"A Tip-off about My Brother-in-law."
This brother-in-law has a job.
That's a relief.
(Oh my...)
(Everyone applauds upon hearing that)
They're applauding because he has a job.
Hello. I'm a woman in my 20s from Daegu.
I have an older sister who got married recently.
She doesn't look so good these days.
"Sis. What's wrong?"
Sigh...
"My husband didn't come home last night."
"What? He didn't come home again?
Is he having an affair?"
He would often stay out all night
or come home around midnight.
(Why is that?)
He's addicted to games.
It's because he's playing games.
Ring ring ring.
"It's weekend. What are you doing?"
"I'm eating by myself."
"You're by myself?
Where's your husband?"
"He hasn't come home from the internet cafe."
"What?"
Yes, my sister
eats by herself and does chores by herself.
Did she get married for this?
This is what frustrates me the most.
"How can your husband do this?
Talk to him about it."
"It's all right. It's all because of me.
He's not a bad person."
My sister says that she's okay
even though she's frowning all the time.
I'm so frustrated.
It's time for me to step up now.
Please stop my brother-in-law.
The first year of marriage is when
a couple fights a lot.
This sister sent in this concern,
but the couple may be okay with this issue.
Even if the sister is worried?
Other's can't really know what goes on at home.
Let's bring her out now. Please come out.
Eric, Seungyun, please escort her.
(Who's concerned about her brother-in-law?)
(Welcome dance)
(Hong Geumbi)
How much does your brother-in-law play games?
He plays games on computers and his phone.
He comes home from work at midnight.
He plays games until 4 a.m. and goes to sleep.
And about 2-3 times a week he stays out
all night to play games.
He lives at an internet cafe on weekends.
Why did you come instead of your sister?
I'm more frustrated with my sister.
She did try talking to him about this.
She cried, pleaded,
and yelled at him.
He said that he would change,
but he never did.
My sister has given up and
now she blames herself.
She says, "It's because I'm not good enough.
Playing games is how he reduces stress.
I just need to be patient and overlook it.
It's all because I'm not good enough."
Since she's blaming herself,
She waits alone, not eating. I feel bad for her.
That's why you decided to step up?
I talked to him a few weeks ago.
"Please come home early.
I will take out a loan
to buy you a really good computer at home.
Please come home and not go to internet cafes."
I begged him.
He apologized and said that he would change.
But he stayed out all night last week, too.
(No one can get through to him)
I'm curious because
your sister could've sent in her concern.
Did your sister ask you for help?
Hyunyi has this look on her face.
"This sister is a meddler."
It's not that.
They could like their current relationship.
We never know.
They both
ask me for help.
My sister asks me for help, saying it was too much.
What's so hard for the brother-in-law?
When she gets angry,
he doesn't understand why she's mad.
I tell him what could be upsetting for her.
I comfort my sister, saying that he must
be stressed and that's why he plays games.
I have to comfort them both.
You're stuck in the middle.
- That must be tough. / - That's tough on you.
It must be hard having them call you.
(It's tough for the sister)
They moved recently.
My sister called me on the moving day.
"Geumbi. Today is our moving day
and I can't reach my husband.
He went to an internet cafe last night."
On the moving day?
- "He never came home." / - That's serious.
I was on a date with my boyfriend.
I apologized to him and went to my sister.
My brother-in-law had arrived just minutes before
and that's when they started to pack.
Imagine how frustrated this sister must be.
Let's meet her brother-in-law now.
He looks like the handsome version of Kian84.
They do look similar.
Let's meet him.
Yes, I can see the resemblance.
Hello.
(Who's the one addicted to games?)
(They do look alike)
Can you put your lips together?
He looks like a handsome Kian84, doesn't he?
(An unexpected discovery)
Do you understand your sister-in-law's concern?
I know that I am addicted.
You do know.
When I get home from work,
since I can't play games at work,
I start playing in convenience stores or my car.
Unbelievable.
Then I fall asleep in my car.
Then night and the morning comes before I know it.
(That's serious)
What do you get out of this?
Why are you so addicted to games?
I don't smoke or drink.
There we go again.
Drink or smoke instead then.
Just drink and smoke.
It's a way of rewarding myself.
We call it, "Little joys in our lives."
I go out on Saturdays
and come home at night on Sundays.
You're at an internet cafe for 24 hours?
I fall asleep and wake up to play some more.
(Remember, he is a newlywed)
You dated your wife before you got married, right?
Yes.
I'm sure you went out to see her
instead of playing games when you were dating.
Playing games wasn't that important then.
Then why don't you rush home now?
She's his wife now.
She tells me that it's okay to play.
I know she doesn't mean it.
She's daring you to play more games.
I'm not really quick to sense that.
Were you always this dense?
Yes, I did get that a lot when I was young.
He admits it, so it's not frustrating.
He does admit his faults.
He says that it's to relieve stress,
but that's ridiculous.
Since he plays games until 3-4 a.m.
he oversleeps in the morning.
So he's often late to work.
It affects his work, too.
When someone calls him from work,
he makes my sister answer the phone.
(A grownup does that?)
What?
