a changer state at any moment in time as
quickly as you can think it is to
control and direct the focus of your
mind what do I mean by that well think
about this the only experience that you
have of life comes in two forms what
you're physically feeling because of the
condition and use of your body at that
moment in other words if you've got
physical pain that's obviously gonna
affect your state there's some kind of
tension for example or if you haven't
had any sleep that's certainly gonna
affect your state as well or if you've
eaten something that's blown your blood
sugar sky-high then obviously that's
gonna affect your emotional states as
well the only other thing that really
controls your state is what are you
paying attention to right now at this
moment I mean let's take an example have
you ever had a headache maybe even a
massive headache that you thought
there's no way you would ever go away
you are really deep pain now what do you
do well most people go get an aspirin
what if instead have you ever had it
happen where somebody asked you a
question or something needed to be done
or something acquired your total focus
somewhere else outside of yourself and a
lamo immediately the pain disappeared in
fact you forgot about it and later on
when you thought about it you notice
your headache was gone haven't had that
happen at least once or twice in your
life now how did you do that see my
whole life has been studying what makes
people successful if someone's able to
do something if they're able to get
rapport with somebody else if they're
able to create the results they want
physically in their life that is lose
weight feel energized if they're able to
create the relationships that they
really desire if they're able to feel as
good as they ever wanted to feel I want
to know how do they do that and so I
began to study how could somebody get
rid of a dick that quickly so we
wouldn't be dependent on some drug like
aspirin or Tylenol or anything else and
I began to realize that what it was is
we changed our mental focus and that
whatever we're experiencing in our body
really comes from what we're paying
attention to that's what really
determines how you feel and of course
how you feel determines usually how
you're gonna behave doesn't that make
sense when you're feeling really lousy
you don't usually do really well and I
know they're exceptions but those
exceptions are because you control your
focus you don't focus on feeling lousy
you focus on what's got to be done there
was tremendous power and controlling the
focus of your mind now what do I mean by
this specifically well there are two
things we can control in terms of focus
we can control what we're focusing on
that is what we're picturing in our mind
what we're saying to ourselves what
we're paying attention to in our
physical body or we can control how
we're focusing how we're focusing means
let's say the dimension of the pictures
in our mind the brightness of the colors
in our head the volume of our sounds if
we change how we're paying attention to
things not just what it radically
changes our state as well let me give an
example pretend for a moment that your
brain is a camera and you go to a party
how are you gonna feel at that party
well the only thing you're gonna have
feelings about other things you focus on
I mean in that room literally they're
almost unlimited number of activities
and probably emotions and conversations
and things that are going on but your
experience of that party is based on
what that camera focuses on now if it
focuses on two people that are fighting
and that's what it focuses on for the
entire party you would leave that party
saying oh that party was really intense
I mean people are really upset with each
other if your focus was on two people
and love or maybe guessing passionately
and say wow that party was really moving
I mean those people are really connected
if your focus was on some people that
were really boring or bored it's out
nobody really enjoyed that party here's
the problem the problem is your camera
that is the focus that you have does not
usually take in everything
simultaneously your conscious mind can't
there's only so many things you can
consciously focus on I mean think about
how many things right now you are not
paying attention to that are happening
at this moment there's the blood
pulsating through your right ear you may
not even pay attention to it I mention
it now you might focus on it there's the
beat of your heart
were you even noticing that until I
mentioned it there's the feel of maybe
some air coming from an air conditioning
maybe if you're nearby or there's the
heat on your skin or there's the
blinking of your eyes
there are a limited number of things
that are happening right now but see
here's the thing about human beings
since we can't focus on everything and
consciously perceive it all what most of
us do is we become what I call deletion
creatures what do I mean I mean that
most of the time most of us delete that
as we fail to pay attention to or we
ignore
most of what's going on around us at any
moment in time so what's the price of
all this deletion well the price is we
walk around believing or hallucinating
might be a better word that our
experience of the world is real now
would you think that if you were looking
through a camera that was focused on one
little portion of the party that that
was truly the party it wouldn't be very
intelligent with it in fact you know
what else is a problem that camera may
even create close-ups where it makes
things bigger than they actually are
where they look bigger and brighter or
worse than they were is that possible -
do you think your brain does that as
well you better believe it does so the
key is if you want your life to be a
party that you're happy with and not a
party that you're upset with you got to
realize that at any moment in time
there's enough going on in the party of
your life that you could find something
to be upset about all you've got to do
is focus on it all you got to do is look
around that party find out areas that
don't match your expectations make them
big and bright and close and you'll be
upset and you know what most people are
