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concealer please me and guess what you guys I can't

and then another huge I score you got a welcome back today we

have an amazing Dollar Tree haul featuring the items that we picked up

from our latest come with me to Dollar Tree trip if you guys want to check that

out it's in the description box as well as in the comments first up in the

bag I have some more Valentine's Day items and you guys on those are got

a for Christmas so I'm gonna deck it out with some super cute valentine's day finds

Dollar Tree of course I picked up some floral pieces some beautiful pink colors

like these right here I think these are tulips

oh no they're roses and I guess these are roses too with little sequin hearts

and then this right here I'm thinking the put a nice little flower pot or vase

actually so with these beautiful pink roses that I got from Dollar Tree I'm

gonna make a wreath using this it's just a foam heart and I was thinking about

doing this for the front door I also picked up some red roses Dollar Tree

I grabbed I think six of these I just love how they hang over and they

look just really magical don't they looks like some type of little or

something at this Dollar Tree I found some really nice kid toys like brand

name stuff little mystery packs so you guys know I was excited in there if you

haven't checked out that come with me in a Dollar Tree video you have to you're

missing out next up I have some super cute things for and this

right here I think it's gonna look a really cute hanging from the front off

the top part it just says welcome with little hearts this is one of the reasons

why I really love a Dollar Tree because you don't have to spend a lot of money

to do little projects like decorating a

for Valentine's they grab some kitchen towels for the kitchen because I

just wanted to do like a little small accents of Valentine's Day at this

Dollar Tree brand name and amazing selection of a which is a brand name hair

accessory company I'm sure they make other stuff as well but check out this

3 pack headband set or whatever you want to call it wanna tell you guys this is

like a score you guys know I love wearing some headbands

another brand name item is this clip so I guess you slide your hair

through this loop and then you sort of it in place with the comb

and then I also picked up this one right here is the exact same thing and just a

different color these little items are super nice to have on hand for yourself

or if you're like me you have like a little gift basket closet and I was

thinking about showing you guys how I organized all of the Dollar Tree items

that I keep because you all know that I donate a lot and I give a lot to watch

your friends and family and then another huge find at this Dollar Tree was the

sleek and I know I've seen this brand name of somewhere before

they had three different brushes so this one right here is the like the

style boar bristle boar bristle brush and it's an it's this firm but it does

have some softness to it so I picked this up for Papa Bear and then I'll show

you guys the other two when I stumbled upon them but the next one two three

four five six I think six eight six things it's something that I've never

seen it three before it's surprise they're

collectible mystery charm bags you guys you can collect lip gloss lip balm

shimmer charm surprises them or just reading off the pack I cannot wait to

open these up for you guys because I'm going to do another Dollar Tree toy

unboxing video moving away from the Dollar Tree toys really please how

amazing is this picture frame tell me this is not something you can find it

like Hobby Lobby or even Marshalls and these are absolutely gorgeous and

they have a little bit of weight to them but they're still light enough that you

can hang on a wall or something no we're not opening these right now we're gonna

do it later next moving back to some toys this is another huge score you guys

I found charm you yes you guys you can collect over

60 of these charms looked at the chance because you can see that you get three

here and then you get a mystery one in the backpack I know that I picked up all

different ones so I'm really excited to find out what the mystery one is going

to be and of course I'll feature this in my next Dollar Tree toy unboxing video

so make sure you subscribe if you're into this sort of thing or if you have

kids because I always give away stuff in those type of videos you were talking

you want to show them that one oh you can see that you can make cute little

bracelets like this and of these are good to keep if you're into this

sort of thing or to giveaway to bring family or complete and guess

what you guys I found more mini mixes at Dollar Tree found more to pack mini

mixes from Dollar Tree oh my goodness I'm so excited I picked up one two three

four five six it's hiding in here somewhere

I'm like super excited to open those for you guys anyway moving on to the next

big amazing score I have not seen these since we watch the Dollar Tree in San

Antonio Texas who remembers that video Beauty benefits makeup is back Dollar Tree and my Dollar Tree has a full display if you guys are new I'm doing a

