Waching daily Oct 3 2018

So in one of my last episodes

I said that your spouse is not your be all or your end or and they are not

everything and even though that's true it's important to remember that our

spouses still do have a lot of influence over how we feel you know

they can hurt us so they can heal us and so in today's episode what we'll do is look at the

and these are the intangible reasons they're not necessarily things that you can put your

finger on and so they are much harder to identify but they are real you know they

really leave us feeling less than and bad about ourselves and we don't even

know why. So these reasons are by Esther Perel, the relationship expert and what we will do

is just take him one at a time they're not necessarily in order.

and you know basically they don't matter that much to you and that's very dangerous

especially in today's society because we are more lonely and so you know in a

world of 7 1/2 million people we want to know that we are at least special to

someone and it's usually our spouses that we expect to provide us you know

with the feeling of specialness and so if you have a partner that doesn't make

you feel special it really starts to eat away at your self-esteem.

You know we take better care of

our businesses, our houses, our jobs or our cars than we do our partners, usually

you know we give our best selves to everyone else and you give our leftovers

to our partners so the relationship expert Esther Perel says that you know

your relationship is not like a cactus it's not something that's just gonna

survive or grow on its own with very little care.

You know so it could be something like a

dismissive look where you just like 'urgh whatever' oh you know or something like

that and therapists believes that contempt of all for them is the most

dangerous because it diminishes their self-worth.

And this type of violence is often excused as being

acceptable because we don't really want to make a big deal out of small things

and we're not really sure if it's okay to be treated in that way and we're sort of

ambivalent about it you know for a lot of people domestic violence is a clear

cut line that it's wrong but when it comes to an emotional violence it can be

dismissed as oh you're just being too sensitive and actually if somebody keeps

hurting your feelings and telling you that you're too sensitive that could be

a sign that something's not right. You know words are living things they can be

or they can heal and so we have a responsibility over our tongues and the

words that come out of our mouths and so if somebody keeps saying that 'oh you're

just too sensitive' what they're doing is placing the

responsibility on you instead of holding themselves accountable to be

more careful or to be more cautious so that's it so those were the top four

common reasons why relationships break down you know I know there's a lot of

memes out there and quotes that say nobody has influence over how we

feel and nobody can make us feel bad without our consent but when it comes to

our relationships our partners really to have a lot of power over how we feel

about ourselves and so you know if we want to live more wholehearted lives and

live more fulfilled healthier lives that we definitely need at least one safe

place in this world and that should be at home with our loved ones with the

people that were closest to.

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How to Take Action in Life | Self-Help Yourself - Duration: 10:30.

you have everything that you could possibly want for yourself in front of

you everything is well laid out you have the information you have the resources

you had the expertise yet you do not see results today I'm going to show you

exactly how to shift out of this to experience frequent success in any area

of your life by transforming and using what you have to actually achieve what

you want for yourself his help helper you have everything laid out in front of

you you have exactly what you need however

you never see the results that you want for yourself

today I want to break this down for you and make you understand that with all

the information that you have available to you what kind of steps are you taking

in order to actually achieve consistent results that you want to see for

yourself what are you doing with the information that you have at your

disposal I want you to think about that because there are two types of people

that we meet in our lives there are the people who know it and there are the

people who use it just to kind of people you can actually be a professor be

really knowledgeable be really academically oriented know everything

there is to know in the textbooks you may be really well acquainted with

research however if you aren't a good teacher and you aren't able to convey

that knowledge to other people that is where a problem lies because it's not

about having the knowledge it's about using it it's about conveying that

knowledge to other people that is what is essential I want you to think about

this a little differently and apply to different areas of your life actually

critically analyze who are the people who actually actually experience some

kind of real success in their lives these are the people who have the

information they have you know how they have everything they could possibly need

all of the resources however although a good percentage of them

experience success none of them are able to take it to a level where it is so

good that it would make everyone else around them jealous everyone else around

them now there are some people here lack the knowledge lack the resources lack

the expertise they somehow reach a level so high that they are making everyone

around them jealous the people who know everything the people who have have very

little they start to wonder how did this person do it how did this person go from

