Hey guys, so today I just want to tell you about two dating experiences I had
recently that you can learn from. Ooh. Stay tuned.
All right, okay, so the first date that I went on, the guy
was tall dark and handsome, totally my type, and he got disqualified. Wanna know how?
Of course you do because how does tall dark and handsome and totally my
type get disqualified; well, we met at a coffee shop, I got there first
and I ended up ordering myself a coffee and a - or actually a latte - and a muffin
and I went and sat down and in the restaurant section which was served, like
they had servers there, anyway so the dude shows up
and he looks great and all the rest was good and then he sat down. Here's a
couple things that that didn't go right, or that probably could have happened
differently on his part; one, is that we were in a restaurant where there were
servers refilling our water glasses a lot in two hours, and he didn't order
anything and he didn't leave a tip. Now, no he didn't buy anything but those servers
were still serving us so to me that automatically stood out it's a red flag
as him being cheap, not a good quality. And I actually went back the next day
and gave that server a tip because I felt bad for him because he did his job
even though we didn't actually buy anything and I had already tipped when I
was at that when I had paid for my coffee at the till there. Anyways, the other
thing that he did wrong was that two hours is a long time for a first date
and even if it's going spectacularly always have something else to do because
if she starts to feel like she's the one that's got to leave that's the last
impression that sticks, and you always want to leave them what wanting more.. you,
you always want to leave them wanting more,
yes, so make sure that you've got something else planned. I mean if you've
got a dinner plan for the first date then yeah you can linger a bit but if
it's during the day then make sure that you have somewhere else
and if you're really interested in her and it seems like she's interested in
you you can always say, I'm sorry that I have to go which I hadn't planned
something else but let's get together again, I'd love to see you again. So then
the other thing that he did- didn't do was he never touched me, like at all. So
probably he was nervous but nonetheless you must build sexual chemistry and
sexual tension, and touching is a great way of doing that because it breaks that
intimacy zone, and I did other videos on where to touch a girl so you can watch
those. I always believe in second chances so yep got a second chance with that one,
ended up going for a walk. So far he's invested no money which is significant
because it's already showing me that he's either watching his dollars or
super thrifty or whatever, and I know that he makes at least three times as
much as I do so I would expect him to at least buy me a coffee, and on our second
date I bought him a coffee. I'm not a gold digger - I'm definitely not a gold digger,
I've gone out with a guy who had lots of money and dumped him because he
wouldn't hold my hand, and I went out with a guy who was six figures in debt
because he did hold my hand - so you know it's not about that, it's about where's
my worth to that guy and what kind of lifestyle are we gonna have if he won't
even pony up the dough for a coffee and I'm the one supplying coffee even
though I make way less than him, not cool. Alright, so then the other guy
that I went out with, who was - and probably still is - quite a bit shorter,
balding, and had a bit of a belly on him but he actually had quite a bit of
personality and he was a leader and so we actually met up and we were supposed
to just have coffee and he hadn't eaten and it was around dinnertime so he said
let's eat, and I already ate so I'm like okay well I'll snack or something. But he
took the lead he said do you like... whatever... and I said yep, and he ordered
it. He asked me if I liked something else and he
ordered it. Women love men who lead. He asked me what kind of wine I'd I'd
like if I wanted a glass of wine and what kind I usually drink. I said I like
Pinot Noir, he ordered a Pinot Noir. He didn't check
the menu, he didn't check the pricing, which showed that he wasn't cheap. And he
was very good about touching me so he touched my hand or touched my forearm
and all of that throughout the date, he was very easygoing like he obviously
wasn't nervous, I told him don't show up nervous because that's such a turn-off,
and he also had us moved to another table that was more private when it
eventually came up so he could actually sit beside me, which was a smooth move,
and that also allowed him to be more in my intimate space and touch me again
more frequently. Now what happened with him that wasn't that were the
deal-breakers was that I should have done my homework because he's got
younger kids and that's definitely a no-go zone for me. You can have your own
deal-breakers, that's that's a deal-breaker for me; I've already been a
stepmom several times I don't want to do it, I'm allergic to children. Which is
fine, good, good for him to know that's not what I'm gonna sign up for, my fault for
not double-checking. By the way, side note, women get a lot of emails on dating
sites, like they just get a lot of emails, so forgive us if we don't get back to
you right away, if we don't get back to you at all,
dididida, by the way, also this guy he emailed me twice and said, hey what
was it about my profile that that didn't work for you, and that's how I ended up
actually saying yes to the date, but it was also how I ended up saying yes to
the date before double-checking to make sure that he didn't have my
deal-breakers which was children. Any other thing to that that he that I would
say he shouldn't have done, or that was a bit of a flag, was that we joked a little
bit, we had some naughty jokes going on but he took it too far like he wouldn't
let go of the sexual aspect, which of course, you give a guy any thread of
sexual naughtiness then he's gonna run with it, but you gotta like you gotta nip
it in bud on the first date. And never text a
girl the next day and say you're thinking about her in bed until you've
actually bedded her. Finally he lied about his height because I wear high
heels and whatever, maybe I'm vain - well I am vain - I want to be with a guy who's
taller than me and if this guy actually probably doesn't even know that he lied
about his height because he's shorter than what he indicated in his dating
site profile which I think with him he probably just doesn't even know it, but
some guys will lie on purpose because they're insecure about it and then that
just translates into a guy being, one, insecure, and two, a liar. So don't do that,
be honest, you're allowed to fib or round up by half an inch. If it's an inch, sorry
you got to go with what whatever your real height is. So that's my two recent
dating stories and I hope that you learn something from it. Feel free to comment
and I will see you in the next video.
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