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confidence isn't walking into a room
thinking that you're better than anyone
it's walking in knowing that you don't
have to compare yourself to anyone
comparing yourself to another person
that isn't even in your system there's
no thought of comparison there is no
competition with any other human you are
not above anyone you are not below
anyone that's confidence when you can
get to the place in your life where
comparison is dead
where you are good enough not to others
but to yourself that is confidence and
you can be good enough right now because
you are good enough right now you might
just need to change your mindset
confidence can be developed in many ways
you can start with your physiology your
posture if I asked you what a confident
person looked like would you be able to
tell me of course you would they look
strong sure of themselves how are they
standing they're standing tall how are
their shoulders they are back upright
they make eye contact their head is up
not down now a shy or introverted person
might say yeah well that's all good for
outgoing people but I will never be
confident anyone can develop confidence
somebody has to work on it harder than
others because they've conditioned
themselves into a lack of confidence for
much of their life but anyone can
develop confidence
even the majority of sad people have
moments where they aren't shy like
around people they trust maybe family
friends or their partner moments where
they can be themselves fully
so the shyness is selective which means
you can make confidence permanent if you
consciously decide to be the person and
do the things you do not just around
those you trust the most but all the
time being confident doesn't mean you
are loud it isn't about being the one
that has to be noticed it's the opposite
it's knowing you're great without having
to be seen it's the silent winner
it's the humble champion if you lack
confidence you can change if you lack
anything you can change you can be
anything in life including radical
personality change if you are committed
to finding the answers unlock the
greatest version of yourself your true
nature of confidence of pure positive
energy unlock your authentic power today
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it is important in the area of
motivating yourself it's important to
know why you're doing it because that
mind will say why bother why go through
all this this is too hard no throw in
the towel it's not worth it it has it
ever said that to you before here's how
you can handle that here's how you
override that write down five reasons
why you deserve it why do you deserve
what you are why are you why do you
deserve it
what meaning and value will it bring to
your life what's so different about you
that you deserve your goal of this goal
and when you write down those five
reasons when you have some down moments
and you're going to have them when that
conversation start talking to you and
it's going to talk to you what you will
do is you can pull that out and read it
and it will build you up it will be your
rod and your staff to comfort you
through some challenging moments because
you're gonna have some life will knock
you between the eyes it will catch you
on the blindside come out of nowhere
stuff you can't anticipate that will
knock the wind out of you you want to
give up that's why it's important for
you to work on yourself listening to
tapes building yourself up talking to
yourself with power feeling and
conviction building yourself up day in
and day out because it's coming life
will send you some curves you cannot
anticipate the next thing is that
whatever you do you want to develop
technical mastery you want to be the
best at what you do you want to master
it see part of self motivation is you've
got to find something that gives you a
strong sense of competence will you
become known for that you develop a
reputation of being good at doing that
you set some high personal standards for
yourself you're not competing with
anybody else
you're just unfolding yourself to be the
best person that you could be that you
want to give the best quality service
that you can give because that is a
statement about who you are
the other thing that's the key to
self-motivation is recognized the fact
that you're going to get into some
slumps who recognize the fact that
you're going to encounter a great deal
of failure in life it goes with the
territory but in the face of that you
want to be relentless when you want
something you can don't expect everybody
to say oh come on it we've been oh you
want this oh great we want to give this
to you you're such a nice person you're
doing it for your family aren't you
great now don't like this and like that
no many doors will be closed in your
face many loans that you'll want they
say no you don't have enough collateral
you don't have enough credit and most
people will give up but you've got to
decide that I'm going to be fearless
I refuse to be denied and I'm gonna go
all out
I'm going to be relentless I don't care
how many nose I encounter I like
something Isaiah Thomas said when it's
getting ready for a basketball game he
said I'm going to either shoot us in or
shoot us out but I'm not going to not do
anything and that's the way to go
you can't make a basket unless you shoot
the ball you can't hit a homerun unless
you take a swing at it
most people won't even take a swing well
I probably won't make it anyhow that's
the conversation within they probably
won't give it to me anyhow
if you want something you've got to be
relentless you've got to decide I
deserve this and I'm going to have it
and you go all out to get it that drives
you the next thing is that when you want
something out of life you've got to be
willing to go into action don't wait
around for things to be just right don't
wait for things to be perfect don't wait
for the ideal situation it will never be
ideal there will always be a reason well
as soon as the children grow up well
soon as I pay my bills well soon as I
get my divorce okay as soon as I get
enough money together do what you can
where you are with what you have and
