
  water pressure  now you're just opening up the valve and
  you just feel this energy coming back  yeah because like you all right do you
  feel yourself pushing it back down or  yeah I just feel like I try to suppress
  it cuz I've been get I get right now I'm  like my whole that's my shoulders are
  like really tense talking about it what  would okay so you think it's a good
  thing people ask how I'm feeling I don't  know how to explain myself like if I'm
  sad I don't know how to explain it you  know did you feel that you have to
  explain Oh cuz I think even when I was  like younger to with my parents away Oh
  get over it you're fine uh  it's like they don't want to know how
  you're feeling it's like just do you  want to know how do you feel
  I would like to hopefully just don't  know how I think it's that learned
  behavior like I have I tried to have my  kids open up to me whenever they're
  having an issue but for some reason I  can't right so like right now like five
  minutes ago we were opening up some  energy blockage but as we are moving
  forward if you feel yourself pushing it  back that's because do you think that it
  is tense or do you but it is just like a  whole lot of energy is pushing through
  you so does it maybe the word anxiety is  miss appropriate what do you think how
  else would you explain that
  okay so body gets tense and tired so the  whole point of tonight we're going to
  use hypnosis to help alleviate some of  that tension
  maybe that's weird but like you are  actually feeling this for the first time
  and okay well I'm just checking the  clock we have to take a break even today
  okay that's a different topic from a  different time well hope the whole point
  we are trying to do here is to I guess  that allow help you allow yourself to
  feel nice feeling in a safe place and  once you're able to like open the valve
  a little bit and let this emotion flows  from say did you just you heard just
  half of  for you anything for a while yeah and
  you just forgot how it is suppose to  feel what you're feeling right now is a
  great natural ego I'm saying we have to  take a break in five seconds so we'll
  come back we'll talk a little bit more
  okay welcome back to this episode I have  not experienced exposition we're still
  with Nora  two nights how are you doing so how do
  you feel right now compared to half an  hour okay well do you think that this is
  anxiety or energy that you experience I  would take it as anxiety but you're
  saying it's more energy because you were  just allowed you're just opening up a
  part of you that you'll be suppressing
  right and you don't have any other way  to looking at it so so that's the first
  word that comes to your mind but you but  you're able to function properly and you
  have you're just kind of regaining a  part of your I guess your mind yeah
  thank you have not been using you know
  in the next few days if you if you just  allow yourself to walk down this path
  you couldn't feel your senses would  become more alive instead which is the
  society yeah you probably be able to see  things in greater colors and be more
  acute from distances because that's  instead of using your cognitive ability
  to accommodate it's kind of like let's  say like you know I do this with my eyes
  because my eyesight is not good but they  say smarter people well I won't say well
  people will flake higher IQ hell flex  slightly better eyesight by measurements
  it's not because the eyesight is better  but like they could put things together
  in their brain let's say you know those  letters that you sees
  so it's like they can put better poofing  spider together in their brain so that
  they can answer the question  from the optometrist better so it comes
  out that the eyesight is better but it's  not but in a way what you're doing right
  now is also you're using your your your  smarts to compensate things that you're
  not sensing and you're putting things  together in your brain but when you
  allow it's kind of like putting glasses  or allowing your vision to become 20/20
  area so they actually seeing things the  way they are you're actually feeling
  things the way you're supposed to feel  you're allowing yourself to function
  with proper sense it's human sensitivity
  and I think that's that the first way to  key your self-esteem back is that you
  are sensing properly yourself am i  making sense okay so let's put a good
  benchmark right let's just say I have a  magic wand and everything works out
  perfectly tonight how would you see  yourself big difference I wouldn't doubt
  myself as much for them doing things are
  like if I wanted to submit my pictures  to something I just go out and do it and
  not second-guess myself
  maybe I'll start feeling better about  myself too okay and and I'm what would
  be the difference between new
  I wouldn't have the self-doubt anymore  and I wouldn't let's try it
