welcome I'm Lynn JT hypnobirthing practitioner and I help mums like you to
birth like a boss! So today we're going to cover something really
fundamental: the one strategy that you need to follow in order to achieve the
calm powerful birth that you want. This is part one of a seven video series
so to get the full video series plus all the resources we'll be talking about
including pregnancy self-care tools then go to LynnJT.com or just click on the
link below. Right let's dive right in this is THE strategy to achieve the birth
you want. You need just a simple strategy but first understand that it's not about
WHAT happens ...you see a good birth plan will help you prepare for all
eventualities and understand all your choices, now we have got other
videos on that but right here more vitally we're talking about HOW you deal
with what does happen. You can't always foresee what will actually happen but
the strategy will tell you how to deal with it no matter what. The goal of the strategy is to
unlock your primal potential to give birth with ease - the way all other
mammals do. Every other mammal just gives birth with ease and there's no fear
there's no anxiety around that and you my dear are a mammal! An overthinking
highly intellectual biped yes but at the core you are a mammal and you just need
to awaken that primal animal inside who already knows how to birth like a boss.
So this strategy is to reach that confidence zone where you allow your
instincts to guide you that's what it is is that becoming that animal that just
follows instincts that already knows what to do when to do it and how now
equally important: the complete strategy is to keep you in that zone so you might
have seen some incredibly serene birth videos or just go to any farm and watch an
animal give birth! Now all those Mama mammals
they were all in the zone and that's what we're trying to achieve.
So what are you expecting birth to be like?
something like this...?
this is what we see in the movies here's the gorgeous Charlize Theron is in the
comedy Knocked Up - she's terrified angry and in pain
she wants to hit her birth partner who doesn't have the first clue about how to
help her. Now this is what our friends tell us happened to them - it's the horror
stories, the fear-mongering that we hear so often so it's what we come to expect
and unfortunately that expectation is what manifests itself in our bodies and
that prophecy becomes our own reality that becomes your birth story and
that version of your birth story sucks sorry it really does so we just don't
want that to say "no thanks" and to avoid it. You need to understand first of all
how this self-fulfilling prophecy works how this vicious cycle of fear tension
pain works in real life so many women fall into this fear-tension-pain cycle
Now just think about this remember the last time you had an injection or blood
tests - that's pretty recent if you're pregnant -
and what did the phlebotomist say to you or what did you already know to do maybe
you sat calm relaxed you let your arm go floppy maybe you looked away and talked
about the weather or something but you might have instinctively taken a deep
breath and let it out slowly and try to relax
and if you did all that then it would have been over before it even began.
no trauma hardly any discomfort all done
well when I was a child I used
to have a real fear of needles I just thought it it was I just thought was the
worst thing that could happen the thought of it would make me shiver - I would have
nightmares the night before I'd be sweating and crying and pre-living all
the pain before we even got to the waiting room where I would you know have
to go and have an inoculation now by the time I'm in the chair I'm screaming and
kicking my mum who had to hold me down and I'm tense as a brick my muscle my
muscles in my arm are just so hard and I'm kicking and screaming and want to
punch that poor doctor who has no choice but to jam the needle in
really hard and the pain then is incredible and it's all I can think
about so even after I'll be sweating shaking feeling really sorry for myself
like I've experienced the worst trauma ever and my arm is actually bruised and
bleeding more than it would be if I just relaxed. Now you see the fear's what made
my muscles tense up and the needle had to force its way through damaging more
tissue than it needed to so that that's just a really simple example of the fear
tension pain damage that happened to me because I had that fear and that
misconception might not have happened to you because you didn't so it's just
about that mindset and same for labor and birth . Okay it's a bit more complex
version of that but the cure is in the understanding so let's shine some light
on some of these elements. So fear first in this cycle you can see here fear
equals tension equals painful so where does that fear come from? We've seen it
from the stories that you hear... so is this
your starting point? Either you have already had a traumatic painful horrible
birth experience before and you're scared that your second one is going to
be the same or worse or you've just heard the horrors you've lived it
through someone else's experience in any case for all of this fear comes mainly
from what we either do not know, do not understand fully understand why it
happened to you. Fear has a physiological effect on us - what does it
do to you on a cellular level? how does that affect your birth canal? your vagina?