Dollar Tree makeup challenge video for Valentine's Day so I'm gonna do a big

Dollar Tree makeup call for that so I'm just gonna quickly show you some of the

makeup from the Beauty benefits line I picked up a ton you guys usually

comments about why are you buying so much stuff and

just take a minute to realize that this is my youtube channel this is what I've

decided to do to help consumers see what's available at Dollar Tree another

discount so okay first thing up we have this eyeliner pencil right here which is

going to come in handy for maybe brows and

I have this eye shadow here and evening I like to stick with some

really nice neutral colors and then I have this lip gloss right here we have a

blush they has so many so many color options you guys you have to check out

that come with me videos I have another lip gloss right here I have this a

beautiful cosmetics brush pack and I really like the pattern on here found

some new socks and taller tree these are ankle socks and they remind me

of like the athletic socks by the way I'm still waiting on one of my

Dollar Tree toy unboxing haul video winners okay one of you all

we're still waiting on you okay so in this next bag we have this super few

little pouch which says treat yourself another vintage style hat this one is

made really well you guys made in you put them over your

alright like we have some more charm you collectibles I was just so excited I'm

these guys I have this cute a little ponytail holder for sorry thank you

I found this beauty a sponge from Dollar Tree and I probably will be using this

for the make up challenge either this or the wedges that they sell I found some

really cool stamps in there some wooden stamps and the section with the stickers

have some more of these a surprise mystery charm packs looks like I have

three of them and this a I have my favorite makeup wipes love these things

another score I can't even get it out look at this beautiful braided

headband you guys $1 these things are like five to seven dollars at Target CVS

Walgreens all that stuff but you guys in that come with me to Dollar Tree video

okay you can give how cute are these a little flowerpot accessories

does the other brush that I was telling you about and have one more hiding

somewhere another score the same sort of braided headband but this

one isn't a beautiful and a cream color looks like we have another

mystery pack as well as another charm you collectible I have some more

makeup from Beauty benefit and another cute another cute flowerpot a little

accessory this one is a turtle I found some new stickers and these stayed that

they can be used on your cell phone cases so I was really excited about that

some more makeup and guess what you guys I found a new makeup okay so all of this