  not in not to use it negative well what  would you put it in like a positive as
  in like something that is tangible how  would you get this feeling thing and the
  brain thing well the good thing about  the feeling thing is once they come once
  you're able to you see it was just come  everyone we just come naturally like
  things we just become brighter and and  you because you're once again using all
  the faculties there was a warder to you  as a human being yeah from the gods you
  know this is how your brain is supposed  to work and things will just come
  together much more easier and naturally  you don't explain things and and in a
  way you won't you'll find that the  natural feedback will come to you and
  you will just allow that to to to to put  together okay so okay let's let's just
  pretend everything works perfectly and  this is the new Laura and let's say you
  know it's at 9:00 in the morning how  could you be different the first time
  you are doing this exercise relation  yeah you were kind of hung up in being
  not confident  yeah that you never have a chance to
  think about what it is like to going on  right but then yesterday you're thinking
  about how not confident you are and you  never had a chance to stick a step
  forward and and think of what would life  be like when this is the first time so
  just try this listen to feel more  refreshing yeah so what would you be
  like yes yeah so so how would you be see  yourself different when you're walking
  around feel like I could take on the  world
  okay what else just happy how would that  happiness translate okay what would you
  do differently  he goes I mean I've been trying to work
  on myself for a while and I've been  getting better at it but I don't need
  that extra push you know yeah get it all  together and then the next day like Oh
  what happened so anyway we've just  opened up a valve and tomorrow
  and on your way home you're going to  have a lot more energy
  yes how would you use your energy maybe  tomorrow
  take the kids somewhere to after welcome  to school sometimes it's like you know
  you're so drained you like don't want to  do anything okay I feel bad
  thank you no didn't want to be second  house all the time
  well do that like when it snowed I force  myself even though I did not want to cuz
  I like going on its high but for some  reason I was having one of those days I
  knew it was gonna be really cold so I'm  just gonna take them outside okay but I
  wasn't like hey look at me yeah they  don't really care how cold it is
  okay we went to them okay so how else  would you use to a newfound energy to
  get more stuff done okay I wake up and  sometimes I wake up and I'm like I don't
  want to do anything you know you get  lazy I feel like I'd be able to you know
  just get more things done sometimes you  have the I need to do this this and that
  today and then you're like almost need  to force yourself to feel like doing it
  which is not good you know look I want  to be more focused in get get more
  things done and I feel like if I'm happy  and not because the days I feel like
  that I feel like I did everything I  wanted to you know between the kids to
  work you know promoting myself which  I've been trying I've been trying to do
  a lot more mm-hmm but basically I'm  forcing myself to so it's not like that
  happy energy okay I'm just kind of like  just gonna do it you know but if I feel
  happy I feel like maybe do you feel your  energy
  a lot kind of difference from like a few  minutes ago well yeah just feeling
  you're just allowing this energy to flow  through you again and we are looking for
  ways to channel this energy to to break  you really enjoy this energy so what we
  bout to do is hypnosis okay  so at no point you'll be unconscious is
  still being consciously aware of your  surrounding it will yeah so but don't
  try to go into hypnosis kind of like  trying to fall asleep right the harder
  you try to fall asleep the harder yeah  to go to sleep and I promised I would do
  everything I can to help you achieve the  goal that you want to achieve and in
  return I would like your cooperation  100% is that okay yes okay
  so this being on television so I just  want you to across your legs and I guess
  if you're freaking touch the floor maybe  just put it on to do yes the bar on the
  chair yes I want you to just put your  hand flat on your knees like this and I
  would just like you to just focus on  this pocket watch
  I'm gonna count backwards from five to  one
  when I reached number one and we'd like  you to just close your eyes and let your
  mind drift and maybe before I reach  number one your eyelids will become so
  heavy and your eyes have become so  watery that you may want to close your
  eyes even before I reach number one  slide just imagine your entire body
  feeling heavy as if your back your  shoulders is sinking through the chair
  free relaxed like you I'm just feeling  entire body feeling so to the islets