and your pain levels? your experience of pain? So we know that fear equals tension
is going to tense all of that up now that tension you get because you sense a
threat and your brain automatically floods your
body with stress hormones and when stress hormones take over two
things happen: 1/ you automatically shut off your natural pain relief hormones
(yes you heard me right you do actually have you can your body produces natural
pain relief hormones which are incredibly powerful I will tell you much
more about that later on how to tap into them) but just note that when the stress
hormones unleash your natural pain relief hormones cannot also be released
at the same time it's one or the other so they just stop so you're not getting
that natural pain relief. Then 2/ you tense your muscles because you go into
that fight-or-flight mode and you're ready like a trapped animal the way I
was in that doctor's chair and you can't help it it's like when you flinch it's a
reflex and that's just going to happen when you're scared now
the cervix and the uterus yep let's look at that as a multi-layered muscle
mechanism that is perfectly designed to open up like a blooming flower or I like
to see it actually as a drawstring purse I can tell you more about that the
actual physiology the anatomy of the cervix uterus and you see is actually
like a drawstring purses it's an incredible mechanism and when it's left
to work naturally in the right conditions it just opens up beautifully
without tearing. Now, in the stress conditions, it's like a muscle like any
other and it's going to fight to close back up - it's going to tense up. Fear
signals that it's not safe to birth here and so it won't want to release baby
it's going to go into fight or flight mode and when that happens you want to
run away - your blood supply is taxed away from the pelvis where you need it, away from
baby, and it goes away to your arms and legs instead - that's just the fear
response you cannot control that. In your blood carries oxygen so your oxygen
also gets taxed away from where its most needed therefore you get suboptimal
muscle efficiency where you need that muscle to be working in your cervix and
uterus, which means that your labor progress is
slowed and you'll start hearing things like "failure to progress" - that's that's
a really horrible unhelpful thing to hear "failure to progress" and even worse
though your labour might actually be
stalling even worse it can even regress. If you're under a lot of duress. The
cervix can reverse the opening and actually close back up a bit or even a
lot. These are powerful muscles that are working in overdrive when they're in
this fight flight mode so there will be pain and exhaustion for you and you
might be pushed towards having interventions at this stage because you
can't go on forever like this. Your birth is not supposed to be super long!
Actually when it's when it's done right um in the right conditions you might
hear most people having had a good birth experience - it that it goes by very very fast.
More importantly here your blood is also baby's blood
therefore their oxygen supply. Now if all this happens like domino effect then
there's going to be a sub optimal level of oxygen for the baby
and that can lead to possible distress - now this further slows down your labor
progress, there's more pain more exhaustion more fear that's going to
lead to possibly needing more intervention or at least you can be
pushed towards this so that is the cycle: you're fearing with tension = resistance
your resistance is what is causing the regression, the pain exhaustion and
likely need for intervention. So resistance is what causes the pain your
cervix isn't thinned, the uterus doesn't do its job easily doesn't open up wide
naturally but the baby has got to come out one way or another!
and so it will be forced and there will be excessive pain that's what leads to
the tearing and the bruising. Now on another note once you go down the whole
induction route because if you're in this cycle for too long
then well once you go down the induction route that's a whole other ballgame you
can't control because it's not your hormone your natural hormones anymore
that are guiding the labor they're synthetic hormones and that creates
forced contractions which come on fast and strong and you just don't have time
to adjust the way you would if this were a natural birth without being induced and
then you have time to adjust. When you don't then that's what leads to the fear
the loss of control and then the tension and the pain so that's this is the cycle
that you want to avoid. It can lead to further suffering...
not just the physical but the emotional trauma that comes with intervention and
tissue damage afterwards. Six in eight women will
experience baby blues afterwards and I think a lot of the contributing
factors are how you actually gave birth in the first place - how traumatic it
was. One in eight will go into post natal depression and there is definitely
lots to be said about how the actual birth effected you- but anyway this is
what happens for a lot of a lot of people who are super anxious about
birth who aren't fully clued up on all the ins and outs of how things work. I'm
not just talking about a basic antenatal course I'm really thinking about how
nature has designed you to open up - not just a medicalised version of the facts- so I'm here to
tell you that there is a better way. What we just discussed before that's not what
mother nature intended for you that is not your design. Your vagina is elastic
and the fibers are designed to stretch and retract afterwards so it's meant to
open and close. Now the key is to give birth under the right conditions and the
right mindset and that's the strategy we're talking about -
I haven't invented this and no one invented this technique - this is
something we all have inside us... the thing is that as modern women, as overly
thinking highly intellectual bipeds that we are, we have forgotten how to be the
animal and how to just listen to our intuition - that's it. it's so it's so
simple yet it's so hard for us to get back in touch with that because we're so
out of our natural state and we have lost touch with nature, our instincts and
that primal brain inside us where those secrets are encoded. So let's redefine
your preconceptions right now and let's reverse engineer that horrible cycle.
Imagine this: a peaceful powerful quick birth. Now, when you have
the tools to be in the calm cycle and not the fear tension pain cycle, you can
have a peaceful powerful birth. This is our end point - this is where we want to be.
We've seen that the mind-body connection means that your thoughts will affect your body...
directly on a cellular level. Negative or positive thoughts will self-manifest and
materialize in the body. You'll either tense up or you will be
able to relax so getting is allowing your body to be able to relax is that
key that leads to that ability to birth in a peaceful way so this this is highly
understood by top athletes - have you ever heard of PMA- positive mental attitude?