Then my sister apologizes
to his co-workers instead.
What's wrong with him?
It's like making his mom make excuses.
Since I'm late to work often...
It's an excuse.
(Shaking her head)
You are late to work often?
Yes. I am often late to meetings, too.
I watched the episode of a boyfriend
whose girlfriend was always late.
(Episode 395) If I'm lucky, she shows up.
There were times when she never showed up.
(Doubting their ears)
She would cancel our date.
If he really loves me, he can wait for me.
(She was brazen, too)
She sounded like me.
You are as bad as she is?
I do understand her stance.
We should meet his wife now.
This is another concern. Always being late.
Hello.
She looks nice.
Why do you look so nice?
It's a concern for you, right?
I don't think it's a concern.
(What?)
(Why not?)
- Really? / - Like Hyunyi said.
Many newlyweds argue a lot in the beginning.
So that's why I don't think it's a concern.
All right. We'll end this case right here.
It wasn't a concern.
(Was I fooled again?)
(See? She says it's okay)
Then why do you call your sister every time?
Why do you tell her that it's tough for you?
I feel bad about telling this to my parents
and I can't tell my friends because he'd look bad.
My sister is like a friend to me. That's why.
So it is a problem for you.
You're not okay.
The more I try to understand him
the harder it gets.
But once I tell my sister,
I forget about everything in about an hour.
I guess she kept all this to herself.
I feel bad for Geumbi.
(She's worried for no reason?)
(She's being attacked from both sides)
I understand because they're newlyweds.
My dream was to become a good wife.
So I always said, "It's okay."
My husband asked me what I want for my birthday.
I said, "It's okay." He didn't get me anything.
He really thought I didn't want anything.
Men can't read between the lines.
So I said, "You could've bought me flowers."
I told him that because I was upset.
The following year, he only got me flowers.
He's a good listener.
He did get you what you wanted.
So I now tell him more and more.
"Hey, you fool."
(Am I a fool?)
(For you...)
(he will do anything)
(She's not laughing)
When your husband goes out all night
to play games,
don't you get upset?
You have to be honest. Hyejung just said that
men can't read between the lines.
Be honest with us.
It's upsetting.
You should've told us from the start.
(Get it all out, sis!)
Many newlyweds argue a lot in the beginning.
I don't think it's a concern.
It's upsetting. It's very upsetting.
(She finally tells the truth)
It's upsetting, right?
When we got married,
my dream was to eat dinner together
and go for a walk at night together.
He acted like he'd do anything for me,
but now that I told him he can play games
he won't come home. It's upsetting.
Why didn't you tell him that then?
Why are you crying?
She knows what her sister is like.
(How much are you enduring in life?)
Why didn't you tell him how you feel?
(Emotional)
- Oh my goodness. / - Does it hurt your ego?
I'm afraid he's going to hate me.
You're afraid he's going to hate you?
(Why would you think that?)
Why would you think that?
I'm afraid that he's going to get sick of me.
(She loves her husband so much that)
(she has endured loneliness with a smile)
(but she was crying a river inside)
(Sis...)
Sir, how do you feel about this?
She was upset, but couldn't tell you.
I'm shocked.
I'm shocked because I didn't know.
When he told me that he plays games in the car,
I was shocked.
I thought, "Does he hate me?
Am I not good enough for him?"
That's understandable.
I guess I continued to blame myself.
Oh no. (You did nothing wrong!)
How many hours a week are you with him?
Excluding the hours we sleep,
less than 10 hours.
10 hours a week?
Is it less than 10 hours or not? I don't know.
Is that a quiz for us?
Is it 10 hours or not?
(Please care about her more!)
When we were talking about him being late,
you kept shaking your head.
He has never waited for someone in his life.
When we were dating,
I once waited 3 hours for him in winter.
- In winter? / - Yes.
I'm impressed.
Another concern is added.
She waited for him for more than 3 hours.
I didn't realize that at the time.
She was always there waiting for me.
But 3 hours?
I'll be blunt.
You could've just dated him.
Why did you marry him?
Out of those 10 bad habits,
one good thing is that he is sincere.
So I thought he would change one day.
(Blinded by love)
Just one good trait?
He's late to meetings, but he's sincere?
He plays games too sincerely.
All right.
(The wife is too kind)
Playing games this much could be costly.
He's been buying items even before we got married.
Here comes the professional word.
If his credit card bill is $1,000,
50% is spent on buying items for games.
At first, he told me it was for car installments.
(He even lied)
He lied.
I thought it was for his car.
I didn't tell her,
but a few days ago...
(No way)
(No way)
(There isn't more, right?)
I bought more a few days ago.
What did you buy? A sword?
There's a weekly special package.
I spend little by little each time
so I end up spending more than $2,000.
(Shocked)
(Oh my goodness)
In a month?
No, not in a month.
I spend $100 a month. Little by little.
He pinky swore that he wouldn't do that.
You bought more recently?
She just found out.
Does he give you his monthly salary?
No, he doesn't.
(After spending that much on games?)
It is mostly spent on paying back his debt.
Did you incur that debt together?
No, it is his personal debt.
