If he could drive that would be cool.
This needs to happen in real life.
If you are watching this, please make this come true!
If a girl tells me where she wants to go, it's easy for me.
It makes my life a lot easier.
Hey guys and girls it's Cathy Cat!
Today we are gonna go and Ask Japanese
what you should definitely NEVER do on a date in Japan.
AND what you should do to make the other person happy
Let's go and Ask Japanese!
When you are on a date, what do you want the guy to do?
When we pay for food...
I am ok with paying for it but...
It's really cool when he just settles the bill without me even noticing.
Smooth!
That's pretty nice.
I think so. That would make me happy.
Me too.
I might say "I want that" and he won't buy it for me that day but...
later he gets it for me.
If he buys it in secret for me later...
I might say "That item was really cute!" again...
When I am still wondering if I should buy it,
I would be so so happy if he gives it to me as a gift then.
That's a dream of mine. Stuff like that doesn't happen in real life.
This should happen in real life!
If you are watching this, please make this dream come true.
It's cool if he can drive a car well.
You stole my answer! - Sorry!
So going for a drive? - Oh yes!
When driving I don't want him to drive like he is nervous.
It will be cool if he is a good driver.
I want him to hold my hand like it's not a big deal.
Just when we are walking.
I want to go to an aquarium!
He should take you there? - Yes that's right.
I want to go to the Sunshine Aquarium in Ikebukuro.
I don't like it when the boy is too clingy.
As long as we have fun together it's all good.
So just having fun together? - Yes.
Make sure I have fun.
"Hey my darling-chan" is no good?
Definitely not that.
I would like to go travel together.
Go to the ocean and ride on a boat together and such.
Go cruising together.
He should invite you for that trip?
Yes I would like him to invite me.
I want to go to a music gig together.
Nice. He can just hand you the ticket like "Got us these..."
That's pretty sweet.
I like it if he holds my luggage.
Is that already taken for granted?
I don't like it if my husband holds my luggage.
I also don't want him to pay for things either. - What?!
I want him to take the lead though.
Going ahead and such. I prefer that.
I don't what him to ask "What shall we do".
Instead of being indecisive he should say where we will go.
More like "Let's go"
So the man has to think and decide everything.
Yeah that would make me happy.
It's nice if he thinks of taking breaks.
I get tired easily.
I like it if he asks "wanna take a break" or "wanna smoke?"
You mean he should kind of match it to your physical condition? - Yes.
What should the girl do during a date to make you happy?
I just like it if she is all lovey-dovey around me.
I think that's super cute. - For example.
Shall she grab your arm or be like "buy me this pretty please."
Yeah exactly like that.
Stuff like that makes me happy.
Being really sticky with me is super cute.
Boys like walking behind the girl. Instead of leading the way
If a girl tells me where she wants to go, it's easy for me.
It makes my life a lot easier.
I generally plan the day a little but...
if she says where she wants to go, I will follow her there. That's best.
That's a nice date.
So it's best if she honestly says what she likes?
If she did that, that would make me happy.
Without hesitation.
I like when she casually touches me in public.
If she is too distant, that's not so nice.
I want her to be all lovey dovey.
For example?
She should rely on me. Or hold my hand from behind.
That sounds super cute.
Nice one.
I want her to pick up on the little things.
Like when I have no tissues, I want her to see that and hand me some.
Seeing those things is important.
Reading the air is a very Japanese thing.
Yeah.
Walking ahead of me.
What do you mean?
Even though we are both together, walking ahead.
There are a lot of people in Tokyo, right?
Because there are so many people, just walking in front of me is no good.
And having him sigh out exasperated when I am shopping with him.
That really annoys me.
I don't like that either!
Even though I am super happy, having him in a really hostile mood.
I will be like super bouncy and he will just be like, checking his phone.
You know, doing something completely else.
Stuff like that annoys me.
I get that. It's much better if you both are having fun.
Do you like him to walk on the car side, or to open doors for you?
Yeah stuff like that is nice.
But no Japanese men will do that.
I agree.
No gentlemen in Japan?
They open their own doors and enter their own cars.
So I have to do that myself too.
No gentlemen at all?
None here.
Stuff I buy and luggage I carry, I do that all by myself.
What!?
They NEVER say "I will do that for you".
The image I had of Japanese men is breaking apart...
Mens! Please work at that!
Some will walk on the side of the street were the cars are.
But that's about as much gentlemen attitude as you get.
They won't open doors for you.
They are like, do what you want. Do it yourself.
Man... - They also enter the car first.
Having to split the bill exactly by the cent is terrible.
I really hate that.
No way!
Not such a good idea.
Men who have too much luggage.
I just want him to come on a date with just his wallet.
No bag?
That's much cooler.
I don't like it if he is too clingy and PDA in public.