is technically new but this one is really new this is a stick from

LA Colors in a I have never purchased this before and I

don't think I've seen this in any dollar trees before it and I also picked up

this other one in medium right here you okay no you're not okay yeah the makeup

oh if you've tried these la color contour sticks as concealer please

me let me know in the comments so you can help out other people and then I

found this I've never seen this before it's metal nail art super

cute right paint heads because you guys know she has a little

activity now that she got for Christmas and these fit perfectly

perfectly in and then she also has another one like

an art pad it's all the way over there but it's like construction paper this is

more like a slightly gloss paper speaking of crafty items you guys

another amazing score I found that Dollar Tree at this last Dollar Tree

trip all of this stuff is from that one Dollar Tree okay it's the big one and

Victorville California I found Apple Barrel paint this stuff is

like 179 when not on sale to $2 to 49 and Hobby Lobby and Michaels I picked up

all the colors that I thought I might need went back to some makeup this is

all so new to me we have some LA Colors conceal correct products over here they

had some other colors but I got there too late so anyway I picked up this

lavender colored one and each color is supposed to target a specific area so I

think green is to redness orange is for dark spots and yellow is for

brightening all their good stuff you have a bunny lip lacquer one of

you all sent Bonnie Bell smells for six dollars oh my goodness

here's the last brush right here then the last thing in the bag is another

ponytail holder this one is any beautiful gold and cream cut out these

beautiful wood wall decor pieces this is probably my favorite one you are

my sunshine it just reminds me of the beach and I just love the full I

don't know where this is going but it's going somewhere they had some other ones

at Dollar Tree and of course I shared that with you in the video so on

over to check it out but these are the two that I picked up thank you very much

alright last big bags have some more beautiful flowers we have some more

stickers the ones that you can use for yourself

I found this armband I'm not gonna use this an armband and I'll show you

guys what I use it for when I show you guys my fitness videos featuring lots of

dollars and stuff we have some more charm collectibles I cannot wait to open

these especially the charm use I grab this little sketch board

and I'm about to give it to her right now looks like I have a tool or

mini mixis packs and then I just have some of this floral wire and then I have

tons of Beauty benefits makeup in here oh that's where the lip pencil came from

feel like a burgundy and like a true red lip pencil and then this is lip gloss

mascara another eyeshadow palette another lip gloss a a bronzer

could be a blush for some people and I have this foundation of pressed powder

and oat and one more set in acrylic paint this one is just in have

another stamp a little cupcake ladybugs plant little accessory piece ladybugs

and this that I don't remember putting here in my car so anyway Papa

bear's coming home he's been gone for 24 hours so we're excited to have him back

and that's my Dollar Tree haul I hope you guys enjoyed give it a big thumbs up

don't forget to subscribe of course and check out my Dollar Tree hauls and come

with me to Dollar Tree videos I opened up you guys his friends and family mail

in my last video so you have to check that one as well

say bye bye we love you guys so much take care bye

hello can we get started with the dollar tree no

okay show it to him tell it what it is so I charm you collectibles help me put

everything back in the bag it's right here there you go

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Japanese CULTURE SHOCK!! What surprises foreigners who come to Japan?! - Duration: 10:08.

It's so noisy inside and everybody smokes and it's a very special atmosphere.

-Ah, Pachinko! -Maybe.

I think yeah, that was really surprising.

The French girl behind you is very happy.

Hey guys, it's Cathy Cat! And today we are going to ask the culture shook again!

We're gonna ask the culture shock question to foreigners

who've come to Japan to find out what really surprised them, when they touched down in this country.

So let's go and ask, foreigners in Japan!

What surprised you the most in Japan? What made you go like, what!?!

Like something that, "we don't have that in France".

Anything that gave you...

Mario Kart in the streets!

Mario Kart!

Mario Karts on the streets. Yeah, definitely!

Where did you see that?

We've seen that at Shibuya this morning.

And also Yoyogi Park.

Close to Yoyogi park, the first day.

And it was so so so crazy! We would like to try also, but we don't have our...

international licenses, drivers license.

So...

Maybe next time.

Can you explain it to people, what you actually mean with Mario Karts in the street?

It's just people of the Mario Kart game.

They are dressed up like, the same way the people are within the game.

And they're just drive the Karts in the city

and another thing which surprises is this game with all the small. How do you call?

Balls!

You know, the video games with the very small balls

and it's so noisy inside and everybody smokes and it's a very special atmosphere.

-Ah, Pachinko! -Maybe.

It's like a kind of gambling in Japan.

Exactly, yeah.

The mood in general.

The mood in general in Japan.

Everything seems really cool

and you have a great atmosphere everywhere and...

the crew, the people everywhere. And...

And the lights!

And, I don't know. It's a big...

Big atmosphere here, it's very crowded.

Yeah, the airport the train station.

So big, confusing!

It's not as big back home?

No. Our train system is nothing like this here.

What's different?

Just those busy and less trains, isn't it?

Less. Yes, it's only much smaller.

The lack of English.

I've traveled all around the world

and that's what I found a bit of a challenge

is the lack of English.

And of course I'm in Japan so, I get that.

But the lack of English

I've found really, surprising.

Given so many, like we know a lot of Australians that come here are English, and...

So I just, yeah... That sort of shocked me that the language barrier has been so difficult for us.

The food.

Yes, the food. It was like so different from what I thought.

I was like, oh sushi!

But I'm like, Takoyaki. And I'm like, oh wow there's like, cooler stuff

and more yummier stuff.

