What is going on guys, Jake here, and today
I've got a video that I'm actually pretty excited to make. And this is a video that's been
sort of in the making for the last few months ever since I heard about this book that I'm really excited about.
I've been like anticipating it for I don't know probably four or five months, and it's finally here. I ordered this book on Amazon.
I've been reading it for about two weeks now give or take. I've
only scratched the surface of this book.
I'm only about into the second chapter so while I want to call this like a book review, that comes later, down the line,
but this is gonna be a first chapter review of
Jordan B. Peterson's 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos and for anyone who doesn't know Jordan Peterson,
I've talked about him in one of my previous videos, and I'm probably gonna talk about him in a lot of my other videos.
This should basically be like a Jordan Peterson
fan club page at this point, but nevertheless.
Fantastic book so far, like I said, I'm only in the first chapter of this. It's pretty lengthy. The first chapter is about
28 pages, but I'm really, I'm loving it so far. Jordan Peterson, for anyone who doesn't know, quick introduction.
He's a clinical psychologist, and he was an associate professor at Harvard and
he's now a professor at the University of Toronto. I mean if you go on YouTube quite often
you've probably seen Jordan Peterson. He has his own channel on YouTube,
it's got like almost a million subscribers, but he's gain-
he's been gaining a lot of traction, the things he's been saying and the ideas he's been discussing. It's been gaining a lot, traction
especially on social media and especially on YouTube. He's been like blowing up over the last few months especially.
I like to call him like, like our, our time's most famous psychologist, but
nonetheless. We're gonna dive into the first chapter here, and I'm not going to be reading the entire chapter.
I'm not going to be breaking it down or analyzing it but but yeah
it's
12 Rules for Life: An Antidote To Chaos and so as you'd expect the chapters are broken down. Each chapter represents a rule and these
are his twelve rules that he feels if you follow these and adopt these to your life
it would- it wouldn't guarantee a happy and successful life, but it would definitely set you on the right track.
That's his intention for this book. It's not- it's not some kind of a gospel. Rule one:
stand up straight with your shoulders back.
You can see this picture of a little girl and her friend, and they're looking at a lobster exhibit.
It's a big tank full of a few lobsters and lobsters
are, it's, there's a, kinda like the main theme of this first chapter; lobsters dominate this first chapter and
Jordan Peterson himself has said
in videos and of course he says it in the book too that he has sort of an affinity for lobsters.
And he explains why here. So, rule one:
stand up straight with your shoulders back. That in itself is great advice and he dives into it and in twenty eight pages so
it's sort of lengthy, but rule one: stand up straight with your shoulders back. He talks about lobsters and
he really, he delved into the,
the topic of how we can learn a lot from lobsters, these
like
350 million- year- old
organisms, these crustaceans.
How much we can learn from them and one of the main things that he talks about a lot in the chapter are
how how we could model our society based off of lobsters
and how they live. So, well he uses the example of
two lobsters, two male lobsters who are attempting to be dominant, are trying to rise up in the dominance hierarchy which is
another theme in the chapter. It's about the dominance hierarchy and,
so you have two lobsters, two male lobsters fighting each other and there are various stages of their fight. The lobster that eventually
you know, reigns victorious and comes out
winning the fight,
he actually in a way you could say he stands up
you know taller and straighter with its shoulders back in a way probably more of a, more of a crawl.
But if they do stand up, their chest comes out a little more
and they do stand a little taller
and they occupy more space around
them. So, a lobster that's victorious in a fight, the lobster starts occupying more space.
What this does for the lobster when the lobster feels more confident because these levels of serotonin that are in his body are like off-the-charts
and serotonin is
an important chemical in your body that really helps with confidence and overall like just feeling good about yourself.
So, naturally, the lobster who comes out victorious with a fight, it has these
boosted levels of serotonin in it, in its system, and it starts occupying more space because it feels more
confident and feels like it can control more space because it has a right to because it won that fight.
And so, what that communicates to other people is that he's confident.
And the other people like, especially male lobsters, shouldn't get in his way. What this does for him the benefits are
well, there's three different benefits. One: he has a better selection to potential mates, potential females. Two:
he has a better selection, a better choice of
habitats, with different kind of shelters.
And three: he has a better chance at food. Now,
let's talk about the lobster that doesn't, that doesn't win, that actually, that's the loser at the fight.