and all that relaxation that they do before big games before big runs and
you see them really focusing inside going inside not listening to the crowds
or anyone else swimmers even come in to the pools with
the headphones on so they're in their zone and they've built up this positive
mental attitude. They have done hours and hours of visualization and relaxation
these are fundamental lessons that they learn in sports psychology that coaches
use all the time to get athletes to reach their goals and also to beat their own
records, to be able to do things that they might have thought beyond their
physical abilities. To get to that point to be
able to do so much physical exertion to be able to in your case BIRTH - what comes
before that is the deep relaxation it's getting into that zone so it's getting
to that confidence that's what creates it. So confidence needs to replace the
fear that was at the top of the cycle that the first one that we saw needs to
replace the fear and the self-doubt there at the top. So to do that we need
to DE- brainwash you of all the the myths and the misconceptions the
misunderstandings and those false expectations that you have and rebalance
your knowledge bank with helpful birth education. We also need to stop
negative input that feeds the fear - the fear that's already there because
well, there's really going to be some stuff there and what we don't want is that fear
increasing and that fear pattern and your mind being reinforced by more
negative stories and we need to replace that that with positive input -- input that is
practical and input that is empowering with real tools- real scripts
real things that you can use so it's tangible and your brain will accept it
This is the amazing powerful efficient system - this is the strategy
that you actually already have in place you just have to allow yourself to enter
this cycle and you have the power inside to do so it's it's really exciting I
love telling this part because it's like being told that you have superhero
powers that you have special abilities that you're discovering for the first
time and it really is! you are able to do so much more than than you
think you can! if you were an animal you wouldn't even
be here you would just do this naturally literally mindlessly you wouldn't be
overthinking this and you would just naturally go into that cycle but humans
have managed to totally medicalise birth- yes for good reason
obviously you know we've had to and it's amazing and it saved so many lives but
we've done to the point that we we talk about it to the point that we perceive
pregnancy labor and birth as a "condition" and to the point that it's seen as an
affliction even. Our overactive paranoid Minds are the problem - that's what it is:
our crazy imagination and projections into a future that we prefer to view as
scary than anything else. Fortunately our minds are also the
SOLUTION that's why hypnobirthing has been brought in, that's why it is required to make you
see more truths about natural birth, to bring back the animal inside you so that
you are empowered again to give birth the way nature intended. Now of course
as I said I'm not dismissing medical care at all - when it is needed it is
amazing and it's really needed if mom or baby has a condition then yes absolutely
things need to be monitored and you might need interventions when there are
emergencies but still in the first place if everything is good if you don't have
any conditions if everything's been checked out then there's no need to
project into so much worry and all of this still applies - this strategy still
applies - it's not about fighting medical staff here it's about creating the right
environment for yourself staying calm and in the right cycle this strategy
throughout any procedures that you might need and that's why it's so important
to prepare fully in this way even if you've planned a c-section that way you're able
to deal with any situation whether you're doing that with a full medical
team if you're having a home birth... still with the strategy you can birth in
a taxi, in a lift with the midwives, just a birth partner, a
random stranger and even completely by yourself. You don't actually need
anyone there if everything is doing well and most of the time it
will continue to go well in its the fear that tips us into that fear
tension pain cycle and then requiring intervention and that's generally why
intervention is needed ask yourself why for so many many
Millennials babies have been born with no intervention before and still do
today in countries that are less medicalised than us and you can do all
this and you can do it all so well and the results are amazing when you are in
this strategy when you reach the zone you maintain yourself in it your
contractions are easier they are shorter they are more efficient and therefore
fewer total contractions I had the total labor is shorter everything's faster and
efficient and the whole time you can stay relaxed and in control knowing what
is happening , seeing the end and that's what that strategy is about. Now that's
the bigger picture. yes Medical is scary
but that is for medical conditions and if usually if you have a medical
addition you just stay monitored with it all of this still applies you still have
to stay calm. The things you cannot control: fine. What you CAN control is how
you feel inside how you let yourself how you let your mind stay calm as
opposed to going to over drive and into anxiety- I can't even go into all the
benefits of natural childbirth here but these too are overlooked and
not really pushed as much. I'm not saying that you absolutely have to have a
vaginal birth but do you know that having a drug-free vaginal birth
does allow you to have an alert drug-free baby who is then able to
better breastfeed directly after birth and they also have an improved gut flora
which is key for healthy adult immune systems
later in them and more more studies are confirming better brain developmental
outcomes and also remember that you will be fully present if drug-free so that
you can experience what you know could be really the most incredible joy you
ever have in life and also you have a faster recovery without having undergone
drugs or surgery. So what we are going to do in the next part of this series is
to bust through three myths about labour. You now have the strategy: you're
doing everything to keep calm and stay in that calm cycle and so these next parts are
giving you what you need to know about some misconceptions - they're so many but
we're going to bust three major ones and also I want to give you three key stone
tools. So we're going to do three myths about labor and three three keystone tools
on birthing instinct training and building your confidence and being able
to access relaxation through guided meditation. So that's what we will be
doing next I hope you have enjoyed this first tutorial - it's really the crucial
start to you taking that step towards a changed mindset and actually opening
your eyes to to what birth really is all about and how wonderful it is how
it's something that you should be looking forward to as opposed to
fearing - so clicking the link in the comment box below/ in the description box
so you can get access to the full video series and the downloads of the
resources that I'll be giving it out throughout the series as well all right
I'll see you then
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