And loads of food here, right?

The variety.

What surprised you?

More definitely the rules and the manners and everything.

The tricks, that's definitely it.

What surprised you personally the most when you came to Japan?

The crazy light, the crazy fashion, the crazy toilets?

What surprised to you the most?

Yeah, exactly! Crazy toilets!

Yes, only the crazy toilets. Because actually, we travel a lot, so...

I would think what's it, what is in the word. But yeah, toilets were like a surprise for me.

What surprised you the most?

Technology, and a lot of buttons too!

Did you try some of them out? Pushed some of the buttons?

Yes, yes.

I was funny.

We where just shopping for assets, just put

and you can also control their speeds.

Yes.

Speed of the water.

Speed of the water, power of the water.

Anything else that surprised you in Japan?

Yes. It's certainly surprising that their rooms are too short.

-Too small, yeah. -So small, so small.

-But I love it. -You like it? -Yes.

It's very crowded.

Even if it was a Monday evening and a lots of people on the street walking, going to the restaurants.

So really...

It's alive, yeah. The city's alive.

So people live here like, from the morning till the night.

And, they're on the streets

and they're more outgoing, compared to Poland.

In Poland at 6pm, there's nobody on the street. So no people.

Here you can go at 1 a.m. and see crowds. Yeah, so it's very nice.

Mayonnaise.

Mayo. They put mayo in everything.

-Oh, mayonnaise? -Yeah!

-It's French, mayonnaise is good! -NOOO!

That people don't smell.

At the end of the day nobody smells bad.

Yes. So I really like Japan for the smell.

Because there is no bad smell.

Yes. Everyone smells good, or not doesn't smell at all.

Yeah. Because in the trains in France in Paris, it smells very bad.

Like piss.

Sorry! Rude words!

But, it's horrible!

It's I think is the fact that Japan really loves France.

Like, I wasn't I wasn't aware of that.

But like, there's always...

For example, in here. There's like five...

Salon Crêpe!

There's like, ten crepe stores

and there's like a French thing everywhere.

I think yeah, that was really surprising.

The French girl behind you is very happy.

Also learned that apparently like, France loves Japan. So it's like the perfect love.

Here in Tokyo, there are so many different like

departments or there's so many different districts.

I thought it was really

amazing how you just shift from this the city like structures or high-rise buildings

and then suddenly you have something like a garden, and then you have something like a shrine.

Yes!

And then you have little department stores of people that like

Have been here for at least. I don't know 50 years or something.

It's such a huge difference and such a big contrast.

I think it's very amazing.

The convenience.

Convenience.

I think yeah, maybe. I believe that they live in small houses

but everything is very convenient

and they make use of that space very well.

And maybe we are not used to that very much in China

because usually we have a larger space. Yeah.

So be convenient and space efficient?

Yes. Yes!

Okay, thank you so much. Those were all the questions!

Thank you!

So, culture shock!

A very very popular topic that we have here

and this time people we're not just only talking about the Japanese toilets.

Which always surprises people

also the crowds of people the large size of the train stations the amazing

punctuality of the trains and also being out and able to go out at night

Actually, Tokyo especially Tokyo and the bigger cities in Japan.

Oh my god! They never sleep!

The trains do actually stop quite early, which surprised me, in a certain way.

They're great, they're super on time. But they do stop quite early.

Around eleven, twelve is when you need to get your last trains.

But! Afterwards still, the city doesn't sleep. The convenience stores are open 24 hours.

Even at 3 O 'clock in the morning you can still go to nice ramen restaurant and have some really tasty ramen.

So seriously, the city never sleeps. Tokyo never sleeps.

I'm sure Osaka and all these cities. They don't sleep.

Obviously on the countryside, that's a different story.

Other things that people were surprised by is actually Pachinko. Which is a kind of

gambling thing, here in Japan.

It's not officially gambling because gambling is illegal.

