As salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu. Gonna talk about erections well we've
been kind of talking about some things in terms of just the basics of puberty
and one of the big ones obviously for boys is and pardon the pun through this
they're not intended big ones and large and you know and there's a lot of words
that we will use but just and and this is part of the the as a reminder to
start off this is part of the importance of sharing knowledge properly right
unfortunately we get too caught up in what we think in terms of language and
words and we and we don't really listen to what other people are saying so in
terms of erections for example right there's a lot of lewd language that
people can use to describe the penis and we don't have to go into that I mean and
it's young people people whatever depending on the situation the
conversation people are going to use different different works some people
will use what's called innuendos where they'll talk about things in terms of
sexuality for example but without talking about sexuality they'll make an
offhand joke with the meaning to be about sex but it's about something else
now as I was saying abut the language part of it is that we have to understand
that just because somebody uses a particular word and we may have a
different understanding that word doesn't mean that our understanding is
correct right so the most important thing is as we go through this type of
so especially with using certain language to understand that in
especially in different cultures some words may appear lewd and obscene in one
culture but not another and that's why I was bringing this up right so the big
reference is kind of an in and no to write the male erection now
for the young brothers inshallah if anybody's listening you know if if the
sisters gonna be sharing this with her son an erection basically is when your
penis becomes hard so it will stand up right depending on don't worry about the
size issues here guys you know whatever you want to ride you know what I mean
it's just basically you get blood flow into the region of your penis and it
grows right now one of the things I think that's really important is then
and I don't know if if mothers do this and I think more in my opinion more
mothers should and I mentioned in previous video that mothers should learn
biology at least the basics of the opposite gender I mean even as Muslims
it's important for us to try to understand each other as much as
possible so a man should understand the nature of women as best they can they
should understand the biology even just the basic biology doesn't mean you have
to become a doctor an expert on everything but understand the basic
biology of women in terms of of what the differences are between men and women
right we all come from the same source in terms of embryology you have the egg
or the ovum we call it the egg and then you have the sperm and they come
together and this new life has tissue and that tissue grows for example in
terms of the male the tissue depending on what's present during the
fertilization chromosomes proteins hormones all of these kind of things can
influence so for example when there's I believe it's this particular protein I
don't remember it off the top of my head but there's a particular protein that if
it is present it cause it can cause the this particular part of tissue in the
embryo to form into the penis right and if it's not it turns into what's known
as the clitoris right and people don't always
but I mean you you could technically and there are people in the past who have
used the terminology that the clitoris is the female penis right there's a lot
of similarities in terms of the tissue structure the the appearance of it if
you see it completely through let's say medical textbooks or you know
illustrations and so on it looks very very similar to the the structure and
the shape look very similar now obviously they function different there
are some functional differences as well but so in the case of the the young
brothers you have a penis right and the sisters know this and then if you happen
to be in this situation or even as a mother when your child is small having a
basic understanding of the anatomy of a man if you notice something even when
the small boy there's it happens all the time they fall I've known many boys that
when they start learning too especially in Western culture it's a little bit
different because in the Muslim culture we teach our boys to sit when they go to
the bathroom Western boys are not always taught this we're usually taught to
stand and I have heard this incident so many times when a young boy is standing
he's not quite tall enough to get over the the toilet seat so they lift the
seat up and the brother is the young brother a little little child is going
to the bathroom and that seat story for the loud noise but you get the idea I
believe it happened to me as well so traumatic I mean maybe that's the first
memory I have but it's not but but these kind of things happen right so in this
particular case I mean a mother needs to know the basic anatomy to see okay is
everything looking the way it should right there's differences between
whether you're circumcised and not circumcised and as Muslims we
circumcised so this is important as well to know the difference too because it's
it happens very often when young brothers will see somebody who's
different let's say accidentally through you know school through change rooms
through athletics whatever they may not be aware of this and people are not
aware of how visually like different the circumcised penis from an
uncircumcised penis is now in terms of just the you know the general appearance
functionally they're the same right but so so for the young brothers right you
should understand the basics that you have what's called the the glans or the
head of the penis that's the ball-shaped how do you say the ball-shaped head at
the the head yeah even this is a little awkward I'm just talking by myself so