good at this they've done it over and
over and over again the other thing
that's equally true is that virtually
any party at any moment in time there's
somebody having a good time and if you
were to focus on some area of your life
at that moment of time you can make
yourself feel absolutely great or you
could take some little thing something
that's just kind of nice but make it
bigger and brighter and immediately you
can feel better about it as well so
here's my point my point is if you want
to look at the quality of life and know
what it is it's the quality of the
states that you live in day to day I
mean isn't it really true isn't it how
you feel day to day that determines how
you treat yourself how you treat other
people and how great you feel or how
poor you feel about your life what
determines it one how you use your body
so you want to develop some new habits
and to what and how you focus on things
now that's the only way we can explain
how people have come from unbelievably
painful experiences and turn them around
W Mitchell secret is he has controlled
his physical body specifically the way
he uses his face this man has learned
with what's left of his body to smile
and move his face in ways that makes him
feel incredible and the second thing is
he focuses continuously on what he wants
what he's got what he
grateful for and as a result he feels
incredible now nobody would blame him
for looking around and seeing he has no
legs and he has no fingers he's got the
toes there instead and he's in a
situation where he's in physical pain a
lot of the time nobody would blame him
for feeling sorry for himself but see he
doesn't focus on that he loves life
because he focuses on the part of the
party that's the best part for him don't
you deserve to give yourself the same
gift now take a look at John Belushi
example we used earlier also how could a
guy like Belushi or Presley or take
somebody like Elizabeth Taylor here's a
lady that would have everything going
for her by most people's standards she's
an incredibly intelligent woman she's
absolutely beautiful she's a great
actress she has thousands and thousands
probably millions of fans to be more
accurate who absolutely love her she has
as much money as most people could ever
imagine needing or wanting she has a
lifestyle that's absolutely phenomenal
she has family and friends that care
about her would do anything for her and
yet what happens with this lady she has
not learned to manage her state and she
pays the price as great as she is great
on the stage but in a personal life over
and over again she has to turn to food
or to drugs to try and take care of the
challenges within herself see how could
someone have it all and still be unhappy
because no matter how good it is
you can always focus on something that
isn't perfect or doesn't match your
expectations and that is called ultimate
failure in life you want to know what I
believe success is success is creating
consistent pleasure in your life and
causing yourself to grow failure is
being able to find pain no matter how
good it is
that's failure the bottom line is you
have that power and you can change it
right now by understanding that you make
decisions about what to focus on now it
may be true that you've got some bad
habits it may be true that right now you
look at what's worse or you look at
what's wrong or you see what's not
working your life and it's habitual so
you don't think about it consciously but
you still make the decisions you can
turn off the automatic pilot and take
control and when you do you can
instantly change the quality of your
life the lady I married my wife Becky
one things I love about her
more than anything in the world the
reason I married her probably more than
anything else is this woman is so
incredible at her ability at any moment
in time to focus on what is great in a
situation what is beautiful the most
little things she and I share that power
where we can be in the middle of
anything the middle of turmoil and
upsets and frustrations and in a
heartbeat we can stop and we say hey
look
notice that flower notice that sunset or
look in each other's eyes and say how
did I get so lucky to get you we have
that ability and we share we reinforce
it in each other and it gives power to
our relationship and to our lives you
have that control all you have to do is
exercise it so what I want to do is be
more specific with you now and how to do
it now first of all let me demonstrate
this is really true to you I mean you
may say well yeah this makes sense well
let's take a quick example now this may
be an unfair situation if you're in a
place that you're familiar with but
let's try this right now and if you're
in a place you're familiar with you
might want to try it later on in the day
when you're not familiar with something
but let's take an example here what I
want you to do right now is I'd like you
if you would let's test the power of
something I want you to look around your
room the room you're in right now or if
you're in your car you can look out the
windows also but I want you to notice
everything you can see everything you
can see and I'm gonna give you a few
seconds that is brown quick look around
the room everything you can see that's
brown look around your car look outside
everything you see is brown quickly
everything make sure you don't miss
anything everything see it's brown quick
quick quick
okay stop close your eyes with your eyes
closed now close your eyes if you're
driving this is difficult so you might
want to try this later as an exercise
but I would like you to do is close your
eyes and what I want you to do with your
eyes closed now is tell me or you know
since I'm not there literally although I
maybe you never know but just for now
out loud say everything that's in this
room that is green
oh maybe I hooked you a little bit huh
Uemura waiting for Brown tell me out
loud come on everything that's green try
this everything in that room that's blue
everything in the room that is white and
everything in the room that's red and
now open your eyes and look around the
room and notice everything you can see
in this room that's green come on take a
good look now some of you may say well