But it's kind of laid away around.

Very very, very very rough environment wouldn't advise you to to just go there.

But if you wanted, like

if you curious about it, there are loads of game centers here in Japan

which are amazing, can if so much fun!

You can do everything from fighting games to taking pictures together to using crane games, love them!

Fantastic thing. I'm so glad they exist!

And Mario Kart. Yes, there's a big thing!

I think the company that actually does the Mario Kart thing is called Marie Karts

or very close.

But they didn't actually ask Nintendo for

like, you know, is it okay if we use your characters for this?

So there is, i think there's a bit of a lawsuit going on there

so hopefully when you come to Japan they still exist

otherwise not sure what's gonna happen with them.

But it's got actually kind of funny

because it's actually aimed at foreign tourists, who would like to do it.

Other culture shocks is some things that you take for granted in your country

might not exist here or might be very very expensive.

So for example, cottage cheese is one of the things that you can't find in every supermarket.

Free-range eggs is a thing you can't find in every super.

But so things, you'll think are just gonna be there

but they might not be there! So just be aware of that.

Especially when cooking is quite off hard, so we might have to chuck your cooking book away with the

ingredients that you know in your country and just get yourself another one here in Japan.

And

the Director just hid away behind the curtain, so yeah.

Oh! And people, what really surprised me

they're incredibly patient

and they're really really good for the rules and that's actually why the city works.

So stand in line when you line up for the train

do not cut in line, big thing!

Also. What surprised me the other day

I was at Disney, and people actually stood in line for 40 minutes

To get to the vending machines

because it was SO busy, there were so so many people

and that's the point when other people would have gone on the roof and gone like

how can we not like, get our space at the restaurant and at vending machines? (angry noise).

But...

No one did that. Everyone was like, okay. You know, we're our big crowd. It's very hot today.

Can't be helped, okay?

Let's all just stand in line and see that we got our drinks. Very interesting.

So very very mannered.

Thinking very much about the social balance and making sure that everyone is okay.

Yeah, so that's a couple of things!

So what culture shocks can you add to the list that is now in the box below?

Leave us comments, looking forward to reading your comments and more culture shocks.

Hey, what's that? It doesn't go with my outfit.

Oh...

Hey! I know you getting bored. I was talking too much, was I?

Okay, okay!

So! Wish you a lovely day. Catch you soon on Ask Japanese. Bye!

Stop it!

Bye!

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Five Sneaky Things Narcissists Do To Take Advantage Of You - Duration: 12:12.

5 Sneaky Things Narcissists Do To Take Advantage Of You

Narcissists often use sneaky things in order to manipulate and taking advantage of people

around them.

If it's happening to you, then better to prepare everything before it can consume you even

more.

In this video, I'm going to share with you 5 sneaky things narcissists do to take advantage

of you.

If you find this information is helpful to you,

make sure to like this video and subscribe to this channel, so you won't miss any of

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Posted by Shahida Arabi, the author of the book 'POWER: Surviving and Thriving After

Narcissistic Abuse', here are 5 sneaky things narcissists do to

take advantage of you:

Number 1.

The Idealization-Devaluation-Discard Phase

Narcissists and those with antisocial traits tend to subject romantic partners through

three phases within a relationship.

The idealization phase (which often happens most strongly during the early stages of dating

or a relationship) consists of putting you on a pedestal,

making you the center of his or her world, being in contact with you frequently, and

showering you with flattery and praise.

You are convinced that the narcissist can't live without you and that you've met your

soulmate.

Be wary of: constant texting, shallow flattery and wanting to be around you at all times.

This is a technique known as "love-bombing" and it is how most victims get sucked in:

they are flattered by the constant attention they get from the narcissist.

You may be fooled into thinking that this means a narcissist is truly interested in

you, when in fact, he or she is interested in making

you dependent on their constant praise and attention.

The devaluation phase is subsequent to this idealization phase, and this is when you're

left wondering why you were so abruptly thrust off the pedestal.