That's why he doesn't give me any money.
In a way, it's like gambling.
I have nothing left...
So you feel empty inside.
And you continue to play games?
You see...
(This is serious)
You don't have money for living expenses?
I work part-time for it.
Our parents give us food to eat
and some essential items.
Since they have to pay back the debt,
my sister doesn't ride
public transportation like the bus or subway.
She walks for 2 hours even in winter.
Oh no.
She doesn't want to waste money on that.
Then when she goes to see our parents
our dad gives her spending money.
She saves it.
Then when my brother-in-law needs money...
- For special occasions. / - Yes.
He asks her for money.
When he doesn't give her any money?
Then she gives the money that
she saved up to him.
She just gives it to him?
Sure. She says, "What choice do I have?
He has to go to those special occasions."
(She's always being considerate)
Did you know that the money you got
was from her father?
Yes, I knew.
You knew?
- Even when we were dating... / - You accepted it?
This is frustrating, too.
He does admit to his faults
so why is this so stressful?
I offered to give her my credit card,
but she said that she can get by
so I thought it was okay.
I didn't think much of it.
He knows it, but does it anyway.
He thinks it's really okay when she says it.
You just heard him.
This is why he never gave you money.
How do you feel? You think you were wrong?
No, it's fine.
(How frustrating)
It's not okay.
(Why can't you tell the truth?)
You say it's fine, but it's not.
I'm planning to get it all back
once he pays back his debt.
In the future, you will have kids.
You have a long future ahead of you.
If you keep quiet because you're afraid that
he's going to hate you,
the problem will become more serious later.
Newlyweds fight a lot in the beginning.
Yes, of course.
The problem will get worse if you don't fight now.
Why are you so considerate to him?
He's more soft-hearted than you think.
I feel bad about nagging at him.
If he were a bad person,
I could yell at him.
But he always apologizes to me.
That's worse. Apologizing but not changing.
This is why we never meddle in a couple's fight.
You might think you're being considerate,
but you're actually getting him bad habits.
When did your sister look most upset?
I think she is most upset when she's alone
when she needs him most.
It was her first birthday after getting married.
Her in-laws offered to hold a party for her
because it was her first birthday together.
- Her in-laws? / - Yes.
He drank too much the night before and got sick.
I thought he doesn't drink nor smoke.
He does both.
What? Both?
(What?)
(He's so brazen)
He lies, too.
He got sick so she nursed him all day
instead of going to that party.
She went to see a doctor with him.
I was really upset then.
I was so upset that I thought,
"Was I right to marry him?"
You thought that?
Yes, about 10%.
All right.
I want you to be more honest.
He needs to know.
She says that everything is okay,
but she is getting more depressed.
She isn't the type to cry a lot.
But she cried thinking, "Am I too obsessed
with him? Am I being too harsh?"
Whenever she talks about him with me
she gets tears in her eyes
and starts to cry.
(She held back a lot)
Do you get depressed often?
I try to understand him
so I get frustrated.
It hurts right here.
(She held back in the name of love)
She did nothing wrong.
She can't say how tough it is for her.
(She's casting a spell on her that she's fine)
I end up thinking bad thoughts.
Like what?
If we are going to hurt each other like this,
we should just go our separate ways.
(She must've been very lonely...)
You love him very much, right?
Yes, I do.
That's why maybe I should give him freedom.
(She's blaming herself again)
(They're back to square one...)
While I listen to you talk,
what I wonder is,
how much do you love yourself?
She has low self-esteem, right?
She keeps blaming herself.
I think it's important for you
to learn to love yourself.
Sir. How do you feel? She says that
she loves you so much that she might let you go.
I don't want that.
Then what do you think you must do?
Have you ever tried to quit playing games?
(Not once)
Of course not. He never once tried.
We can't solve anything here by talking.
You know that you're hurting your wife,
but you can't quit playing games.
That means you're seriously addicted
that you need an expert's help.
Do you think you're seriously addicted?
Or you don't think it's that bad?
I think I am at that point.
(He admits to how serious his addiction is)
There you go.
Since he knows it, he just needs treatments.
Please tells us what you want from him.
I want you to go home
and spend time with my sister.
Sis, stop covering for your husband.
Stop saying that you'll leave him.
I want you to resolve this well.
Please say a word to your wife.
I know that I was wrong to make excuses.
I will quit going to internet cafes.
(Really?)
I will try to be at meetings on time.
I will try my best.
I love you.
Please say a word to your sister-in-law.
No matter what happens
I will try to resolve it with my wife.
Thank you for making me come here.
Thank you and I'm sorry.
(Please keep your promise this time)
Is it a concern or not?
It's a concern.
She keeps saying that everything is fine,
but everything isn't okay.
I want you to try harder.
She is seriously depressed and
she has low self-esteem.
I think it's a concern, too.
Since he loves his wife a lot,
it'll be fine once he gets his addiction treated.
Press the button if you think it's a concern.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Please stop.
Please show us the result.
(Announcing the result)
(It was also very frustrating!)
(What's the result?)
- 125 votes. / - They got many votes.
(They got 125 votes)
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