I really dislike that.
Why so? - It's not something to show the public.
When going on a date, splitting the bill in half is uncool.
When having dinner that's not cool.
So when on a date, you want him to pay? - Yes I prefer that.
Do men in Japan pay a lot for a girls food?
I guess around that. Even male friends will pay for the girls food.
So even male friends will pay.
I hate indecisive men.
I don't want them to leave everything up to me.
I hate it if they ask me "Where do you want to go."
And also having conversations that just don't go anywhere.
Talks that just end in "Is that so" or "I see."
Conversations that have no end. Just getting talked at instead of talking with each other.
Not having him give me a time to speak up in this either.
Men who can't eat with their mouth closed...
I hate that.
Eating with their mouth open.
And men who litter.
I can't deal with men who can't keep up their manners.
Manners are important.
Girls who chew loudly with their mouth open.
Things like that.
I don't like it if they eat noisily or in an inappropriate manner.
It makes me want to leave.
Manners are important like saying "Itadakimasu" before eating.
Or "Gochisousama" after a meal.
And being able to greet people properly.
If she turns out to be boring, that's no good.
Having boring conversations that go nowhere ...
makes me think that something is wrong.
But if you go on a date, you must already like something about her so...
so unless something terrible happens, I won't feel like leaving the date.
I really don't like it if she comes in a bad mood to our date.
I will try my best to cheer her up but...
If she starts the date being in a really bad mood already, it makes it tough for me.
Since it's our date, I want us both to have a good time.
Thank so so much. Sorry it got so long, it was nice to hear your opinions.
So.... (we filmed this on halloween)
Ladies and gentlemen, the dos and dont's you should do on a date here
in Japan. The list is that long, I made a memo of it and gonna
summarize it up for you guys.
And then add something, which I think should be added.
DOES!
Very important, if you should drive, be able to drive.
take the girls on a drive.
Pay smoothly, which means, don't make a big deal out of it...
like "I am gonna go now! And I am gonna pay!"
"for YOUR bill."
Don't do that. Just go and pay smoothly. Which many Japanese people do
an interesting trick is...
you go to the toilet, and on the way back you just pay the bill.
So it's smoothly done. So when you both are getting out and the whole hassle
with the purse and stuff comes up, the person can just go....
"It's fine. I already took care of it."
Kinda cool.
Had that a couple of times happening with colleagues.
Pretty cool idea.
Don't take my list away, I need it!
Next thing is remember gifts!
If the girl wants an item, even the guy...
mentions that....
Maybe don't get it there and then.
Maybe get it later.
Will make people happy.
Another thing.
Let's keep going on. Gentlemen and chivalry is generally accepted
all across the world.
Apparently that doesn't happen that much in Japan.
Travel together, go places together, is always good.
Great idea on a date.
On a date, give breaks. If you see that the girl is either a smoker and she might wanna smoke
or if you see that they are a bit tired, they might not be able to keep up with you
Give them some time to have a break.
Then... stick to them....
be lovey dovey.
That's a thing guys like if the girl... holds their hand and is all over them.
Apparently that's great.
Rely on the other person. There are some people that wanted that.
OTHER people didn't want that. I will come back to that in a moment.
Being able to read the air, see how the other person is feeling
tired, do they need anything?
Very important in Japan.
Reading the air is very important.
Now let's go to the DONT'S
Don't is... carry too much stuff if you are a guy.
Interesting.
Split the bill.
... and be really picky about splitting the bill.
No one really liked that. That was a big one.
Sigh when going shopping. Uh-huh.
I couldn't deal with that either.
Bored attitude, especially when you are just going on that date.
Hey you are there to have fun!!!
Come in with high spirits. Very important.
PDA is a big thing in Japan. Japanese people do not like PDA
it will make people feel uncomfortable.
they might not tell you.
So it's a big thing to watch out for.
No public display of affection guys!
Next one. Be indecisive.
like "I don't know, what do you want?"
I come back to that in a moment.
Eat with your mouth open is a big no no no.
Boring conversations no!
Not knowing your manners!
Might be eating or anything.
Mind your manners, it's very important.
And what a big thing was...
All of them said they would like the other person to decide who does the main thing on the date.
I imagine that being really difficult.
If you expect the other person to decide for you and the other person
expects you to decide for them...
You're not gonna get anything done.
How about you guys talk about it.
It's nice to have another person decide everything...
but take you on that great decision date, but maybe next time
it's your turn then afterwards.
How about you balance it guys?
One thing I would like to add, it's nice when you go on a special date...
to maybe get an item together.
Maybe the same phone straps or something.
I like to do that when I go with friends some where.
I like having an item that makes me remember the day
and lots and lots of pictures.
What is a GO and a NO GO on a date for you?
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