The narcissist will suddenly start to blow hot and cold, criticizing you, covertly and

overtly putting you down, comparing you to others, stonewalling you,

emotionally withdrawing from you and giving you the silent treatment when you've failed

to meet their extreme "standards."

Since the "hot" aspect of this phase relies on intermittent reinforcement in which the

narcissist gives you inconsistent spurts of the idealization phase throughout,

you become convinced that perhaps you are at fault and you can "control" the narcissist's

reactions.

You are mislead into thinking that if you just learn not to be so "needy" or "clingy,"

the narcissist will reward you with the loving behavior he or she demonstrated in the beginning.

These are words that narcissists often use to demean victims when abuse victims mourn

the loss of the idealization phase or react normally to being provoked.

It's a way to maintain control over your legitimate emotional reactions to their stonewalling,

emotional withdrawal and inconsistency.

Unfortunately, it is during the devaluation phase that a narcissist's true self shows

itself.

You have to understand that the man or woman in the beginning of the relationship never

truly existed.

The true colors are only now beginning to show,

so it will be a struggle as you attempt to reconcile the image that the narcissist presented

to you with his or her current behavior.

Even though the narcissist can be quite possessive and jealous over you, since he or she views

you as an object and a source of narcissistic supply,

the narcissist is prone to projecting this behavior onto you.

The narcissist makes you seem like the needy one as you react to his or her withdrawal

and withholding patterns, even though the expectations of frequent contact

were established early on in the relationship by the narcissist himself.

During the discard phase, the narcissist abandons his or her victim in the most horrific,

demeaning way possible to convince the victim that he or she is worthless.

This could range from: leaving the victim for another lover, humiliating the victim

in public, blatantly ignoring the partner for a long period of time,

being physically aggressive and a whole range of other demeaning behaviors to communicate

to the victim that he or she is no longer important.

Although, "normal" relationships can end in a similar this manner as well,

the difference is that the narcissist often makes it clear he or she intends to hurt you

by giving you the silent treatment, spreading rumors about you,

cheating on you, insulting you and disrespecting you during the discard phase.

Unlike "normal" partners, they ensure that you never have closure, and if you decide

to leave them, they might decide to stalk you to show that they still have control.

Number 2.

Gaslighting.

While healthy relationships have room for respectful disagreement and consideration

of one's feelings, with the narcissist, gaslighting and constant

emotional invalidation become the norm.

Gaslighting is a technique abusers use to convince you that your perception of the abuse

is inaccurate.

During the devaluation and discard phases, the narcissist will often invalidate and criticize

your emotions, and displace any blame of his or her abuse

as your fault.

Frequent use of phrases such as, "You provoked me," "You're too sensitive," "I

never said that," or, "You're taking things too seriously" after the narcissists'

abusive outbursts are common and are used to gaslight you into thinking that the abuse

is indeed your fault or that it never even took place.

Narcissists are masters of making you doubt yourself and the abuse.

This is why victims so often suffer even after the ending of a relationship with a narcissist,

because the emotional invalidation they received from the narcissist made them feel powerless

in their agency and perceptions.

This self-doubt enables them to stay within abusive relationships even when it's clear

that the relationship is a toxic one, because they are led to mistrust their own

instincts and interpretations of events.

Number 3.

Smear campaigns.

Narcissists keep harems because they love to have their egos stroked,

they need constant validation from the outside world to confirm their grandiose sense of

self-importance, and fulfill their need for excessive admiration.

This is why they are clever chameleons who are also people-pleasers,

morphing into whatever personality suits them in situations with different types of people

to get what they want.

Beware of people who seem to shape-shift suddenly before your eyes into different personas,

this is a red flag that they are not authentic in their interactions with you and others.

It is no surprise, then, that the narcissist will probably begin a smear campaign against

you not too long after the discard phase, in order to paint you as the unstable one,

and that this is usually successful with the narcissist's support network which also

tends to consist of other narcissists, people-pleasers, empaths, as well as people

who are easily charmed.

