Ciao y'all! NaturallyKenya here and welcome back to my channel. If you
haven't already make sure to subscribe. If you're new here I wanted to give you
a little background on myself. Hi. My name is Kenya. I am from Texas and I'm
currently in Rome, Italy to study for my master's degree. I've been here for a
while now and I feel like I can contribute to a positive discussion of
this TV show and give you a lot of the realities of living in Rome and what
it's actually like, instead of just visiting for, you know, a few weeks or so.
So, today my focus is on responding to this new TV show on the Bravo Network
called, "To Rome for Love". So, five black women come to Italy, or
specifically Rome, to search for love here. It is mentioned on the TV show
that men here just adore and love and respect and basically worship us --
black women -- and I'm not saying that that's not true, but there are also other
realities of living in Rome that you just don't see. If I could be completely
honest, I could say that some of the problems that are in the dating world in
the US are also here. You won't find one hundred and twenty percent of people
worshipping black women. That's not really the reality of being here, you
know. I definitely would say that maybe on a verbal level Italian men are
definitely more verbal when they're interested. I just think they're more
straightforward and direct whenever it comes to communicating with someone you
actually like. Whereas in the U.S. I feel like it has to be like this hidden
secret of thing sometimes. Instead of just being straightforward about, you
know, liking somebody you have to be like, "oh, I don't know I don't know maybe I'll
send a message" You know, it will never be face-to-face and I guess it's like
less technology and more personal here. But that doesn't necessarily mean that
they want to marry you and put a ring on your finger
and take you home to their family. That's not true.
Also, you can't really say that you know racism doesn't exist here it actually
exists here and it's very relevant. If I want to be completely honest, there have
been at least three or four situations in the past year where I have been
called an N-word and that only happened to me once a year when I was in Texas
not saying that that's an improvement but I'm just saying that it still is a
relevant thing that happens. Just because you go to Italy doesn't mean that you're
escaping all of the realities of racism. It's not true. Maybe I'm a bit
pessimistic, but I can't say that an Italian guy loves and adores black women.
I think they love every woman, like to be honest if I mean completely honest, I
think they love every woman that has confidence, that has you know this
presence. I do understand that being in Rome you can be like the one person
that's different or diverse from the crowd so you definitely stand out, but I
definitely wouldn't say that if you move to Italy you're gonna find this amazing,
perfect guy for you that you didn't find in the US just because you're in Italy.
If that makes sense... I don't believe that Italian men
just love black women. I believe they love all women. I don't think that is
just about black women. I think it just has to do with confidence, and the way you
carry yourself, if you're of any race, so if you're thinking that you could just
move to Rome and all of this will happen for you like I cannot say that that's
true. But also I don't believe that coming to Italy will just solve all of
your problems. You know, I think that each one of us, maybe we've been hurt in the
past, maybe someone has lied or done something that
has hurt us, in the past, you're still bringing that with you. We all have our
own baggage and emotional things that go on in our life that have impacted us in
our relationships. So maybe, temporarily, if you come here you could think that
you're escaping your whole past. You know, people travel when they go through
emotional relationships and things like that,
but it is not a way to, you know, cure everything it's not going to fix your
underlying problem and getting in a new relationship will not help that.
Personally, I feel like it amplifies the problem that you have. I just don't want
this shown to exaggerate the truth of what it's really like. I just don't feel
like you need to move to different countries to feel you know appreciated.
Also, I never really want this idea out in the universe that we have to be this
desperate person because we can't find someone at home. There are
plenty of amazing, intelligent people that will give you the time of day. Only
the people that I found are closed-minded culturally, maybe have not
been abroad or explored, these are the people that tend to be very
small minded and don't think of you as a real human being with emotions and
accomplishments and credentials. You're just "that black person over there." You
have to realize that going to any country they're still going to be
ignorant leaving America does not stop that ignorance. There is still ignorance
over here about what it is to be a black person. Also, I never feel like you should
put your beauty or how you feel about yourself in the hands of other people.
You should be the person waking up in the morning saying, "oh, I feel confident
today!" and I know that it's something that everyone struggles with, but I feel
like you shouldn't need the approval of a man to tell you you're pretty or to
want you. You should want yourself. You should be the best person for yourself.
It's like you need it so much that you have to move countries to get
the approval of someone else, and I don't necessarily know that I
agree with that. My choice to move to Italy
had nothing to do with if the men were gonna fall in love with me.
Nothing to do with that. I wanted two things in life. Number one - when I was
younger, I actually studied Italian from books just because I thought it was a
beautiful language. Number two, I graduated from university and wanted a
master's degree, because I saw a lot of my bosses actually have master's degrees
in what I wanted to do in engineering. So what do you do with the dream from
childhood and a master's degree? You combine it and you do a master's degree
in Italy, so that's why I'm here. It wasn't for my personal life or
for people to think I'm beautiful. It was because it's something I wanted to do
because it was a goal in my life educationally. I guess I just gonna be
straight-up honest and say that it's not because you're black that they like you.
They like everyone. Everyone. They consider a pretty or cute or beautiful
or confident. They love everyone, which is a good and a bad thing, okay.
It's true. It doesn't really matter where you're from, what color you are, they just
love everybody guys. Everyone. So, guys, that is all I have for this video I just
wanted to make it very brief and concise. Maybe I'll make an update video
as I watch more of the episodes in the future, but that was just my personal
opinion is that coming to Italy will not solve your problems at all. So, I hope
this video wasn't too controversial. I just wanted to get my opinion out there in
the universe, because I feel like it's important to hear from somebody that's
actually lived here. If you haven't already, make sure to subscribe to my
channel, like this video if you liked my opinion or you want to give your own
leave it below. I would love to hear feedback from you guys. If you haven't
already, make sure to check out my other videos. I'll leave them linked after this.
I will see you guys in the next video. Ciao y'all!
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