I think one reason why I wanted to talk about this is because you kind of called
me out on it once, publicly - about you said you imagined that I was angry. Now
at the time I wasn't angry but anger is something I deal with a lot. I just
wanted to hear your thoughts on what you think about anger and if there's a
healthy way to utilize it.
Yeah I think anger is extremely sacred in the
sense of - it's like a very fiery energy. And there's so much cool research on
this like if you're specifically wanting to dive into the topic of how different
emotions might vibrate at different frequencies. There's - have you read
any of David Hawkins by any chance? He has some great books so I might be
partly biased with my answer based on some of the research I've done from him
but like if I remember what he says correctly and what I've experienced in
the events and everything is that - anger is much of a - much faster energy a
much more intense energy and a much healthier energy than like say no
emotion - say depression. So if someone is caught in a
depressing state they may want to get angry first - so I think anger is a
beautiful thing. The thing with anger is because it has so much fire and so much
light, it can create a big shadow and someone can get used by anger rather
than using it and that's where I think we see violence - like where we've
seen violence is when someone has suppressed something so long their anger
is so bottled up and pent up they're no longer control of it - it overtakes them.
Yea. I feel it's healthy for me to use anger but it's not typically what people expect from me and
when I'm angry I feel like I have a lot more energy in certain
situations. Obviously I feel like there's certain situations where
it might not be helping that specific circumstance but more and more I learned
to let it out and it feels good afterwards. Sometime during it people
around me might not like it but it feels good for me. And you know where I learned
it the first time was one of your retreats when JP had us scream.
Yup. That is a great way - if someone feels like they're out of control with their
anger, I do think a scream therapy or some kind of cathartic release is a
great idea. However I think that when we are aware of our anger, or when I'm aware
of my anger I can use it to the advantage of my expression. I can use it
to the advantage of being more loving or caring - paradoxically more peaceful. I can -
if I know what I'm angry about or if I can see my anger before I express it, I
can actually channel that anger to be more peaceful. So in the sense of like
wow I'm feeling some anger build up. Let me go run. Like I wanted to -
I wanted to go for a good run today. Let me let that be fuel for my fire for my run
and then when I'm back home with Diana, although this anger might be a cover-up
for sadness or it might be kind of hiding something that's even more
scarier for me than anger maybe something I want to express to Diana,
maybe now that I've expressed it in the run i've gotten fitter i got faster and
i'm more now present with Diana rather than just letting it explode out of
control. It's like the difference between a volcano that never erupts and that
blows its top off, versus like Yellowstone National Park - that's an
active volcano, but there's so many geysers going off all the time just
like letting steam off. And all of a sudden that fire - that fire that's being
expressed in steam and geysers is one of the most attractive places on earth.
And I think some of the best fighters in the world, some of the best athletes in
the world - they've learned to transmute their anger into success and on the
other side of anger though - a lot of times I've seen anger be a
cover-up for sadness or for boredom or for frustration, so I think if we get
really clear with our own anger it might be really revealing to what's
going on a deeper level - maybe some some sort of sadness that we haven't been
able to look at. And I think the more we peel back every emotion all that's left is
love. So anger is like oh there's there's something happening - like love wants to
be expressed and first we got to let out the mud. We got it let out the dirty -
"the dirty" - the geysers. We got to let that out so then we can be as loving as possible.
Yea as I learn more from you and learn more from myself and
getting more in touch with emotions, the questions always like
where's the threshold when anger can not be healthy? When anger isn't serving me or serving
people around me. So that's just something I've never really been good at -
is being in touch with my emotions and expressing it freely. So anger is
just one of those things that just comes out so naturally. I typically don't
show other people the anger - or maybe people can see it but I don't show it 100%.
I usually express it like you said like when I run. I run angry. A lot of people probably don't know that
but I definitely run angry and I let out that energy so that like you said when I return to wherever that
is whether physically or mentally I am at a place of peace even if the anger is still kind of with me.
Yea anger is real fast energy and it's not to be handled by the amateurs in a reckless
way. It's like it's something to be really practiced and be really
aware with. It's basically like a gun. It's a weapon. It's a weapon
that can be used to provide for your family in the sense of someone can use
a bow for a deer or you can use your anger to be extremely successful
business wise or to get stuff done or to become fitter or if that weapon has
turned the wrong way and used in the wrong way all the sudden it's like holy
moly - then anger gets a bad rep. Then a an arrow or a gun or a weapon gets a bad rep.
Yea, so that's a great segway to the other part.
When I express anger - even small amounts to people - of course it's harder
for me to harness that energy with people or directing it to people
in a healthy way because I only know how to do it by myself like when I'm
working out or like you said running. One of the funniest things - naturally I
get angry at ******* sometimes. Right I like the circumstances or maybe there's a
situation where I'm not agreeing with and anger will just build up in me and I wil literally clean the whole house
just like clean - like you know when people on drugs or something they just
like kind of go crazy and just like like have OCD. I literally will just clean
everything. I don't know if that's healthy or not because I know that she sees
me like that. So I don't know. Like do i express it with words to her?
like do i express it with words to her yeah so I love like the metaphor once
Yea so I love the metaphor once again - anger can be a tool or a weapon and I think when you're - you are
using the tool of anger to clean the house and get things done and there
might be even a more powerful way to use it which is the deepest connection
possible with your wife or whoever it may be - a business partner or whoever you
might think you're angry at and I think the best way to do that is to realize
that anyone that we're angry at or anyone that you may be angry or people
that I've been angry at in the past - they're usually reflecting something
that I don't understand, something I don't like about myself or something
that I want for myself but I'm not willing to admit - so aka envy. All
the sudden anger is covering up envy so below that anger may be envy or
jealousy or whatever it is but I think that one of the best ways for me I found
when if I'm gonna be angry and I think I'm angry with Diana is to really own
my own anger - to not say I"'m angry at you. You did this." It's like "I feel this anger
because how I experienced this. Like this is my -" I'll be really clear with Diana
or be really clear with whoever it is it like "this is your expression" - and they're
not responsible for it and you're wanting to navigate it and the best way
possible for both of them like to use it as a tool for connection rather than a
weapon of destruction and I think that vulnerability and admitting that -
like if it's Diana like "I experienced anger and I'm not saying it
has to do with you. This mental small self of me wants to blame you for
something. Are you willing to be with me while I kind of navigate what I think
I'm angry about?"
So those are the three things?
Yeah that's the way I've seen it show up in the trifecta.
I'm sure there's offshoots but those seem to be the main three sources of
someone's anger - and we have one minute till 11 minutes is up. Is there anything
else that you wanted to chat about? I definitely want to talk to you more
whenever is best for both of us. I'm definitely honouring these creative constraints. I love them.
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