This smear campaign is used to accomplish three things:

1) it depicts you as the abuser or unstable person and deflects your accusations of abuse;

2) it provokes you into responding, thus proving your instability to others when trying to

argue his or her depiction of you; 3) serves as a hoovering technique in which

the narcissist seeks to pull you back into the trauma of the relationship as you struggle

to reconcile the rumors about you with who you actually are by speaking out against the

accusations.

The only way to not get pulled into this tactic is by going full No Contact with both the

narcissist and his or her harem.

Number 4.

Triangulation.

Healthy relationships thrive on security; unhealthy ones are filled with provocation,

uncertainty and infidelity.

Narcissists like to manufacture love triangles and bring in the opinions of others to validate

their point of view.

They do this to an excessive extent in order to play puppeteer to your emotions.

In the book Psychopath Free by Peace, the method of triangulation is discussed as a

popular way the narcissist maintains control over your emotions.

Triangulation consists of bringing the presence of another person into the dynamic of the

relationship, whether it be an ex-lover, a current mistress,

a relative, or a complete stranger.

This triangulation can take place over social media, in person, or even through the narcissist's

own verbal accounts of the other woman or man.

The narcissist relies on jealousy as a powerful emotion that can cause you to compete for

his or her affections, so, provocative statements like, "I wish

you'd be more like her," or, "He wants me back into his life, I don't know what

to do", are designed to trigger the abuse victim into competing and feeling insecure

about his or her position in the narcissist's life.

Unlike healthy relationships where jealousy is communicated and dealt with in a productive

manner, the narcissist will belittle your feelings

and continue inappropriate flirtations and affairs without a second thought.

Triangulation is the way the narcissist maintains control and keeps you in check,

you're so busy competing for his or her attention that you're less likely to be

focusing on the red flags within the relationship, or looking for ways to get out of the relationship.

Number 5.

The false self and the true self.

The narcissist hides behind the armor of a "false self,"

a construct of qualities and traits that he or she usually presents to the outside world

to gain admiration and attention.

Due to this armor, you are unlikely to comprehend the full extent of a narcissist's inhumanity

and lack of empathy until you are in the discard phase.

This can make it difficult to pinpoint who the narcissistic abuser truly is, the sweet,

charming and seemingly remorseful person that appears shortly after the abuse,

or the abusive partner who ridicules, invalidates and belittles you on a daily basis?

You suffer a great deal of cognitive dissonance trying to reconcile the illusion the narcissist

first presented to you with the tormenting behaviors he or she subjects you to.

In order to cope with this cognitive dissonance, you might blame yourself for his or her abusive

behavior and attempt to "improve" yourself when you have done nothing wrong,

just to uphold your belief in the narcissist's false self during the devaluation phase.

During the discard phase, the narcissist reveals the true self and you get a glimpse of the

abuser that was lurking within all along.

You bear witness to his or her cold, callous indifference as you are discarded.

This is as close you will ever get to seeing the narcissist's true self.

The manipulative, conniving charm that existed in the beginning is no more, instead, it is

replaced by the genuine contempt that the narcissist felt for you all along.

See, narcissists don't truly feel empathy for others, so during the discard phase,

they often feel absolutely nothing for you except the excitement of having exhausted

another source of supply.

You were just another source of narcissistic supply, so do not fool yourself into thinking

that the magical connection that existed in the beginning was in any way real.

It was an illusion, much like the identity of the narcissist was an illusion.

It is time to pick up the pieces, go No Contact, heal, and move forward.

You were not only a victim of narcissistic abuse, but a survivor.

Owning this dual status as both victim and survivor permits you to own your agency after

the abuse and to live the life you were meant to lead,

one filled with self-care, self-love, respect, and compassion.

Well, that's the sneaky things narcissists do to take advantage of you.

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