point A to point B to say man I had everything in my hand I had nothing in

my head but this guy's somehow managed to do it what separated this person who

became successful and the other people who didn't for one this person had the

opportunities had the resources had the skills had the expertise had the

knowledge base but still didn't push to what he or she wanted for himself or

herself these people lacked the resources lack the know-how lack the

people around and lacked the support however these people were so hungry for

it that they pushed and they didn't care about any of these other things that

they lacked and then out of all of those people one person managed to actually

get to the top and make this entire group of people jealous there were a lot

of people would read well here there were a few people who did well here but

just a handful one or two people actually got to a point so good that

they made everyone so jealous this is what I am trying to put into

your mind is that you have all the resources you have all the know-how you

have everything that you could possibly need around you today are you making

100% use of it because information is available information is good for

example I'm making these videos for you there is so much of content here that

can make you confident make you very successful make you who really wealthy

make you really feel good about yourself feel satisfied in almost all areas of

your life all of that information is there on this channel already and even

though I am putting our daily videos for you there is still a lack of action how

much action are we taking towards what we want because we have everything at

our disposal but information without action it means nothing knowledge isn't

power applied knowledge is power because when you use everything that you could

possibly have around you every single resource there is nothing stopping you

from getting to what you want for yourself

motivation is good I am motivated when I have all of these things around me but

this one person here who doesn't have the resources the knowledge the know-how

the information that they would possibly need to get up there they get one

opportunity and they are so desperate that they push so hard at this one

chance that they have got systemically takes them to the top just like that

bank to the top that's the kind of inner drive you need that's the kind of hunger

you need to have if you want to experience significant success in your

life and it's not just success it's about a sense of accomplishment that hey

I managed to do it with very little and there will be instances that you can

look back upon in your own life where you didn't have all the resources you

didn't have everything that you need it yet you managed to do it somehow and

then there were other instances where you had everything everything was

working for you everything was set right the stars were in alignment there's a

blue moon outside and you didn't do it you didn't accomplish it you weren't

well prepared a multitude of reasons and excuses that you can give to yourself

why you weren't desperate enough as this

person to actually go about pushing so hard that actually got them to where

they are now that's the difference motivation is good

but desperation is better information is good but action is better so that's what

you need to think about what area in your life currently demands this kind of

attention what area in your life demands that much action it's for you to decide

and to realize that it has to be consistent consistent action is the only

thing that is going to allow you to get to where you want consistently building

that mindset that hey I know my chance will come and when it comes I am going

to take it with both hands open hands and grab it and not let go of

it for someone else to come in and take it because there is so much competition

today that there are people hungrier than you out there who are going to grab

it and say hey this person clearly didn't want it I'm going to take it from

you hey I don't think you're good enough to handle this this seems like a lot of

pressure for you do you really want to do all of this oh yeah I think you're

right this probably seems too overwhelming for me here but did you

take this chance away from me if this is your attitude if you feel that Hale

other people are better off doing this I am satisfied with where I am stop

watching the video because it's not going to take you anywhere that attitude

is the minimalist attitude that creates problems in the first place that is a

road that leads downhill you need to have a growth mindset you need to have a

success mindset for yourself to tell yourself hey I am so focused so strong

mentally that I will perform like a champion to get to what I want because I

am so hungry for it so hungry for it that all of these people their hunger

doesn't even come close to mine and that is your motivation that is what drives

you towards what you want I want you to think about that

sit down and think about how much action you need to

take starting right now you need to set goals I have a playlist on goals hit the

I button you need to actually build your focus I have a playlist on focus you

need to build your confidence I have a playlist on confidence you need to do

anything in order to shift your mindset and actually go about transforming it to

get to what you want for yourself this is the channel for you so keeping that

in mind hit the subscribe button down on well notifications if you found this

video useful hit the thumbs up button comment down below and tell me what area

of your life demands this kind of attention what kind of action are you

going to take I want to know comment down below and leave a question telling

me exactly what you want to see in future videos I will bring it out for

you if the question is good enough remember that if you are going to

perform better become empowered and motivated you need the information but

use the information that I am giving out to you on a daily basis through these

videos and put it into action that's the moral value that I want you to take away

from this video take some kind of significant action in your life right

now and that will transform how you see yourself and ultimately put all of this

information all of this knowledge into daily use to see consistent results

that's my message for you this is Vikram signing off asking you once again check

out all the videos down there because they are all there for you to become

the-best-version-of-yourself and perform like a champion and I'll see you in the

next session