you can see how this can be awkward but but just think of it as just like you
know anything else so let's do it this way I guess and make it easy right so
this there's a head at the top then you have a shaft and at the bottom you have
what's called the scrotum which is that little sac at the bottom and these the
the sac actually is is one of the most the scrotum inside of that is testicles
okay and this is a very very sensitive area right so it's important to just you
don't have to go into the biology on the inside now one other important thing is
that with the penis is that you have a little hole at the end of the head which
is what's called the urethra right and we grow boys learn this very early on is
that we urinate we pee through this right so it's a simple thing it happens
you go to the bathroom that's where it comes out but the difference between
boys and girls is that boys have a from the scrotum the testicles you also have
something else that's called semen that is what produces sperm or that story I
shouldn't say for producer sperm how do I say that I'm trying to save this in a
way that's not so I don't want to get to medical I mean I could go very medical
in it and I don't want to the intention is to keep it kind of casual so that
people can get to understand it but but basically it's a fluid that that
contains sperm and that sperm is looks like a little it's a similar thing
actually the head of it looks kind of like the head of a penis and it has a
little tail like a little if anybody ever sees a tadpole in the water a
tadpole or small frog it looks very similar
in that sense and it just and not through sexuality we won't go into the
details about this for now but basically through sex and intimacy that gets
transferred into to the young brother's wife once he gets married and and then
that's where babies come from yeah you know confuse people would be if that was
the story but that's just to get just just to get the idea so anyway this is
where that fluid comes from right that's the focus right now we'll talk about the
other things later the more the details of that but but the idea is that you
don't have to be worried about these types of things when you start seeing
the reason I'm telling you this is because as a boy starts to go through
puberty mentions and last one you will get something that's called
pre-ejaculate all right and what this means is it's like a clear fluid that
comes out and you'll notice it's different okay and it comes from the
same place so so when a boy starts to go through puberty this might start to
happen especially after you have an erection so when the blood flows to the
region your penis gets hard and it stands up and it grows in size and it
can be very uncomfortable and awkward at the beginning it can be very
embarrassing and as I mentioned in a previous video a good thing to do is
just cover up getting get in the habit of wearing kind of you know bag your
shirts and so on and then if it happens in public because it will happen in
public it's just the air blows and young brothers get an erection right this is
what happens right this is just part of going through the process so if it
happens in particular areas where you get an erection don't feel uncomfortable
don't get all embarrassed about it you know and I'm not going to touch on the
issue of a particular topic of the homosexuality but unfortunately there is
this kind of idea that just because you get an erection around other boys
doesn't make you a homosexual doesn't mean you're attracted to to man and that
that is your interest when you were going through puberty as I said the wind
can blow and knock at you you couldn't be anywhere at any time you could be
sitting in math class and get an action and this does not mean that
you're turned on or excited by math this is just your body is adjusting I mean as
you get older you will be stimulated or excited based on different things but
when you first start going through puberty there's no real relation between
when this happens not not not really right some people will say that it is
but that's not true at all so if you happen to be somewhere don't get
confused at the fact that why did it happen here don't get worried about
those kind of things just it happens it's normal it's natural and it's it's
okay now as going back to the initial fluid thing is you will get a small
amount of what's called ejaculate pre-ejaculate and it's a very you
generally a clear fluid and and it's important as you get older too from a
health standpoint to understand the differences between how the fluid should
look right and I'm saying fluid because these are the medical terms we'll get
into more the emotional intimate type details of how you feel and and and
these kind of things later so that you can help to understand to deal with them
but right now we're focusing on the the biological medical side of it so the
fluid is could look very clear now when this happens as a Muslim so now we're
gonna get unto said a little of the spiritual stuff as in Muslim when you
start to get these this happening something else I should have mentioned
actually to just to step back is that once you start hitting puberty once you
start noticing these physical changes right and obviously when a boy gets his
first erection he you you know that you are going through puberty for example
because sometimes people don't always know right but this is a clear sign that
you're starting puberty for sure right and but then when you as a Muslim as a
young Muslim you are now accountable for your actions now you are supposed to
because you're a young man you're supposed to be taking charge and you're
supposed to be taking responsibility this doesn't mean that you have to all
of a sudden get out and get a job and get married and all of these kind of
things that's not what we're talking about but you are starting to be prior
to that allah subhanaw taala doesn't hold you accountable for a lot of the
mistakes that you make because of the fact that you are still learning right
but now young adult you are gonna start to be