there's nothing this room is green look
behind you there there's something green
behind you that's right
what's blue in this room now do you see
a lot more green do you see a lot more
blue now than you did the first time
unless you're in a room you already are
super familiar with that is you've
already got a picture in your head and
you know it like maybe it's your bedroom
you know everything even then you may
not have noticed everything but if
you're in a strange room or in a place
you're not used to what I find is 99% of
time people see a lot more blue and
green when I asked them about that
specifically later on in other words
when I asked you to focus on brown bats
what comes up
you notice mostly brown you tend to
delete a lot of the other details isn't
that true now how does that relate to
life see a lot of people in life stare
at and focus on the brown in life the
shall we say feces of life and other
people they look for the green they look
for it's growing they look for it's
alive that's what you need to do see in
life we get whatever we focus on
whatever you pay attention to that's
what you experience in your body
instantly so how do we control our focus
well that's a good question
for years I've been looking at it you
know I read all the books on positive
thinking where they said hey you want to
do good you've got to feel good that
makes sense and if you want the feel
good you've got the dark yourself good
and picture good well the challenge with
that a challenge with positive thinking
is what we've already talked about
problem with positive thinking is you
got to think about it and it's a little
bit difficult we got to get ourselves
conditioned to think more positive plus
I kept asking the question how do you
think positive
it's a B+ how well I said you know make
good pictures why how do you get
yourself to do that and so what I've
analyzed for years is what determines
since there are zillions of things you
and I could pay attention to at any
moment what determines what we focus on
well some of what we focus on or most of
it is based upon our beliefs of what's
important and our values and we're gonna
talk about that in the next tape but for
right now the thing that at this
specific moment determines what you
focus on is how you're evaluating things
now that sounds like a big chunk but
what do I mean by that well the way we
evaluate these the term is how we feel
but what is an evaluation evaluations
are nothing but questions the way I
found the saddest one day I was
realizing well you know W Mitchell's
pretty happy because he's evaluated his
life in a way that makes him happy John
Belushi's not here because of the way he
evaluated things he made himself
actually feel bad and he had plenty
could have felt good on if he just
focused on that part of his life's party
if you will so I thought how do I
explain what an evaluation is and then I
noticed that I had asked a question to
try to evaluate how to explain
evaluations and I thought well is it
possible that evaluations or questions I
thought well that's a question too isn't
it
all right that's a question isn't it is
that really what evaluation is is a
question you notice that was a question
pretty soon I've whipped myself in a
frenzy began to realize evaluations are
in fact questions and I tried to
mismatch it that as I try to look at the
opposite side and I've tested on all
kinds of people maybe you can find the
opposite of what I'm saying but I don't
know I have found that thinking is
nothing but the process of evaluating
things you're always evaluating what
does this mean to me and what should I
do
those are two questions your brain is
asking on a continuous basis see if I
take my fist and I go wham and I bring
it within two inches of your face I
guarantee you your brains gonna make
some evaluations question number one
what does this mean question number two
what should I do and your brains gonna
value it it's gonna search your brain
for your beliefs about what does this
mean do I need to move is it gonna hit
me what does this mean and what should I
do do I hit back do I adjust what does
my body need to do we're always asking
those two primary questions but the
questions we ask determine what we focus
on here let me be more specific and I'll
think you'll have an example of what I
mean I've said to you so far in this
tape that what you focus on determines
how you feel I've also said that the
questions you ask yourself determine
what you focus on
think of questions this way imagine your
brain is the ultimate computer and in
that computer is the answer to any
question you could possibly have and by
the way I believe that that metaphor is
really how your brain works it can come
up with answer to any question you ask
it Bible says ask and you shall receive
a very true and real statement beyond
what you might believe religiously even
if you have different religious beliefs
it is a reality in my experience of how
our brain works now if you have this
great computer and in front of you the
only way you get information out of this
computer is to ask for it you tap in to
this keyboard and you ask questions and
bam and answer the questions you will
get responses on the screen your brain
works the same way you ask questions you
hit the keyboard with questions and it
will fire off the answers in your brain
but here's what's different about your
brain than most computers whatever
question you ask if you ask it with the
absolute expectation that you're going
to get an answer and if you ask it
consistently and you give it a brain
time to search for the answers you will
get an answer by the way any question
you ask you're going to answer to even
one that doesn't have a basis in reality
in other words this computer will do
anything it'll search its files and make
things up in order to answer your
question what do I mean well if you go
around ask your brain why do these
things always happen to me well guess
what your brain will search all its
databases and say why do things always
happen to me and it'll take every
possible form of input of what people
said to you in your life what you've
ever said to yourself which you've
either read or saw on TV and I'll make
up an answer for you it always happens