S,o the lobster that comes out of the fight who loses turns into this sort of a coward. So Jordan says here
talking about the aftermath of the fight. He says high serotonin, low octo- octo-
octopamine, characterizes the victor.
The opposite neurochemical configuration, a high ratio of octopamine-
I think I'm saying that right- octopamine-to- serotonin produces a defeated looking, scrunched up, inhibited, drooping,
skulking sort of lobster, you know very likely to hang around street corners and to vanish at the first hint of trouble.
So what he's saying is a defeated lobster is turned into a coward and so, I just, we just discussed the benefits of
a lobster that wins and the benefits that come from, from winning that fight. He struts his stuff around, he's more
confident, he spreads himself out more, gets all the girls. He gets the best chance at food, gets the best chances for shelter,
you know, he's able to occupy enough space. The defeated lobster on the other hand, it's like the exact opposite.
He gets like you know the very bottom like the food scraps. You know at the bottom of the table.
That's what he gets as far as food. As far as girls,
little to no chance of success with girls because he's not confident, his confidence has been totally shattered after losing that fight and, and he
could try and go and fight again, but, but with every fight
he loses his chances of ever winning and like regaining his confidence and redeeming himself go lower and
lower and lower.
So, his confidence goes lower and lower, he droops more like
literally droops more and kind of has his face more pressed into the sand. Not as good of a selection with girls.
Most, most females aren't even gonna want to mess with him. Not gonna have as great of a selection with food.
He's gonna get mostly scraps from whatever is left behind above them.
You know, he'll wait for stuff to fall down. And, not a great chance at shelter or at least very good,
you know, effective shelter it's gonna be things that that are gonna be exposing him to the enemies, while the
courageous and the confident lobster that comes out victorious from that fight,
he's gonna have the best
chance at shelter. He's gonna have the shelter that's gonna put him away from the bigger guys in the ocean. So then of course Jordan
goes on to translate this into our lives, because he doesn't spend the whole chapter talking about lobsters
obviously. And this one part here, one part here that I found pretty profound: if you slump around with the same bearing that
characterizes a defeated lobster, people will assign you a lower status and the old counter that you share with
crustaceans sitting at the very like, base of your brain will assign you a low dominance number. Then, your brain will not produce as much
serotonin.
This will make you less happy and more anxious and sad and more likely to back down when you should stand up for yourself.
It will also decrease the probability that you'll get to live in a good neighborhood, have access to the highest quality resources, and
obtain a healthy, desirable mate.
It'll render
you more likely to abuse cocaine and alcohol as you live for the present in a world full of
uncertain futures. It will increase your susceptibility to heart disease, cancer, and dementia.
All in all, it's just not good. And this is the reason why this chapter even exists.
He's stressing the importance of
standing up straight with your shoulders back and the benefits it can have for you, which is what he states at the very end
of the chapter here
he says, "So attend carefully to your posture. Quit drooping and hunching over.
Speak your mind. Put your desires forward as if you had a right to them, at least the same right as others.
Walk tall and gaze forthrightly ahead. Dare to be dangerous.
Encourage the serotonin to flow plentifully through the neural pathways desperate for its calming influence. People, including yourself,
will start to assume that you're competent, and able, or at least they won't immediately conclude the opposite.
Emboldened by the positive responses you are now receiving, you'll begin to be less anxious.
You'll then find it easier to pay attention to the subtle social cues that
people exchange when they're communicating. Your conversations will flow better with fewer awkward pauses. This will make you more likely to
meet people and interact with them and impress them. Doing so will not only generally increase the probability that good things will happen to you,
but it'll also make those good things feel better when they do happen," and ends the chapter with,
"Look for your inspiration to the victorious lobster with its
350 million years of practical wisdom," which is something that blew me away right there.
"Stand up straight
with your shoulders back." He's stressing the importance of standing up straight with your shoulders back and,
so after I read that chapter, I started doing that and I
made it a
conscious
reminder for myself. So, whenever I step out the door in the morning, I'd be reminding myself during the day you know - like
I'd be walking down the street or walking to class or something, walking down the sidewalk,
and I'll remind myself to stand up a little straight and put my shoulders back.
And it felt kind of uncomfortable at first and it felt weird to always be like forcing myself to do that.
What actually happened over time and this is true, it actually happened.