accountable and one of those things is that you have to start praying some
people will argue about based on a hadith that that says that you should
start getting your children and to pray around seven and to be physical with
them I hold this position based on my teachers that that's hadith is not
there's a lot of problems with the hadith in terms of the it's it's it's
nad and so on that it's weak it contradicts a lot of other teachings
that the Prophet had said so so basically the general understanding is
that a young man becomes accountable this has to start praying and and start
doing certain things in terms of being a young Muslim man when they start going
through puberty now this ejaculate is important this
pre-ejaculate is important because inshallah god willing you're not
engaging in sexual activity with people as you shouldn't because you're not
ready there's a whole bunch of things that we can talk about later but you
will get this pretty Jacqueline this pre-ejaculate is a clear fluid and when
this happens if your parents hopefully inshallah had taught you that when you
pray before you pray you have to do would do okay but when this pretty
jacket comes out you have to do what's called a hustle right or the it's normal
ritual bathing meaning you have to clean the area with water and then you do do
wudu and you've bathed right so you clean that way and this is important to
note that when this happens when you're a young man if this is happening a lot
now it becomes very difficult for a young man to have to clean all the time
or bathe let's say you're at school for example and you get an erection in class
and you find that you have a that little bit of liquid you have to go to the
bathroom and you find that afterwards you have that pre-ejaculate or you may
find a little bit of white flaky it looks white and flaky let's say in your
underwear for example right this is what it it dries out and it's a little bit of
white and flaky now there's two things that you would need to do here in terms
of spirituality and so the reason this is important is so that you can
pray and you can spiritually clean physically clean now the way it works is
that we do have evidence that because this is happening and if you're a young
man and this is happening a lot it becomes very difficult for you to have a
full bath all the time so what you can do is just you clean the area like you
normally would after you go to the bathroom with some water some tissue
however however you taught to clean ideally you you clean it with with some
some paper toilet paper and then a little bit of water to clean off and
rinse off any of the the residue and in case of if you get any the dry flaky
material on your underwear you can either wash it with water and or
you can just if it's dry you can just scratch it off and we have it we have
authentic hadith that tell us this and people might get a little upset well why
do we have hadith like this and something that's important about these
is that it's to show us that because there's such an emphasis placed on our
prayer that we that the Prophet SAW selim doesn't want to create this
environment where people are freaking out and all of my prayers are invalid
because I'm a teenager I'm going through this and I'm I'm constantly having this
issue I believe was le ebin abu talib one of the great caliphs of our our
ummah one of the greatest leaders of in the history of islam he approached the
Prophet with this he was a young man and he went through this and he had this
difficulty because and he said do I have to bathe all the time I'm constantly
this is happening to me all the time so he was having pre-ejaculate so he breaks
his with you and now he has a for us on the process no no no if this is
something that's happening that much you can just do what do clean the area and
do it because it's too difficult and too much hardship for you had to have to
have a complete bath every time so this is one of the beauties of this Islam
right so the Prophet teaches us as things not to be vulgar not to be
disgusting but to teach us that it's okay right if it's if you have a little
bit of the ejaculate and you're not able to have a full bath and you have to pray
just clean the best you can in the area and then you do with you and if you have
any of the white dried residue from it afterwards and you
you you can't you're not in a situation to wash your underwear you you can
scratch it off you can write we have Ayesha had taught this and also with the
water right we have a hadith in which the Prophet Aisha had said that she had
cleaned some semen off of his clothes right this is after something else we'll
get into that later but she said she washed it and the clothes were still wet
when he put them on and left and one of the amazing things that I find with this
hadith is this is to show us don't freak out it's okay if this happens it's very
simple to deal with you can scrape it off or you can just wash it right and it
doesn't have to be this big complex thing and people mistake this for
something lewd and vulgar but the reality is it's to teach us that exactly
to combat that type of attitude if you and from my perspective that's what I
believe that that's one of the great lessons from these hadith
it's to teach us it's okay don't freak out it's not what you think there's an
easy way around it this is how you do it because people will be like oh my god
I'll sip on Allah all of my prayers are invalid right so this is why this is
important now this video is a little longer than planned but one other thing
that we'll talk about very very quickly that falls into the same category to a
certain degree is what's called nocturnal emissions or what is known as
more casual slang as a wet dream and as you start going through puberty this is
again something that happens it can happen in adults right it just doesn't
happen as often so this is this is the the difficulty for the young brothers is
that you are less prepared for these things because you've never gone through