to you because you're a turkey that's
why right and I'll sure enough now you
feel lousy you see gosh I'm a turkey you
feel bad and everything is not working
out see whatever you ask me to get an
answer to if you say how come I'm so
lucky you know how did I get so lucky
your brain will search all kinds of
things and show you that you're lucky in
other words our questions determine how
we feel now if you've got certain
emotions certain feelings that you have
on a daily basis that you don't like
habitual emotions I'm here to tell you
that the feelings you feel or come from
what you focus on so what you have is
habitual focuses and those focuses come
from habitual questions in other words
if you feel certain ways on an ongoing
basis it's because you're asking certain
questions on an ongoing basis it might
be usefully discover what those are I'll
give you some samples questions that
people ask themselves on a regular basis
that make them feel lousy question
number one is why does this always
happen to me I want you to notice in
that question is something we call a
presupposition a presupposition means
you are presupposing in the question the
things already happen to you that may
not be true but as long as you ask
questions that way your brain will make
up an answer for you hey I'll give you a
good example after the 1988 Republican
National Convention when George Bush
selected Dan Quayle as his running mate
CNN ran a public opinion poll will you
call the 900 number and vote yes or no
to the answer to a question but here is
the question it blew my mind question
was does it bother you that Dan Quayle
used his family's influence to stay out
of Vietnam and to get in the National
Guard
now I'm paraphrasing just slightly but
that's what they said now tell me what's
wrong with this picture and challenges
they presuppose that he actually did it
they said does it bother you so your
brain stops evaluating whether he
actually did it or not and focuses on
whether it bothers you or not does this
happen every day with you do you ask
questions that presuppose that you've
got a limited level of intelligence or
skill or ability and therefore get lousy
answers in your brain listen if you ask
yourself questions like why am I so fat
that question guarantees you're gonna
stay fat you know why cuz you can go why
am I so fat your brain will go okay let
me figure out some reasons lamo here's
why you're fat could you eat
continuously and you have no control
your brain goes oh good I don't need
control then you feel useless and you
feel like you're disempowered what would
be a better question to ask yourself
then why am I so fat how about this one
how can I become more thin right now or
what could I do today to start myself on
the road to becoming more thin and what
do I need to do consistently to create
the long-term results of health that I
want
if you ask a better-quality question you
will get a better quality answer or I'll
give you a step beyond that if you ask a
question like how can I become more thin
now you'll get an answer but what if you
ask a question like how can I become
more thin now and enjoy the process
ah magical when you ask that question
what happens now is you literally come
up with only an answer of how to lose
weight but also how to enjoy it and
since your brain likes pleasure there's
a much better chance you're gonna follow
through am I making any sense to you I'm
here to tell you that the quality of
your life comes down to the quality of
the questions you ask yourself on a
daily basis so if you're asking
questions like well how come I can't
ever learn anything just listen to that
question or why can't I ever learn
anything that's even worse why questions
tend to be what I call endless loop
questions like why does this happen to
me see your brain probably can never
come up with a definitive answer it'll
come up with all kinds of reasons but
you'll keep going into a loop now I
discovered the power of questions in my
own life because at one time my life I
was really really angry and I knew what
I changed my physiology and my movement
to make myself feel better but I didn't
want to you ever been in that state like
somebody said to me well Tony just
change your physiology I said I don't
want to I was upset but the reason I was
upset is what I was focusing on I was
focusing on somebody who had taken a
bunch of money from my company and
embezzled it and I got pretty upset to
say the least I was walking around in a
frenzy going how could he do this
how could he have the audacity to do
this I made even had an expletive her -
who knows but the point is that by
asking those questions I was whipping
myself in a frenzy how could he possibly
do this why would he do this situation
to me well guess what you're never gonna
get an answer to that all it does is
whip you into more and more of a frenzy
can you hear it so finally I said okay
doing this is leading to more and more
pain isn't making my life any better I
better ask myself a more empowering
question so I thought what's something
that's important to me my answer is I
love to learn I already shared that with
you so I said okay what can I learn from
well guess what my brain likes learning
so it was willing to focus on that
question and you know what out of that
question of what can I learn from this
over the next three months
I literally developed a whole new level
of understanding about what makes human
beings do what they do I develop
literally a whole new technology which I
call destiny technologies and I now do a
whole seminar called your date with
destiny and we help people literally
design their life so they are literally
pulled forward in the direction they
want their life to be rather than having
all the self-sabotage and challenges
that come up for people it's the most
incredible program I do it'll all came
out of me taking a horrible situation
and asking a better question what kind
of learn from this what can I get out of
this that would enhance my life and
other people's as well how can I use
this situation to create much more power
in my ability to help people and help
myself asking these questions allowed me
to search my brains data banks and
create tremendous power out of that
