Hey, we're going to be talking about how to stay positive in a negative situation
today. So if you have a negative situation that you want to turn into
positive you've come to the right place.
Hey, this is Wylene Benson and I am so excited for our topic today, how to stay
positive in a negative situation and because you are asking this question
I'm going to actually share with you something that I don't share with very many people.
I'm going to be a little bit vulnerable today.
My husband and I had a situation a couple of years ago where we were
working with a mentor, financial mentor and he had some really great awesome
information to share and a lot of great processes, the problem was we were not
ready. We were not ready for the technical aspects that he was throwing
in, we didn't have the mindset, there were a lot of things that we just had not
prepared ourselves to participate in the program that he was offering and so we
had some really great stuff and I've learned a ton from him but the part that
I want to share with you is that when we really dived in and we got started with
this, we went in a hundred percent and so we did everything that he said and
honestly, we were way in over our head and I felt like I was in underwater you
know, we were way over our head and what I felt like was that my
finances got tossed up into the air and this huge north wind came
blowing in and just threw all my finances around the whole area and
I didn't know where anything was, I didn't know how much money we had, I didn't have
a clue, like what our position was, I didn't even know what our credit score
was and this happened in a fairly short amount of time because we just put
everything into this system that we didn't understand and we weren't
prepared to uphold and this situation went on for about a year and a half.
I kept, I was in denial, I kept thinking I can handle it, I can fix it,
there's, I just need a little more time and there were so many things that I
felt like I could do but in the end I really couldn't, I wasn't ready for it.
So for a year and a half, we went with our finances really not understanding where
we were or what our situation was. In fact, to a point where we've never been
laid on bills and we started getting late on payments and things like that
and I was so stressed out about this and I felt like this was such a negative
situation and once we were in the middle of it and we had this whole mess,
I didn't know how to get out of it, like I didn't even feel confident to go back to
the old way that we were doing it, it was that messed up. What I discovered in that
year and a half was an amazing lesson, an amazing awesome realization. I didn't go
to jail, I was never late on my house payment, I might have been late on a
couple of bills but I always paid all my bills. We still have a really awesome
credit score, maybe a dipped a point or two and that was it. We're still investing
in real estate, we still have our home, we still get to go out to dinner, we still,
you know, everything that happened before, we're still doing. Now it's been about
six months since I got everything put back together and so we're actually
feeling really good about our finances right now but for about a year and a
half, I really had no clue and I kept thinking at any moment, the IRS or
somebody was going to come knocking at the door and say, you know, you need to
come with us because you're just not doing what you're supposed to be doing
but it never happened and so the cool lesson that I learned is, it's not that
big a deal, you can do a lot of things and have a really awesome outcome even
if you don't know what you're doing. So the first thing to remember is, it's
really not that big a deal. The second thing is, to get yourself in a
neutral space. So after you realize that it's really not that big a deal
then just get yourself to a neutral space, close your eyes, take a deep breath,
empty your vessel like we talked about in a past video and then make a plan and
that plan, obviously, is going to consist of owning up, finding accountability, taking
ownership, taking responsibility for the things that maybe you could do or maybe
that you did that got you in this situation to start with and regardless
of whether this is a situation that was created by someone else or a
circumstance or whatever, there's some sort of accountability that you can find
in it, something that you can do or something that you did to create the
situation. Maybe it was even just an attitude that you had or whatever, it
could be something really simple but find a piece of accountability. So in
this neutral space, you can find accountability and also in this neutral
space, you can find gratitude. So for me my gratitude in this situation, well
first of all, my accountability in this situation was that I jumped in without
having all the information, I took on way too much and I didn't ask for
help, so that was my accountability, the gratitude that I find in the situation
is that, I realized after a year and a half that it wasn't that big a deal.
So now I am very conscious about my finances and I also know that if I'm off
a penny or if I, you know, I'm a day late on a bill, it's okay, it's not that big a
deal. Alright, and the third thing is, to make a plan, to make a plan to move
forward and get back into that positive space and I found the best way to get
into a positive space is to take a look at the beliefs that are making me feel
like it's a negative space, negative situation, so I take a look at it and I
say, is it really a negative situation? Is there some way that I could see positive
in this? And finding the gratitude in a situation is a really awesome way to
find yourself in a positive space and changing your beliefs from that
different perspective of this is actually really awesome. So with
my situation, I changed my beliefs from "This was a negative situation" to "I'm so
grateful that I was able to have this experience" And now I know what I'm
capable of, now I know who I need to reach out to if I need help, if I feel
like I'm over my head and I also know that I can do anything and that now that
the situation has resolved itself, that we're actually even better off than we
were and we've learned tons of lessons along the way.
First of all, realizing it's not that big a deal. Second of all, get yourself to a
neutral space so you can find accountability and gratitude, and third
create a plan. How do you get yourself from feeling like it's a negative
situation to where it is a positive situation and that will get me you back
to positive. If you learn something new in this video, be sure to like it and
hopefully you're taking away from this video that whatever your situation is,
no matter how it used to seem negative, that it's really no big deal and it can
totally be turned around into positive just like that.
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