so you were unsuccessful in a job interview what does it mean I get a lot
of my students and coaching clients that come to me when they have failed a job
interview and it is just the worst thing in the world for them and in this video
I'm gonna share some tools on how to most effectively handle this and by the
end of our calls my clients are normally excited and ready to get back out there
so stay tuned what are you making it mean here's what my clients will mostly
tell me they're making it mean that they failed that they are a failure generally
as people that the interviewers hated them that they weren't good enough that
they failed their family their fiance their kids whatever they sometimes they
make it really bad in their heads it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong
with you it's not useful to beat yourself up over an interview that
didn't work out you didn't die you're okay you can just go to another
interview and do better next time here's why it's always gonna be better for you
the next time you go so you went to an interview that's great most people don't
even get interviews you got one that means that you can get another one and
you can get as many as you need to get the job that you ultimately want quite
possibly not getting the job had nothing to do with you at all it could have been
a thousand other reasons for why you didn't get the job say if it had nothing
to do with you it could have been one of these reasons maybe the CEOs son or
brother or some family member inside the organization took the job instead that
happens maybe they did an internal restructuring and they hired someone
from within that happens a lot too maybe they were facing a critical incident
something happened with their own internal systems maybe they had to put
the hiring aside maybe they had budget cuts and decided to cancel the hiring or
put it on hold potentially they could have been dealing with a legal issue and
they had to put the hiring on hold a lot of the times you'd be really surprised
I'll be coaching somebody and I'll get them to talk about what happened and
they'll be like yeah you know come to think of it something didn't add up
there or something didn't make sense so they did say something about that and it
turns out it had nothing to do with them and they're beating themselves up over
nothing failure is part of the game accept it
now and it won't come as a shock and you'll be good
no one nails every interview every time the reason for this is
because not everybody likes everybody just not how the world works
so when that's the case you can't possibly nail every single interview and
you can't possibly be successful 100% of the time and you wouldn't want to be
either because it means you might end up in a job you don't even like so if you
want to get your dream job and I mean your dream job that you were so excited
about you will have to accept that it will maybe take one or two interviews
maybe it'll take you ten but it doesn't matter what matters is your commitment
level and your ability to say I'm gonna do whatever it takes until I get what I
want if you did let an interview that you
didn't succeed in get you down then what's gonna happen is it's gonna affect
how you feel and it's gonna affect a show up in your next interview
and then you might fail that one because you're thinking about the past ones so
don't let that happen you want to take the lessons learn from that interview
and move on it doesn't mean that you're not good enough or whatever it is you
made it mean it just means you had a growth moment or it had nothing to do
with you so let's consider if you already knew that sometimes you were
gonna fail but it's only a fail because of what you're making it means if you
make it mean that it's just a blip in the road and you're gonna be in your in
your dream job so it's not gonna matter anyway and blitzen the road happen then
you're gonna move on with no problem right how are you defining failure so to
be honest I would not consider an interview where you didn't get the job
of failure it's not even a failure because first of all you don't know if
it had to do with you second of all a real failure would be
not even trying not even going would be not even applying not putting your
resume forward not showing up to the interview that would be a real fail so
to be honest how do you define failure and does that need to change give
yourself some credit for putting yourself on the line putting yourself in
a position where you could fail something that was hard for you to do
because I bet it wasn't easy going into the interview that's the work that you
really need to be doing it's just accepting that sometimes you don't
always get the job harvest your lessons learned use them and move on what I
teach my students and clients to do is an interview debrief and every
debrief is where you write down what worked well and what didn't work well in
such a way that you can really utilize this result to improve for the next time
this exercise is a process that will help you improve yourself and even if
you did great and there was nothing better that you could have done
differently because it did not to do with you then quite often this will come
out in the interview debrief as well and then you can start to realize that it
wasn't about you to start with if it was about you if you could have done
something differently then sitting down taking that time to brighten up the
process of what went really well and what didn't do really well and
consciously using that for next time will give you the confidence that you
need another reason you may not have gotten the job was because you were
simply not the right fit and maybe you would have hated the job anyway this
actually happened to me it took the job I interviewed great I was hired but when
I got in the job I hated it and I knew within the first day so in my mind I was
like I need to do an interview debrief and figured out what I did wrong so I
learned that I needed to ask more questions more specific questions to
determine whether I would even like the job in the first place and whether I
would even like the people that were working there the big question that I
decided that I would now ask was what does it day in the life look like of the
successful hire what will they be doing from the time they get there to the time
they go home and that would give me insight as to what the position was
really about so I'd like to offer you today a free 35 questions cheat sheet to
discover whether you're the right fit or not so this is 35 questions you can
download a PDF if you click the link below and you can choose from these
questions to see what you want to know about the job before you get into it
they'll also make you sound really smart at the end of the interview and you'll
also be able to gather some information that you need to make sure that you end
up in the right fit thanks very much for watching that's all for today if you
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