situation after I was in that situation
I had other times when I get upset
unbearably when I get upset it's cuz I
was asking a why question why did this
person do this I don't understand or how
could they possibly have done it cuz I
would never do that how could they do
that well I never get the answer based
on that so I learned to ask the question
what can I learn from this now for you
that might not be the right question
maybe learning is not important enough
for you a brain to go while I'm willing
to focus on that now instead of the
problem but my brain I pick learning or
I pick something like well if I'm angry
at somebody I might say well what do I
respect about this person
now I remember one particular guy said
what do I respect about him
it was this guy had stolen a bunch of my
stuff and I thought well at least he's
using my stuff you know I do respect him
he's at least using it he isn't just
sitting back there right sitting on his
haunches hearings dog he's least using
it I respect that what else respect
about it well well he's at least going
for it and you know even though I don't
think he's doing for the right reasons
he's probably open a few people who
knows you know and I began to literally
feel better that again asked myself this
question what's actually funny about
this that I have noticed great question
ask yourself what's actually funny about
this they hadn't noticed now again when
you ask a question you got to be willing
to really search for the answer if you
go
about this that I hadn't noticed or what
you didn't notice what's humorous about
this I didn't notice and guess what
there's no way your brains not gonna go
for it but if you ask with a sincere
interest and desire for an answer you
will get one if you keep asking and so
all sudden I start noticing things about
their humors I start laughing hey listen
we've all heard the phrase someday we'll
look back and laugh on this situation
well if that's really true why wait why
not look back and laugh on it now wait
for years before you can feel good about
something again and the way to do it is
change your focus the way to change your
focus is use questions they're much more
powerful than any other tool I've
noticed I'll tell you why questions
basically do three things we ask a
question number one when you ask
somebody a question it instantly changes
what they focus on and therefore it
changes the way you feel instantly see
if you're feeling lousy and I come along
and I get you to answer a question like
well let me ask you a question what is
great in your life right now you oh well
nothing I go on I know nothing is but if
there was something that was great you
know what could be great in your life if
I get you to really think about it what
it makes your brain do is search your
files and you know what no matter how
bad your life may seem there's something
great going on there's no doubt about it
you know here you are and all your
friends is weaking or skiing but you're
home studying for a big test do you feel
cheated you feel left out you feel hurt
hey listen all you need is a little
contrast for yourself what's great right
now this weekend you're studying things
that can make a huge difference in the
quality of your life forever these
people are gonna work their muscles and
come back and probably forget about that
situation right or you're not in a Nazi
concentration camp there's a little
contrast for you you get to be learning
because you choose to not because you're
forced to you're studying something that
you chose to study you're actually
creating a future for yourself you're
getting to use your brain there's so
many things you could focus on you're in
a free country
you're alive you've got friends yet
people that care about you during
millions of things you can feel good
about all you have to do is change your
focus and if you don't you end up like
the John Belushi's of the world
think about see the choice is yours so
if I ask you a question like what could
be great in your life or what's great
right now if you really think about it
you can come up with something think
about it right now well it's really
great in your life right now what's
something that you feel really great
about think about it or what could you
feel great about if you wanted to as you
think about things that make you feel
great
notice how it makes you feel when you
think about that what about that why
does that make you feel great how does
that make you feel inside when you feel
those feelings and you know what you can
change your state instantly just by
focusing on that at any moment in time
so the first thing questions do is they
change our focus and therefore our state
immediately the second thing that
questions do is they change what we're
deleting now remember in order to feel
unhappy you have to focus on the things
that would make you unhappy and you have
to delete all the great things that are
happening in your life isn't that true
in other words every one of us right now
could get depressed piece of cake
all we have to do is focus on all the
tragedy that's happening the world right
now even little pieces of it children
they're dying right now starvation we
can make pictures in our head of those
bloated stomachs hearing the cries of
babies just as they pass off and the
death seeing flies eating their flesh
how's that for graphic at the same time
every one of us could be an absolute
total pleasure interrupts that pattern
of a picture you're looking at and think
of something to create total pleasure
and you know what their resilient things
but to do that you have to stop focusing
you have to delete all the negativity in
the world and focus on things that make
you feel great so you could focus on a
relationship you have you could focus on
how much you've already learned in the
last six or seven or eight days you
could focus on the people that loved you
you could focus on your ability as a
human being to change your life at any
moment in time you could focus on what
learning means to you you could focus on
the Sun you could focus on breathing
fresh air you could focus on the fact
you live in a free country you could
focus on the fact that you have a