it you haven't experienced it but you get the bulk of these strange sudden
erections you get wet dreams a lot more often than an older male would and
that's just one of the challenges I guess all this abounds how I put out
there all right because if an older man was having wet dreams he understands
what they are he understands what the erections are Junior I'm saying so
unfortunately you guys have to go through this little challenge but but a
wet dream basically same place right same old the urethra at the head of your
penis the semen will come out and it's much
thicker and it's much heavier and it's much messier right it's like very very
thick cream I wouldn't say like yogurt because it's kind of lean so so this is
something that's interesting I mean you could go on a whole top with just this
but this is what it goes back to what I said before with it understanding how it
should be or the way it should look is actually very important for the health
of a young man because if you have an illness or some sort of infection a
stuff or a law if you know sexually transmitted disease for example you can
have you can notice some of the effects on your semen if you're dehydrated right
you notice when you go to the bathroom there's a different different color in
your urine it can be very clear it can be very dark these are signs of a number
of things one is lack of fluids so dehydration it could be lack of certain
vitamins and minerals and so on if you're over hydrated have too much water
in your body it can be very very clear because you're urinating too much and so
on but that doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong it's just that's
the way the body is at certain times things change and the semen is the same
so as I said you have the pre-ejaculate which is usually very clear looking and
then you have the thicker nocturnal emissions right this generally will
happen for whatever's going on you having a dream whatever most of the time
people don't remember it you just wake up and you notice that you have an
erection and that there's some fluid there some sticky fluid so all you have
to do from a religious standpoint don't freak out just go to the bathroom take
off your clothes have a bath if if you can you ideally you should you should
really try to I mean let's say you wake up and Salah is just gonna end for
example and this has happened right you do have options but but generally you
have to have a bath or a shower and in modern terms I don't think a lot of
people have baths nowadays but generally it's the same as the nocturnal emission
you clean the area and you wash any and either fluid off
the semen that has come out and you do wudu and then you pray and this is
what's important in this so so don't get caught up and get all worked up over
this this the fact that you had a wet dream right it's normal its natural it's
gonna shock you the first time it happens it might shock you the first few
times especially if you're not taught there so insha'Allah you'll you'll
understand that this is a you know and we can go into more details in this if
anybody has any questions and wants to talk about this privately we can talk
about it but but this is the again I'm gonna keep emphasizing this we're
talking about this from a casual standpoint these are normal natural
things my understanding is that even women have nocturnal emissions they have
fluid that comes out again this is important for for for mothers in
particular to to understand is surprising and I was shocked about this
how many women don't know about their own private parts their vagina and the
differences between the boys and the girls I mean I I've heard adults even
who believe and didn't know it until they were told this that they thought
that they urinated from the vagina itself and I should actually correct it
because the vagina unfortunately is is the the hole of a woman which is is
where the sexual act of intimacy happens right the whole area the the private
parts the genitals of a woman consists of another a number of parts and as we
already said in this video they have a clitoris which is similar to the penis
one of the big differences is the fact that instead of having a hole in the
clitoris it's below the clitoris and that's where they urinate that's where
they're yuri throw is that's whether you're in comes from and then below that
is the vagina itself and this is where sexual intimacy occurs between a husband
and a wife and where inshallah the baby will come out right so it's important to
understand these things but I am shocked at how many women don't even know this
about both them says because it's important because you get different you
know as I said you can have health issues and understanding this can go a
long way to help these things so inshallah this will be helpful hopefully
it was a little bit interesting in different
and we'll see how these goes I mean I don't know I haven't posted these yet so
we don't know how they're gonna be but if you want to continue the conversation
keep it below keep it you know avoid all the lewdness as I mentioned previously
inputs welcome but I will monitor I will delete anything that's inappropriate so
think about your words think about if you want to ask questions think about
them ask them in a professional way if you're not sure about it we can arrange
to to send me a private message through email or whatever and I can give you
some information on that and as I said it's not I'm not a doctor I'm not a
sexual therapist I'm just sharing the basics that all of us should know in
terms of how our bodies work in function and also to if you want to help support
us on patreon one dollar a month or whatever you can you know or more if you
can and this helps to continue with the quality to the production and and many
other things to continue to do these things and your support can be is really
really needed and you can find the patreon details in the video description
below assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahu but I
got to
Không có nhận xét nào:
Đăng nhận xét