do you see life in black or white what
do you do when you run into a problem or
what do you do when you achieve in this
video I am going to tell you how you
have to transform your mindset in order
to shift it towards becoming realistic
about your performance I just made the
greatest business deal of my life things
could not be better for me I just failed
at the biggest sporting event that I
thought I would ever play and now I
think I'm a complete failure
I had to write an exam recently and I
failed it and I don't see myself ever
becoming anything in my life
hey self helper today I want to tell you
about this very important cognitive
distortion which is basically a
distortion in how we think we think that
things have to be either completely
black or completely white that there is
no in-between in our life look at what
this does to our thought process when we
see things as the extreme only then
there is no scope for growth there is no
scope for improvement what does that do
to your performance it doesn't push you
forward towards what you want and in
fact you get more stagnant you tend to
drag yourself down into a corner of this
extreme form of thinking when you look
at your performance and you think that
you are all bad that things are going
nowhere for you things are no good what
does that do what does that do whenever
you need the perform can you get out of
rock bottom that's a question you need
to ask yourself how do I push myself out
of this thought process I try to find
things that are relevant to it creating
a problem in my life and then
see what needs to change what needs to
change regarding this I am thinking in
an extreme format that without me
performing extremely well there is
either only this and that's the other
problem that if I perform really well
that only that accounts for anything and
if I perform badly again I go back to
hitting rock bottom it's as if one bad
performance or one extremely good
performance suddenly defines who you are
if you look at any successful person at
any single phase in their life in any
single area that you want to describe
it's all about consistency how do you
find that degree of consistency in your
life you get out of this sort of
thinking this all-or-nothing cognitive
distortion because it's going to push
you into different corners that you will
struggle to get out of no sportsmen look
at all of the successful sportsmen out
there Roger Federer Nadal tony peratt
Kohli
chareth Kemal look at all of these
people all of them have done something
that endured another all of these people
have gone through both phases they have
seen extremely good performances and
they have also seen bad performances but
they know that winning and losing is a
part of the game but they don't let
either one of them hold them you know in
each place they know that these two
things happen simultaneously and that
it's going to be a process to get
towards what they want it's not going to
be a systematic growth think about that
any of these people have seen ridiculous
amount of failures in their life they
have seen in many ways more failures
that you and I would ever see but they
never give up they don't
see themselves stopping in terms of
getting to what they want because they
don't look at the extremes if they have
a loss they tend to let it go as soon as
possible and then they adapt to what
they have to do next if they perform
really well they don't hold on to that
as well they celebrate for up to one or
two days and then they get back to what
they have to do training towards getting
past the next challenge that may come
their way this is what you need to think
about are you holding on to the
extremely powerful parts of your life
are you holding on to the extremely
negative parts of your life that's very
important to consider comment below and
tell me what you are getting stuck with
because if you are stuck with either
always winning or always losing remember
that there is going to be a huge
hindrance in terms of your growth you
will not grow towards what you want if
you are stuck in either place because
there is no growth for creativity there
is no growth for going towards your
vision there has to be some sort of a
setback or there has to be some sort of
a progress but preferably there needs to
be more progress via understanding that
your failures and your successes go
hand-in-hand and this is an important
one so think about that and understand
that you are always going to have to run
into both of these problems and that
extremes are not going to get you
anywhere though extreme training is
required extreme education is required
extreme understanding that this is going
to happen that you're not going to run
into one or two roadblocks or you're not
going to have one or two successes that
it has to be a multitude of all of them
and there are going to be good and bad
days and don't let any of these stop you
have a clear mind as to what you want
and move past all of these things
celebrate the good things that happen to
you understand and learn from the
failures that happen to you and don't
get caught into the all-or-nothing
phenomenon I hope you found this video
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yourself by having you motivated
empowered and having you perform better
in every single area of your life
performance plays a very big role in
your life be it business life
performance financial performance school
performance or anything else we need to
use this information in our life so that
we can use our mind and get to what we
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