connection with your creator you could
focus on anything and feel incredible
you could focus on new babies being born
this moment they have a greater
opportunity in life than any time in our
history there's so much we could focus
on it feel good about the challenge is
this you must control it through
questions questions change what we
delete
we're always deleting human beings we're
not gonna stop deleting things as long
as we're gonna delete things why not
delete things that disempower you and
focus on the things that empower you
does that make sense the third thing
that questions do is they help you to
get access to resources within yourself
I'm a big believer that anything you've
ever wanted to accomplish you've already
got the resources inside of you to make
it happen that doesn't mean you
shouldn't go out and learn from somebody
else or model the success of others I'm
just saying the things you need to
succeed are already in your core the
resources are there you just need to get
access to them by asking better
questions I'll give an example if I ask
myself questions like gosh can I really
do this that creates a feeling of doubt
to hear that does that and that feeling
of doubt will keep me in a state where
I'm not gonna get the most out of myself
but if instead I ask myself question
like how can I make this thing happen
right now more powerfully than I ever
dreamed of and have fun doing it if I
keep asking that question my brain will
get access to more of my ability because
whatever I asked for my brain will give
me but if you ask your brain can I
really do this and you do it with a tone
of voice of doubt you are gonna get
access to the resources called doubt
does that make sense
if you think about it the greatest
communicators the greatest teachers of
all time were not people that so much
taught us as they did ask us they shared
things with us but they got us to use
our own resources they asked questions
all the great speakers have done this
hey Martin Luther King asked questions
about a dream John F Kennedy asked don't
ask what your country can do for you ask
what you can do for your country he
wanted you to take the resources out of
yourself and contribute and expand our
country you must learn to ask habitual
questions that empower you I want you to
know that I believe the success in my
life has all come down to one basic
skill state management on a consistent
basis I've learned how to manage my
state and therefore I've been able to
get myself to breakthrough and take
action with very few people around me
were able to do the same they were able
to that's probably not the best
description they weren't using their
because they didn't have access to all
of it and I've done that by everyday
doing things that would increase my
physical ability flexibility power
energy by the way I'm moving the way I
breathe and also by consistently and
daily conditioning myself to ask the
kinds of questions to create the kinds
of focus that moves me towards larger
levels of contribution and joy and fun
and success and passion instead of the
things that would pull me down that
would pull me to areas of frustration
and anger and giving up listen there is
no capability difference between you and
someone you consider to be an ultimate
role model of success the only
difference is they've learned to use
their mind and body with more power on a
consistent basis they have learned a
manager state they've learned to use
their body effectively whether they know
it or not consciously doesn't matter a
lot of people do things without being
aware of how they do it and they've
learned to control their mental focus
remember whatever we concentrate our
focus on consistently and strive to
learn from and make new distinctions
about we will get great at I don't care
what it is if you focus on it daily and
you strive to be better you're gonna
make little distinctions that'll make
you more and more effective every single
day so you better decide what you want
to focus on in your life and what you
want to experience on a daily basis
because that's where your power is gonna
come from that's where your power is
gonna emit from that's the genesis of
your power I want you to know that many
things that you think are impossible or
difficult are only difficult or
impossible because of the way you're
focusing on things you're focusing on
how it can't be done and you can
remember whatever you focus on is what
you get so if you focus on how it can't
be done you are absolutely right and no
one's gonna prove you wrong so why not
focus on what's possible and create that
I mean that's how I created things like
the firewalk seminar all I did was hold
a new level of possibility instead of
focusing on how it couldn't be done
or that was a terrible thing or
something like that I focused on hey
this is an incredible example of
possibility and if other people can do
it my focus and my question is if they
can do it then how can we do it how can
I share it with other people how could
it be used as an empowering experience
it's a lot of fun
I did the same thing with teach people
wood breaking you know I teach people on
a break wood karate style not in two
years but in about 20 minutes again not
to make them this powerful person but to
show them that by simply changing their
mental focus by controlling their
physical emotional state and by modeling
someone's success that they can get
results in 30 minutes that takes most
people two years and they have what we
call a breakthrough literally I want you
to know that you have every right in any
moment of time to feel lousy to feel bad
to feel sorry to feel hurt I am NOT
saying by this tape program that you
should never be disappointed or
frustrated or angry or anything else
because all of those emotions have their
place in their proper proportion a some
of my greatest frustrations or angers or
upsets or would have driven some of my
greatest successes because it's made me
search for more but see what's
interesting is the pain drove me but
what changed me from other people who
just gave up is I ask better questions I
found a way to say what can I learn from
this how can I grow from this how can I
expand from this what can I take from