It's just what Jordan said. I started feeling a little more confident.
So I was able to walk up to someone and and look them in the eyes
while I was talking to them and that's something I've struggled with for a while now. I've struggled with confidence in the past.
I've always thought that I never really started gaining confidence at all or really, really just
realizing that I lacked in confidence in the first place until
about halfway through my senior year of high school.
That's a long time to go without being confident.
But I really wanted that to change going into my first year of college, so this was like,
like an eye-opener, and so I started employing these tactics.
I really, I started standing up straighter with shoulders back whether I was
talking to people or walking, or I was sitting, which is something that I still have to work on. Posture for some reason, sitting is
a lot harder to work on and remember to fix
than standing up straight. But regardless,
I started standing up straighter with my shoulders back when I was walking or talking to people and I did like, I almost instantly
pretty much instantly felt more confident when I was talking to people. My conversations did start feeling better,
and one of the reasons was because I was able to make eye contact with people,
one of the reasons why was because I was standing up straighter.
He says in part of the chapter that standing up straighter,
it shows that you're more comfortable because you're opening yourself up, and what that shows is
opening yourself up when you're standing up straight with your shoulders back
you're exposing all of your vital organs.
And that shows that you're actually comfortable and you're confident that no one's going to do you any harm.
And that's what happens with the victorious lobster. The lobster is victorious from that fight, and he's confident.
He struts his stuff 'round when he's walking, he has his chest out, and it shows that like yes, okay,
so here's all of his vital organs, and you puncture those,
he's probably dead.
But he doesn't worry about that because he knows no one's going to mess with him and that's sort of the same thing and
this is something Jordan talks about.
We're actually not as different from lobsters as we think, we're not very different from
many animals in the animal kingdom that we think we are. A lot of this confidence and
you know, being able to interact socially with people and have success in our
conversations that everything, it's feeling more confident, and feeling good about ourselves, and
getting the results we want from the interactions with people in our daily lives, a lot of it actually just boils down to
instinct - animal instinct and we can look at animals like the lobster and learn a lot and
remember that we're actually not that different. So sometimes all it boils down to is standing up straight with your shoulders back and
yeah, exposing those vital organs,
but you don't, you're not worried about that because you're confident. Someone
who's like a coward, like that lobster in the book, he's gonna be hunched over
because he's protecting himself because he's scared because he knows he's vulnerable and that around every corner there could be an enemy,
someone that wants to hurt him because he's lost that first fight, now
he's very likely to lose that next one, because of a lower level of serotonin.
He's not as confident in himself and his ability to fight back and
most likely won't the next time. He's more likely in the next fight that he, that he faces
to just curl up in a ball and protect his organs.
But the confident lobster stands up straight with its shoulders back and exposes his vital organs, not because he's inviting people to
come over and puncture him in his vital organs to kill him, but it's showing that,
"I'm not worried about it."
You know, "I'll stand up straight with my shoulders back and open myself
to the world to show everyone that 'here
I am and I can take it', you know, and I'm not afraid of anyone." So, that's what the lobster does.
I meant it when I said that
standing up straight with my shoulders back like, I saw
immediate results when I did that. I was able to look people in the eyes when I talked to them, my conversations flowed, better
I was just more comfortable
overall in my own skin, and it all boils down to which Jordan Peterson says in the first chapter of
12 Rules for Life: An antidote to Chaos:
Stand up straight with your shoulders back. If you guys enjoyed the video today
let me know in the comments what you thought about the review, if I should do more reviews of this book.
I'm really enjoying it. I really suggest that you guys go check out this book.
I can put a link to his channel and a link to how to find the book.
It's a really great read like I said, I'm only through the first chapter so far. I'm really enjoying it.
They're pretty lengthy chapters, so it's gonna
take me a while to get through them because I really like to try and
internalize what he's saying in a way 'cause there's a lot to learn from this book.
There's a lot to learn and the first chapter alone was
really eye-opening. If you liked the review and you guys want to see more,
let me know down in the comments if you want to see more reviews.
I can do reviews for a chapter when I'm done,
and then at the end I can do like a total comprehensive review of the book and my opinion on it.
But we'll start small with the chapters. I have a lot to read, like I said, and let me know in the comments
what you guys want me to talk about next in my next video, and until then, stay awesome guys.
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