12 Struggles Only an Outgoing Introvert Would Understand
How can there be such a thing as an outgoing introvert?
That's absurd, right?
Introversion and extroversion are terms popularized by Carl Jung to describe the different ways
in which people direct their attention.
Introverted people focus their attention inward toward internal stimuli, whereas extroverted
people are more focused on the outer world and its stimuli.
Extroversion and introversion are on opposite ends of a continuum, not separate personality
categories.
People can belong right in the middle of this continuum or anywhere along it.
For this reason, you can't simply say that everyone fits into the category of extrovert
or introvert exclusively.
Many people have traits that fall into both the introverted and extroverted side of the
spectrum.
Some people have both characteristics in almost equal measure, so you could have someone who
is 55% introverted and 45% extroverted.
This would make someone an extroverted introvert or an outgoing introvert.
Ambivert is can also be used to describe people who fall in the middle, but the term extroverted
introvert shows where they fall, as in an introvert with strong extroverted
tendencies.
In this video, I'm going to share with you 12 struggles only an outgoing introvert will
understand.
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1.
Making plans with someone to go out and regretting it when the time comes
… Or the other way around…
When you're an outgoing introvert, you might flip flop between introverted moods and extroverted
moods, which can be a nightmare when making plans
because there's simply no guarantee of how you'll feel on the big night.
2.
Needing both time to reflect and someone to talk to about your ideas
As an outgoing introvert, you still spend a lot of time inside your own head, so you
might react poorly to people when they want to engage in some idle chit-chat.
Later, when you want to bounce your reflections off them, you may regret being so abrupt earlier.
3.
People getting confused by your behavior
When people meet you in extroverted mode, it can be a bit of a shock when you turn on
them.
From their point of view, the person who seemed normal and talkative the night before has
suddenly disappeared without a trace.
It's nothing personal, you just can't bring yourself to communicate with anyone
when you go back into introvert mode, and others may not understand that.
4.
Being bad at responding and kicking yourself when it backfires on you
When a text, email, or phone call comes in during downtime, it is almost impossible to
respond.
It seems like the words won't form correctly, and anything you say is flat and even sounds
rude.
You avoid responding, only to find that the next time you do want to go out, the other
person doesn't contact you or respond.
The other person is completely justified too, and you know it.
5.
Going out and then spending two days alone not talking to anyone
As an outgoing introvert, you can be the life and soul of the party when you want to be.
Partying is something you do more rarely than some others, so you really like to go for
it.
But afterwards, you're so depleted from being in that outgoing state.
Even though you do it very well, it still takes a lot more energy and effort than it
seems to for others.
While they're meeting up again for lunch the next day, you'll spend the rest of the
weekend in hiding.
6.
It's hard to get you out but you have a great time when you go
Your really good friends know how to deal with you.
They let you know that you're going out on a certain day way in advance,
and they remind you every time they see you so that you don't 'forget' or find a
way to be busy that day.
Your friends know that it's a pain in the neck to get you out, but if they use the right
strategy and are persistent enough, the effort will be compensated by how fun
you are when you're out.
7.
Being chatty to be personable but needing cave time afterward
You're not one of these introverts who is like a deer caught in the headlights every
time anyone wants to have a conversation with you.
You're able to meet the demands of talking to people you don't know and networking
in large groups, even if it goes against the grain.
Keeping up this act of being perfectly comfortable when you're in fact very tense really takes
it out of you though, and you have to retreat to recharge afterwards.
8.
Being able to hold conversations in groups but much preferring one-on-one
As an outgoing introvert, you can hold your own in group conversations and you can assert
yourself quite comfortably, especially when the conversations get more
abstract, and where the insight your introverted reflective moments afford you fits nicely.
However, you take real pleasure in the depth of interaction that you can only achieve in
private conversation with a single individual.
9.
Getting angry at yourself for backing out of plans
Being an outgoing introvert, you're aware of the importance of having people to socialize
with when the mood takes you.
Consequently, when you back out of plans, you feel guilty and angry at yourself for
not feeling up to the task.
10.
Having inner battles over your introversion
It's a never-ending battle between your extroverted side (and the pressure from society
to be outgoing) and your introversion.
You can't understand why you can't rely on yourself to be up for social engagements
all the time.
11.
Having very few friends but plenty of acquaintances
Your real friends are a tiny minority of the people you know.
There are only very few people you really feel safe to share your inner world with.
12.
Seeing anyone a few times means you really like them
There are only a few people who can easily get repeat socializing dates with you, anyone
who belongs to that category is someone you really feel an affinity for.
Well, that's the 12 struggles only an outgoing introvert will understand.
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