this experience that will empower me
what can I learn from this so I never
have to experience it again and by
asking empowering questions how can I
take advantage of this what's the actual
benefit in this situation
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[Music]
today's whole program is based on the
power of focus we if you recall in our
last session we're talking about how to
really direct our states of mind and
emotion we said that everything that we
really want our lives no matter what it
is whether it be family or friends a
relationship or money or business
success or acknowledging all those
things the only reason we want them is
what we think we'll get out of them
which is a state change a certain level
of feeling within ourselves we also
found out in our last tape that all
emotions every feeling we have is the
result of how we use our body that
emotions literally are nothing but
physiological stormed
[Applause]
[Music]
today's whole program is based on the
power of focus we if you recall in our
last session we're talking about how to
really direct our states of mind and
emotion we said that everything that we
really want in our lives no matter what
it is whether it be family or friends a
relationship or money or business
success or acknowledging all those
things the only reason we want them is
what we think we'll get out of them
which is a state change a certain level
of feeling within ourselves we also
found out in our last tape that all
emotions every feeling we have is the
result of how youth today's whole
program is based on the power of focus
we if you recall in our last session
we're talking about how to really direct
our states of mind and emotion we said
that everything that we really want our
lives no matter what it is whether it be
family or friends a relationship or
money or business success or
acknowledging all those things the only
reason we want them is what we think
we'll get out of them which is a state
change a certain level of feeling within
ourselves we also found out on our last
tape that all emotions every feeling we
have is the result of how we use our
body that emotions literally are nothing
but physiological storms in our brains
if you will and that we learned that by
using our bodies in certain ways by
using our voice our gestures our
breathing our facial expressions we
could radically change our states and we
also talked about the idea if you're a
call of measuring our states where are
we on a scale from zero to 10 10 being
absolutely empowered unstoppable
passionate zero being dead and noticing
are we at the appropriate level for what
we want to accomplish and that for most
cases not all in life but most would it
be nice to live at level 8 9 or 10 or
above on a consistent basis how much
more juice would you have and so you
develop some exercises and discovering
how to move your body not like me not
like somebody else but like you do when
you really are feeling absolutely
excellent today what we want to do is
take on the second way we can manage our
states and the second way to change your
state at any moment in time as quickly
as you can think it is to control and
direct the focus of your mind
what do I mean by that well think about
this the only experience that you have
of life comes in two forms what you're
physically feeling because of the
condition and use of your body at that
moment in other words if you've got
physical pain that's obviously gonna
affect your state there's some kind of
tension for example or if you haven't
had any sleep that's certainly gonna
affect your state as well or if you've
eaten something that's blown your blood
Sugar's sky-high then obviously that's
gonna affect your emotional states as
well the only other thing that really
controls your state is what are you
paying attention to right now at this
moment I mean let's take an example have
you ever had a headache maybe even a
massive headache that you thought
there's no way you would ever go away
you're really deep pain no what do you
do well most people go get an aspirin
what if instead have you ever had it
happen where somebody asked you a
question or something needed to be done
or something acquired your total focus
somewhere else outside of yourself and a
lamo immediately the pain disappeared in
fact you forgot about it and later on
when you thought about it you notice
your headache was gone
haven't you had that happen at least
once or twice in your life now how did
you do that see my whole life has been
studying what makes people successful if
someone's able to do something if
they're able to get rapport with
somebody else if they're able to create
the results they want physically in
their life that is lose weight feel
energized if they're able to create the
relationships that they really desire if
they're able to feel as good as they
ever wanted to feel I want to know how
do they do that
and so I began to study how could
somebody get rid of a headache that
quickly so we wouldn't be dependent on
some drug like aspirin or Tylenol or
anything else and I began to realize
that what it was is we changed our
mental focus and that whatever
experiencing in our body really comes
from what we're paying attention to
that's what really determines how you
feel and of course how you feel
determines usually how you're gonna
behave doesn't that make sense when
you're feeling really lousy you don't
usually do really well and I know there
are exceptions but those exceptions are
because you control your focus you don't
focus on feeling lousy you focus on
what's got to be done
there was tremendous power and
controlling the focus of your mind now
what do I mean by this specifically well
there are two things we can control in
terms of focus we can control what we're
focusing on that is what we're picturing
in our mind what we're saying to
ourselves what we're paying attention to
in our physical body
or we can control how we're focusing how
we're focusing means let's say the
dimension of the pictures in our mind
the brightness of the colors in our head
the volume of our sounds if we change
how we're paying attention to things not
just what it radically changes our state
as well let me give an example pretend