  becoming so
  just releasing all the tension energy  and whatever energy that you feel is
  anxiety even this mannequin relax I'm  going to lift your arms right here just
  let go if there's any tension that just  building up on the shoulders just
  imagine yourself on a call just imagine  this calm quiet beach on the back of
  your forehead there's a big every grain  of sand on this Beach every moment
  every sound become more acute
  and everything will become more and more  vivid as if you're fully immersion in
  this column just open up your senses to  all the beauties and wonders in this
  speech and if you're looking into the  water you can see different shades of
  blue if you can hear the seagulls you  can become you can hear the distinct
  sound train each different each wing  flapping even the sound of the feather
  become more acute and if you can feel  the warm side you should ask me wake on
  your toes  you can feel different grain of sand
  each grain there's a different texture  you can feel the wind when you change
  you can feel the different ocean  temperature allow the senses become so
  much more acute
  now I'm gonna counts for one two three  when I reach in I'm afraid I want you to
  open your eyes you feel great  there's no muss you hear my voice my
  voice a sneak now you'll find out it's  become very heavy your eyes take a deep
  breath in
  one two three
  just relax let go of all the tension  just that's right it feels good whatever
  attention then you're holding on to any  tension around amuse your eyebrows of
  your honor flotation tank just let go of
  any self-criticism in the past  anything that you're holding on to you
  may or may not be able to articulate but  know exactly what is the blockage here
  it's time to just let that go and just  feel whatever negative energy that
  you're holding on maybe some would have  said something in the past maybe it was
  human that you got when somebody even  give you a praise
  now your unconscious mind knows exactly  what it is and it may not even need to
  be in the part of your morning maybe a  blockage that you're holding on your
  shoulders maybe a blockage at some point  in the past it may have helped you to
  overcome a sticky situation as someone  in the past would have helped you and
  you no longer need to hold
  let it go let it go let it flows back  into the universe goodness and thanks
  because it has been a part of you when  you collect order because that's if we
  were just carrying it back of works I  right now it is just that they're just
  putting down this whole bag of bricks  and stone for the first time and it is
  literally feeling like a ton of brick  isn't enough to from the shoulders
  that's a feels good doesn't it feel so  much like that isn't it it's now as if
  this a ton of helium balloon attached in  your bag shoulders and just imagine
  yourself walking on a beautiful field of  rolling grass and this listen we're just
  floating on this one  because there just is so much weight on
  your back your shoulders
  and just feel this warm white light  flowing from the top of your head all
  the way from the Sun in ancient  different fingers down through the links
  means tomatoes and whatever well could  just like you know if that doesn't allow
  this warm nice feeling all the wine was  more human abundant energy unless of all
  the blockages right now life force now I  want you to imagine any of you
  they knew you was full of confidence was  organized who knows exactly what she's
  doing
  good energy always happy always  optimistic and once again letting her
  feelings and of action this new you may  look a little bit different may walk
  around and even dress differently and  this new you both like and imaging and
  confident
  now I want you to film yourself merging  with this new whatever package that I've
  left behind is that you no longer need  that anymore
  smoothing forward and just feeling this  new you'll be coming apart
  you should definitely don't you feel  your fingers feel your hair oh your
  senses become more acute just like you  all the colors become much more distinct
  all the sounds become more acute even  the way you sense things it's become
  much more aware and just feel discussion  will flow through just knew you flow of
  confidence  energy just feel so good
  I want you to just be this new body new  mindsets this new flow of energy and
  allow yourself to recognize with all the  life forces in the world
  reconnect slowly counts from one to ten  when I reached number 10 you've come
  back to this man from in grades 3  confidence come relax and delight for
  fixing your face as if you have just  left for the last ok how does it feel
  how do you feel right now it's great  well this is all the time thank you for
  coming  this is hypnotist Bernice exposition
  join us next week on CCTV channel 9  Cambridge
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