never be satisfied a lot of people never
take a chance in life they don't want to
take any chances they want the situation
to be ideal
see that's not walking by faith that's
walking by sight if I can see it I'll do
it no no no glass a lot of people say if
I can see it I believe it no no if you
believe it you can see it
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and don't be disturbed because no one
else can see it that's not unusual that
is ordinary but because you want some
different kind of results in your life
you've got to be willing to be
unreasonable if you want unreasonable
results in your life you've got to be
willing to be unreasonable part of being
unreasonable you don't judge according
to appearances part of being
unreasonable you can see it because you
believe it that's part of being
unreasonable part of being unreasonable
you like Paulo said you must have the
faith to call forth those things that be
not as though they were that's part of
being unreasonable most people won't do
that
most people say call me when you get it
together then I'll support you the other
thing is that one of the keys to self
motivation that empowers you is that you
want to find a cause larger than
yourself find something that you can
contribute to find something that you
can make a difference because you can
part of what feeds your larger vision
part of what gives you a reason for
being part of what gives you your life
is being able to give something back so
I can't afford to give anything you
can't afford not to give give your time
give your television just to go and lick
envelopes I don't know exactly what I'm
going to do but I'm going over there
it's part of my tithing in the universe
once you develop that that special sense
of mission and that's what you develop
when you're part of a larger cause than
yourself
it drives you you don't need an alarm
clock to get up in the morning you have
special power you go places and folk
will like to be around you they will
know there's something different about
you when you go in they say hey that's
somebody important I want to know who
you are I just want to be near you that
energy that you have that consciousness
that you will embody
will affect everybody around you the
next thing is is that you want to create
a home court advantage for yourself
you've got to be aware of who you have
around you so you want to be selective
have friends that will enable you to
grow I have friends that help me to grow
spiritually these are my spiritual
friends I talk spiritual stuff with them
I have some other friends who are just
intellectual friends they make me grow
intellectually they make me stretch I
have some professional friends I'm a
member of the National Speakers
Association I get together with other
speakers and we learn from each other
and we grow from each other I have other
friends suggest social friends all we do
is just socialize together we look at a
basketball game together or go out
dancing but that's all we can do we
don't talk anything serious nothing
spiritual nothing intellectual that's
not that kind of relationship nothing
heavy up in here have other friends we
walk together that's all we can do walk
together talk about if we're going to
lose weight one day bye and bye for good
all right
that's all we do nothing else so
according to the relationships that you
develop we grow from people and projects
and the relationships that you develop
can enhance and can enrich your life or
they can drain you I know many talented
people who had a great deal of potential
but because they didn't surround
themselves with other people that will
inspire them to transcend themselves
they never realize their greatness and
they will end up going to their grave
with all their good stuff still in them
so you want to look at your
relationships the people that you're
involved with the people that you
communicate with almost often and you
want to ask yourself the question what
am i becoming because of this
relationship desert in spamming am i
motivated am i encouraged am i driven to
develop myself am i seeking my own
greatness what kind of person am i
becoming because of this relationship am
i becoming more cynical
and negative about life ask yourself
that the next thing is you've got to say
yes to your life you've got to say yes
yes to my dreams yes to me
yes I can make it yes I can
doesn't matter how many failures I've
made doesn't matter how many mistakes
I've endured doesn't matter about my
defeats doesn't matter about what I've
done
yes yes I don't care about the fact I'm
in a hole now doesn't matter about where
I am yes
the last chapter to my life has not been
written yet if you judge me now you
judge me prematurely
I haven't exposed all my stuff yet I'm
still in the process of transforming my
life I'm still in the process of
becoming yes I had somebody in my life
at one time told me you're never making
and I said how's sugar and I'm what
energized me what motivated me was
something that Frank Sinatra said he
said the best revenge is massive success
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I'll show you you just watched my smoke
there's old folks useless thing
so say yes stand up for your dreams
stand up for what you want in your life
decide that your life is so meaningful
to you that you love you and you love
life so much that you're going to stand
up for something you want I used to have
a saying when I was on the radio stand
up for what you believe in because you
can fall for anything so when I say to
you this evening that you are powerful
you have miracle-working power in your
life right now but you've got to work on
yourself you've got to develop yourself
you've got to talk to yourself day in
and day out selling yourself on you and
on your potentials and you've got to
know that that you are worth all of your
effort
and that the key to your motivation as
you get a larger vision of yourself is
to know that you have something to give
is to know that you have a reason for
being in the universe at this point in
time I want you to stand up for your
life right now anybody want to stand up
for your life stand up agree
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