for a moment that your brain is a camera
and you go to a party how are you gonna
feel at that party well the only thing
you're gonna have feelings about other
things you focus on I mean in that room
literally there are almost unlimited
number of activities and probably
emotions and conversations and things
that are going on but your experience of
that party is based on what that camera
focuses on now if it focuses on two
people that are fighting and that's what
it focuses on for the entire party you
would leave that party saying oh that
party was really intense I mean people
are really upset with each other if your
focus was on two people and love or
maybe guessing passionately and say wow
that party was really moving I mean
those people are really connected if
your focus was on some people that were
really boring or bored and so nobody
really enjoyed that party here's the
problem the problem is your camera that
is the focus that you have does not
usually take in everything
simultaneously your conscious mind can't
there's only so many things you can
consciously focus on I mean think about
how many things right now you are not
paying attention to that are happening
at this moment there's the blood
pulsating to be I'm happy I'm happy I'm
happy I'm happy and you really create
the physiology of happiness you know
what I mean by that by using your voice
that way then what you've done is the
affirmation didn't do it so much that's
putting your body in that state so
affirmations are great but what I'm Leah
most questions are even more powerful
because now you have a reason to be
happy you're not just jumping yourself
up and run around with what I call a
perma grin where people go why are you
happy and go I don't know but it feels
good it's better to have all these
reasons so every morning you stack more
reasons to be happy you come up with
more reasons that you're proud more
reasons to be grateful more reasons to
feel excited about life more feelings of
love if you stack those every day you
literally anchor them in your nervous
system this is part of what I call
destiny technology's controlling your
state throughout
yourself effective questions this is the
power of focus and here's your exercise
pull out your success journal and right
now I want you to write down five
questions after you've designed these
five questions what I'd like you to ask
yourself to do is this first of all let
me ask you this if every single morning
you got up and asked yourself five
custom design questions that put you in
peak States and they gave you lots of
reasons to feel phenomenal so you
weren't just some guy out there again
just babbling about how excited you are
without any reasons for it I'm not
talking about being somebody who just
all pumped up for no reason
but if every day you came up with lots
of reasons and felt these powerful
emotions what would that do to the
quality of your life what would that do
to your days would it be worth
developing some new habits if your
answer to these questions is yes then
I'd like to challenge you to do
something I'd like you to develop a new
habit a one that will literally
conditioned your nervous system to
associate powerful emotions with waking
up in the morning wouldn't that be nice
here's what I want you to do if you're
willing to take on the challenge for the
rest of this program approximately what
twenty two more days each morning I want
you to answer those five questions and
every time you answer them you've got to
create some feelings so if one of your
questions was what am I most excited
about in my life you've got to come up
with at least two different answers and
you've got to think about why you're
exciting how great that makes you feel
you gotta actually feel the answer the
question two answers to each of your
five questions each morning again this
is not added work you're already asking
questions you just may be asking
questions like oh gosh why do I have to
get up at this hour that may not be the
best question to ask when the alarm goes
off maybe you want to install a new one
that empowers you would you be willing
to do that for the rest of this 30-day
program now I don't want you to do this
for the rest of your life because you
might get addicted to feeling excellent
for the rest of your life and gosh only
knows what would happen to you then so
don't go any longer than these thirty
days for sure but at least for the
thirty days would you be willing to try
it okay then go for it so you know your
assignment design five questions that
will get resources out of you make you
feel phenomenal each day that will make
you get access to your real powered
ability every single day also I want to
say to you please
use your success journal to write down
each day a little bit about what's
happening to you what are you noticing
have you already begun to notice that
your attitude has changed obviously but
also if you noticed that maybe you're
willing to take some chances you're
being more decisive you're taking some
actions have been maybe more powerful in
some of your communication
have you decided maybe to take some
actions like lose weight or stop smoking
and you're like day three or four of
that or are you just feeling better
about the possibilities of your future
other words each day you might want to
just keep a journal jot down a couple of
key ideas about what you learn that day
or what you're experiencing in your
daily life besides this program I've
kept journals for years because I
believe that if my life is worth living
it's worth recording and for me what
journals are as a way to go back and
notice my growth because otherwise what
happens for a lot of us is we get caught
up but if you have a journal you can
look and see how you've grown in your
development and your ability and where
you are in your life in addition your
journals and things that you can give
later on to your children someday they
can look back and learn from the lessons
you've learned in your life so they're
invaluable I hope you'll decide to keep
a success journal an ongoing basis after
this program but see if you get yourself
in the habit right now for the next 30
days over the next 30 days
you
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